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Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142

8/17/2018
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What it means to be in a Caregiver/little dynamic will be different from relationship to relationship, but that’s not going to stop us from discussing it. We’ll try to make sense of what it can mean, and how you can make it your own thing, if it intrigues you as a power exchange. In this […] The post Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:49:43

Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141

8/10/2018
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Catfishing is something most of us probably already know and worry about in the online dating world. But what about the friends you make and the resources you trust online? How do you figure out who’s fake and who’s real? It’s not easy. But we definitely have thoughts on it, especially if some of those […] The post Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:05:45

Age Differences in D/s LB140

8/3/2018
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With an 18 year age difference between us, it’s safe to say that we’re not afraid of being with someone who’s a drastically different age. As with everything in D/s, there is no one size fits all here, and for many of us, it’s not about age, but about the person. A big age difference […] The post Age Differences in D/s LB140 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:30:23

What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139

7/27/2018
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Thanks to our amazing friend, Professor Sex, for suggesting this week’s topic: a Dom’s take on navigating non-monogamy while maintaining a 24/7 D/s relationship. We identify as poly, and just as with everything else, it exists on a spectrum. This is our perspective. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s vanilla shop. This […] The post What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:40:05

Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s

7/20/2018
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A listener reminded us that we’d promise to discuss how to make the transition from a long distance relationship to an in-person one. We leaned heavily on our own experiences, but also shared tips even if your situation is completely different. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s updated website! The shop […] The post Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:50:36

Service Submission LB137

7/13/2018
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In the first of what will surely be many conversations about submission, we’re discussing service submission. We give a (very) broad overview of what it means and then dive into our very personal experiences with it. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Kayla’s definition of service submission — as a service submissive. Being told […] The post Service Submission LB137 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:40:01

Intimacy in D/s Relationships LB136

7/6/2018
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We’ve spent the past several days focusing on creating space for the small, intimate moments in our relationship. That intimacy has helped us reconnect, made us feel closer, and been positive for both of us — as individuals and a D/s couple. So let’s talk about why intimacy is so important and how to experience […] The post Intimacy in D/s Relationships LB136 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:48:10

There’s No Such Thing as Perfect LB135

6/29/2018
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We’re back from vacation and glad to be back on the podcast! The time away is good, but we always miss this. This week, we’re talking about the lack of perfection in any relationship, D/s or otherwise. Most of us know this on a certain level. The problem is that the fantasy of our “perfect” […] The post There’s No Such Thing as Perfect LB135 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:35:00

Raising Sex Positive, Kink Friendly Kids LB134

6/15/2018
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This week, we’re going back to a topic we’ve touched on in the past — parenting and BDSM. Instead of talking about how to get your kink on when you’ve got kids, let’s talk about how to raise kids to accept the sexuality, kinks, and genders of themselves and others. In this episode: We’re on […] The post Raising Sex Positive, Kink Friendly Kids LB134 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:14:23

What Does It Mean to Be Dominant or Submissive? LB133

6/8/2018
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This week’s episode is a big topic to wrap our arms around, and there’s no way we could cover every aspect of this in one episode. But it’s a start. We have very simple definitions of “Dom” and “sub” because the short answer is that it can mean whatever you want it to mean with […] The post What Does It Mean to Be Dominant or Submissive? LB133 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:02:46

Red Flags and Submissives LB132

6/1/2018
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When you see the term “red flags” in BDSM, most people immediately think of Dominants — the assholes, predators, posers, and uneducated kinksters. But that makes it seem like all submissives are perfect little angels and can’t be predatory or manipulative. Of course they can, because people are like that (some of them, at least). […] The post Red Flags and Submissives LB132 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:16:19

Secrets in a D/s Relationship LB131

5/25/2018
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When we put out the call for topic suggestions a few weeks ago, Chloe Dare asked us to talk about whether you can have secrets in a D/s relationship. It’s a good question, and, as with all things, there’s no single answer that will work for everyone or every situation or secret. In this episode: […] The post Secrets in a D/s Relationship LB131 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:23:42

What You Can and Can’t Say in a D/s Relationship LB130

5/18/2018
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Consider the topic/title of this week’s episode a bit tongue in cheek. Do we think there are things you never, ever say in a D/s relationship? Not really. But we discuss how we talk to each other and some things to be mindful of so you can keep the lines of communication open in your […] The post What You Can and Can’t Say in a D/s Relationship LB130 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:58:01

Why Difficult Conversations are Good for Your D/s Relationship LB129

5/11/2018
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A conversation with someone else made us think about an old topic in a new way. Difficult conversations aren’t new — in relationships or on the podcast. But this week, we’ll explore it from a slightly different angle. Plus, the important stuff sometimes needs to be repeated a few times. This is one of those […] The post Why Difficult Conversations are Good for Your D/s Relationship LB129 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:35:19

What is Your BDSM Safety Philosophy? LB128

5/4/2018
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This week we’re talking about staying safe in BDSM, thanks to a topic suggestion from Little Rara. She asked us to discuss SSC, RACK, and PRICK. Earlier this week, we discussed the basics of those three concepts. Now we’re talking about the topic of safety and BDSM. In this episode: This week’s episode is a […] The post What is Your BDSM Safety Philosophy? LB128 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:54:44

Dom Drop and Aftercare LB127

4/27/2018
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We sent out a request for topic ideas specific to Dominants and Twitter delivered. Thanks to DomSigns (our friend and tech savior) for giving us the idea to discuss Dom drop and aftercare for Dominants. It’s a topic we’ve touched on before but not in a way that focuses on a Dominant’s needs. In this […] The post Dom Drop and Aftercare LB127 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:14:00

The Mystery Episode…It’s a Mystery to Us, Too LB126

4/19/2018
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For the record, this episode was a complete mystery to us. We turned on the mic and just started talking. No notes, no plan, and no topic. It’s been that kind of week. Links from the show: Support the show Postcard Project Kayla Lords on Fetlife John Brownstone on Fetlife Contact us! Listen to the […] The post The Mystery Episode…It’s a Mystery to Us, Too LB126 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:57:27

Sex and D/s Relationships LB125

4/13/2018
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Not every D/s relationship includes sex, but for those that do, we’re talking about it in a free-wheeling, no notes or plan kind of way for episode 125. In this episode: Much love to our sponsor VRPorn.com! Sex, sex, and sex. Links from the show: VRPorn.com D/s isn’t About Sex, It’s About Power Support the […] The post Sex and D/s Relationships LB125 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:07:38

When Communication Isn’t Enough LB124 - Loving BDSM

4/6/2018
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In episode 124, we take on the tricky topic of what to do when you’ve communicated and communicated and communicated…and it changes nothing in your D/s relationship. In this episode: Much love to this week’s sponsor VRPorn.com — the number one virtual reality porn site in the world! We received a question on Twitter about […] The post When Communication Isn’t Enough LB124 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Duration:01:01:03

A Conversation with Amy of Coffee and Kink LB123 - Loving BDSM

3/30/2018
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While in London at Eroticon, we took advantage of the fact that we were on the same continent with Amy of Coffee and Kink to sit down for a chat with her. If we could have, we would have happily had conversations with several other people in London, as well, but for our first, we’re […] The post A Conversation with Amy of Coffee and Kink LB123 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Duration:01:14:11