LGOtv: Big Talk

Turn your book into a best seller. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest, Becky Robinson. Becky Robinson - Founder/CEO, Self-Taught Marketer, Marathoner. Becky Robinson is the Founder and CEO of Weaving Influence, a full-service marketing agency that specializes in digital and integrated marketing services and public relations for book authors, including business leaders, coaches, trainers, speakers, and thought leaders. Since launching more than nine years ago, under Becky’s leadership, the firm has provided a wide range of services to help clients launch more than 150 books, enabling authors to build their brands, acquire more business customers, and increase book sales. In April 2022, Becky is publishing her first book with Berrett-Koehler Publishers titled, “Reach: Create the Biggest Possible Audience for Your Message, Book, or Cause.” Becky holds an M.A. in Intercultural Studies from Wheaton College and received her B.A. in English/Creative Writing from Miami University. Timestamps: 1:30 Reach is the users manual to becoming a thought leader. 4:07 We are promoting the value, not ourselves. 9:52 The reality of what it means to be a best times seller. 10:30 “What do you want your book to do for you?” 15:08 Traditional publishers vs. Hybrid Publishers. 18:50 The working phase. 24:25 Getting book reviews. 30:47 Four Commitments: Value, Consistency, Longevity, Generosity. 31:32 Value isn’t the same for everyone. Who is your audience? 41:22 Who is your book for and who is it not for? 43:29 We really don’t have competition, people usually will buy more than 1 book of the same topic. 48:47 Own your own domain - the place you own and control. 58:52 How to get in touch with Becky Robinson post episode. https://www.instagram.com/beckyrbnsn/ https://www.facebook.com/BeckyRbnsn https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckyrbnsn/ https://twitter.com/beckyrbnsn Upcoming Book Launch – Reach - https://amzn.to/3rUWIk0 Becky Robinson - www.beckyrobinson.com Weaving Influence - www.weavinginfluence.com

How to be a better ally. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest Dr. Tina Opie. Dr. Tina Opie - Bodacious Bridge Builder; Convener; Strong Cup of Coffee. Dr. Tina Opie is a voice for change—and coalition building—fostering a sense of inclusion in society, communities and organizations. As a thought leader and provoker, she combines practice and theory, an approach that ensures engagement, deep thinking and action. 0:50 The Shared Sisterhood framework. 3:40 Curiosity started with burning my hair on the pilot light. 4:55 Why do I have to choose between being Black or being a woman? 9:10 Feminism vs. Womanism. 11:34 I’m rebellious but I respect authority. 17:03 Black women are the canary in the coal mine. 19:17 Whiteness is different than being white. 20:19 We need to live in a race centric society. 26:20 Less judgmental, more curious. 28:50 The differences between Ally, Accomplice, and Co-Conspirator. 34:54 You don’t have to be female to be in the sisterhood. 36:40 Shared Sisterhood Step #1: Dig. 48:42 Shared Sisterhood Step #2: Bridge. 55:00 Shared Sisterhood Step #3: Collective Action. 57:58 What are the next steps and questions you should be asking as CEO of your company? Instagram..com/DrTinaOpie Facebook.com/DrTinaOpie Linkedin.com/in/DrTinaOpie Twitter.com/DrTinaOpie www.DrTinaOpie.com

How do you learn to speak with the power, conviction, and influence that your great ideas deserve? Join Laura Gassner Otting she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest, D'Arcy Webb. D'Arcy Webb - Word Nerd, Speech Diva, Age-defying Old Broad. For over two decades, award-winning voice and speech teacher D’Arcy Webb has been helping actors, performers, corporate executives, authors and speakers use their voices to connect with audiences around the world with power, eloquence and heart. As former Associate Professor of Voice and Speech at the University of the Arts, D’Arcy has worked with hundreds of new and seasoned performers to make their words resonate with clarity, precision and confidence. She has also served as voice, speech and performance coach for TEDxCambridge, and was the Head of Vocal Training for Heroic Public Speaking from 2016 to 2020. Now D’Arcy coaches and teaches in her private studio all those who want to speak with not only clarity but brio! Keynote speaker and retired TEDx Cambridge Executive Producer, Tamsen Webster, has called D’Arcy’s work “magic.” 0:31 D’Arcy Webb - the Speech Diva. 2:52 We must learn to read with expression. 3:28 International phonetic alphabet! 5:32 80% psychological. 7:37 They were afraid of your power! 21:42 The role of confidence in our body. 24:18 “Hey Bike #7, SIT UP.” 29:59 Onomatopoeia. 31:00 Not everyone loves a person who is extra. 33:32 It’s better to be someones shot of whiskey than everyone’s cup of tea. 34:28 Learn to be present in our words. 37:02 I got comfortable being in the silence. 40:03 Give your audience time to think at the punctuation marks. 42:27 Why do we all hate the sound of our voices? 44:04 - Our voice is who we are. 46:00 - Use your bathroom muscles. darcythespeechdiva@instagram.com https://www.facebook.com/speechdiva https://www.linkedin.com/in/speechdiva/

Women in the Workplace, Listen Up - Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv Big Talk with special guest, Deb Liu. Deb Liu - Extroverted Introvert, Perpetual Learner, Tea Enthusiast. Deb Liu is the President and CEO of Ancestry. She was previously a senior executive at Facebook, where she created the Facebook Marketplace, the company's first mobile ad product for apps and mobile ad network, and Facebook Pay. Prior to Facebook, she spent several years in product roles at PayPal and eBay, where she led integration between the two products. She serves on the board of Intuit and Ancestry. Actively involved in promoting diversity in tech, Deb founded Women In Product, a nonprofit with over 30,000 members, with the goal of connecting and supporting women in the product field. Deb received a BS in Civil Engineering from Duke University and an MBA from Stanford’s Graduate School of Business. Each week, she posts her thoughts in Perspectives, her Substack newsletter. She lives in California with her husband and three children.

Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Dr. Liane Davey. Dr. Liane Davey - Conflict Coach, High Tea Lover, Watercooler Psychologist Liane Davey is a New York Times Bestselling author of three books, including The Good Fight: Use Productive Conflict to Get Your Team and Your Organization Back on Track and You First: Inspire Your Team to Grow Up, Get Along, and Get Stuff Done. She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review and frequently called on by media outlets for her experience on leadership, team effectiveness, and productivity. As the co-founder of 3COze Inc., she advises companies such as Amazon, TD Bank, Walmart, UNICEF, 3M, and SONY. Liane has a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology. 1:19 Ladies & Gentleman, Dr. Liane Davey. 2:14 I’m conflict adverse but I’m not shy to defend someone I love. 4:37 We are pugilistic when it comes to defending outside our tribes. 6:04 Canadians do have conflict, it’s just very passive aggressive. 8:39 Thinking about conflict like exercise: I don’t like doing abs - but I know it will make me stronger so I need to just do them. I don’t need to LIKE conflict, I just need to do it. 9:02 Conflict averse vs. conflict avoidant. 14:26 Don’t just rush into the answers when someone comes to you with a problem. 16:27 Start with “What’s the problem?” and then leave some space. 18:03 How do you determine what someone’s appetite for a solution is? 20:43 What do you need? Validation or Resuscitation? 23:40 The problem with “Let’s agree to disagree.” 26:50 How do we get into conflict debt - and how do we get out of it? 32:10 Manager and Leader are not the same role. 38:00 LGO’s most abusive management story. 40:47 Tension vs Friction. 42:09 Is this a meeting or a tea party? 49:06 Am I letting people on my team add value? 51:57 The role of conflict in the virtual workplace. 56:44 Great feedback needs to be concrete. 58:42 The LBD of feedback. https://www.instagram.com/lianedavey/ https://www.facebook.com/DrLianeDavey https://www.linkedin.com/in/lianedavey/ https://twitter.com/LianeDavey

A Veteran reflects on PTSD and Politics. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with special guests, Jason & Diana Kander. Jason Kander - Veteran. Little League Coach. Recovering Politician. President Barack Obama - in the final interview of his presidency - was asked who gave him hope for America’s future, and the first person he mentioned was Jason Kander. A former Army Captain who served in Afghanistan, Jason was elected to the Missouri state legislature in 2008 and as Missouri Secretary of State in 2012, making him the first millennial ever elected to statewide office. In 2016, while Donald Trump was winning Missouri by 19 points, Jason nearly unseated a Republican U.S. Senator. In 2017, he founded Let America Vote, a national campaign against voter suppression. His first book, Outside the Wire, became a New York Times bestseller the following year. Jason is the President of National Expansion at Veterans Community Project, and the host of Majority54, one of the nation's most popular political podcasts. His memoir, Invisible Storm, is due out July 5th. He lives in Kansas City with his wife Diana, their son True, and their daughter Bella. 4:19 “You have what I have, you have the natural.” - Barack Obama 7:28 I was denying my PTSD and was saying to myself: I had meetings, that doesn’t count as combat. 11:30 My M. Night Shyamalan twist to the story. 14:31: I learned how to triage threats and stress in my mind. 18:34 PTSD is applicable to a lot of people in different situations - not just those in the military. 24:39 You can’t see the picture when you’re inside the frame. 30:04 How many people are in jobs where where they have PTSD and all they get taken care of is not the treatment for it, but that it’s removed from their record. 32:14 One in five Americans have experienced trauma. 34:32 People write the book that they needed during a certain time. 37:58 As you go through the story chronologically, what we didn’t do was used language that we learned in therapy. 41:32 Can you be post PTSD? 43:00 You realize the voice inside your head is not your real voice. 48:20 The story of my son True and the dollar. Links: instagram.com/jasonkander twitter.com/jasonkander https://twitter.com/dianakander https://www.instagram.com/dianakander/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/diana-kander-406308a/ https://amzn.to/3OfPwbY

A thought leader’s struggle with faith-based politics.. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest, Liz Wiseman. Liz Wiseman - Author, Top leadership thinker, and CEO. Liz is a researcher and New York Times bestselling author who advises executives and teaches leaders around the world. She is the author of Multipliers, The Multiplier Effect, Rookie Smarts, Impact Players, and the CEO of The Wiseman Group. Liz has been listed on the Thinkers50 ranking and in 2019 was recognized as the top leadership thinker in the world. Liz is a former executive from Oracle Corporation and is a frequent guest lecturer at BYU and Stanford University. Timestamps: 1:42 I’d rather be punched in the face than stabbed in the back. 2:57 Part of a leader’s job is to acknowledge the suffering. 4:03 Build cohesion among divisiveness. 8:05 People are in such a rush to assign a camp that if you’re with me, you’re against me. 20:47 Are we back at the Christian Crusades? 22:40 Developing the rule to separate behavior and intent. 29:22 Pet —> Success —> Threat. 35:38 The feeling of being trapped is self-inflicted. 38:40 When people feel like their point of view isn’t accepted - then it all goes underground and it festers. 43:02 Liberal intolerance is still intolerance. 47:08 We need to create a place where people can live out their faith but not everyone needs to follow the same rules. 49:52 We adults need to hold ourselves to the same standards as elementary and middle school civic classes. 53:20 What if we made a more purposeful commitment to “we are performing for the next generation.” 58:00 To really understand what threatens other people, is how I think we find solutions. 60:02 Now is a good time for managers and leaders to be the peacemakers and community builders. https://twitter.com/LizWiseman https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizwiseman/ https://thewisemangroup.com/

How do you electrify your life? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest Bill G. Williams. Bill G. Williams - Ducati Riding, Promoter of AMAZING People, Electric Bill. He’s called “Electric Bill” for a reason. Bill Williams is on a mission to shock us out of our static daily routines. He is known for his unique brand of electrified methodologies for the workplace, now available to you in electric Life. Bill’s honest, succinct, and enthusiastic approach to leadership has inspired and reshaped countless national organizations over the span of thirty years. Whether coaching an individual over Zoom, or speaking to rooms of more than a thousand delegates, Bill’s impact is equally felt. His power comes from hearing “No” and reformulating it as “Not Yet.” Bill is the principal and president of the boutique leadership development firm, The B4 Group Inc, and the host and brand ambassador for The Art of Leadership Signature Series / The Art of Leadership for Women . Bill caters his solution-based strategies to individuals and corporations in the private, public, and not-for-profit sectors. Timestamps: 1:24 Power comes from hearing “no” and reforming it to “not yet.” 2:50 William G. Williams from Fort Williams. 4:04 I was living a life that was fake. 6:20 Everyone wants to be special but no one wants to be different. 8:27 Always be self-full not selfish. 11:07 My two minds - Drunken Monkey Mind vs. Knowledge Mind. 14:27 The 12 microsteps. 17:21 The emotion of fear and excitement are the exact same. 19:50 The 12th microstep is “cross your river.” 23:52 How do we get rid of our drunk monkey minds? 31:45 Until you see who is asking you the question, you cannot hear a thing. 35:07 I may have been loved but not seen. 38:40 The golden rule. 42:00 You have to stop expecting you from me. 43:10 Watch out for those projections. 46:15 How do we rekindle the loose connections? 48:31 Virtual distance. 54:12 The people in the back row may not want to be seen on stage but they want to be seen as human. 55:30 Get rid of “Thank you” and replace it with “I appreciate...” Links: https://www.instagram.com/b4billgwilliams/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=670080268 https://www.linkedin.com/in/bill-g-williams-50b1781/ https://twitter.com/b4BillGWilliams

Stephen “Shed” Shedletzky helps leaders listen to and nurture the voice of others. He supports humble leaders—those who know they are both a part of the problems they experience and the solutions they can create—as they put their people and purpose first. A sought-after speaker, coach, and advisor, Shed has led hundreds of keynote presentations, workshops, and leadership development programs around the world. As a thought-leader on psychological safety in the workplace, he supports leaders and organizations in all industries where human beings work. He is the author of the forthcoming book, Speak Up Culture: When Leaders Truly Listen, People Step Up. After years on a corporate track, Shed was introduced to and inspired by the work of Simon Sinek and, soon after meeting him, became the fourth person to join his team. For more than a decade, Shed has contributed at Simon Sinek, Inc., where, as Chief of Staff and Head of Brand Experience, Training & Development, he headed a global team of speakers and facilitators. Shed continues to work with Simon Sinek helping to create a more inspired, safe, and fulfilled world. He lives in Toronto with his wife and two young children. 6:02 If you’re waiting for the “back to normal” post pandemic you’ll be waiting a long time. 7:01 Everyone needs a role model, even leaders. 7:50 Speak Up Culture: Encourage & Reward. 11:15 I’ll give Elon Musk credit for one thing: transparency. 15:20 Leaders need self awareness before they can start to help others 16:34 How am I as a leader getting in the way of what employees need to ask? 19:25 Senior leaders can’t say “We have a great culture.” 29:18 The trust and performance matrix. 32:27 I can’t teach you the culture, but I can teach you the skills. 37:24 The role of unconscious and conscious bias. 47:49 How do we figure out our leadership voice? 49:32 My job as a leader is not to breed more of me. 55:14 The most important meeting with your teams are your one-on-one meetings. https://www.instagram.com/shedinspires/ http://facebook.com/stephen.shedletzky/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenshedletzky https://twitter.com/shedinspires

Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this week's episode of LGOtv with guest, Alexandra Carter. Alexandra Carter - Negotiator , Law Professor, Tiny Giant. Alexandra Carter is a professor at Columbia Law School, where she teaches conflict resolution. She is a world-renowned negotiation trainer for the United Nations, Fortune 500 companies, civil rights agencies and more. In 2019, Alex was awarded the Columbia University Presidential Award for Outstanding Teaching, Columbia University’s highest teaching honor. Her first book, Ask for More: Ten Questions to Negotiate Anything, was published by Simon & Schuster and became an instant Wall Street Journal bestseller -- the first negotiation book solo-authored by a woman to make that list. Professor Carter is a frequent media commentator on negotiation and pay equity for women, with appearances on MSNBC’s Morning Joe and MSNBC Live, Hardball with Chris Matthews, the CBS Early Show and NPR Marketplace. She is a contributor for NBC News’ Know Your Value, a news site devoted to helping women grow in their careers and reach their full potential. She lives in Maplewood, NJ with her husband and daughter. 3:40 When I’m helping other people, I can access my more powerful self. 7:25 What’s our framework for doing it for the sisterhood? 8:00 Look in the mirror and ask the 5 Powerful Questions. 11:09 What would challenge look like for me? 12:14 How have I been successful in the past? Start from success. 22:44 Sometimes people don’t know what they need in a negotiation. 29:02 There’s a superpower most negotiation books don’t talk about. 33:16 “Tell me” is the most powerful open question. 36:21 We are never going to solve this issue until we are able to write the other side’s victory speech = “The I/We” 39:17 Look at negotiation as a venn diagram. 45:17 The power of fear and guilt. 50:38 Real power, comes from being who you are. 55:30 Small steps make quantum leaps. https://www.instagram.com/alexandrabcarter/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrabcarter/ https://twitter.com/alexbcarter?lang=en alexbcarter Freebie - 7 Days to Ask for More - https://alexcarterasks.com/7days/

How do you find your voice of confidence? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Liz Brunner. An Emmy award-winning journalist, Liz Brunner’s television career spanned 28 years and featured many memorable highlights. Along with co-anchoring the #1 rated 6pm newscast at ABC-TV, WCVB NewsCenter 5 in Boston, she conducted exclusive one-on-one interviews with prominent figures ranging from professional athletes to global political leaders including President Barack Obama as well as cultural icons such as Oprah Winfrey. In 2013, Liz excitedly embarked upon her next chapter, becoming the CEO and Founder of Brunner Communications and launched BrunnerAcademy.com in 2020. Both are dedicated to helping people find their authentic voice, tell their story and lead with presence. An expert communications coach, motivational speaker, Liz is also the host of the Live Your Best Life with Liz Brunner podcast. Liz guides her guests to share their stories of self-discovery and re-creation. Listeners around the world join in on the journey garnering inspiration from the wisdom shared. A classically trained vocal performer and former high school music educator, Liz holds a Bachelor of Music degree from the Lawrence University Conservatory of Music. She has performed with the Boston Pops and at professional sporting events for teams including the Boston Celtics, the Boston Red Sox and the New England Patriots, among others. 2:46 How do you figure out identity in a public setting? 4:08 My maiden name was Chaco. If I knew what I know now, I wouldn't have changed my last name. 6:48 I don't have the Big J on my chest. 7:58 Owning your voice is not an overnight process. 8:30 Being imperfect is better than being perfect. 9:10 Unconscious expectations. 10:07 No knowledge is ever wasted. 10:54 What connections can you make from good and bad experiences? 13:26 $100 Miss Marigold. 16:17 My biggest competitor is me. 16:56 My definition of success really came to me once I started writing my book. 20:37 Just do five more minutes. 22:00 My superpower is: I see progress in people before they do. 23:16 Once people see progress they start to own it! 29:13 Growth is where we were five minutes ago vs. today. 31:26 The goal of living is to absorb all the pain of life and lose none of the joy. 33:36 People always think "when I get to X, it will be better." 37:03 Why is this button being pushed for me? 37:20 Confidence is a choice. 40:21 We overestimate how long we have to be brave. We really just need 60 seconds, not 60 minutes. 41:46 Zoom fatigue is real. 43:29 Glossophobia. 45:28 Are you being fully present when you're speaking to a group? 46:41 You have to know your audience. 52:13 Where am I? Where do I want to go? 56:03 When life goes back to "normal" am I going back to the normal I want? 56:14 How do we deal with failure and rejection? 57:12 What is your definition of failure? 58:11 Failure isn't failure - It's an opportunity. Links: https://www.instagram.com/lizbrunner/ https://www.facebook.com/OfficialLizBrunner https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-brunner-6230b01b/ https://twitter.com/LizBrunner

How do you become a relationship expert, and what can we all learn about being relatable to anyone at any time? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Rachel DeAlto. Connector, Aspirant, Appreciator. Rachel DeAlto is a communication and relationship expert, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You)” Rachel has appeared as a relationship expert on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight and TLC’s Kate+Date. Rachel DeAlto maintains a law degree and a Master’s in psychology. In addition to her regular appearances, Rachel has also been featured on over 200 national media outlets, and has given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com. 1:43 How do I people? 3:20 How to go from picking heads off dandelions in the corner to becoming a relationship expert? 3:53 We learn from our pain. 5:47 The level of humility we experience makes us show up differently. 8:09 Where do you show up on the vulnerability scale? 9:12 We need to remind ourselves and our inner child that it's okay to just take that next baby step. 11:21 Rejection is a part of life we all experience. 12:01 It's okay to not be okay when we're rejected - the hard part is getting up and taking that step again. 12:37 You are not defined by those who reject you. 20:18 It takes 18 months for people to show all of their sides to someone. 23:30 Build a strong foundation remotely. 25:11 Let down your green screen! 25:54 We please so that they don't leave. 26:45 How do you feel when you say yes? 27:44 What if your love language is giving gifts? 28:13 Presence over presents. 33:06 Do not expect you, from other people. 34:42 3 Pillars: Connect, Communicate. Inspire. 35:56 We don't have to be perfect, just show up better than yesterday. 37:37 Once we decide who we are, how do we get the confidence to fly our freak flag? 46:15 The way we show up. 49:00 How do we figure out how to be self aware? 49.40 Answer: 1. Observation 2. Get Curious. 55:38 Inspiration...and then what? Links: https://www.instagram.com/racheldealto/ http://www.facebook.com/racheldealto https://www.linkedin.com/in/racheldealto https://twitter.com/RachelDeAlto https://www.tiktok.com/@racheldealto?lang=en

How do you tell a story that resonates? Jay Acunzo explores why work resonates and how ours can too. He hosts the narrative podcast Unthinkable, creates original series for B2B brands, and is the author of the book, Break the Wheel. 0:47 Secret Facebook Society. 1:22 The Media Guide! 3:41 Tell us about Jay as a child. 4:40 Love & Procreation episode parody. 9:01 The power of letting the audience linger in doubt and uncertainty - this is a storytelling game changer. 12:10 The role of structure and creativity. 14:16 There are two ways to rehearse: Do it a lot, or don’t do it at all. 14:44 Blueprints vs. Frameworks. 16:29 My first TedxTalk by LGO. 17:20 Find your own stage voice, don’t use someone else's. 22:30 “You damn dirty dog you!” 26:40 Game tape. 30:16 If you get bored while talking on stage and you’re certain your audience is too, take a pause and bring your audience back. 32:50 Navigating the factual and emotional gray areas. 33:05 Tips & Tricks r’ Us. 34:29 Speak in open loops. 35:56 “I want to be the Anthony Bourdain of B2b storytelling.” 38:31 There are two enduring rules of storytelling: 1. Something happens 2. It wasn’t certain that it would. 41:14 People don’t just climb Mt. Everest. The real story is climbing to base camp 1 and back down to the bottom. Then climbing to base camp 2 and back down again... 43:15 Storytelling: Is it clear? This is how it feels for me. Does it feel this way for you too? 45:29 Resonance - The urge to act that you suddenly feel when the story aligns with you and your life. 48:55 Annoying many to convert the few is not a good marketing plan. 50:36 We undervalue tiny pockets of big emotional response. 52:40 You are always the first member of your audience. 55:19 Ask a question that Google can’t answer. 58.07 Don’t skip the messy middle. You will get Green Smoothie Problems. Social Links: instagram.com/jacunzo twitter.com/jayacunzo https://pod.link/jay

Becoming Indistractable. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Nir Eyal. Nir Eyal: Distractibility Buster, Habit Enthusiast, Home School Teacher. Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. Nir previously taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. Nir co-founded and sold two tech companies since 2003 and was dubbed by The M.I.T. Technology Review as, “The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology.” Bloomberg Businessweek wrote, “Nir Eyal is the habits guy. Want to understand how to get app users to come back again and again? Then Eyal is your man.” He is the author of two bestselling books, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. Indistractable received critical acclaim, winning the Outstanding Works of Literature Award as well as being named one of the Best Business and Leadership Books of the Year by Amazon and one of the Best Personal Development Books of the Year by Audible. The Globe and Mail called Indistractable, “the best business book of 2019.” In addition to blogging at NirAndFar.com, Nir’s writing has been featured in The New York Times, The Harvard Business Review, Time Magazine, and Psychology Today. Nir invests in habit-forming products that improve users’ lives. Some of his past investments include Eventbrite (NYSE:EB), Anchor.fm (acquired by Spotify), Kahoot! (KAHOOT-ME.OL), Canva, Homelight, Product Hunt, Marco Polo, Byte Foods, FocusMate, Dynamicare, Wise App, and Cutback Coach. Nir attended The Stanford Graduate School of Business and Emory University. 0:00 Introduction. 1:59 Welcome to the yellow book club pt. 2. 2:53 We can build healthy habits with our technology. 3:19 How can we use social media to help us exercise more? 4:57 The pivotal moment with my daughter. 5:21 The power to be indistractable. 6:00 Doing what couples do best in bed... 7:01 We don’t know how to get out of our own way. 8:02 Techno pessimism and moral panic is actively harmful. 10:45 90% of distractions come from within internal triggers. 11:29 We need to master our internal triggers. 11:57 Any management change you want to make - you have to deal with discomfort. 15:54 Strive to be as honest with yourself as you would be with others. 16:48 Master your internal triggers. 17:08 The #1 reason we don’t achieve our goals is because we quit. 17:51 Make time for traction. 18:53 To do lists are dead. 19:09 Hack back external triggers. 19:43 Deciding in advance what holds you accountable. 23:12 What does your home screen look like? 23:28 It’s not about organizing apps it’s about changing your notifications. 30:50 Don’t adopt monikers that don’t serve you. 32:52 I’m an athlete vs. I want to lose weight, I’m going to vote vs. I’m a voter. 35:38 Consistency over intensity. 37:21 Reimagine your task. 38:00 How to get started? MEA: Minimal enjoyable action. 41:55 The illusion of exertion. 43:40 The opposite of habit, is deliberate practice. 44:05 We need to deal with discomfort in a healthy way. 47:12 Breakthrough happens at 100% of your discomfort. 47:47 The 10 minute rule. 51:08 Surf the urge. 56:00 The antidote to impulsiveness is forethought. NirAndFar.com https://www.instagram.com/neyal99/?hl=en https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/ https://twitter.com/nireyal

Making Influence Your Superpower. Zoe Chance - Lover, Adventurer, Octophile. Zoe Chance is an award-winning teacher and researcher at Yale School of Management. Her research has been published in top academic journals like Proceedings of the National Academy of Science and Psychological Science and covered by the Harvard Business Review, The Economist, BBC, Time, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. Thinkers50 named Zoe one of the world's top up-and-coming management thinkers. Her framework for behavior change is the foundation for Google’s food program, and her TEDx talk, How to Make a Behavior Addictive, has more than half a million views. Before coming to Yale, she earned a doctorate in marketing at Harvard and managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. She lives with her family in New Haven, CT. Timestamps: 1:34 New Haven pizza. 2:54 Providing value and asking questions from a base of humility. 3:29 Cheers to the yellow book club. 4:04 Starting out in theater - I was shy. 5:40 A lot of people who join theater feel like they’re not being heard. 6:47 A lot of speakers are raging introverts - are we all in theater? 7:59 In a classroom - Professor Zoe is on stage! 8:44 My best year of teaching I was the most quiet. My students are the stars. 9:23 What does it look like to be authentic? 10:43 First talk, one fork and the lady who lunched me. 11:57 Wait, I’m allowed to be me on stage? 12:58 It’s not about you and what you say, it’s about them and what they hear. 14:55 Danny Meyer once said, we are all in the hospitality business. 16:51 Your job is not to control their experience, but to create opportunity. 20:07 Deep listening. 21:51 My longest weekend of listening was just recently and resulted in 500,000 views on Twitter. 25:17 When you’re willing to listen, listen to their underlying values. Be able to reflect that back to them. 26:03 When someone feels heard they’re more likely to listen to you. 39:28 Defense against the dark arts. 40:25 In order to protect yourself from everyone who wants to screw you over, you have to be so close minded. 43:20 The ugly side of that “funny feeling.” 44:26 The gift of fear - READ IT! 45:00 We can’t ignore that funny feeling. 46:38 It’s more to do with them than you. 49:20 We need to learn to criticize better and kinder. 50:02 Why are we more influenced by negativity than positivity? 51:32 When we give unkind feedback, it’s not effective. 54:26 The world needs more humanity right now. 56:42 How to be a kindly brontosaurus. 58:02 The magic question: What would it take to make this happen? Links: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/603636/influence-is-your-superpower-by-zoe-chance/ https://www.facebook.com/kristin.chance.9 https://www.linkedin.com/in/zoebchance/ https://twitter.com/zoebchance https://www.zoechance.com/

Create More Capacity in Your Life. Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Melanie Sodka. Melanie Sodka - Hustle Culture Buster. Capacity Creator. Melanie Sodka is a human behaviour enthusiast helping overwhelmed people who are over-committed and distracted. She’s a podcaster and an international speaker who addresses Capacity Management. Through her structures and frameworks, she reveals how our addition to distraction is literally breaking down our bodies. Her research and trademarked tools have helped tens of thousands in managing their personal capacity while staying out of burnout and doing more of what they love. For many years, Melanie has been engaging and shifting the perspectives of her audiences in the classroom, boardroom and conference rooms. A TEDx speaker, Melanie designs custom talks and virtual series to serve her clients. She is also an experienced lead facilitator for national conferences as well as an EMCEE for various events. Melanie is also pursuing her dream of writing a book where she shares true stories and a suite of tools, including her very own Egocake™ Framework, intended to guide people through the discovery of their personal capacity and ultimately how to respect it. 1:34 How do you create capacity? 2:44 I was never satiated. What's next? 3:19 Indulgent with capacity = burn out 4:08 You're not that important. 5:33 Double down where you are most important. 8:23 The dessert table of life. 10:30 Are you giving away your gold? 10:50 Busy doesn't always mean impact, sometimes busy is just busy. 13:41 Own what's important to you - where are you prioritizing your energy? 15:31 Are you in a prison of your own creation? 20:05 We have less time than we think and things take more time than we think they do. 21:00 We are distracted every 8 minutes and it takes 15 minutes to get back to our focus. 21:47 A two hour project might actually be a 5 hour commitment. 26:00 How do we make more capacity? 28:39 Value mining - how do you make your decisions? 30:26 When you're upset or stressed or burnt out, which of you values is violated? 32:56 The 5 Layer Cake. 36:00 The capacity assessment can show an indication of where you are over indulging. 39:01 If you're resisting that much to do something, it probably shouldn't be a goal. 44:26 Hustle culture. 45:08 Living in a time of addiction to notifications. 50:23 How do you push out the distractions? 51:35 The power of three! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniesodka/?hl=en Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-sodka/ Website: [https://www.melaniesodka.com/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melanie.sodtka Assessment: www.capacitycreator.com

Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Dr. Ruth Gotian. Dr. Ruth Gotian - Thinker, Adult Educator, Success Maker. https://youtu.be/J7inAl4B1aA Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer and Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology and former Assistant Dean of Mentoring and Executive Director of the Mentoring Academy at Weill Cornell Medicine. She has been hailed by the journal Nature and Columbia University as an expert in mentorship and leadership development. In 2021, she was selected as one of 30 people worldwide to be named to the Thinkers50 Radar List, dubbed the Oscars of management thinking, and recently won the Thinkers50 Distinguished Achievement “Radar” Award ranking her the #1 emerging management thinker in the world to bridge theory and practice. She is also a semi-finalist for the Forbes 50 Over 50 list. In addition to publishing in academic journals, she is a contributor to Forbes and Psychology Today where she writes about ‘optimizing success’. Her research is about the mindset and skill set of peak performers, including Nobel laureates, astronauts, and Olympic champions. Her forthcoming book, The Success Factor, is now available. Timestamps: 2:44 - Happy Book Birthday! 4:48 - 4 Attributes of high achievers. 5:20 - I’ve always been obsessed with top achievers. 5:40 - Success is a learned skill. 6:25 - I had my Jerry Mcguire moment, grabbed my fishbowl and started my own firm. 7:35 - As an adult educator I can’t just tell you what to have without teaching you how to do it. 8:20 - 20% of your time on passion in order for the rest of your job not to suck the life out of you. 9:00 - Have you ever done a Passion Audit? 10:02 - INVEST in your passion, don’t FOLLOW it. 14:06 - Will you get through this hurdle vs. how will you get through this hurdle? 16:18 - Surround yourself with a team of mentors who believe in you more than you believe in yourself. 17:50 - Top achievers fear not trying more than they fear failing. 18:51 - They embrace their lack of knowledge and are open to learning. 20:17 - If you’re the most interesting person in the room, you’re in the wrong room. 23:14 - What did it take to get there? 24:12 - I always thought success was for other people. 26:01 - It’s not just about getting the opportunity but knowing what to do with it. 29:20 - Olympians who win bronze medals are happier than those who win the gold. 33:15 - Have you ever done a Goal Audit? 35:00 - How do we teach this to our kids?

How do you find your best customers, and why is it important to cast the widest net? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with Pamela Slim. Pamela Slim - Entrepreneurial Fire Starter, Partnership Expert, Diversity Champion. Pamela Slim is an award-winner author, speaker and business coach who works with small business owners ready to scale their businesses and IP. She is the author of Escape from Cubicle Nation (Penguin Portfolio, 2009) and Body of Work (Penguin Portfolio, 2014) and her newest book, The Widest Net (McGraw Hill, November, 2021). Pam and her husband Darryl co-founded the K’é Main Street Learning Lab in Mesa, Arizona, where they host scores of diverse community leaders and regular small business programming. 0:54 Main Street Learning Lab. 2:00 The Big Blank Canvas. 5:09 What’s the goal that makes you get up at 2am when all hell breaks loose? 10:30 In 23 cities, a 3 month tour, only 7 people had seen a native american leading a conference as a subject matter expert. 11:17 Who is here? Who is not here? Why? 17:50 Delay to action. 19:22 No one talks about when it gets really ugly and all the sacrifices to get to your goals. 20:40 New business is like a 2 year old; it needs time and space to grow. 25:31 When you ask someone for advice, they become more involved in watching you succeed. 36:50 Are there other people who are already reaching customers that you love? 40:52 Tiny marketing actions are not always marketing 41:46 It’s about having clarity and passion of your mission 45:00 PBJ Partners 47:50 The dark underbelly. 56:12 How to figure out when you need a partner and who they should be. 58:02 Test and try with potential partners. https://www.instagram.com/pamslim/ https://www.facebook.com/pamela.slim https://www.linkedin.com/in/pamelaslim/ https://twitter.com/pamslim

How do you ask better questions, and what does that have to do with becoming mentally fit? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Marc Champagne. Marc Champagne - Reflectionist, Curator, Questioner. Marc Champagne unpacks the mental fitness practices and reflective questions shaping the lives of some of the most successful and brilliant thinkers in the world. He is the author of Personal Socrates, a book exploring the pointed questions that stimulate our mental fitness and teach us how to direct our internal narrative to work for us instead of against us. Marc studies the prompts and practices of legends such as Kobe Bryant, Maya Angelou, Robin Williams, James Clear, Coco Chanel, Stephen Hawking, and many others to bring clarity, intentionality, and possibility to every aspect of your life. 2:06 Are you one question away from a better life? 4:37 First Big Question - What do I want for my life? 5:41 Desperate people do desperate things. 7:00 Are you feeling sick everyday? You need to ask the big question. 7:41 The world of mental fitness. 8:57 How much longer do we have to empty out our savings? 9:29 How do you know when to stop? 11:53 This definition of where should we go and what we should do is hijacked by other people. 14:45 Do you have executive function? 17:21 Start your day with 5-10 minutes of journaling - mental fitness training. 18:20 The best exercise plan is the one you'll stick to - it's the same with your mental fitness workout. 20:02 Did we train ourselves to stop asking questions we don't know the answer to? 23:36 The actual practice of journaling is reflection. 26:32 If I could give credit or thanks to anyone, who would it be? And not your mother. 33:41 Is there any trend of top performers asking questions? 36:04 - What did I learn? What can I change? What do I want to celebrate? 40:32 The most curious person in the room is also the most present. 44:00 If you're stressed about getting your meditation in, you're not doing it right. 44:40 What are you pretending not to know? 45:35 Give yourself some credit, slow down and do what feels right. 47:11 Did I waste time asking the wrong questions? Or did they lead me to where I am today?

What are the essential skills we all need for our careers, and why isn’t anyone teaching them to us? Join Laura Gassner Otting as she hosts this episode of LGOtv with special guest, Mark Herschberg. Mark Herschberg - Innovator, Impacter, Ballroom Champion. From tracking criminals and terrorists on the dark web to creating marketplaces and new authentication systems, Mark has spent his career launching and developing new ventures at startups, Fortune 500s, and academia. He helped to start the Undergraduate Practice Opportunities Program, dubbed MIT’s “career success accelerator,” where he teaches annually. At MIT, he received a BS in Physics, a BS in Electrical Engineering / Computer Science, and a Master of Engineering in Computer Science, focusing on cryptography. At Harvard Business School, Mark helped create a platform used to teach finance at prominent business schools. He also works with many non-profits, including Techie Youth and Plant A Million Corals. He was one of the top ranked ballroom dancers in the country and now lives in New York City where he is known for his social gatherings, including his annual Halloween Party. Timestamps: 1:51 - Classic 80’s Nerd. 3:47 - This one time… at Atari Computer Sleep-Away Camp. 5:32 - Loch Ness Monster, Black Holes, and Physics. 8:30 - I knew how to be smart, but I didn’t know how to be a student. 9:29 - I’m not a physicist, but the best thing I did was to learn physics because it teaches how to critically model, analyze, and solve problems. 15:33 - We need to connect what we are leaning to WHY we are leaning it. 19:28 - Our definition of what a leader should be is in the process of evolving. 23:13 - The double bind that women face. 25:08 - Men & women both need to recognize this. 25:45 - Society likes women in power but not women who want power. 29:13 - How do you find your voice? 30:43 - The Overton Window. 36:18 - How to go about finding mentors? 37:30 - The Linkedin and Tinder analogy. 38:00 - During our work from home time, take that commute time and turn it into networking time each day. 40:56 - Why does networking seem dirty? 44:00 - Champion vs. Mentor // Endorsement vs. Pass-Along. 45:35 - How do introverts deal with negotiation? 48:39 - The Hollywood montage of negotiations and how to prepare for them. 52:07 - How to make 30k with just 10 minutes of negotiation. 54:37 - MIT and Ballroom Dancing. 56:10 - Ballroom dancing helped with my public speaking skills. https://www.instagram.com/thecareertoolkit/ https://www.facebook.com/TheCareerToolkitBook https://www.linkedin.com/in/hershey/ https://twitter.com/CareerToolkitBk https://www.thecareertoolkitbook.com