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There is a lot of discussion around women's empowerment in general, but women's leadership in particular is a topic that we are still defining and understanding. We’ve spoken before about gender pay gaps, glass ceilings, sticky floors, opportunity cost and the expectations on women to ‘do it all’ before. Megan Dalla-Camina is a three time best selling author and award winning women’s leadership and gender diversity expert. She is also the founder and CEO of the fastest growing women's ed-tech platform ‘Women rising’. Today’s chat is about understanding the reasons behind why ⅘ women feel as though they are not thriving at work and the little voice in our head tells us we just aren’t doing a good enough job. Megan calls this the archetypes of the inner critic: The perfectionist The beauty queen The sceptic The imposter The people pleaser The outsider The comparer The good girl The overachiever The self doubter The chameleon The empath The ideal mother We also speak about: What mini burnout looks like and how you feel when the mini burnouts happen one after the other Motherhood paradox of the expectation to work like they don’t have children but raise kids as though they don’t have work responsibilities People pleasing, trying to be an agreeable, easy to work with person and how that leads to you not getting what you deserve at work How we can utilise this information to help us feel more comfortable in finding what is going to be ‘success’ to us and make us genuinely happy Feminine vs masculine ‘traits’ in leadership You can find more from Megan at her website and Instagram You can get Megan's book Women Rising You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep! Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home! A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.” We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth? We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show: You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! We're all a little scattered today driving past turn offs and forgetting entire road trips! PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Vibes: Britt - Will & Harper on Netflix Laura - Zoe Foster Blake book "Things Will Calm Down Soon" Keeshia - How to find the listed For Sale range or price on any listing on Domain or Real Estate Davey Hamilton Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD 'FAMILY PLANNING' BE ASKED BY MY BOSS? I’m a medical doctor going through my final years of subspecialty training. I had a missed miscarriage in April this year and had to ask for time off work to go through the miscarriage and I developed complications afterwards resulting in a hospital admission. This time off “had to be approved” by my head of department I was told. A few months later I interviewed for a Fellow job (a promotion) and was told I’m “not ready”. Then in my supervisor meeting a month or two later, my supervisor (who is the HOD) flatly asked me how my “family planning” is going?!? I feel very uncomfortable about this situation and feel like I’m being held back because I’m a mother hoping to have another child. I guess my question is: - Am I wrong to feel I’m being discriminated against? - Is there anything I should/could do about this? - Should I just suck it up and put up with it? Keep in mind these people have total control over my career progression in training and in the hospital WORKPLACE GIFTS When I first joined my workplace, within a short time there was the 40th birthday of one of the 9 staff members in our office. Despite there being no party that colleagues were invited to, there was a collection of money for a gift for this person. At the time I was in my early 20’s. Fast forward and I’ve recently had my 30th and had celebrations without my work colleagues invited (intimate small gatherings out of town). Now I didn’t receive a gift from my colleagues. No biggie I thought, whatever. But now another colleague is having his 60th and we’ve been invited by the family to lunch and there’s an office money collection for a present. TBH I’m like WTF! I don’t know if this gift is meant to be in lieu of maybe some free food at the party, but I’m not impressed. I kinda want to make a point and not put money in, but being in a small office, I know I will be talked about and so I’ll just cave to social pressure and put cash in… But have I missed some social cues here? Would love to know the girls thought HOW DO I GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY DMs AND INTO A REAL DATE? I’ve been messaging this Aussie ‘influencer’ since January. He’s mentioned multiple times that he ‘can’t wait to see me,’ but still hasn’t asked me out despite living just 25 minutes away. I get that he has a busy, travel-heavy life, but it’s frustrating that when he’s back in town, he doesn’t make the effort. I’ve even called him out, saying it feels like he’s just keeping me around to stroke his ego. He insists that’s not the case but always has some excuse. Our mutual friends have hinted that he can be sketchy, so now I’m wondering—do I keep him around for banter or just a ghost DO I INVITE MY EX BEST FRIEND TO MY WEDDING? My ex best friend and I were best friends for 10 years, she saw me through the best and worst of times and a few of those years were long-distance (international). We had a falling out two years ago - it was pretty rough and we tried to work through it, but it just wasn’t working so we stopped speaking. We never spoke about it to resolve things but since then we’ve messaged each other for each other’s birthdays, and any other big events (she texted me congrats on the engagement) and it’s always been pleasant. Her family and I have remained super close which includes her parents and her sister (who is like a little sister to me). I definitely want to invite her family to my wedding, does that mean I have to invite her? If so, how do I...

Michelle Bridges is a fitness icon, TV personality, and bestselling author of 17 books! Recently, she developed a new program specifically for women navigating menopause, combining her personal experience with her expertise in fitness to help women stay strong and healthy during this life stage. We previously released an episode on perimenopause and menopause with Dr Louise Newson that you can listen to here Dr Newson gives us a really important medical insight into the changes that can happen during this time, and we wanted to extend this conversation and speak with Michelle about her lived experience and some of the lifestyle factors that can impact this time of women’s lives. In this episode we speak about: The lesser known symptoms that Michelle experienced during perimenopause The steps Michelle took to work out what was going on in her body The importance of finding a GP who specialises in women’s health Being offered antidepressants when Michelle didn’t identify with being depressed Feeling really empowered during this stage of life How exercise, nutrition and supplementation can impact menopause You can find more from Michelle’s Menopause Method You can follow Michelle on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Laura went to the reptile park and had a brilliant time. She's also planted a new fear in a friend's child by accident. Are there activities that you feel like you can't do unless you have kids with you? Do you think you can recycle and reuse nudes? Do they have an expiry? Does it matter if they're taken while during the current relationship? Britt and Ben are on different sides of the fence for this one! We break down the new 'dating terminology' coming to 2025 that includes: Are you meant to say anything to a woman who is pregnant? There is currently a huge amount of commentary about Margot Robbie's pregnant body. But, is this type of commentary only for celebrities and pap pics or do most women receive comments on their body when they're pregnant? We speak about how some comments are received in a different way to what they may be intended and how inappropriate some of the common types of comments are. We also spoke about Kate Winslet being labelled as 'brave' for being okay with her 'belly rolls' being on display during a topless scene in a new film that she stars in. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show: cough You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Have you ever developed an allergy later in life? Laura may have developed a new one and it's impacting every aspect of her life and every pore in her body! Vibes for the week: Britt - Summer Fridays Jet Lag Mask Keeshia - Huberman - Esther Perel: How to Find, Build & Maintain Healthy Romantic Relationships Laura - Into the Fire: The Lost Daughter on Netflix We mentioned our episode with Esther Perel Then we jump into the questions: IS IT BETTER TO TURN A BLIND EYE? Recently I found texts on my boyfriend of 5 years phone that appear to be organising to have sex with a sex worker, as well as messaging other girls to meet him out while he was working in another country (I don’t know if this ever eventuated). We don’t see each other much as I work in Aus and he works overseas for a lot of the year. He has a much higher sex drive than me and long distance/not much sex doesn’t bother me but it really bothers him. I haven’t told my boyfriend I know this yet and I haven’t told any family or friends. I know as soon as I tell anyone they will hate him and tell me the things that I would tell anyone else - to break up with him. The problem is I’m 30 next year, I want to have a baby in the next two years andI had my life pretty much sorted with him on paper. He has his faults but he is my best friend. The thing is, he makes an enormous amount of money and I don’t. In our future I know my children will be looked after and they won’t have to struggle. I know I won’t have to struggle. I come from a family who doesn’t have a lot of money and being with my boyfriend means I know I can take care of them better than if I’m single. Right now I don’t know whether to confront my boyfriend because I know as soon as I say this out loud I can’t take it back and it will mean that I have to break up with him as cheating is not something I want in a relationship. Is it morally wrong to just look the other way because of the benefits this relationship brings me, my family and my future family? I know this seems like an obvious answer but I know how hard life can be and being with him means my life will in some ways be easier with him in it. Or if this will always be in the back of my mind and ruin my happiness even with the security it brings. Help. Please. I feel like I’m old, have nothing to show for myself and I’m scared I’ll never be a mother if we break up now. HOW TO CHOOSE WEDDING LOCATION WHEN FAMILY ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF AUS I have recently got engaged and we have already started talking about when and where as these are the biggest questions we have to answer. We would like to have it maybe this time next year to allow people interstate and international sort their lives out to come. Now the big question is, where? My family is all east of Australia and we live in WA. My fiancé’s immediate family is here in WA as well. Our friends are in WA. I have family that are elderly and wouldn’t be able to travel. We have brought up the subject with my fiancés parents and my MIL didn’t have a very good reaction which I knew would happen. How do I say that I don’t know how long my elderly family members will be with us and I want them at my wedding as they mean so much to me. How do I approach this topic and not seem like I’m being a bridezilla making us have our wedding east? Or do we elope and have two parties one east and one west? DO I TELL HER THAT HER HUSBAND IS CHEATING? I'm in a tough situation and need some advice. I overheard my partner talking about a night out where one of his coworkers cheated on his partner, who is home with their 6-month-old baby. I feel awful for the woman and want to tell her, but I don't know her or her partner, and my partner would be furious if he knew I was eavesdropping. On top of that, if I say something, it could put my partner in a difficult position since the cheater is connected to management. I can't shake the feeling that I need to do...

Dr. Louise Newson is a leading expert in the field of menopause and perimenopause. She's a GP, menopause specialist, educator, podcaster and author. She’s the woman in the know of menopause and today we would like to break down the misunderstandings, myths, misconceptions and medical misogyny surrounding menopause. In this chat we speak about: You can find the episode on PMDD that we mentioned here - PMDD You can find everything from Dr Louise Newson including her resources, podcast and book here! Dr Louise Newson's Website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Britt's jet lagged after her trip to Romania. It was somewhat eventful and she's now an experienced quake girly. Laura's daughter Marlie is about to graduate from preschool and we're curious to know what your graduation song was. Was it Green Day or... eye of the tiger? Now that Laura has had a week off and Marlie Mae is about to go to school, she's back considering having another child. Britt is strongly considering blackmail! If you already have kids and you’ve thought about having another, did you mention it to your kids? Did you want their thoughts on whether they’d like an extra sibling? A dating app has brought in a new feature to try and reduce dating fatigue and avoid analysis paralysis. Hinge will now stop you from matching with someone new if you have 8 or more messages waiting for a response from you. The idea is to make it a more conscious effort and only have a few conversations going at a time. If you're in the dating world, is this good news for you? Do you think it will cut down on people 'window shopping' or just swiping for validation? We spoke about the episode we did with Therapy Jeff - Why Is Dating So Hard These Days? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. This episode was recorded a week in advance as Britt is visiting Ben in Romania. Britt opens up about some of the challenges of long distance and what she’s really struggling with at the moment. Britt has also called one of our listeners a loser. We deeply apologise YourGirlSidney Do you think it’s okay to be in a relationship if you know that the person isn’t ‘the one’ (or end game) for you? How long is it okay to be ‘working’ this out? Does it depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Vibes for the week: Britt: Your Girl Sidney Keeshia: Medusa Wispy Light Human Hair Fringe - Air Bangs- Clip In Laura App Eat Club Then we get into your questions! HE WON’T GO DOWN ON ME & DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO PLEASURE ME I'm 21 and my male partner is 23. We have been together for 3 years. Since we have been together he has only gone down on me maybe 3 times in total for about 20 seconds. I have brought this up with him and asked why he doesn't do it and he replies with "I don't like it sorry" which is totally fine but when we do have sex I never get anything out of it as he never really tries to pleasure me. We have tried sex toys but I think he gets awkward about it and then it never happens again. I talk to my friends about it but all they say is tell me that my relationship is not right and tell me about how good they have it. Sometimes I wonder what I am missing out on. Every other part of our relationship is amazing because he is an amazing human who I love so much. Am I missing out ? And if so what the hell do I do? HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 7-8months. He asked me to help him with a work medical claim, he sent over a pack of documents for me to read to help him write a letter. Reading the documents it said he had herpes. When we first started dating I made sure we both had sexual health checks - he was pushing to have sex without a condom, something I’ve never done and didn’t feel comfortable doing without the STI checks prior. The tests came back with no issues flagged so we started having unprotected sex. 7 months later I read this document - he said initially that “he forgot,” then ended up telling me he lied to me because he thought I would break up with him if I knew. Additional context: his previous girlfriend gave him herpes and also didn’t tell him until 2 months into dating. I don’t know what to do - I thought this guy was my penguin, help! FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH A COLLEAGUE Should I enter a short term friends with benefits situation with a colleague that’s leaving at the end of the year even though I’m inexperienced and not sure how I’ll emotionally handle it? I think it could be a great idea for my overall satisfaction and self confidence, but I don't want to get rejected, or catch feelings and then get really sad when I’m rejected and/or he moves away. Is it worth the risk for good sex? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009. For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse. In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public. Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity. In this chat we speak about: You can find Danielle's Instagram and book - Don't look away You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Keeshia is in the hot seat filling in Britt while she's in Romania. Have you ever accidentally done something illegal? Laura's renovation project has made Keeshia realise that she's been accidentally shoplifting for over a decade. Do you ever lie or withhold information from your partner? Do you hide packages or lie about new items that you've bought and say that you've had them forever? There's a tiktok from Thewestcoastmama that has us questioning what's normal and who is in the wrong. Today we take a deep dive on what friendship means to us and whether we're too quick to deprioritise friendship when other responsibilities rear their heads. We spoke about Simon Sinek and his conversation on the Prof G Podcast and his Youtube with Trevor Noah What are you currently looking for in friendship? Has that shifted over the years as your life has gone through different chapters? Is there too much pressure to maintain friendships when there are all of these other things that we are trying to do well? 92% of you have experienced a friendship breakup. Most of you think about the breakdown of a friendship more than the breakdown of a romantic relationship. We speak about our own experiences of friendship breakdowns and whether we would ever be able to reestablish those friendships. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show: You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura and Matt are having some *creative differences* in their house reno visions. Laura wants to live under the rainbow and is anti beige brigade. Matt wants a bright blue laundry. When it comes to the aesthetic of your house and you having opposing opinions to your partner, who gets final say? Vibes for this week: Keeshia: Perfect Wife on Disney Plus Laura: Figma Colour Wheel Britt: Tanologist Self Tan Drops Then we get into your questions! DO WE STILL HAVE TO GET THEM A WEDDING GIFT One of my closest friends is getting married in Canada, I am one of her bridesmaids and I am so stoked for it. Obviously to go to the wedding my partner and I have booked flights over to Canada (not cheap) and also booked the hotel that was chosen for the wedding party (also not cheap). I don’t mind about these costs because it's my close friend and it's a holiday to Canada! My partner and I have debated whether we should get them a wedding gift? I don’t mind getting one and like giving gifts, but my partner thinks we have already spent a lot of money going to the wedding. I’m curious to know what you guys think? Should you get someone a wedding gift if you have already invested $4,000 to get to the wedding and stay there. DO I DOUBLE MESSAGE HIM? My now ex boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago after I found out he was cheating on me. It was awful as we lived together and I went to uni not only with him but also with the other women. We were together for 3 years. Another guy I also go to uni with and used to date 5 years ago (my ex was aware and they were still really good friends) also broke up with his girlfriend he dated for a similar amount of time. We have always been friends ever since the breakup and I was also friends with his ex girlfriend. Fast forward to now, I am now a lawyer and finished with uni and don’t have to see my ex except at social occasions. I have caught up with this other guy a couple of times and we have had a vibe for about a month now. On Saturday he invited me to his house with a bunch of other lawyers from uni including my ex. After a lot of alcohol my ex and the other people left and this other guy asked me to stay and chat which I did. One thing led to another and we had sex and it was really good. He also said he really enjoyed it. I stayed the night where we hugged. He made me coffee and breakfast in the morning and took me home. A few hours after he dropped me off I messaged him and said thank you for dropping me off and I had fun last night. He read the message and still hasn’t replied, in the whole 5 years I have known him he has never left me on read. I don’t want to come across as desperate but do I double message him? I still have his clothes and don’t know what to do. It’s also not like we will never see each other again, we have lots of mutual friends and are both invited to another party this weekend. Please help! PUBIC HAIR I’ve always been curious how females maintain pubic hair?? My husband says he doesn’t care whether it’s bare or hairy .. but I still can’t figure out what I prefer either … like what’s the norm these days? Completely bare or hairy and how do you maintain and how often? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives! Today we chat about: Find more from Jeff’s website Find Therapy Jeff on Instagram and tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Sorry for the start of today's ep. Not sure what else to say about it to be honest. If you've had the 'back' lasered, how do you get it done? What's your therapists 'go to' position? Britt is headed to Romania to see Ben! She shares how some of the challenges of being in a long distance relationship have affected her and why she's looking forward to seeing him so much! Unions are pushing to keep bosses from 'trawling' social media and reprimanding employees because of what they're getting up to on the gram. It could be a faked sickie, or a perspective that doesn't align with the values of the business. Do you think employers should be able to reprimand their employees for things that they post on social media? We also speak about the brave woman Gisele Pelicot, who has chosen to waive her right to anonymity after her husband drugged her and allowed her to be sexually abused by 70+ men. We speak about the shift in the way that society views victimhood and the strength that it takes for victims to publicly share their stories to advocate for justice. We also look at the role the media and legal systems play in shaping the choices of survivors. If this conversation brings up anything for you, a confidential information, counselling and support service is available at 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show: You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, This is ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions after we've had a bit of a gasbag about our own personal dilemmas! Have you noticed that children's dolls are now wearing g-strings? How do you feel about that? Vibes for the week: Britt Netflix doco The Lie: The Murder of Grace Millane Laura Glass Podcast by Shameless Media Keeshia Love and Loss Piece by Zara Seidler Then we jump into your questions! PARTNER WATCHES PORN BEFORE WE HAVE SEX My fiancé and I have had issues in the bedroom for years. He’s struggling with anxiety and takes a medication which has massively affected his sex drive. Over the past few months he’s been asking me if I want to have sex, but it's always been after he’s been on his phone in bed, and already has a raging boner - so I assumed he’s watching porn. I looked at his google browser history on the computer we share (the same google browser on his phone), and it turns out he’s been watching porn right before asking me for sex, as I assumed. I know I shouldn’t have looked at his history but I was going crazy. I’m in two minds. One is complete jealousy as I feel like he needs another girl to turn him on before he can sleep with me. But I also know that he’s probably just doing what he needs to to get it up and get the job done as I’ve been putting the pressure on lately. For context: we have a great relationship, we’re getting married in a month, I know he finds me attractive - he’s constantly tapping me on butt, grabbing my boobs etc, but I’m just struggling to be okay with this. I also don’t want to tell him that I’ve looked at his browser history so I don’t know how to talk to him about it. FAMILY NOT COMING TO KIDS BIRTHDAY I come from quite a messy family. I have 6 siblings, all half. My dad is on to his 4th marriage and my mum has had 2 divorces. I’ve always been close with my mum but have only become close with my dad in the past 5 or so years. My parent’s break up was very messy and they’ve never been amicable since. I now have a beautiful partner and a darling little daughter who is just about to turn one. We’re throwing her a party and have invited all our friends and family. However, a few weeks out, my Dad has just said that no one from his side of my family (himself, my step mum, brother and his family) will be coming because they feel uncomfortable and they would like to have a seperate party for my daughter instead. I’m so disappointed! It’s been over 20 years since they divorced, he’s had 2 marriages since! How are they still hung up on this to the point that they can’t be in the same room for an hour? I never wanted my daughter to have to celebrate everything twice like I have. What would you do? Do I suck it up and throw two parties? Or just say to my dad that he’ll unfortunately have to miss out? DITCHING A WAKE Should you ditch a wake (after a funeral), to go to a footy match? Our team has made it into the finals, but the day of the game is the funeral of a grandparent. My sibling thinks it’s ok to go to the service and skip out after to make the game, but I think that is in very poor taste. What are your thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eleanor Mills is an award winning journalist, editor and broadcaster who has taken a bit of a pivot in her mid life by creating a community called ‘noon’. At 49, Eleanor was abruptly made redundant from her role as the editor of the Sunday Times Magazine and chair of women in journalism. She lost her sense of purpose, and her identity - and her family lost its main source of income. She felt washed up and burnt out; like everything which had defined her life for the last 25 years was gone. But then she noticed something: she wasn’t alone. Today we are going to unpack what Eleanor calls the midlife cluster fuck, our perceived value as we age and a lot of the motivators and values that we hold as career driven women. We spoke about: Eleanor’s new book titled ‘Much More to Come’ can be found here Eleanor’s Instagram Eleanor's organisation Noon can be found here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.