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In this episode, my spouse shares whether she has regrets not coming out sooner and touches on the topic of what might have been missed since she came out as an adult. Due to current events in the US: Rainbow RailroadTrans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensTransgender Law Center Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The new season begins with a reflection on the fourth year post-disclosure and how things looked then versus now. Mentioned in or related to this episode: PFLAGInternational PFLAG Due to current events in the US: Rainbow RailroadTrans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensTransgender Law Center Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her here. The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode: CoachingHow to Prepare for your First Visit Home after TransitioningHelping Your Family Accept a Transgender PartnerHuman Rights Campaign pronoun pinsPFLAG pronoun buttonsDissent pinsEtsy pronoun pins Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they're not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new. In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

I asked my 12-year-old to share his perspective on moving abroad and squeezed out just enough to create a short episode. It is a reminder that kids are resilient and can handle big things as long as there is a support network to lean on — in this case, he has his parents plus family and friends from afar. There are lots of books, podcasts, resources and groups online to help you and your kids with an overseas move and even more specific to your situation and where you are going -- if you are planning a move, I encourage finding those groups and resources to help make the process feel less daunting. Mentioned or related to this episode: Perspective from a 10-year-oldA Child's Perspective on FFS Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In this episode, my spouse shares her feelings about moving abroad. "We are not chess pieces," she says, regarding the current anti-transgender climate in the US. That says it all. Mentioned or related to this episode: Safest States for Gay and Trans PeopleRainbow RailroadTrans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensCountries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

You know how we sometimes dissect our night out on the way home from an event — you think about things you said, what others said, what you would do differently. That’s what it feels like I’ve been doing after living abroad for two months — looking back and wondering if things are as bad as I thought they were, and if we made the right move. This can’t be covered in one episode but let’s explore how things are currently looking from here. Mentioned or related to this episode: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in U.S. State Legislatures in 2025Texas to Become 20th State with Transgender Bathroom LawIdentiy Document Guidance for Transgender, Nonbinary, Gender-Noncomforming, and Intersex People Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensCountries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In the U.S., the current administration has fueled a hate-filled climate toward transgender people that is false, dangerous, and manipulative. It is a loss for the U.S. when smart, kind, caring people who have the burden of carrying the stigma that the transgender label brings — leave the U.S. In this episode, I share why our family of three, plus one dog, packed up decades of life into nine suitcases and a few carry-ons and left the United States. Mentioned or related to this episode: A Pioneering Gender-Affirming Health Institute Opened in 1919ELDORADO -- Everything the Nazis HateMagnus Hirschfeld -- Soul of the Queer CommunityQueerAFTrump has Declared War on the Transgender Community, Leaving Americans to Seek Asylum -- from AmericaIdentiy Document Guidance for Transgender, Nonbinary, Gender-Noncomforming, and Intersex People Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensCountries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The big news in this episode is that I am taking a little hiatus until mid to late August due to a big move with my spouse and our son. I'll miss you until then! I leave you with a few self-care tips that I hope are fresh enough to help carry each of us forward as we wade through these uncertain times. Chin up and onward we go, together. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

It is easy to get distracted and drift off in one direction a little more than anticipated; sometimes we need to pause and hit the reset button when that happens. Recently, I have been laying it on thick as an ally to my spouse while forgetting about my own needs — not too difficult to do in these crazy times. While I reset, I reshare a talk with my son regarding his perspective about when my spouse came out as transgender. It’s a reminder that things aren’t that complicated and people are people. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

A heartfelt thank you to the listeners, even my spouse, who brought it to my attention that the individual I previously interviewed and had in this slot was not presenting themselves in a truthful manner. I consider the podcast a community where resources, ideas, and honest opinions can be shared. This means that I will dig deeper to ensure this doesn't happen again. Accountability matters. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In this episode, meet Renée Yoxon, a gender-affirming voice teacher who has created a suite of online voice courses to help you or the transgender or nonbinary person in your life to feminize, masculinize, or find something in between to shape that preferred this-is-me sound when speaking. Renée discusses their background, tips for voice health, and not allowing your fears to prevent you from beginning your voice transition journey. They also walk me through a voice exercise that you can find in the freebies section of their website. The goal: "there isn't a final goal... really what you're working towards is using your voice in everyday life in a way that doesn't feel like you're thinking about it all the time..." Mentioned or related to this episode: websitecoursesfreebiesnewsletterYouTubeInstagramTikTokBluesky Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

Two weeks post vocal feminization surgery, we hear what my spouse sounds like as she slowly recovers. She was on vocal rest for the past weeks and we talk about how she communicated, her reasons for opting for vocal surgery, and what she hopes the outcome will be in the months ahead. My favorite word in this episode: otolaryngology. Say that ten times. Mentioned or related to this episode: Text-to-speech generatortext-to speech generatorMedical team Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

On the eve of her vocal feminization surgery, I talk to my spouse about surgeries she has had at this stage of her transition, the surgery decision process, and how she is feeling going into this one. Mentioned or related to this episode: Transgender Day of VisibilityFOLXGet the Facts on Gender Affirming Care Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers. MAR 16, 2025SHARE

In this episode, I talk to my mom in her eighties about her reaction when I told her that my spouse had come out as transgender. My favorite quote from our talk: “You’re not the one who has the right to judge.” Mentioned or related to this episode: American Field ServiceShe's Not There: A Life in Two GendersPFLAG NationalPFLAG InternationalDear Cisgender People: A Guide to Trans Allyship and Empathy Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

Telling your parents that your spouse has come out as transgender can be quite stressful; no two family dynamics are the same. In this episode, I talk to my midwestern, cisgender, former United States Navy officer, highly educated dad in his eighties about his reaction when I told him that my spouse had come out as transgender. My favorite quote from our talk: “The only change would be our nasty attitude and that just makes no sense.” FYI: The podcast is now available on YouTube, too. Mentioned or related to this episode: She's Not There: A Life in Two GendersPFLAG NationalPFLAG InternationalDear Cisgender People: A Guide to Trans Allyship and Empathy Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The news headlines about attempts to erase the transgender community can do a number on us. Partner up, it’s going to be an unpredictable, bumpy ride. Rest when you need to, stay hydrated, and keep being you. Allies, time to step up. Trans Lifeline: Resources for Dealing with Post-Election Grief Mentioned or related to this episode: Utah bill would ban Pride flags in public schools but allow Nazi flags for educational useUtah Republican amends anti-pride flag bill hours after saying Nazi, Confederate flags could be displayed in schoolsPark Service erases 'transgender' on Stonewall website, uses the term 'LGB' movementTransgender references removed from Stonewall National Monument websiteErin in the MorningThe Trans Formations ProjectThe Rachel Maddow Show on MSNBCPFLAGRedditherehereresources Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

Misinformation and fake news are abundant, and knowing what’s real and what’s not can even take the savviest person by surprise. Transgender people are the current target and as the saying goes, repeat a lie enough times and people start to believe it. Let’s change that. In this episode, I share tips and thoughts on how to spot fake news and ways help us accomplish things moving forward. Mentioned or related to this episode: Trans Pilot Shares "Proof of Life" Video...ypes of False InformationEvaluation ToolsThe CRAAP TestNine Ways to Respond to Political MisinformationReporting Misinformation OnlineList of Fact CheckersUntangling DisinformationChallenge Misinformation: Books for AdultsMedia Literacy, Fact Checking, and Critical Thinking in the Age of MisinformationThink AgainHow to Think Critically in the Post-Truth EraThe Demon-Haunted World, Science as a Candle in the Dark Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

It has been three years since my spouse came out to me as transgender. This episode reflects on how the first two years look from here, plus how things are going and where they are headed. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerThe RageTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

It’s a new year and as we wrestle with what the future holds for transgender people in this moment in time, we begin the season with a glimpse of the potential for positive change. My spouse decided to visit her family in México to celebrate her dad’s 80th birthday this past November. It has been a difficult road for their relationship since my spouse came out and only recently have they been communicating on a regular basis. This was the first visit since my spouse began her transition, almost three years ago. Change can happen with effort from all sides. Information for allies: Guide to Being a Trans AllyTips for Allies of Transgender Peopleally guideally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching More transgender families: Great ScottsJammidodgerThe RageTransitionTogetherMy Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsSuburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I’m happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider Buy Me A Coffee or donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.