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Feeling Confident as a Dominant LB150

10/12/2018
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Thanks to a listener suggestion, we’re talking about confidence for Dominants — how normal it is to not be fully confident and how to become more confident. And also, ranting about why we need to stop expecting immediate confidence from Doms at all times and in all situations. In this episode: If you want to […] The post Feeling Confident as a Dominant LB150 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:04:52

Feeling Dominant or Submissive When You’re Single LB149

10/5/2018
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This week, we’re talking about what it means (and how you can) feel your Dominant or submissive when you’re single. For many of us, D/s is an inherent part of who we are and how we express ourselves. While many of us would prefer to express that side of ourselves in a healthy, happy relationship, […] The post Feeling Dominant or Submissive When You’re Single LB149 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:06:55

Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148

9/28/2018
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Most of us use the term “jealousy” as a catch-all for worry, envy, insecurity and other negative feelings in a relationship. So let’s talk about what we mean when we say we’re feeling “jealous” and how we can deal with it in a D/s relationship. In this episode: This episode was suggested by Precious who […] The post Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:26:51

D/s Can’t Fix a Broken Relationship LB147

9/21/2018
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Fair warning…this week’s topic brings out all of the ranting. Can D/s be an amazing thing in an imperfect relationship where both people want to and can make it work? Absolutely! Will D/s be the magic potion that fixes everything that’s wrong? Nope. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: D/s can enhance a relationship. […] The post D/s Can’t Fix a Broken Relationship LB147 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:29:44

Subspace LB146

9/14/2018
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How we managed to get so far and never discuss subspace as it’s own topic, I’ll never know. If you look below at the links, you’ll see all kinds of similar topics — drop, aftercare, etc. But now, after 140-plus episodes, we’re discussing the one thing people either don’t think is real OR they chase […] The post Subspace LB146 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:28:41

Crying Good Tears After Your Kinky Fuckery or Scene LB145

9/7/2018
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Thank you ChintzCurtain for requesting this week’s topic. The specific request was to discuss a Dominant’s perspective on making a submissive cry “good” tears. Good is based on perspective, but this is about the emotional release that some people might feel after a big scene, kinky fuckery they enjoy, or even an orgasm. We discussed […] The post Crying Good Tears After Your Kinky Fuckery or Scene LB145 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:11:30

Supporting Dominants Through Tough Moments LB144

8/31/2018
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Everyone (on either side of the slash) goes through tough moments. In a power exchange, it can be difficult to know how to help or what to do when you’re a submissive. This doesn’t mean Dominants shouldn’t or can’t support their submissives. Support should happen from both sides. A stereotype persists about how strong or […] The post Supporting Dominants Through Tough Moments LB144 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:51:30

Assumptions and Communication in D/s Relationships LB143

8/24/2018
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This week’s topic isn’t exactly new, but we received enough messages with a common theme that we decided to talk about it again. It’s normal to make assumptions in life — even in D/s. What we need to do more often is challenge those assumptions. In our relationships, it’s often a communication issue. But in […] The post Assumptions and Communication in D/s Relationships LB143 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:53:54

Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142

8/17/2018
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What it means to be in a Caregiver/little dynamic will be different from relationship to relationship, but that’s not going to stop us from discussing it. We’ll try to make sense of what it can mean, and how you can make it your own thing, if it intrigues you as a power exchange. In this […] The post Understanding the Caregiver/little Dynamic LB142 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:49:43

Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141

8/10/2018
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Catfishing is something most of us probably already know and worry about in the online dating world. But what about the friends you make and the resources you trust online? How do you figure out who’s fake and who’s real? It’s not easy. But we definitely have thoughts on it, especially if some of those […] The post Deciding Who’s Real and Who’s a Fake in the Online BDSM World LB141 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:05:45

Age Differences in D/s LB140

8/3/2018
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With an 18 year age difference between us, it’s safe to say that we’re not afraid of being with someone who’s a drastically different age. As with everything in D/s, there is no one size fits all here, and for many of us, it’s not about age, but about the person. A big age difference […] The post Age Differences in D/s LB140 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:30:23

What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139

7/27/2018
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Thanks to our amazing friend, Professor Sex, for suggesting this week’s topic: a Dom’s take on navigating non-monogamy while maintaining a 24/7 D/s relationship. We identify as poly, and just as with everything else, it exists on a spectrum. This is our perspective. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s vanilla shop. This […] The post What It’s Like to Be Poly and a 24/7 Dominant LB139 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:40:05

Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s

7/20/2018
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A listener reminded us that we’d promise to discuss how to make the transition from a long distance relationship to an in-person one. We leaned heavily on our own experiences, but also shared tips even if your situation is completely different. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Visit John Brownstone’s updated website! The shop […] The post Transitioning from Long Distance D/s to In Person D/s appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:50:36

Service Submission LB137

7/13/2018
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In the first of what will surely be many conversations about submission, we’re discussing service submission. We give a (very) broad overview of what it means and then dive into our very personal experiences with it. In this episode: Join us on Patreon! Kayla’s definition of service submission — as a service submissive. Being told […] The post Service Submission LB137 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:40:01

Intimacy in D/s Relationships LB136

7/6/2018
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We’ve spent the past several days focusing on creating space for the small, intimate moments in our relationship. That intimacy has helped us reconnect, made us feel closer, and been positive for both of us — as individuals and a D/s couple. So let’s talk about why intimacy is so important and how to experience […] The post Intimacy in D/s Relationships LB136 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:00:48:10

There’s No Such Thing as Perfect LB135

6/29/2018
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We’re back from vacation and glad to be back on the podcast! The time away is good, but we always miss this. This week, we’re talking about the lack of perfection in any relationship, D/s or otherwise. Most of us know this on a certain level. The problem is that the fantasy of our “perfect” […] The post There’s No Such Thing as Perfect LB135 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:35:00

Raising Sex Positive, Kink Friendly Kids LB134

6/15/2018
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This week, we’re going back to a topic we’ve touched on in the past — parenting and BDSM. Instead of talking about how to get your kink on when you’ve got kids, let’s talk about how to raise kids to accept the sexuality, kinks, and genders of themselves and others. In this episode: We’re on […] The post Raising Sex Positive, Kink Friendly Kids LB134 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:14:23

What Does It Mean to Be Dominant or Submissive? LB133

6/8/2018
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This week’s episode is a big topic to wrap our arms around, and there’s no way we could cover every aspect of this in one episode. But it’s a start. We have very simple definitions of “Dom” and “sub” because the short answer is that it can mean whatever you want it to mean with […] The post What Does It Mean to Be Dominant or Submissive? LB133 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:02:46

Red Flags and Submissives LB132

6/1/2018
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When you see the term “red flags” in BDSM, most people immediately think of Dominants — the assholes, predators, posers, and uneducated kinksters. But that makes it seem like all submissives are perfect little angels and can’t be predatory or manipulative. Of course they can, because people are like that (some of them, at least). […] The post Red Flags and Submissives LB132 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:16:19

Secrets in a D/s Relationship LB131

5/25/2018
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When we put out the call for topic suggestions a few weeks ago, Chloe Dare asked us to talk about whether you can have secrets in a D/s relationship. It’s a good question, and, as with all things, there’s no single answer that will work for everyone or every situation or secret. In this episode: […] The post Secrets in a D/s Relationship LB131 appeared first on LovingBDSM.

Duration:01:23:42