the self-love archives

in this week's episode we dive into an amazing conversation with hayley segar, the founder of swimwear brand, onewith. we talk about balancing self-love and self-care while being a business owner, making the right decisions for your mental health while trying to grow and become a successful business, as well as the important ethos behind onewith swim and body neutrality. can't wait for you to hear this one! you can shop onewith at www.onewithswim.com and keep up with all things on instagram @onewithswim connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

i know you've heard it- we are our own toughest critic, and sometimes we don't even realize just how much we negatively affirm ourselves. we're subconsciously unkind or outright mean. most of what we say to ourselves, we would never say to a friend or someone we care about, so really- why would we say it to ourselves? in this episode, we'll go into 3 different ways you can correct this subconscious thinking and affirm yourself in kinder, more loving ways- as you deserve. grab "buy yourself the f*cking lilies" by tara schuster here connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

are you aware of what you consume? are you aware of it's affect on you? this topic's been a bit on my mind lately and it ties directly into our journeys- if we are who we surround ourselves with in our physical environments, then the same must be true for our digital environments. in today's episode, let's talk about how what you pay attention to, especially in the digital social media world, can be a double-edged sword or just not helping you love yourself more. i reference a post shared by the lovely, hayes in this episode. you can find her here. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

a question we ask ourselves more times than we'd like to admit: why is it such a struggle to really love yourself? the answer may be obvious, or it may be something you haven't stopped to think about. in today's episode, i'll share 3 reasons why you can't seem to begin to choose to love yourself (plus one extra reason you may not have considered). connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

there are so many things going on behind the scenes for me lately, so in today's episode: three topics that have been heavy on my mind- how do women function without birth control, when that's all we've known? more here from episode 7 restarting the #selflove100 challenge, are you joining me? more here from episode 3 i've been taking intuitive classes, do you trust your intuition? more here from episode 28 connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

change is inevitable. we know this, but then why does change make us so uncomfortable? and how can we listen to our intuition in order to make the right choice when it comes to making a change? eclipse season is showing us exactly where we need to take action in our lives to change- whether we're in control or not. in today's episode, we're gonna learn how to listen to our intuition, be more comfortable when things aren't in our control, and adapt + lean in to change. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

we're reaching a crossroads in 2024- we're coming up to a stop sign, or potentially just a yield sign. either way, aries season is asking us to proceed with caution. the next few weeks is a bit of a rocky road, but that doesn't mean we aren't coming out on the other side of it with new knowledge, passion, and power. today's episode, i wanted to give you some insight into aries season which includes eclipse season and a mercury retrograde, but with some additional lovely dates in the midst of the chaos to look out for. we'll also see how this story continues into the end of the summer/early fall. thank you to chani, astrology.com, + hermes astrology for helping to piece together all of the upcoming astrological connections. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

the hate is getting out of hand on my socials, but i have a bit of a different approach to it- i’m grateful (not crazy, i promise). the hate reminds me that the self-love archives is so much more needed in this world because so many women don’t love themselves. but how could i expect them to, right? because as women we’re told to look pretty, but not too pretty. speak up, but not too much. dress a certain way, be a certain way, act a certain way. this is so ingrained in us that when someone even steps out of the “norm”, it asks us to look back at ourselves and question everything. today’s episode, i wanted to dive a bit deeper into this hate and my responses, how words actually can hurt, and how we all can handle hate in small doses or to this magnitude. remember, being vulnerable in any way is a strength, even if most of the world doesn’t seem to agree. i’m proud of you, for being you. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

i'm officially (almost) in my 30s era.. we've got 3 days by the time this episode launches. not only is it my birthday episode and birthday week, but there is some super exciting astrology happening that is going to help us to really kick off our goals for 2024. + i asked all of you beautiful people what you learned in your 20s on social, and it was just too good not to share, so i'll be sharing some responses with you! ily connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

i love, love. not only that, but i love understanding how i can love the people that love me, more. and the best way to do that is knowing what their love languages are. and the other thing i love? i love being loved. and what better way to do that, then to know what your love languages are so that you can tell people how to love you more. we love ourselves more, when we tell people how to love us and when we love them. take the official love language quiz here if you need help figuring out yours, or read the 5 love languages by gary chapman here i'm sooo excited to be hosting an event for my birthday- a flirty 30 brunch with fleur de mer in ocean township, new jersey, and i'm inviting you to be there! grab your tickets here while you still can! i can't wait to celebrate with you! x connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

generational trauma has been a topic i’m sure you’ve heard about. it’s also been one i’ve been doing more research and work on for my own healing journey ever since reading mark wolynn’s book: it didn’t start with you. It’s been truly eye opening, especially when we bring astrology into the mix to help us add context and better understand the very shadow-like part of our journeys. in this episode, we're starting the conversation around generational trauma: what it is, how to work with it, + bringing astrology in the mix to help us understand ourselves even deeper. the astrology podcast with aerie fogel on generation trauma through astrology youtube video on dr. frances yahia talking about the shadow of our moon signs book with my friend + astrologer, lezette marie connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

i'm super excited to welcome today's special guest: the one and only jaina, a midsize fashion, lifestyle, + self-love creator. i've had the opportunity to work with and be friends with jaina for the past few years and it's been so amazing watching come into her power as a woman; and i can't wait to have her here to share that story with you. you can find jaina on instagram @jainaazalea + tik tok @jainaazalea + you can shop DIOSA at https://inner-diosa.com/ connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

6 years ago i found myself in a place i hope you never will. for years, i worried about the next girl. i was worried that i couldn't save her from the hands of someone who shouldn't be allowed to walk amongst us. then i realized that i had the ability to help so many other women by just sharing my story. so here it is, my story: a chapter of almost two years of my life drowning in red flags and abuse. + 10 red flags that i ignored, that you shouldn't. love you always if you or anyone else is in a similar position to the story shared in this episode, please reach out to the domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-7233 or text "start" to 88788. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

so you haven’t made your vision board or wrote down any goals for 2024 yet- that’s okay. 2024 starts off a little fuzzy, but don’t fret because we have some astrology coming up that’ll give you a boost to take initiative in finally beginning this new, lucky year. the word of the year is "intentional" and i'm sharing with you what that really means for me, including prioritizing my health after being in the unhealthiest version of myself for way too long. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

goodbye 2023, hello 2024 let me be one of the first to wish you a very happy new year with 2023 coming to a close, i hold so much gratitude for each of you that have listened and supported the self-love archives. this is only the beginning 🩷 connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

merry christmas 🎄❤️ in today’s episode i wanted to share just a little protection visualization that helps me keep out the bad energy and not take of emotions of other people around me. with the holidays sometimes being a difficult time for us, this small thing can help in big ways. and to get our minds off our own families and their not-so-perfect dynamics, let’s read a few “am i the asshole?” (it’s like a little christmas story time hahah) aita story 1 aita story 2 aita story 3 if you’d like to enter my giveaway, make sure you’re following my socials below. all the details will be there! i appreciate you, i love you, always. have the best holiday and see back here to kick off the new year 🎆 connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

it has been such a wonderful journey being here with you throughout the rest of 2023. and it’s not over just yet- there are two special episodes coming on christmas eve, and new years eve. i want to give something special to one you as a thank you for supporting the self-love archives. make sure you’re following on all socials so you know when and how to enter. in today’s episode, we’re talking about the art of gifting- it’s more than just a material thing that we hand off. i’m also going to tell you about this super amazing experience i’ve had the past few weeks connecting with my intuition and how the end of the year will be such an important time to take it slow. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

it’s the holiday season, it’s almost always the assumption that we’re going to be stressed and overwhelmed. but it doesn’t have to be. in today’s episode, we’re talking about how to recognize if you’re doing too much and how to reevaluate and reprioritize your giant to do lists. upcoming this week is not only a new moon, but mercury is in retrograde. The timing makes so much sense for the holiday season and end of the year, so we’ll also talk about what this means and how to work with it. stay tuned on socials for an upcoming giveaway as a huge thank you for supporting the self-love archives! connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

past, present, and future- which one are you stuck in? inspired by the holiday season + the christmas carol, today's episode is a bit of a writing session together (why not try something new!). we're using the we're not really strangers self-love deck, grab it here to continue these amazing questions. connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com

we are getting deep in this episode today with @lezette.marie not only about boundaries and astrology, but also about the inner work- the not so pretty healing you need to do to love yourself more. i hope you love this episode, and take some amazing knowledge and love from our conversation. book an astrology or self-awakened session with lezette at lifewithlezette.com or find lezette on instagram @lezette.marie and tik tok @lezette.marie connect with julia on instagram @beautybyjulia + tik tok @juliasalvia unlock more archive content on instagram @theselflovearchive + tik tok @theselflovearchives sign up for the self-love archives newsletter: www.theselflovearchives.com