Finlos Lives

In this episode I talk about the incoming story and consider how I have been affected by prior storms. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of power dynamics in any system. It is unfortunate that the beneficiaries of that status-quo have been men or those who subscribe to or reinforce those behaviors. This conversation comes also at a time when Barbie, the recently released film, just cross the one billion dollar mark for global ticket sales and has garnered praise from many for advancing pro-feminist ideas. We’ll get into that topic as well. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of power dynamics in any system. It is unfortunate that the beneficiaries of that status-quo have been men or those who subscribe to or reinforce those behaviors. This conversation comes also at a time when Barbie, the recently released film, just cross the one billion dollar mark for global ticket sales and has garnered praise from many for advancing pro-feminist ideas. We’ll get into that topic as well. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of power dynamics in any system. It is unfortunate that the beneficiaries of that status-quo have been men or those who subscribe to or reinforce those behaviors. This conversation comes also at a time when Barbie, the recently released film, just cross the one billion dollar mark for global ticket sales and has garnered praise from many for advancing pro-feminist ideas. We’ll get into that topic as well. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I explore feeling fat and all the feelings that accompany that loaded idea. Fatness and fat-phobia are intrinsic to American life, and as such I am both the recipient of harm and also guilty of perpetuating intersectionally opressive beauty standards. Music: "Death" and "Whatever Happens Between" by HoliznaCC0 Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I spend a little time following up on the the Finlos Loves episodes about the art of the f*ck up, discussing how a produced episode about a relationship does not always accurately convey the reality of what a relationship looks like. Also, I give a spoiler-filled review of the series Star Trek Picard. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

This is the second half of our conversation. Eva joins me once again, this time for a conversation about making mistakes. Except, in this context it’s less about the mistake itself and more about harm, how we react when we do harm, and how to begin to heal after harm. Everyone makes mistakes and so everyone causes harm at some point. But when denial, shame, fear, insecurity, and anxiety all get into the mix, the fuck up is what is made. The fuck up is both the act and the person, an ouroboros of codependency and guilt. In this episode Eva helps to navigate some of the reasons why so many fall into the pattern of the fuck up, some of the potential sources for the pattern, why apologies often fall short, and what accountability really looks like. Additional information: The Four Parts of Accountability Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Eva joins me once again, this time for a conversation about making mistakes. Except, in this context it’s less about the mistake itself and more about harm, how we react when we do harm, and how to begin to heal after harm. Everyone makes mistakes and so everyone causes harm at some point. But when denial, shame, fear, insecurity, and anxiety all get into the mix, the fuck up is what is made. The fuck up is both the act and the person, an ouroboros of codependency and guilt. In this episode Eva helps to navigate some of the reasons why so many fall into the pattern of the fuck up, some of the potential sources for the pattern, why apologies often fall short, and what accountability really looks like. Additional information: The Four Parts of Accountability Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I spend time remembering some of the details of that shape my memory of my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe. Episode notes Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/ Equipment used Interface: Rode Rodecaster Pro II: https://amzn.to/3mDAZyT Mic: Earthworks Ethos: https://amzn.to/3GE59ZW Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I spend time remembering some of the details of that shape my memory of my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe. Episode notes Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/ Equipment used Interface: Zoom Podtrak P4: https://amzn.to/3Z1nN55 Mic: Oktava MK-101 Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I consider 20 years of life without my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe. Episode notes Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/ Equipment used Interface: Zoom Podtrak P4: https://amzn.to/3Z1nN55 Mic: Aston Stealth: https://amzn.to/3IRfPWD Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I work through missing Eva while she's on a trip, and give a quick review of Netflix's Boo, Bitch. Episode notes Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/ Equipment used Interface: TC Helicon Go Solo: https://amzn.to/3IOzpTq Mic: Aston Origin (I used the black set): https://amzn.to/41nsuYC, https://amzn.to/3Ew8atZ Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I react to recent Florida policies regarding race and gender, and discuss how an old acquaintance was an early teacher of economic disruption. A special thanks to Eva whose conversation informed much of what I discuss. Episode notes Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/ Equipment used Interface: Lewitt Connect 6: https://amzn.to/3YkOPEb Mic: Sontronics Corona Pop filter: sE Electronics - Pro Metal Pop Filter https://amzn.to/3XRWlGL Mic stand: Elgato Wave Mic Arm (low profile): https://amzn.to/3JYxiNB Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Finlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes. My guest for this episode is Hanoch Schmalbach, a friend that I have known since the 9th grade. For as long as I have known him Hanoch has resisted definition or categorization for most aspects of his life. Whether this is by choice or just inherent to his...

In this episode I discuss how we sometimes set ourselves up for failure with New Year Resolutions. Also, I reply to comments from the "Holiday Magic" episode as well as my review of the Last Ronin. Finally, I give a review of HBO's His Dark Materials. Episode notes Relevant Links: https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/578959/shaman-santa/ Music "Way, Way Out There" by Holizna Radio Equipment used Interface: Lewitt Connect 6 https://amzn.to/3WiIQxN Mic: Austrian Audio OD5 https://amzn.to/3XjdjNz Pop filter: sE Electronics - Pro Metal Pop Filter https://amzn.to/3QMKqXy Mic stand: Samson https://amzn.to/3ZUtN0m Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I review the Last Ronin, a graphic novel about the last surviving member of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. I also explore my relationship with the Ninja Turtles franchise and its history. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I reflect on our parental philosophy and specifically how that informed our approach to holidays, family traditions, and how we help our children to make magic. Episode notes Music Lo-Fi Hip Hop Mood by Alex Prodictions And the Wild Water Lapping on the Crag by REW__ Barombi-ma_Mbu by REW__ Equipment used Interface: TC Helicon Go Solo https://amzn.to/3VIHpIB Mic: CAD E100S (unavailable) - similar model: https://amzn.to/3XaKZwp Pop filter: sE Electronics - Pro Metal Pop Filter https://amzn.to/3XRWlGL Mic stand: Samson MK-10 https://amzn.to/3jSwj6I Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

Finlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes. My guest for this episode is Aarum You-Heil, a friend and former student. Aarum belonged to my first Creative Writing class at Lincoln High School in Tallahassee, and is now a Ph.D student at the University of GA. In this episode we discuss how she came to post-graduate studies, the importance of food to maintaining culture, and how the death of her brother impacted her family. Episode notes: Information about Aarum Youn-Heil: Profile at the University of Georgia: https://grady.uga.edu/ph-d-profile-farrah-youn-heil/ Equipment Host mic: Oktava MK-319 Introduction Mic: Neat King Bee version 1 Interface: Lewitt Connect 6 https://amzn.to/3FX2uKD Pop filter: sE Electronics Pro Metal Pop Filter https://amzn.to/3uYNaHo Mic stand: Samson Mk-10 Boom Stand https://amzn.to/3FY5W7X Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

This episode features an interview with a Florida high school teacher who I won't name in order to protect her job. We discuss challenges to her role as educator, mentor, and sponsor of her schools Genders & Sexualities Alliance with the uncertain aftermath of Governor DeSantis' Parental Rights in Education or "Don't Say Gay" bill. I also consider some of the context for the recent anti-progressive policies in Florida and many other states. Episode Notes: Recorded in studio with phone-in guest. Equipment used: https://amzn.to/3UIndG9https://amzn.to/3uwGVu2https://amzn.to/3F8euHQhttps://amzn.to/3iBHVu1 Support us on Patreon and PayPal!

In this episode I reflect on the first year of the Finlos Lives podcast including what I've learned, the origin of the name, and why I'm even doing this. I also discuss my thoughts on season one of the Disney+ series Star Wars: Andor. Episode notes Solo podcast recorded in the studio. Equipment used Interface: https://amzn.to/3iEtXrC Mic: Sennheiser Blackfire 541 Pop filter: https://amzn.to/3XRWlGL Boom: https://amzn.to/3XTyciS Support us on Patreon and PayPal!