Intimacy After Infidelity | Rebuild Connection, Emotional Healing, Forgiveness for Adultery, Avoid Divorce
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The Go-to Podcast for Christian Women Who Want to Heal Their Heart to Shed Their Shame! *RANKED TOP 2.5% GLOBALLY* Do you wish someone would stop and see you, instead of looking through you or past you? Are you Googling ways to communicate and connect with your husband, but you’re still not feeling heard? Do you lay awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity or what’s the first step to file for divorce? Your vows are broken, and you’re so full of shame that you’re sure there’s no way God or your husband could possibly forgive you. I am so grateful you’re here! This podcast will help you find hope, get a grasp on your emotions at a deeper level, and learn how to get raw and honest with God like your life depends on it- because it does. You’ll also get coaching for the steps along the journey of restoration, communication, and trust. Hey, I’m Kristina Joy. Forgiven daughter of Jesus, Mom, and Coach. For years, I tried to break free from my infidelity in all the wrong ways. I tried by sheer willpower, I tried reading my Bible more, and I even considered joining a 12-step program. None of it worked. I finally realized that if I was going to find true freedom in my life, I needed to let Jesus heal some deep wounds in my heart. Through prayer, a whole lot of research, and developing new healthy habits, I was finally able to find healing to shed my shame once and for all. I learned I could choose to leave the affair behind. I could choose to pursue my own emotional healing and growth, no matter if my marriage survived or not. I could create new healthy habits that would move me forward in confidence, with strength and dignity. And I am SO ready to share what I’ve learned with you! If you are ready to finally find your true self in Christ, Experience ultimate freedom from your bondage, Feel authentic connection without the secrets, And move forward with strength and dignity, Then find your safe space and pop in those earbuds. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and life can be way better than it ever was before. Get ready- let’s rebuild your intimacy better than it’s ever been!
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The Go-to Podcast for Christian Women Who Want to Heal Their Heart to Shed Their Shame! *RANKED TOP 2.5% GLOBALLY* Do you wish someone would stop and see you, instead of looking through you or past you? Are you Googling ways to communicate and connect with your husband, but you’re still not feeling heard? Do you lay awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity or what’s the first step to file for divorce? Your vows are broken, and you’re so full of shame that you’re sure there’s no way God or your husband could possibly forgive you. I am so grateful you’re here! This podcast will help you find hope, get a grasp on your emotions at a deeper level, and learn how to get raw and honest with God like your life depends on it- because it does. You’ll also get coaching for the steps along the journey of restoration, communication, and trust. Hey, I’m Kristina Joy. Forgiven daughter of Jesus, Mom, and Coach. For years, I tried to break free from my infidelity in all the wrong ways. I tried by sheer willpower, I tried reading my Bible more, and I even considered joining a 12-step program. None of it worked. I finally realized that if I was going to find true freedom in my life, I needed to let Jesus heal some deep wounds in my heart. Through prayer, a whole lot of research, and developing new healthy habits, I was finally able to find healing to shed my shame once and for all. I learned I could choose to leave the affair behind. I could choose to pursue my own emotional healing and growth, no matter if my marriage survived or not. I could create new healthy habits that would move me forward in confidence, with strength and dignity. And I am SO ready to share what I’ve learned with you! If you are ready to finally find your true self in Christ, Experience ultimate freedom from your bondage, Feel authentic connection without the secrets, And move forward with strength and dignity, Then find your safe space and pop in those earbuds. I’m about to show you that intimacy after infidelity is possible, and life can be way better than it ever was before. Get ready- let’s rebuild your intimacy better than it’s ever been!
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English
Episodes
84 | Will I Ever Feel Loved Again After Infidelity?
9/30/2025
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved again after what happened?”
In this episode, I share my raw journey of what it felt like to stay in a marriage after betrayal: the fear, the constriction, the loneliness. I’ll also walk you through the turning point that shifted everything: discovering my worth in Christ, learning to get radically honest in prayer, and finding new ways of healing that went beyond waiting for my husband to change.
This episode will encourage you if you’ve felt unseen, unloved, or stuck in shame. You’ll discover that intimacy after infidelity begins with God, with yourself, and with a love that can never be taken away.
You’ll learn: ✨ Why your healing can’t depend on whether your husband changes or not ✨ How Scripture + somatic healing opened the door to freedom for me ✨ What to do if you’re still feeling lonely even though your husband stayed ✨ A powerful practice to feel God’s love and safety right now ✨ Why true intimacy begins with you and God before it’s rebuilt with your spouse
This isn’t just about saving your marriage. It’s about reclaiming your voice, your worth, and your identity in Christ.
🎧 Whether you’re just beginning the healing process or you’ve been carrying the weight of betrayal for years, this episode is a reminder that God’s love is unconditional, secure, and always enough.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!)
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:09:36
83 | Religion vs. Relationship: What Salvation Actually Means After An Affair
9/23/2025
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Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a good person, but if you have truly received salvation through Jesus Christ?
In this episode, I share my personal story of coming to know Jesus, from a childhood prayer, to wrestling with doubt, to experiencing a whole new level of surrender after my affair and baptism. I connect my own testimony with the clear gospel message: that Jesus, the Son of God, lived a perfect life, died for our sins, rose again, and offers us the free gift of salvation if we will receive it.
You’ll learn: ✨ The difference between religion and relationship with Jesus ✨ Why salvation isn’t about trying harder but receiving His free gift ✨ How my affair + baptism became a living picture of being rescued from sin and shame ✨ A simple step-by-step explanation of the gospel ✨ A prayer you can pray if you’re ready to receive Jesus personally
This isn’t just for women who don’t yet know Christ. It’s also a reminder for anyone who’s been stuck in shame, doubt, or “trying to be enough” that your identity and hope are secure in Him.
🎧 Whether you’ve never prayed for salvation or you just need reassurance of what’s true, this episode is a fresh invitation to experience Jesus’ love and freedom.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:15:53
82 | How to Set Boundaries That Actually Protect Your Peace After an Affair
9/16/2025
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After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But what if boundaries weren’t about fear, but about love?
In this episode, I unpack what boundaries really are (and what they’re not) and show you the three essential types of boundaries every woman needs after infidelity: ✨ Boundaries with the affair partner ✨ Boundaries with friends and community ✨ Boundaries with your spouse
You’ll learn how to set boundaries that actually protect your peace, how to communicate them with clarity, and what to do when someone doesn’t respect them. By the end, you’ll have one practical step you can take today to feel safer, clearer, and more free in your healing journey.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:17:36
81 | The God Who Sees: When You Feel Invisible and Forgotten
9/9/2025
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Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this episode, I share how the God, who saw Hagar in the wilderness, is the same God who sees, hears, and responds to you. He's El Roi, even in your wilderness.
We’ll explore how being seen by God changes everything about how you live, love, and heal after an affair. You’ll walk away knowing you are never truly alone and how to open yourself up to His provision and promises.
Let’s Connect:
💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina
📖 Experience the Coming Home to Freedom course + 4 coaching calls and messaging
💙 7-part devotional experience
📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:12:34
80 | Grieving the People Who Didn’t Show Up For You
9/2/2025
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When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep.
In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by.
You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together, release bitterness, and receive the healing presence of Jesus in places where people fell short.
Let’s Connect: 💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina 📖 Join the 4-week Coming Home to Freedom course + group coaching calls 📸 Send me a message on Instagram with the word CALL for more support: @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:13:58
79 | When You Crave What Doesn’t Serve You
8/26/2025
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You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him?
If you've ever found yourself craving attention, safety, or affection from someone who hurt you, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, I’m unpacking:
- How I started to recognize addictive patterns and anxious attachment
- What your cravings are really trying to tell you
- Why your nervous system might chase the familiar, even when it’s painful
- How to respond with love, not shame, and take your next right step forward
This isn’t about self-sabotage. It’s about healing the real need underneath the craving and gently coming home to yourself and God.
You’re not too much. You’re not too far gone. And you don’t have to do this alone.
Connect with me: 📞 Book a 1:1 call: Schedule here
📘 Join the 4-week healing course: Coming Home to Freedom
📩 DM me on Instagram @kristinajoycoaching with CALL if you’re ready for more support
Duration:00:14:34
78 | Still Missing Your Affair Partner? How To Rebuild Real Connection After Your Affair
8/19/2025
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8
You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there.
Why do I still miss him? Will this longing ever go away?
Yes, the ache is real. But it’s not about him—it’s about what you’re truly wired for: emotional intimacy, safety, and being seen.
This episode is your gentle guide to reclaiming that connection… without outsourcing your worth.
💡 Here we explore:
Next steps:
📩 Let's coach 1:1! https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8
✨ Course + Group Calls: Coming Home to Freedom, rebuild intimacy with yourself and God while releasing shame. 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
✨ Workshop: Coming Home to Jesus, 30 min. guided healing experience 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
💬 Join our safe and growing community, www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
💙 Find me on Instagram! @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:16:56
77 | No Contact Doesn’t Actually Work (And Here’s What Does)
8/12/2025
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You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again. So why does it still hurt? Why do you still miss him?
I get it. No contact isn’t a quick fix. It’s like withdrawal.
And healing is about way more than blocking someone.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
This isn’t about shame or weakness. It’s about choosing you and God, one small moment at a time.
If that’s where you are, my 4-week course Coming Home to Freedom is open now. It’s where we retrain your body to feel safe again, with Scripture, nervous system healing, and a community that gets it.
Or book a 1:1 coaching call if you want to talk it through personally.
You’re not broken. And you’re never alone.
Let’s Connect: 📞 Book a 1:1 call: Schedule here 📘 Join the 4-week community course: Coming Home to Freedom 📩 DM me on Instagram @kristinajoycoaching with CALL if you’re ready for support
Duration:00:13:27
76 | The Secret To Rebuilding Trust After An Affair? Start With YOU!
8/5/2025
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!
Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trust you again… you have to learn how to trust yourself.
In this episode, I’m sharing why rebuilding self-trust is the root of true healing—and how to take small, safe steps toward integrity and alignment with who God made you to be.
You’ll learn: ✅ Why obsessing over your spouse’s trust keeps you stuck ✅ How “big trust” starts with small kept promises ✅ What integrity really means when no one’s watching ✅ Simple ways to rebuild self-trust *and* your nervous system ✅ How to stop fearing your own choices and feel safe in your own body again
If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t even trust myself not to mess up again,” this episode will help you breathe, slow down, and rebuild from the inside out.
Next steps:
✨ Your first step toward healing starts here → Coming Home to Jesus guided workshop 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
✨ Ready for deeper transformation? → Join Coming Home to Freedom, my 4-week course that helps you rebuild intimacy with yourself and God while releasing shame. 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
💬 Join our safe and growing community → www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? → https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8
💙 Find me on Instagram! @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:18:00
75 | You're Not Broken, You're Still Becoming
7/29/2025
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!
What if your continued struggle isn’t a sign that you’ve failed… but a sign that you’re still becoming?
In this honest and hope-filled episode, I share what it means to walk through the messy middle without shame. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your future self, care for your body and spirit, and return to your values without trying to “fix” yourself. This is for the woman who feels tangled, tired, or tempted to give up. You are not broken. You are becoming. And this episode will help you remember that truth.
Next steps:
✨ Your first step toward healing starts here → Coming Home to Jesus guided workshop 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
✨ Ready for deeper transformation? → Join Coming Home to Freedom, my 4-week course that helps you rebuild intimacy with yourself and God while releasing shame. 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
💬 Join our safe and growing community → www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? → https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8
💙 Find me on Instagram! @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:19:39
74 | Where Do I Even Start With Healing After My Affair?
7/22/2025
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!
If you’ve just ended an affair—or maybe you’ve confessed and you’re still spinning in shame—you might be wondering: Where do I even start?
I know what it feels like to be frozen in confusion. To believe you have to fix everything. To feel like you’re the problem. But healing isn’t about fixing your marriage first or spilling every tiny detail. Your first step is coming home to yourself and God.
In this episode, I’ll share what those early days looked like for me—what actually helped me move forward, the biggest misconceptions women believe at the start of this journey, and the one gentle but powerful next step I recommend for you right now.
What you’ll learn in this episode: ✔ Why your first step is not fixing your marriage or earning everyone’s trust ✔ How shame shows up and keeps you stuck in secrecy ✔ What healing really involves—your mind, heart, soul, and body ✔ The one small shift that started my journey home
Next steps:
✨ Your first step toward healing starts here → Coming Home to Jesus guided workshop 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
✨ Ready for deeper transformation? → Join Coming Home to Freedom, my 4-week course that helps you rebuild intimacy with yourself and God while releasing shame. 👉 www.kristinajoycoaching.com
💬 Join our safe and growing community → www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? → https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8
💙 Find me on Instagram! @kristinajoycoaching
Duration:00:14:53
73 | Repentance Is a Homecoming, Not a Punishment
7/15/2025
What if repentance wasn’t about shame—but about coming home?
In this tender and truth-filled episode, I share what it means to return to God not with guilt, but with grace. Through my own story of wrestling with desire, honesty, and identity, you'll be invited to reframe repentance as a loving homecoming, not a spiritual punishment. Whether you're still in the affair or navigating the ache afterward, this episode is a safe, compassionate space to be honest and begin healing.
You are not disqualified. You are still welcome. You are still becoming.
Next Steps: 🌿 New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
🗓️ Interested in coaching? Schedule a call https://calendar.app.google/vavHDz1NtCv89tge7
💬 Join our safe and growing community www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
📩 Email me directly kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:12:23
72 | I Can’t Go Back But I Don’t Know How to Move Forward
7/8/2025
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Want someone to hear your story and figure out your next step? Schedule here: https://calendar.app.google/wiNEszKHX3TXPc3T6
You thought things would get better after the confession. But now? You just feel stuck.
In this episode, I speak directly to the woman still in the middle- maybe still in the affair, maybe just out of it, still wrestling with shame, spiraling thoughts, or disconnection from God and herself. You’ll hear my story of getting unstuck, the moment I finally found support, and how transformation often begins in the quiet, hidden places.
We’ll explore the difference between punishment and process, what it means to go inward like a butterfly in a cocoon, and why your journey is not just valid- it’s sacred.
Let's Connect!
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Now offering 1:1 coaching calls! If you’re ready for a safe space to be seen and take your next brave step, book a call today. https://calendar.app.google/wiNEszKHX3TXPc3T6
Join my free Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Email me directly: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:15:51
71 | The Difference Between Isolation and Solitude: Stop Hiding And Start Healing
7/1/2025
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
After an affair, it’s easy to withdraw, thinking you're protecting yourself or others. But withdraw turned isolation keeps you stuck, while solitude creates space for healing.
In this episode, we explore the subtle but powerful difference between the two. You’ll learn how to recognize when you're numbing or hiding, how to build healthy rhythms of solitude with God, and why safe community is essential to your healing after infidelity. This is for the woman who feels lost, disconnected, and unsure how to re-engage without shame.
Let's Connect!
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com
Join my free Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Coach with me 1:1! https://calendar.app.google/wiNEszKHX3TXPc3T6
Email me directly: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:18:25
70 | Am I Still A Good Person After My Affair?
6/24/2025
Coach with me 1:1! https://calendar.app.google/wiNEszKHX3TXPc3T6
After betrayal, the shame can feel unbearable. You wonder, Who even am I now? In this episode, we explore the shock of your choices, the myth of the "good girl," and the invitation to rebuild your identity through the eyes of grace. You're not beyond redemption—and you're not alone.
If you’re asking, “How could I have done this?” then join me! In this episode, we talk about the identity crisis that follows infidelity, how shame distorts your view of yourself, and why your story isn’t over. You'll hear encouragement rooted in Scripture, reflections on purity culture, and a fresh reminder of who you are in Christ, even after an affair. Whether you’re still in it or healing from it, this is a powerful step toward wholeness.
Let's Connect!
Join my free Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Coach with me 1:1! https://calendar.app.google/wiNEszKHX3TXPc3T6
Email me directly: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:15:50
69 | Confession Isn’t Closure: What Your Heart Still Needs to Heal
6/17/2025
You finally told the truth. You thought it would bring peace. But now you feel more confused, ashamed, or overwhelmed than ever.
This episode is for the woman who confessed her affair and is now wondering what comes next.
I’ll walk you through why confession is only the beginning, what real healing looks like, and how to rebuild trust in yourself and intimacy with God.
Let's Connect!
Join my free Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Interested in Coaching? Let me know! https://forms.gle/oVrWPqbLHyCkAUBr9
Email me directly: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:22:00
68 | Stop Trying To Fix Everything: How To Finally Start Healing After Your Affair
6/10/2025
If you’ve been trying to fix your marriage, your emotions, or your image… and you're exhausted, this episode is for you. Healing doesn’t start when everyone else changes- it starts when you slow down enough to listen to you. In today’s honest conversation, I’ll share how I stopped overfunctioning, started trusting the Holy Spirit within me, and began healing from the inside out.
The first step isn’t doing more—it’s getting radically honest.
Let's Connect:
Join my free Facebook community: www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Interested in Coaching? https://forms.gle/oVrWPqbLHyCkAUBr9
Email me directly: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:20:49
REPLAY | The First Step To Getting Out Of Secrecy - Find And Create Safe Spaces
11/5/2024
Sister, this episode has the MOST downloads of all time, so I know that it resonates with many of you!
Are you stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story!
Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding freedom, and that is finding and creating safe spaces in your life. These could be by yourself, but I also give a few ideas about safe people and safe physical places. Until you feel safe, you’ll stay stuck and unable to move forward towards freedom.
Remember: you are not alone!
I pray you experience the love of Christ!
xoxo,
Kristina
Next steps:
Interested in coaching? Let's Connect: www.forms.gle/fpuCrJMTfHH33PoL6
Join our safe and growing community- www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Email me directly- kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:12:02
66 | Lessons a Fitness Coach Taught Me About My Healing Journey
10/29/2024
I have ONE 1:1 coaching spot available- Let's connect! (www.forms.gle/fpuCrJMTfHH33PoL6)
Friend, if you follow my Instagram stories (@kristinajoycoaching) then you know I've begun working with a fitness coach. I've worked with personal trainers before, but in this season of life, it's hitting differently.
Having walked through several years of a healing journey, I found so many similarities between the personal growth of my heart + soul and the growth of my physical health.
So today, let me be a tour guide that tells you what's ahead. I pray you're encouraged and motivated to take YOUR next right step. I'm cheering for you!
Always remember: You are not alone!
xoxo,
KristinaJoy
Next Steps:
Interested in coaching? Let's Connect: www.forms.gle/fpuCrJMTfHH33PoL6
Join our safe and growing community- www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Email me directly- kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:13:53
65 | I Wish My Friends Knew These 8 Things About Life With An Affair
10/22/2024
I have ONE 1:1 coaching spot available- Let's connect! (www.forms.gle/fpuCrJMTfHH33PoL6)
Sister, today's episode is unique because I want you to think about sharing it with a friend. Is there something you wish your friend knew about your marriage or affair? Or is there something you want them to understand now that it's in your past? These are my top 8 things I wished my friends knew before, during, and after my infidelity. I pray they help you begin a conversation and reconcile a relationship.
SHAME wants to keep you hiding. I'm here to help you expose what's in the dark so you can begin to walk in Truth and freedom.
Always remember: You are not alone!
xoxo,
KristinaJoy
Next Steps:
Interested in coaching? Let's Connect: www.forms.gle/fpuCrJMTfHH33PoL6
Join our safe and growing community- www.facebook.com/groups/intimacyafterinfidelity
Email me directly- kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com
Duration:00:14:36