Adventures From The Bedrooms Of African Women

A funny and frank discussion about sex and dating in Africa. “Where there is danger, I love it,” Queer activist and writer Solange Kibibi says. “Because sex is more interesting where it’s risky.” Director Kwame Asiedu who has recently moved to Accra from London feels ‘the love that I'm receiving from everybody here is definitely elevating my spirit.’ So why does he still find dating challenging? “If you're looking for that version of sex, sexuality, relationship traditionalness, I think it's a scary place to be right now,” says journalist and entrepreneur Vickie Remoe, as she explains why she thinks her dating life is full of twentysomethings. They unpack all that, more, and some share some spicy sexy secrets. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Kelechi Okafor is an actress, a podcaster, a pole dance studio owner, a mama, and the woman who encourages us all to ‘Say Our Mind.’ She sits down with Malaka to talk about body positivity, the end of relationships, and what an Ayahuasca retreat in the Amazon jungle taught her about unconditional love. Kelechi’s Book: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/edge-of-here-kelechi-okafor/7302144?ean=9781398712997 The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

If you Google, ‘African film’ and ‘sex,’ you largely find articles about sexual violence. But, why are our lives being portrayed this way? Enter Kenyan filmmaker Wanuri Kahiu. It’s her ‘life mission’ to show African sexuality on film, as she does in ‘Rafiki,’ a beautiful lesbian love story that is banned in her home country. “In every project, I truly try to figure out what does it mean to show tenderness and love? What does it mean to show sensuality for us?” In a wide-ranging chat about creativity, tradition, patriarchy and pleasure, Wanuri also shares the hot African film moment that set her on this path, and why it matters. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

In today’s episode, listeners invite you into their bedrooms. Ami questions what dating actually means, and asks herself whether she’s ready to activate her ‘ho phase.’ Jessica has a sexy shower and reminisces about a lost love. Sexual honesty helps Selma move past assault. And Bridget was all ready for her own ‘ho phase’ world tour, until a surprise encounter with ‘Black Jesus’ in Kenya. Listen to the celebration, challenges, heartbreak and happiness that sex brings. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

“I think some of the fear is that you have to have all the answers.” Jet Setting Jasmine says. “Let's bust that myth right there.” Being a sex positive parent might seem like a big task, but if you listen to this podcast right now “after you heard what the title is, you are already on that journey.” Nana Darkoa and Malaka speak to licensed clinical psychotherapist and sex worker, Jet Setting Jasmine, and mother and daughter duo, Ilse and Rebecca Oppelt, to learn more about the journey to inter-generational, open and honest conversations about sex, sexuality, and intimacy. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Yvonne Orji is an actress, comedienne, author, karaoke queen, and if sanctified stripper was a real job title she says, “I could been out here living my best Chocolate Testimony life. That would be my stripper name,” she jokes. “I would be dropping it low and dropping the Word.” As a committed Christian, Yvonne is waiting until marriage to have sex. She tells Malaka why the wait is sexy; explains why conversations about abstinence and celibacy are so important, and shares a sexy secret! Yvonne’s Book: https://www.bamboozledbyjesus.com/ NB: This interview was recorded before the 2023 Writers’ Strike The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

’Feminist Giant’ Mona Eltahawy fights shame by voicing the quiet stuff out loud. As she deals with the menopause, she says ‘instead of the monthly shedding of the lining of my uterus, I've been monthly shedding the patriarchal fuckery I've been socialized in.’ She talks about strength, celibacy and the importance of moisturizing your vagina. Mona’s Essay: https://www.feministgiant.com/p/moisturize-your-vagina The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Malaka and Nana Darkoa may be #BFFFLs, but there’s always space in their bedroom for their girls. In a new occasional series, Malaka invites one of her besties - Ghanaian actress and celebrity Lydia Forson - to share all the things about single and married life that they haven’t spoken about before. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Irish-Nigerian author, singer and actor Obioma Ugoala has experienced fetishization and prejudice playing Shakespearean nobility and musical generals on London’s stage. He discusses the promise and pain of Black masculinity and sexuality in his book ‘The Problem with my Normal Penis.’ The paperback version was released with the new title, ‘The Making of a Man (and why we're so afraid to talk about it.) Inspired to write it after a fellow actor said to him, “Black men just have higher sex drives than white men,” Obi was initially angry at his friend for not recognizing the damaging trope of hyper-sexualized Black men. “There was also this deep pity of how he had been taught, and how I had been taught to be a Black man,” he says, hoping the book will help his children “grow up in a world where they're doing things differently.” The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Following a sold out live show in London, Malaka and Nana Darkoa kick off the season with one of their star guests, British-Nigerian sexpert Oloni. Her book ‘The Big O’ should really be given to everyone over the age of consent! Oloni might be famous for her raunchy Twitter chats, but she is also dedicated to seriously educating people about sex. “Society has told us that sex is something that's done to us,” Oloni explains. “That's just simply not really true, and I would definitely encourage women to try and find their voices.” In this conversation, she questions the lack of research into female sexuality, explains how to feel comfortable enough to demand better sex, brands Black-British culture the ‘kings of situationships,’ and shares how her partners feel about her work. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO and Mercy Githaiga is our operations manager, Frederica Boswell is the senior producer, audio editors are Tevin Sudi and Mercy Barno and Lucas Ngao is our social media manager. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic sounds. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Our website

Mark your calendars for September 18th! The much-awaited Season 2 of Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is about to drop! Get ready to dive into stories that will leave you spellbound, inspired, and craving more. The adventure continues, and it's just days away! #AFBAWSeason2

Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is live on May 23rd, 7:30pm at the Business Design Centre in Islington, London. Join host Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah and Malaka Grant on stage with Oloni, the sexpert author; actress, director, author Kelechi Okafor; and comedian and author Insecure’s own Yvonne Orji as they explore African women’s experiences of sex, sexuality, pleasure, and so much more.Join us for an extraordinary evening of storytelling as we bring the captivating narratives from our podcast to the stage.Limited tickets are available Check https://tourlink.to/AFTBOAW or visit @aqstudiospodcasts Instagram to get your tickets

We are excited to announce that Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women has been nominated for a Webby People's Voice Award in the Podcasts: Best co-host category. This is a huge honor and we are grateful for the recognition. Voting for the Webby People's Voice Award is now open and will close on April 20th, 2023. We would appreciate it if you could take a few minutes to cast your vote for Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women. Your support would mean the world to us and would help to amplify the voices of African women. To vote, simply click this link or visit the Webby Awards website and find the Podcasts: Best co-host category. Then, look for Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women and click on the "Vote" button. It's that easy! Thank you for your support and for helping to elevate the stories of African women.

“We pretend like there is a manual, but there isn't,” Ghanaian LGBTQ+ activist Moh says about sex. “So we just have to go with the flow, what makes us comfortable.” In this final episode of the season, Nana Darkoa and Malaka bring together a fabulous panel of ‘semi’-experts to answer your questions about sex and relationships. In a candid roundtable discussion, Nana Akosua Hanson; creator of the graphic novel, Moongirls; Kinna Likimani, Nana’s favorite feminist; and activist and communications strategist Moh give their advice on polyamory, prejudice, parenting, and pussy scents. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

“Pleasure is critical.” Zimbabwean master of all trades, Tapiwa Guzha, tells us. In this episode, Malaka and Nana Darkoa ask you to slow down the pace and catch your breath as Tapiwa and Namibian artist and tantric coach Nakashwa Julia ya Hango talk us through how to curate and celebrate a session of self-pleasure. “When I'm finding myself in that place of, ‘I'm feeling really emotional or angry,’ then I love to set up a little space for myself to channel this energy,” Julia explains. “I think pleasure is such a healing pathway.” Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

“That thing changed my life, and my expectations as far as sex is concerned,” Shazz Nderitu, a Kenyan comedian and blogger at queendom.blog admits about kink. So, in this episode, Nana Darkoa and Malaka are encouraged to bring elements of kink into their bedrooms, as connoisseurs share their experiences and shatter stereotypes about BDSM. As our hosts explore contradictions, care and consent within the kink world, they discuss its racial dynamics, and the difficult histories that whips and chains might bring up for Black people, and learn about the power and pleasure of after care. “Even in regular-degular-vanilla-white-bread sex, I had never seen anyone take care of a sexual partner in that way,” Shazz says. “It totally f***ed with me in a beautiful way.” Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

A decade ago, Nana Darkoa wrote ‘How can you tell when a woman orgasms?’ for the Adventures blog. It remains one of the most popular posts to date. So, in this episode, Nana and Malaka dig into the mystery and mystique of the orgasm. “It just feels like something's bubbling under, and then there's an explosion of pleasure,” Kenyan sex educator Kaz says. “It's a Hiroshima of pleasure.” We’re talking about everything from science to screaming, politics to peeing. And most importantly, women share what the big O feels like…and give their tips on how to achieve it. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

With society’s traditionally binary views on gender, so much of what it means to be a ‘man’ is tied to the omnipotent power and performance of the penis. So, when Malaka and Nana Darkoa decided to explore the topic of dicks and masculinity, they expected the usual ‘size matters’ arguments to come through. But, they soon learned that BDE may not actually have much to do with what’s in your pants. This episode gets a surprising take from a range of cis and trans men, as well as a gender non-conforming person, as they share their fears and feelings about masculinity, performance, and pleasure. Writer and poet Nii Ayikwei Parkes has some wise words for men and women whose sex lives center the D. “It's not a machine,” he says. “If that's what's going to define your happiness in a sexual encounter, then you are never going to be happy.” Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

“What was the point of hurrying?” Sex toy guru Iheoma Obibi says, when asked what advice she would give her 20-year-old self. “I would've learned and understood my body better.” In this episode, sexy ‘aunties’ tell Nana Darkoa and Malaka what they have learned about their bodies, and share what we all have to look forward to in the bedroom as we get older. The good news is, it’s plenty! Could burning the rice set fire to your sex life? Get ready for these aunties’ advice. The alluring elders dig into how preference and pleasure change as we age; joke about the younger men who still find them desirable; and dish out some quality counseling to heat things up. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website

Did your obsession with romance novels mess up your sex life? Did you grow up wishing it was Femi on the cover, not Fabio? This week, the aunties Malaka and Nana Darkoa return to their teen reads and question how the genre tantalized and traumatized them. Inspired by an Adventures From The Bedrooms of African Women blogpost written by contributor, Voluptuous Voltarian – or VV - they dig into the problematic power dynamics of novels from Mills & Boon and Harlequin Romance. “I had just poisoned my brain,” VV says. “That stuff had given me a blueprint for romance and sex that was totally, totally, totally, totally unrealistic.” But they also excitedly discover that new generations of African girls have more to look forward to as Black women reclaim and rewrite the genre. “My commitment is that girls who look like me will see themselves in my books,” best-selling author Nana Malone says. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers. The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions. Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom. Engage with us on: Instagram Twitter Our website