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What 24/7 D/s Means to Us

12/7/2018
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We talk about being 24/7 D/s in nearly every episode we record, because it’s who we are. But we’ve never really talked about what it means to us. It’s pretty simple, but it’s also entirely personal. At best, we hope we can help people see it as something that doesn’t require a lot of micromanagement […] The post What 24/7 D/s Means to Us appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:15:43

How Mental Health Impacts Our D/s Relationship

11/30/2018
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This week’s episode isn’t a new topic — mental health and BDSM is something we talk about all the time. But this time, we’re going to take a deep dive into our specific D/s relationship and how mental health impacts us both. We are not mental health or medical professionals, and we don’t/can’t/won’t give advice […] The post How Mental Health Impacts Our D/s Relationship appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:15:13

Our Favorite Sex Toys: 2018 Edition

11/23/2018
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We started it on a whim a few years ago, and we’ve kept the tradition going since. It’s time for our episode on our favorite sex toys and kinky gear that we tried in 2018. We’ve timed it for the “official” start of the holiday season (aka Black Friday) so you can take advantage of […] The post Our Favorite Sex Toys: 2018 Edition appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:58:41

Thinking of Your D/s Relationship as a Team

11/16/2018
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Pardon the missed episode last week and our fuzzy brains this week. It took us a while to find the words we wanted for this one, but the basic idea is this…D/s isn’t just about what you do for each other or what you get as a submissive or a Dominant. It’s also about what […] The post Thinking of Your D/s Relationship as a Team appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:56:30

Traveling While Kinky LB153

11/2/2018
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This week’s episode is a listener request, but Kayla was a bad podcast co-host and forgot to write down the person’s name. She should be punished, but she might like that too much. But thanks to this mystery kinkster, our topic — before the holidays start in earnest — is about traveling while kinky. We […] The post Traveling While Kinky LB153 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:58:36

D/s Mindsets and Shutting Out the Vanilla World LB152

10/26/2018
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I’ll be honest…I didn’t know how to title this episode because we talk about a very nuanced topic that can mean something different for every D/s relationship. Basically, it’s about feeling your Dominant or submissive self when the vanilla world intrudes, but also tips on how to block out the vanilla world so you can […] The post D/s Mindsets and Shutting Out the Vanilla World LB152 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:02:08

Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent LB151

10/19/2018
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In episode 151, we talk about a topic near and dear to John Brownstone’s heart — if you want to lead the relationship (as a Dominant), you need to be consistent. In this episode: If you want to give a kinky fuckery gift this upcoming holiday season, check out our Kinky Fuckery Shop! This week’s […] The post Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent LB151 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:01:08

Feeling Confident as a Dominant LB150

10/12/2018
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Thanks to a listener suggestion, we’re talking about confidence for Dominants — how normal it is to not be fully confident and how to become more confident. And also, ranting about why we need to stop expecting immediate confidence from Doms at all times and in all situations. In this episode: If you want to […] The post Feeling Confident as a Dominant LB150 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:04:52

Feeling Dominant or Submissive When You’re Single LB149

10/5/2018
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This week, we’re talking about what it means (and how you can) feel your Dominant or submissive when you’re single. For many of us, D/s is an inherent part of who we are and how we express ourselves. While many of us would prefer to express that side of ourselves in a healthy, happy relationship, […] The post Feeling Dominant or Submissive When You’re Single LB149 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:06:55

Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148

9/28/2018
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Most of us use the term “jealousy” as a catch-all for worry, envy, insecurity and other negative feelings in a relationship. So let’s talk about what we mean when we say we’re feeling “jealous” and how we can deal with it in a D/s relationship. In this episode: This episode was suggested by Precious who […] The post Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:26:51

D/s Can’t Fix a Broken Relationship LB147

9/21/2018
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Fair warning…this week’s topic brings out all of the ranting. Can D/s be an amazing thing in an imperfect relationship where both people want to and can make it work? Absolutely! Will D/s be the magic potion that fixes everything that’s wrong? Nope. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: D/s can enhance a relationship. […] The post D/s Can’t Fix a Broken Relationship LB147 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:29:44

Subspace LB146

9/14/2018
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How we managed to get so far and never discuss subspace as it’s own topic, I’ll never know. If you look below at the links, you’ll see all kinds of similar topics — drop, aftercare, etc. But now, after 140-plus episodes, we’re discussing the one thing people either don’t think is real OR they chase […] The post Subspace LB146 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:28:41

Crying Good Tears After Your Kinky Fuckery or Scene LB145

9/7/2018
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Thank you ChintzCurtain for requesting this week’s topic. The specific request was to discuss a Dominant’s perspective on making a submissive cry “good” tears. Good is based on perspective, but this is about the emotional release that some people might feel after a big scene, kinky fuckery they enjoy, or even an orgasm. We discussed […] The post Crying Good Tears After Your Kinky Fuckery or Scene LB145 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:11:30

Supporting Dominants Through Tough Moments LB144

8/31/2018
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Everyone (on either side of the slash) goes through tough moments. In a power exchange, it can be difficult to know how to help or what to do when you’re a submissive. This doesn’t mean Dominants shouldn’t or can’t support their submissives. Support should happen from both sides. A stereotype persists about how strong or […] The post Supporting Dominants Through Tough Moments LB144 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:51:30

Assumptions and Communication in D/s Relationships LB143

8/24/2018
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This week’s topic isn’t exactly new, but we received enough messages with a common theme that we decided to talk about it again. It’s normal to make assumptions in life — even in D/s. What we need to do more often is challenge those assumptions. In our relationships, it’s often a communication issue. But in […] The post Assumptions and Communication in D/s Relationships LB143 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:53:54

Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142

8/17/2018
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What it means to be in a Caregiver/little dynamic will be different from relationship to relationship, but that’s not going to stop us from discussing it. We’ll try to make sense of what it can mean, and how you can make it your own thing, if it intrigues you as a power exchange. In this […] The post Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:49:43

Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141

8/10/2018
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Catfishing is something most of us probably already know and worry about in the online dating world. But what about the friends you make and the resources you trust online? How do you figure out who’s fake and who’s real? It’s not easy. But we definitely have thoughts on it, especially if some of those […] The post Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:05:45

Age Differences in D/s LB140

8/3/2018
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With an 18 year age difference between us, it’s safe to say that we’re not afraid of being with someone who’s a drastically different age. As with everything in D/s, there is no one size fits all here, and for many of us, it’s not about age, but about the person. A big age difference […] The post Age Differences in D/s LB140 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:30:23

What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139

7/27/2018
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Thanks to our amazing friend, Professor Sex, for suggesting this week’s topic: a Dom’s take on navigating non-monogamy while maintaining a 24/7 D/s relationship. We identify as poly, and just as with everything else, it exists on a spectrum. This is our perspective. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s vanilla shop. This […] The post What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:40:05

Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s

7/20/2018
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A listener reminded us that we’d promise to discuss how to make the transition from a long distance relationship to an in-person one. We leaned heavily on our own experiences, but also shared tips even if your situation is completely different. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s updated website! The shop […] The post Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:50:36