Creatives Crushing Anxiety

I love my 30s. I feel like for the first time since college I’ve hit a new burst of energy for life that I’d lost for a while and I’m learning again. I feel like so much of the first 3 decades of my life were based on learning skills and tasks. Things you have to learn but for the first time in my life I’m learning simply from a place of desire, not requirement and it’s so freeing and inspiring. So as my birthday approached (July babies! Woot Woot!) I was thinking about some of the things I’ve learned in my life that everyone should know. So here they are in no particular order, my stream of consciousness. Family is everything - but you also get to pick some of your family and it’s okay to end relationships with family members who hurt you. Real friends accept your flaws and inspire you to be your best. Jealousy is a wasted emotion. Avoid mixing liquors. And always drink water before, during, and after when you’re drinking booze. Having a positive mindset is essential but you’re allowed to have bad days just don’t stay in them. Most things are easier to do than we think they are. The real challenge is making yourself do them. It’s good to have goals you’re working towards but sometimes it’s good to have a season of contentment where you enjoy where you are. We live in a world and if you’re in the U.S. you know everyone seems to be working towards something until retirement. A diploma, a degree, a family, a house, a job, a promotion, a raise….and on and on. But we also need to sit in our victories the same way we do our losses and appreciate how far we’ve come and what we’ve accomplished. Give people their flowers. Telling some random woman at the store her dress is cute might not mean much to you but it might brighten her day. Spread love. Be aware of the type of content you’re consuming. I enjoy true crime but I limit it. The world has some dark stuff in it and I think it’s good to be aware but not consumed. Always carry water and some kind of snack. No is a complete sentence. You don’t have to have all the answers, Before you ask a question to someone else, ask yourself if you could google this. It’s okay to ask for what you want or deserve. It’s sometimes the only way you’ll get it. Instead, the person is waiting for you to ask or they can’t give you what you need and then you can open space for someone who can. This goes for business and relationships. Never stop learning. Sign up Wondrium, Use your vacation days. Even if you’re the next Derek Sheppard, someone else can fill in for you. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Naps aren’t just for kids. Check yourself and check in with yourself often. If you have always wanted to xyz then figure out how you can do it. Hire people to do things when you can’t. -Experts, people who will charge you less an hour than you make an hour. Trust your gut AFTER you learn how to read it. Cry. Tell people you love them every chance you get. Forgive yourself. You are always going to be the only person you can 100% say you’ll have, forgive yourself. It’s hard to live with someone you’re mad at or don’t trust. Go on dates. With your partner, with your friends, and with yourself. You are complete on your own. Anyone who comes into your life and improves it is just a bonus. Get out of bad situations as fast as you can. Pay attention to not just what people say but what they do. Everyone gets embarrassed. Everyone has fears. If they say they don’t they might have more fears and embarrassment than us all. If a movie is terrible, you don’t have to watch the whole thing. Laugh, it’s the best medicine. Spend time with the people who make you laugh. Find that stupid thing that you might be embarrassed about that makes you laugh and enjoy it. Don’t buy cheap foil… It’s not worth it. You use more of the cheap stuff and it rips easily. Age is just a number.

This episode is an open love letter to the song Numb Little Bug by Em Beihold. This song is one of the first songs that summed up an intense time in my mental health journey. This episode is also an invitation to share which examples in pop-culture made you feel seen and less alone.

After a long unschedule hiatus. Creatives Crushing Anxiety is back! Our host Dia Darling, dives into where she's been, where she's going and her 2023 word of the year. In this episode you'll also learn about the powerful shifts and changes Dia made in 2022 to live her best life.

In this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I wrap up the 3-part series The Balanced Business Experience in Action where I take you through my seven-step methodology and how I used it to buy my first house. In this episode, we dive into the final steps which are support systems and taking action. Learn more about the Balanced Business Experience here: https://diadarling.lpages.co/coaching/

In part 2 of The Balanced Business Experience in Action, I share how I used steps 3-5 of my methodology to buy my first house this year. In this episode: How to identify the challenges to accomplishing your goal. Setting micro-goals to get you to macro wins Creating a plan of action and new habits to keep your goals on track.

In part 1 of this series, I share the first step in The Balanced Business Methodology Values and Priorities and how I used it to buy a house this year.

In the season 4 premiere of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I share the reasons you need to have a plan for your business. Inspired by an old post, Yes, You Need A Business Plan I shift gears and talk about why you need a plan for your business even if it’s not a traditional business plan. In this episode: How a plan for your business can help you make consistent income. How you can create realistic expectations with your business plan. How clarity around what you offer and who you help can improve your marketing and attract the right clients.How having a well-thought-out plan can keep you in check with your progress and alert you when it’s time to shift your plan.

This week on Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I wanted to catch you up on all the things. This is a general update on me and all the things.

In episode 109 of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I interview Anna Beyer. We dive deep into the things making you hate your business and how to nip them in the bud so you can start loving your business again.

Who do you talk to about your blog and online biz? I know if you're like me you probably have a group of blog online besties that you talk to about everything. I mean everything about how you're feeling unmotivated because you had a fight with your mom. About the jerk who dumped you the day before Valentine's Day. Friends that you email when you're lacking motivation or need feedback. You might even talk to your friends about it who don't totally understand it and have no interest in owning a business or running a blog but they support you. I'm a big believer in having that circle of friends but do you have anyone that you talk to that owns a brick and mortar store? Someone who might operate a product-based business while you have a service-based one? In this episode, I dive into the benefits of talking to people outside of your industry to help your business grow.

Do you have trouble setting boundaries in your life? Then buckle up because on this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety I have coach Melody Dowlearn to talk about the importance of boundaries in our life and their value. In this episode: How the lack of boundaries keeps us from reaching our full potential. A new perspective on why boundaries are important and already a part of our life.They way we enable chaos when we don’t set boundaries. Understanding that there will be push back when you set boundaries and why it’s worth it in the long run. How to walk away from personal and professional relationships when boundaries aren’t accepted. Questions you can ask yourself when it’s time to examine your relationships.The way our boundaries and the boundaries of those in our lives are so powerful.How to be unapologetically you with grace and kindness.The right way and time to set boundaries.Why you shouldn’t say “I’m sorry” when starting a conversation about boundaries. What to do when someone else’s boundary triggers you. Setting boundaries with yourself.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock you probably heard about the winter storm Texas has last week. We had ongoing power outages and below-freezing temperatures. That week taught me a lot. It reminded me of all my blessings and also how to ask for help. In this episode of Creatives Crushing Anxiety, I share the business lessons I learned during the freak snowstorm in Texas and how they can help you in your business.

This week I talk to my dear friend and fellow Tabwoo Institute Graduate, Ann Bellow. Ann Bellow is a Human Design Pro and has created a system to support her clients to be totally aligned business owners. Episode Show Notes

In this episode, I review my 20 for 2020 and how the pandemic and national affairs shifted these. I also share my 2021 word of the year and what it means to me.

I want to share 10 things that you can do and incorporate into your days to make 2021 amazing and then also just to get you on the right foot and to keep you focused on what you're going to be doing now the first thing is to.

In this episode:

I want to talk about how I deal with triggers, because we're all triggered by things especially this year it's an election year, there's been so much going on between COVID, the BLM movement like this year is crazy. 2020 has been freakin a lot. I know that there are so many triggers that can come up for all of us and I want to talk about how I actually deal with those.

In this minisode, I check-in on my word of the year, Visibility. I thought it meant one thing but now that I am living it, it has taken on a whole new meaning. Listen to learn more.

It’s the 100th episode, of Creatives Crushing Anxiety!!!! I cannot believe I have been doing this for 100 episodes. It has been such a fun journey. In this episode, I didn’t want to go on and on about all the feels. So instead I decided to share my podcast process with you in case you’re wondering how I publish episodes or if you’re thinking of starting your own. Thank you to the listeners, the people who have emailed in, the people who have been a guest. I am so grateful to you all.

I am officially back from summer hiatus and I am giving up! No not the podcast, not ditching the business to work at Pizza Hut. But I’m giving up on things that no longer serve me. During my Summer podcasting break I had a lot of time to reflect. 2020 has been a bit of a beast so far in a number of ways. Personally with making the shift into coaching, working with some new amazing partnerships and really focusing on what I want in my life. Globally, we have been balancing a new life during the covid area, continuous systematic racism and uncertain times. It’s been a lot, for all of us. That's why right now I want to focus on living in my truth and doing the things that feel good and aligned with the person I am becoming. I’m giving up doing things because I should. Don’t should all over yourself. I’m giving up the obligations so I can embrace my desires and own my responsibilities.