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A Lesbian Podcast Social brought to you from a basement somewhere in London. ​Each episode features talks with a selection of guests who discuss everyday life topics, share anecdotes or reflect on their individual life experiences. No flannel shirts were harmed in the making of these recordings.

A Lesbian Podcast Social brought to you from a basement somewhere in London. ​Each episode features talks with a selection of guests who discuss everyday life topics, share anecdotes or reflect on their individual life experiences. No flannel shirts were harmed in the making of these recordings.

Location:

United Kingdom

Description:

A Lesbian Podcast Social brought to you from a basement somewhere in London. ​Each episode features talks with a selection of guests who discuss everyday life topics, share anecdotes or reflect on their individual life experiences. No flannel shirts were harmed in the making of these recordings.

Language:

English


Episodes

Episode 20 - The Lezmas Special

12/25/2020
Surprise - we've reached the Season One Finale of 'A Lesbian Affair' and it just so happens to be Christmas, too! So let's have a look at what makes Christmas good and how we can also talk about its associated challenges. What's love got to do with it and what about family traditions that are unique to each and every one of us? Jess explores these and other personal questions in a celebratory round-up of conversations with Diana Souhami, Mia, Fen & Kerry, Miriam, Sarah and Fae. Trigger...

Duration:01:43:42

Episode 019 - Anna & Teresa

12/15/2020
What's it like to find love, and dance into a relationship that comes with its own challenges... such as navigating a 20 year age-difference? Meet Anna and Teresa, who have learned to deal with just that. In this episode, they generously let us in on their lives; their coming out stories; how they got to know and love each other, and also what the prospect of marriage and commitment means to them individually. We hear about Teresa's activist work during the Aids Crisis and what it was like...

Duration:01:28:11

Episode 018 - Fae

11/10/2020
What's it like to join the circus and identify as 'not straight'? In today's episode, Jess is joined by Fae who discusses her journey into the performing arts sector and her relationship with the queer community. There is common ground as both explore historic German geopolitical issues and the impacts of those on family life, personal values and outlooks. There is talk about what it means to have been raised by parents who experienced pressures from a socialist regime and also what...

Duration:01:19:47

Episode 018 - Linda Riley & Cat Haldane

10/15/2020
This episode features Linda Riley, known as the publisher of DIVA Magazine, founder of the Lesbian Visibility Week, and also a Stonewall Housing Gold Champion. She is joined, on behalf of Stonewall Housing, by Cat Haldane who generously also shares with us parts of her professional and personal story. The conversation deals with Linda's experiences around homelessness, her coming out, as well as her journey into publishing. There are musings on the definition of homelessness, what it means...

Duration:00:46:47

Episode 018 - Linda Riley & Cat Haldane

10/14/2020
This episode features Linda Riley, known as the publisher of DIVA Magazine, founder of the Lesbian Visibility Week, and also a Stonewall Housing Gold Champion. She is joined, on behalf of Stonewall Housing, by Cat Haldane who generously also shares with us parts of her professional and personal story. The conversation deals with Linda's experiences around homelessness, her coming out, as well as her journey into publishing. There are musings on the definition of homelessness, what it means...

Duration:00:46:47

Episode 017 - Sandra

10/7/2020
This week's episode features Sandra - a singer, writer, and bibliophile from London. In many ways, this podcast recording is about her story, talent and extraordinary level of resilience as she reflects on adverse childhood experiences, the stigma of abuse, as well as her relationship to the world and people in general. She deliberates on what it means to reach a level of confidence and authenticity, the act of triumph that can be achieved through coming out but also how difficult the...

Duration:01:01:52

Episode 016 - Krisha

9/18/2020
Does Tinder work in Kyrgyzstan?... Meet Krisha who might be able to tell you just that as she navigates life and dating within Kyrgyz society. In this episode, we discuss experiences around breakups, what it means to be at home in different cultures and to inhabit the linguistic mentalities that may come with them. Additionally, there are also explorations around the topics of nature vs. nurture (why are we gay?); the taste of horse milk, and what it means to experience a safe space within a...

Duration:01:31:26

Episode 015 - Katie

9/3/2020
In this episode, Jess talks to Katie who is currently weathering the impacts of the pandemic at home in Canada, having recently completed her university degree. There are explorations of her personal academic journey (having studied Gender Politics), her value systems around dating and marriage, her passion for the promotion of equality, diversity and inclusion (EDI) strategies, as well as deliberations on the political concepts of intersectionality and certain strands of feminism. This...

Duration:01:01:35

Episode 014 - Fen & Kerry

8/23/2020
What does it take to be a radical bookseller? Well... meet Fen & Kerry, two women who have earned a reputation as just that. Both work for 'Letterbox Library' in London and also happen to be a lesbian couple. In this episode, we explore historical shifts within the community, and also how the terms 'queer' and 'lesbian' have changed in what they signify depending on generations. Fen and Kerry reflect on their relationship, how it all started, coming out, and why certain friendships can at...

Duration:01:12:19

Episode 013 - Robin

8/6/2020
In this episode, Jess introduces Robin who joins her for a discussion about coming out and explores why staying in the closet on a selective basis can be a matter of self-protection. She talks about how being a daughter to Chinese parents in an American setting shaped her. There are talks about love, heartbreak, endings, death, but also her first romantic experiences. Additionally this episode contains autobiographic reflections on the power of communication and what it means to avoid...

Duration:00:54:39

Episode 012 - Kate Charlesworth

7/28/2020
Meet Kate Charlesworth, an award-winning illustrator, artist and graphic novelist who has recently brought out 'Sensible Footwear: A Girls Guide'. In this episode, she explores how her autobiography lent itself as a framework for the graphic novel and why re-telling lesbian and queer history is of more importance than ever. She reflects on her personal and professional life, non-monogamy, the institution of marriage, coming out, activism, and working in a male-dominated environment within...

Duration:01:00:43

Episode 011 - Sarah

7/14/2020
Meet Sarah - a retired recruitment professional and hypnotherapist. In this episode, she explores what it means to come out late in life, how coming out changes us but also whether it impacts the ways in which we conduct our relationships. There is also talk about health taboos, Sarah's own experiences in relation to the 'butch-femme' dynamic and the implicit pitfalls of socialisation. Jess and her also discuss what the practice of hypnotherapy entails, and reflect on the importance of...

Duration:01:04:53

Episode 010 - Samara

7/2/2020
In this week's episode Jess talks to Samara, a creative professional from London. Discussions revolve around early experiences of difference, societal pressures in relation to gender expression and 'femininity', as well as how cultural representation within the community can be experienced. In addition to this, the discussion also involves reflections on what it means to live a double life, and why representation matters. There is also talk about the importance of having older women as role...

Duration:00:53:55

Episode 009 - Angie

6/21/2020
Meet Angie who for decades has been dedicated to the formation and nurture of lesbian community. She is an advocate for animal welfare, women, lesbians, and pacifism. In this episode, we explore stories and themes of Angie's life which include reflections on her personal relationship to her parents, her coming out, tales of squatting in Chelsea, her experiences during the AIDS epidemic, as well as what it means to find love. Watch out for anecdotes on anti-bourgeois balcony...

Duration:01:11:30

Episode 008 - Sandi

6/1/2020
Sandi is a student from London gearing up to become an Osteopath. In this episode, she talks to Jess about her personal experiences in relation to coming out and touches on the individual values and principles that helped her in this respect. There are also conversations about Sri Lanka, spirituality, the idea of radical acceptance, unity and difference, the impact of colonisation, and the importance of cultural heritage. Further discussion points include reflections on how the process of...

Duration:01:22:43

Episode 007 - Erica & Alex

5/25/2020
This episode features Erica and Alex. Discussions revolve around how they met, their sexual identities, coming out, experiences of discrimination in the UK and abroad, as well as thoughts on whether being gay or queer in the US is any different. Erica also reflects on her journey into academia, particularly in relation to LGBTQ+ youth literature, and her work as a bookseller at Gay's The Word. Additional talking points include deliberations on why the fictional character Orlando (as penned...

Duration:00:57:44

Episode 006 - Diana Souhami

5/14/2020
Jess is joined by the award-winning author Diana Souhami who has just published a new book titled 'No Modernism Without Lesbians'. Discussions in this episode centre around personal anecdotes and experiences, Diana's unique take on history and lesbian characters, as well as musings on what a post-pandemic future might look like. There are also reflections on the notion of identity and how labels such as, for example, the idea of 'Jewishness', 'Germanness' or 'Queerness' play into...

Duration:01:05:55

Episode 005 - Miriam

5/4/2020
This episode is all about Miriam, a lesbian artist. Jess talks to her about her first experiences and crushes and what it meant to be attracted to women from an early age. She explores stories highlighting personal struggles in relation to internalised homophobia and shame, questions whether lesbians can objectify women as already often exemplified in heteropatriachial ways, and discusses issues around neurodiversity. There is also a discussion about the perception of intelligence in...

Duration:01:05:08

Episode 004 - Lara & JJ

4/26/2020
Jess talks to Lara and JJ. about their relationship to LGBTQ+ labels, investigates how they met, what their personal experiences in the community are and how these shaped their identity. Additionally, this episodes features musings on the nature and/or nurture debate, the subject of discrimination, as well as deeper thoughts on the lesbian appeal of Dusty Springfield. Links to talks and things that are mentioned in this episode: Vera Birkenbihl - Die Vielfalt der Geschlechtsentwicklung...

Duration:01:07:11

Episode 003 - Keira

4/10/2020
Jess talks to Keira about life in lockdown, her relationship to the label 'lesbian', the concept of marriage, certain mental health taboos within the community and society in general, our relationship to food and alcohol, as well as the treatment of women in fiction. We also mention our donation campaign for Gay's the Word bookshop in this episode. If you would like to support them so that they can re-open after the pandemic lockdown is over, then check out this JustGiving page.

Duration:00:51:16