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Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.
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Expert guests & tips for getting along with the humans you care about. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor offers a wide range of advice on improving the way you navigate life with others. Whether at home, work or play, dealing with humans can be tricky. Learn how to do it well and increase your love, trust and emotional intimacy for more fulfilling relationships.

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Episodes

What About Men...and Those Confused By Them? GUEST: Robert Kandell

1/17/2019
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Is life confusing for men these days? Are men confusing to you these days? So, what's this all about? Why are men and women confused about the roles of men? Or, are they? My guest thinks they are! Personally, I think that there is much confusion over roles, and that they are fluid in each family. It's a BIG, IMPORTANT conversation for every couple to have before they get married: to learn about each other, talk about values, vision for life, beliefs, and goals. Talk about how those values...

Duration:00:44:16

Dating? How to Spot Men Who'll Only Waste Your Time GUEST Ronnie Ann Ryan

1/11/2019
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Are you dating? Have you kissed more than your fair share of frogs? Today's episode will help you stop doing that. Really! Although it's addressed to women, MEN, you need to listen in, too. You need to know this! Women, are you with a man who won't protect your name and won't protect the relationship, either. Any chance that he won't profess you to his friends, proudly tell his friends about you? Yes? Believe me, then: HE'S NOT SERIOUS. And, don't believe he is! That's what I'm taking...

Duration:00:49:12

The Mindset Shift It Takes To Live the Life You Want GUEST Ashley Logndon

1/3/2019
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Wow! It's 2019. Happy New Year! Did you make New Year's Resolutions? Are any the same as last year? Oops! Why is that? Why do we make resolutions and let them drop? Or, say we want something to happen in our lives, and do little to get it? Or, say we believe something, and not demonstrate it by living it? Today's show is about actually taking the steps necessary to live the life you most want. Yes, really! Whether you call them goals, intentions, desires, or purposes doesn't really...

Duration:00:46:58

What You Need First If You Want to Have Great Relationships. Host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

12/28/2018
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Today's episode is so important: a required ingredient for a great relationship! And, it may not be what you think. We all live, work, or play with other humans, and we know it sometimes takes more skills than at other times. Some people are more work. Some people are toxic and you need to recognize that right away, and steer clear! And, you may think that your past relationships define you. They can, but I hope they do not! It's not rocket science to understand that your early training...

Duration:00:11:16

How to Have the Best Divorce From a Narcissistic Hijackal GUEST: Jason LeVoy

12/12/2018
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Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned. Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®! All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too. If you're divorcing--or,...

Duration:00:43:42

What's the Relationship Between Autoimmune Conditions & Emotional Well-being GUEST: Sharon Sayler

12/5/2018
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Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body? You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being! When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or...

Duration:00:47:49

How to Create the Intimacy You Crave Without the Fear GUEST: Allana Pratt

11/27/2018
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In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it? You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe. Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time...

Duration:00:42:27

Great Relationships Require Trust. How Can You Build & Rebuild it? GUEST: Scott Schilling

11/13/2018
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In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship. If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important. How have your past relationships...

Duration:00:45:08

Speaking Up! Escaping Domestic Abuse: What It Takes & Why It Takes So Long GUEST: Mickie Zada

11/7/2018
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In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate. For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's...

Duration:00:45:08

What About Mediation? And, Debunking Divorce As Failing or Not Good For the Kids GUEST: Anthony Diaz

10/31/2018
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In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds. I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of...

Duration:00:51:57

Finding Yourself Again After Trauma, Grief & Loss GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier

10/24/2018
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In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life. You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous...

Duration:00:53:02

Believe Behavior! Why Narcissists Exploit & Laugh at Your Vulnerabilities GUEST - Kim Saeed

10/16/2018
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In today's episode, I talk about something that is SO important to keep top of mind. Too many people readily believe the words a person speaks, even when their behavior is screaming the opposite. Why do they do that? Why do you? It's an interesting, though detrimental, habit. Yes, it's a habit, one that you learned as a child. Today, I give you some very good reasons why it is not serving you--or your relationships--well, and what to replace it with. This can change EVERYTHING in the way...

Duration:00:42:20

Are You Spiritually-Minded? What About Intuition? GUEST - Terry Wildemann

10/9/2018
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In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?" Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that. Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question. What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use...

Duration:00:43:48

The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb

10/3/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME. GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN ) In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think." Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or...

Duration:00:41:22

Go for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske

9/26/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor GO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFE GUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERT DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work! You've heard that...

Duration:00:41:14

Relieving the Mess of Chronic Stress in Toxic Relationships GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance

9/4/2018
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In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.' Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different,...

Duration:00:38:09

Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda Adelman

8/29/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor Stop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award. --------------------------------------------- DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks? What are emotional energy leaks? procrastinationunresolved relationship issuesfor a few! Which ones are plaguing...

Duration:00:45:12

What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff Jones

8/22/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family G GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. --------------------------------------------- DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most...

Duration:00:23:37

Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook

8/14/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert --------------------------------------------- DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about...

Duration:00:53:55

Love, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller

8/9/2018
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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor Love, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe? You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing...

Duration:00:53:50