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12 - Honouring female sexuality

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The truth is that I am not getting enough sex and I can no longer ignore this gnawing feeling that I have barely begun to experience the kind of pleasure my body is capable of. Connecting with my erotic self has became a matter of urgency. And I know that I am not alone. In my heterosexual, cisgender, white British context female sexual pleasure remains shrouded in mystery and borderline taboo. The more I learn about the connection between the treatment of the vulva and women’s ability to relax, create, explore, lead and excel the more fascinated I am. That is why I am launching 12, a podcast series exploring the twelve different ways a woman is apparently able to orgasm. I want to start a conversation. A conversation that honours women’s sexuality and their sex. A conversation which challenges the status quo of a culture with an overwhelmingly male sexual gaze. A culture which overlooks female sexual anatomy in mainstream scientific reference books and tolerates an industry where women are reduced to sexual objects. Each episode of 12 focuses on one of the ways a woman can apparently orgasm, from the g-spot to the blended orgasm, the cervix to the mind. The series delves into the elements that come into play when women have sex; the psychological, the historical, the biological, the sociological and cultural. Each episode also includes an insight into what happened when my partner and I tried to find the orgasm. 12 is packed full of honesty, vulnerability as well as practical advice.

The truth is that I am not getting enough sex and I can no longer ignore this gnawing feeling that I have barely begun to experience the kind of pleasure my body is capable of. Connecting with my erotic self has became a matter of urgency. And I know that I am not alone. In my heterosexual, cisgender, white British context female sexual pleasure remains shrouded in mystery and borderline taboo. The more I learn about the connection between the treatment of the vulva and women’s ability to relax, create, explore, lead and excel the more fascinated I am. That is why I am launching 12, a podcast series exploring the twelve different ways a woman is apparently able to orgasm. I want to start a conversation. A conversation that honours women’s sexuality and their sex. A conversation which challenges the status quo of a culture with an overwhelmingly male sexual gaze. A culture which overlooks female sexual anatomy in mainstream scientific reference books and tolerates an industry where women are reduced to sexual objects. Each episode of 12 focuses on one of the ways a woman can apparently orgasm, from the g-spot to the blended orgasm, the cervix to the mind. The series delves into the elements that come into play when women have sex; the psychological, the historical, the biological, the sociological and cultural. Each episode also includes an insight into what happened when my partner and I tried to find the orgasm. 12 is packed full of honesty, vulnerability as well as practical advice.

Location:

United Kingdom

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The truth is that I am not getting enough sex and I can no longer ignore this gnawing feeling that I have barely begun to experience the kind of pleasure my body is capable of. Connecting with my erotic self has became a matter of urgency. And I know that I am not alone. In my heterosexual, cisgender, white British context female sexual pleasure remains shrouded in mystery and borderline taboo. The more I learn about the connection between the treatment of the vulva and women’s ability to relax, create, explore, lead and excel the more fascinated I am. That is why I am launching 12, a podcast series exploring the twelve different ways a woman is apparently able to orgasm. I want to start a conversation. A conversation that honours women’s sexuality and their sex. A conversation which challenges the status quo of a culture with an overwhelmingly male sexual gaze. A culture which overlooks female sexual anatomy in mainstream scientific reference books and tolerates an industry where women are reduced to sexual objects. Each episode of 12 focuses on one of the ways a woman can apparently orgasm, from the g-spot to the blended orgasm, the cervix to the mind. The series delves into the elements that come into play when women have sex; the psychological, the historical, the biological, the sociological and cultural. Each episode also includes an insight into what happened when my partner and I tried to find the orgasm. 12 is packed full of honesty, vulnerability as well as practical advice.

Language:

English


Episodes

14. In conversation with H

8/14/2020
Welcome to episode 14, the final episode in the series. Be ready for something totally different as I am joined for the first time by a guest! In this episode H and I reflect together on the making of 12. I ask H a little bit about himself and then move on to finding out what was hard about making the series, what he learnt and how the experience has changed him. I also share some reflections of my own. THANK YOU to all the listeners who submitted questions, you are superstars! Follow me on...

Duration:00:21:15

13. Anal

7/24/2020
Episode 13 explores arguably the most taboo of all the orgasms, the anal orgasm. Expect to learn a lot about how to get started, as well as some tips on communication with a partner about libido, experimentation and expanding your sexual horizons. If you have any questions for H and I for our final podcast please email me directly at sarah@twelve4pleasure.com. We’d love to hear from you! Thank you Xx References The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women by Tristan Taormino Sexplanations...

Duration:00:18:04

12. Multiple

7/2/2020
Episode 12 explores the magical multiple orgasm. Expect to learn about super orgasmic women and edging. This episode also explores the world of yoni and jade eggs. And, as always, find out what happened when H and I had a go. It’s a cracker! References 'The Super Orgasm'? on All 4: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-super-orgasm?cntsrc=social_share_ios_the_super_orgasm What happens to our bodies during sex? - WebMD https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/sexual-response-cycle#1...

Duration:00:21:59

11. Spot or Zone

6/11/2020
Episode 11, the spot or zone orgasm spends time understanding erogenous zones as well as touching on topics like white debt, foot fetishes and body mapping. There is also a reveal about plans for the final episode. Apologies if the recording quality isn’t as good as previous episodes. Recording in lockdown has it’s challenges! References The Erogenous Zones: Their Nerve Supply and Significance - http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/winkelmann/ (http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/winkelmann/)...

Duration:00:17:23

10. Mouthgasm

5/22/2020
Episode 10 explores the mouthgasm or oral orgasm. The show talks about life in isolation, what it means to live an erotic life and shares the two ways H and I approached this diverse orgasm. References What’s in a Kiss? The Guardian - https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/jul/19/history-of-kissing-lips-love (https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/jul/19/history-of-kissing-lips-love) The Magic Place at the end of the Rainbow, Marian Freya - https://beducated.com/mag/throat-orgasm/...

Duration:00:20:45

Intermission

4/3/2020
Follow and connect on Instagram @twelve4pleasure.

Duration:00:01:02

9. Cervical

3/27/2020
Episode 9 explores the cervical orgasm, also referred to as the queen of orgasms. Expect insights into common challenges facing couples as well as the impact of the pornography industry on young people. References Ester Perel - https://www.estherperel.com/ (www.estherperel.com) Jo Divine - www.jodivine.com Fight The New Drug - https://fightthenewdrug.org/ (https://fightthenewdrug.org) ’Vagina’ by Naomi Wolf ’Women Who Run With the Wolves’ by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Duration:00:18:13

8. Nipple

3/20/2020
Episode 8 explores the nipple orgasm or nipplegasm! This light-hearted episode touches on nipple clamps, hormones, Taoist breast massage and inverted nipples and more. Follow and connect on Instagram @twelve4pleasure. Enjoy. References Sexpert.com ’Man Hunt’ by Cathleen Ross Beductated breast massage https://youtu.be/IKoQMlhQRCU (https://youtu.be/IKoQMlhQRCU) ‘365 Days of Sensational Sex’ by Lou Paget ’The Power of Women’s Anger‘ By Soraya Chemaly TEDTalk https://youtu.be/wMt0K-AbpCU...

Duration:00:20:36

7. Mental

3/13/2020
Episode 7 explores the mental orgasm. Topics include erotic hypnosis, Lady Gaga and the vaginal pulse. Enjoy! References ’The Science of Orgasm’ by Barry R. Komisaruk, Beverly Whipple and Carlos Beyer-Flores https://nymag.com/arts/popmusic/features/65127/ (New Yorker 2010 interview with Lady Gaga) https://www.youtube.com/user/UltraHypnosis (Fiona Clearwater - Erotic Hypnosis) ’Vagina’ by Naomi Wolf https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beverly_Whipple (Beverly Whipple)

Duration:00:18:43

6. Blended

3/6/2020
Episode 6 explores the blended orgasm - an orgasm that is a mixture of an external and interior orgasm. As well as topics including uncomfortable bras, body image and giving direction to a lover. Follow on Instagram @twelve4pleasure References https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amber_Rose (Amber Rose) ‘The Vagina Monologues‘ by Eve Ensler https://evyanwhitney.com/healing/ (Ev’yan Whitney) https://youtu.be/rgdu5gHXKsM (Robbie Williams describes his first child’s birth) ’What We’re Told Not to Talk...

Duration:00:20:33

5. Clitoral

2/28/2020
Episode 5 explores the clitoral orgasm, female masturbation, sex education and polarity! Follow on instagram @twelve4pleasure References The film https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0073629/ (‘Rocky Horror Picture Show’) The film https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0051658/ (‘Gigi’) The Story of O by Anne Desclos https://www.omgyes.com/?utm_expid=.2x0PE92RSvyk3zEix7YLEw.0&utm_referrer= (OMGYes.com) ‘Come As You Are’ by Emily Nagoski ‘What We’re Told Not to Talk About’ by Nimko Ali...

Duration:00:18:49

4. A-Spot

2/21/2020
Episode 4 explores the A-Spot, also known as the deep spot. This episode takes on a slightly more serious tone with topics including vulva surgery and pornography. Follow on Instagram @twelve4pleasure References https://medium.com/@jasonjulius (Jason Julius) ’Cunt’ by Inga Muscio Film http://www.sorayamire.org/fireeyes.asp (‘Fire Eyes’) by Soraya Mire ’Vagina’ by Naomi Wolf

Duration:00:17:25

3. U-Spot

2/9/2020
Episode 3 explores the U-Spot as well as topics including vaginal weight-lifting and spontaneous sex versus scheduled sex. Follow on Instagram @twelve4pleasure References https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot (Grafenberg) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Preti (George Preti) https://instagram.com/theslumflower?igshid=1xrme2racgbkq (Chidera Eggerue @theslumflower) https://kimanami.com/ (Kim Anami)

Duration:00:15:31

2. G-Spot

2/7/2020
Episode 2 explores the mystical G-Spot. It is intimate in content and touches on topics including female sexual anatomy, yoni massage and sex after childbirth. Follow on Instagram @twelve4pleasure References ‘Come As You Are’ by Emily Nagoski ‘Vagina’ by Naomi Wolf https://weareferly.com/ (Ferly)

Duration:00:17:30

1. Introduction

1/28/2020
Introductory episode to the podcast series 12, exploring the 12 different ways a woman is apparently able to orgasm. TRIGGER WARNING - brief reference to sexual assault. Follow on Instagram @twelve4pleasure or email sarah@twelve4pleasure.com References https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb (Refinery29) Brene Brown - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare (Power of Vulnerability) TED talk ‘Women who Run...

Duration:00:11:01