How To Hold A Grudge
Arts & Culture Podcasts
Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.
Location:
United States
Description:
Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.
Language:
English
Episodes
Grudges at the Funeral
3/15/2024
Is it grudgeworthy or crass to bring up the subject of someone's funeral plans/post-death wishes? Or is it fine? What about asking a loved one to consider changing their funeral requests, if there's something about them that you know you'll find difficult to go along with? Sophie and Nic discuss these knotty issues and more!
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:00:44:51
Boundary-Mockers, Narcissism and Grudgeworthy Gestures
2/1/2024
Sophie starts out thinking she's identified a new kind of grudge. She has, but it's not what she thinks. In fact, the true subject of this episode is the Boundary Mockery Grudge. Luckily, Nic is on hand to help clarify things, and some exciting new discoveries are made in the field of Grudge Studies.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:09:21
How to Avoid Making Grudgeworthy Decisions
11/7/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss The Double Best Method, Sophie's recently-invented decision-making tool, how to avoid regret, and how most people were trained to think in the wrong way about making choices. Also featuring brilliant poems by Robert Frost and Nic about decision-making.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:24:22
Grudge Sentencing and White Lies
10/17/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss 'Grudge Sentencing', the perfect enhancement both to good grudge-holding and to the ditching of no-longer-wanted grudges. Also in this episode: white lies. When is it grudgeworthy to tell them?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:03:18
Six Barriers and Two Questions
10/12/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss six possible barriers to discarding a grudge, and two crucial questions we can ask ourselves. Also on this episode: seating plans! Are they inherently grudgeworthy, and if not, what differentiates a grudgeworthy seating plan from one that's fine?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:07:19
The Strategic Cancellation of Grudges
10/5/2023
Is it possible, or desirable, to cancel a grudge when the benefits of doing so would be considerable, in a situation where you would definitely not annul the grudge in exchange for no upside? Sophie and Nic discuss whether this is the best route, how one might pursue it, and whether it might be more possible and desirable to find a different sort of upside while keeping the grudge.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:14:14
Grudges in the Dock
9/28/2023
In this episode, Sophie and Nic discuss the recent controversy, apropos the Lucy Letby case, about whether or not convicted criminals should be compelled to come to court for sentencing.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:00:40:14
The Frivolous Grudge-Fest
8/31/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss some frivolous grudges including: portmanteau words (like grudge-fest), conversational interruptors and the concept and practice of 'managing expectations'.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:01:23
Zebras in Heaven
8/17/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss the complex theological issue of whether or not animals have souls and are eligible for Heaven.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:00:28:33
Loyalty and Disloyalty Grudges: The Lowdown.
8/10/2023
Is loyalty ever grudgeworthy? And can disloyalty be entirely non-grudgeworthy? Join Sophie and Nic to discuss these knotty problems!
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:31:37
Defining Enemies
8/3/2023
What is an enemy? What is enmity? Does it need to be active, or reciprocated? Can we be someone's enemy without our own consent to the definition? What is the difference between strong dislike and enmity? And most importantly of all, does grudge-holding create enmity, or prevent it?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:00:22:21
How Are You Helping?
7/27/2023
Sophie and Nic discuss the common social-conscience-driven practice of acknowledging disadvantage (as defined by the person doing the acknowledging) and whether it's more of a help or a hindrance.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:00:50:29
The Inner Critic
4/21/2023
In this special bonus episode of the HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE podcast, Sophie speaks to life coach Natalie Roush about reckoning with your inner critic.
Natalie's website is website is natalieroushcoaching.com, and her podcast is here: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/hows-the-view-natalie-roush-z18ue2nMk6b/
Duration:00:51:11
Competition Winners Announced!
12/15/2022
Sophie and Nic Aubury announce the winners of the podcast’s first competition, and also discuss grudgeworthy hotels among other things.
Duration:00:48:41
Karens, and Song-Title Grudges
11/3/2022
This week Sophie and Nic debate the use of the term 'Karen' and also turn their attention to grudgeworthy song titles.
This is you last chance to enter Sophie's very special competition. All you have to do is buy Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now! Full details of the competition at the end of the episode. Entries close on 7th November 2022.
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Duration:01:10:43
Crowing: is it Grudgeworthy?
10/27/2022
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. All you have to do is buy Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now! Full details of the competition at the end of the episode.
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Duration:00:31:05
See How They Run
10/21/2022
This week Sophie welcomes special guest Kemper Donovan from the excellent ALL ABOUT AGATHA podcast to discuss the grudgeworthiness of using real life facts for the purposes of fiction. One for the crime fiction fans!
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. Al you have to do is pre-order Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Duration:01:01:18
G.U.B.R.I.F
10/6/2022
This week Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury dive into more grudge acronym goodness. Introducing GUBRIF! Can't guess what it is? Press play to find out!
Also in this episode, some all-new exclusive poetry from Nic!
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. Al you ave to do is pre-order Nic's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Duration:00:58:54
Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away
9/29/2022
HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE returns after quite a sudden end to season 7 last summer. Sophie and regular guest Nic Aubury pick up where they left off, delving into more fascinating (and tongue-twisting) acronyms and they grudges they represent.
Also in this episode, Sophie and Nic launch a VERY SPECIAL COMPETITION.
Pre-order Nic's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Duration:01:13:45
The DARVO Challenge and some Grudge Reality Checks
6/2/2022
This week Sophie and Nic Aubury look back on some of Sophie's recent grudges to make sure they pass muster and tackle important questions such as 'is it ever okay to put your dog poo in someone else's wheelie bin without asking?'
For more information on Sophie's books please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Duration:01:01:25