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Jordana and Jared kick things off discussing their night before at a fun client dinner that somehow turns into a lesson about the one airplane seat that always survives a crash (allegedly, 11A)! From there, they get into travel drama, including middle seat horror stories, whether couples who book the aisle and window are selfish, and how being nice to a gate agent can score you a surprise upgrade! Then it’s into listener emails: a petty or prudent about DMing a secret girlfriend after a Tinder hookup, and an honest breakdown of why one guy keeps striking out on first dates. They unpack dating fatigue, transactional energy, and the subtle signs you need to pay attention to to delete the apps! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back in the studio and immediately spiraling about NYC heat, aging, and why early flights now require a full recovery day! They debate whether a man in his late 30s sleeping in a twin bed is an instant ick and why his mom might be the bigger red flag. Then, a listener asks if it’s okay to date while still living with an ex, and whether that situation might signal you’re not ready for something serious. Plus, red flag or dealbreaker gets wild: matching with your brother on a dating app, a $500 first date that feels too pricey, and whether a lisp is enough to end things. Jared has some thoughts about this speech pathologist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J kick off today’s Friday Feels discussing New England Patriots coach Mike Vrabel being spotted holding hands with another married woman, and whether interlocking fingers can ever be explained as “just friends.” Jared shares a surreal run-in with TikTok-famous Costco Guys while buying Ozempic, and why it felt a little too close to influencer rock bottom. They then dive into Instagram’s possible new feature that lets you secretly watch IG stories, track rewatchers, and how it could quietly ruin dating. Finally, they tackle listener drama: a drunk friend stirring engagement jealousy and the right (and wrong) way to approach someone at the park for a date! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are people cheering for me to be in a relationship or single?! Jared talks about how public reactions to his new relationship make him reflect on his dating history and social media pressure, including whether he should post his girlfriend or not. They answer emails, starting with a guy who insists on bringing his dog on a second date and even feeds it from his fork. EW! They also react to a listener who sent a brutally honest rejection text to a “TikTok famous” guy who wouldn’t stop talking about his money, real estate, and trust issues. J&J then debate an email about dating into a wealthy country club family and whether it crosses the line from culture shock into straight-up judgment. Later, a widow’s date asks if she’ll “compare all future partners” to her late husband. We’re calling it a major red flag! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday Feels episode, J&J dive back into reality TV drama that’s hitting all of our feeds: Summer House dating announcements from Wes and Amanda. They break down Amanda Batula and West Wilson’s relationship announcement on IG, dissecting why a vague “we” statement can ruin friendships and trigger the internet. Jared shares his first-hand experience meeting his girlfriend’s parents (and niece!) with NYC chocolate babka in hand, because what’s a gift without a story? They then tackle an “icky or picky” from a listener who received a novel-length first text from a new guy. Lastly, a first date goes so well, but the guy wants to end it before things get serious because she mentions moving in a year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back and immediately diving into Summer House drama, breaking down the Amanda, West, and Ciara rumors and why situationships might hurt more than traditional breakups. They debate whether hooking up with a friend’s ex is worse when things weren't fully official, and what it says about dating after a long relationship. Then it’s listener dilemmas, from whether it’s petty or prudent for an ex to sneak into your apartment to grab his stuff to what it means when your husband refuses to wear his wedding ring, plus J&J weigh in on oral dealbreakers, anti-tickling boyfriends, and siblings turned roommates. Jared’s mom joins this episode for some sound perspective, it’s one you don’t want to miss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is officially meeting his girlfriend’s parents, but what should he bring? J&J break down the strategy of what to bring, expectations of meeting the family, and what actually matters during that first intro. Jared and Jordana get real about long distance dating, traveling for a relationship, and how to set boundaries when your partner joins you on work trips. They also unpack a listener’s “OnlyFans comment” nightmare after a first date setup goes sideways on Instagram. Plus, Jared explains why asking for Instagram instead of a number is a major red flag! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana is back after maternity leave with twins (AKA “Twisters”), and she and Jared finally catch up on everything! The two get into the What Are You Up To? segment brought to us by HBO’s Euphoria. Jordana shares life with newborns and how her relationship with Mike has changed, from couples therapy to what actually matters in a partner once you have kids. Jared drops a major update: he has a girlfriend! They originally met at the Comedy Cellar, dated years ago, we hear how they decided to date again! Plus, they get into some fun red flags or dealbreakers: debating whether not asking about a sick cat is a dealbreaker, how much you should tip on a $45 date, and why trying too hard, or not at all, might both be red flags!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by the hilarious Emma Willmann for the final episode with a guest cohost! They break down a relationship where a boyfriend won’t stop correcting his dyslexic girlfriend’s grammar and why that might actually be a deal breaker. Jared shares a wild DM involving a “dead grandma date request,” leading to one of the strangest fan interactions he’s ever had. Lastly, they get into a listener being judged for kissing her friend while questioning her sexuality. Jared and Emma get into all your dating questions and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared Freid sits down with Tiff Baira to learn all about Street Hearts, how to flirt with men and the best place to break up in NYC. They dive into listener dilemmas about how to turn long, flirty bar conversations into a real first date, and what to do when you are stuck in “Instagram limbo” after making the first move. The conversation also gets into major “ick” territory, including mouth open chewing, loud talking on dates, and whether sensory triggers like misophonia are real dealbreakers or just being too picky. The episode wraps with a funny “Petty or Prudent” game featuring a breakup, a questionable shower head theft, and post-relationship revenge etiquette! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Ashley Gavin joins Jared to talk about dating, sexuality, and the chaos of life on the road! Ashley explains her open relationship rules with her girlfriend, their monthly check-ins, and how touring sometimes leads to unexpected hookups. They tackle listener emails about bisexual curiosity blowing up a relationship and whether a 35 year old with a roommate should be a concern? Plus, Ashley shares what life on the road is really like, from asking a hookup to put her knife away to fans having unexpected coming-out moments at her shows. It’s a fun episode where we learn all about the Gavin Method!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by Hinge relationship expert, Logan Ury, to break down some of the biggest dating questions listeners are dealing with right now. They debate whether asking for a voice note before a first date is an innocent preference or a major red flag, and unpack the idea of “digital body language” when someone is great in person but disappears over text. They also dive into the classic “right person, wrong time” debate and the Sex and the City taxi-light theory of commitment. Also, one listener wonders if dating in NYC has become impossible thanks to hyper optimized schedules full of cold plunges, pilates, and skincare routines. Is it selfish or self care? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by BETCHES’ own Tess Tregellas for a hilarious Friday Feels episode. Tess shows up with a positive attitude but she does reveal she just learned sad news about her childhood dog. But quickly turns the mood around as they dive into listener dilemmas! They debate whether calling your fiancée a “solid 8 out of 10” is a red flag or a relationship killer, and explore why words like “pulchritudinous” are far superior to numbers when describing your partner. Later, the two help a listener spiraling about moving in with her boyfriend in NYC, covering anxiety, overthinking, and why sometimes you just have to be excited about love! Plus, Tess shares the wild story of meeting her boyfriend while wearing a wedding dress! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on U Up?, Jared is joined by Aleen Dreksler, CEO and co-founder of BETCHES, for a chaotic and honest deep dive into mama drama, ex etiquette, and career vs. kids debates. They discuss boundaries with mother-in-laws and what you can negotiate versus when you should just say nope, covering everything from holiday turf wars to posting your baby on Instagram without permission. Then it’s petty or prudent when an ex crashes a run club and sends a seriously annoying “it’ll get easier over time” text. Plus, an Icky or Picky ruling on a second date who announces a strict “no phones at the table” policy like he’s running a dictatorship. Be sure to not miss updates from Jordana! 👉 https://subscribe.betches.com/u-up-with-benefits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared is joined by Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to unpack dating after divorce, performance anxiety, and whether taking intimacy slow signals emotional baggage. They break down an email from a 34-year-old woman dating a gentle, recently divorced man who says something “deeper than biology” is blocking intimacy. Then they debate if a flight attendant was right to tell a 30-year-old guy he’s “too nice for casual dating.” Plus: performance anxiety, people pleasers, alpha vs beta energy, and why sexual chemistry doesn’t always match long-term potential. Jared and Dr. Naomi get deep and at one point, when Jared asks Dr. Naomi to give him real advice about his own dating life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bob the Drag Queen and Jared kick off today’s episode bonding over their favorite WWF wrestlers and swapping stories from their early stand-up comedy days. Then they dive into modern dating drama, including a straight boyfriend who wants to explore drag, but his girlfriend is feeling insecure and unsure how to navigate it. They red flags, deal breakers, and quirky relationship moments, from mannequins at the front door to reality TV obsession. Bob talks about having two boyfriends and advises an emailer that dating an ENM man is a definite dealbreaker if you’re monogamous at heart! Along the way, Bob shares stories from Eddie Izzard, Harry Styles, Moulin Rouge, and life on stage. It’s a fun episode you don’t want to miss, and be sure not to miss Bob on Broadway until March 22! 👉: https://www.bobthedragqueen.com/appearances Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana is on maternity leave, so Jared Fried is joined by BETCHES’ Jack Maloney to break down a second date disaster featuring aggressive tongue, a “breast exam” style titty grab, and whether bad kissing is an ick or just picky. They share exact language to use in the moment like whispering “slow down” and how to reset physical chemistry on date three. Jared tackles a listener’s breakup after a layoff where an ex is telling people she only dated him for money, and he explains why the dumper is always painted as the villain and the one text to send. Plus, they answer a vulnerable email from a trans woman who feels invisible in dating and unpack how straight men think about attraction, fear, and identity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yamaneika Saunders joins Jared Fried while Jordana Abraham is on maternity leave, and nothing is off limits. She breaks down dating at 47, hooking up with a 33-year-old Pisces, and why she refuses to “debate” her worth! They get specific about sexual chemistry, age gaps, and why synergy in bed matters more than body count. Then they tackle a 29-year-old gamer whose girlfriend hates his Fortnite obsession, a woman posting flyers to “curse” her ex in South Philly, and whether walking a kitten in a stroller is a red flag or secretly hot. Yamaneika says hot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's Friday Feels, Jared Freid is joined by BETCHES' own Maddie Mahoney, tackling cheating exes, pyramid scheme drama, and the first date red flags that say everything about a person. A listener discovers her ex had a secret girlfriend for nearly a year while they were together, so was getting him uninvited from a wedding petty or prudent? Then a husband asks how to tell his wife that Arbonne is a scam without blowing up their marriage. Maddie also shares her genius gift-giving hack so you will never forget a loved one's gift again! Lastly, Jared breaks down why when hearing "my life is a sitcom," you should expect them to follow up with "all my exes are crazy" and "I don't wait in lines" and end the date early. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is everyone obsessed with Heated Rivalry? Jared and his friend from the stand-up comedy world, Matteo Lane, kick things off by unpacking the hype around the viral hockey romance before diving into a chaotic round of red flag or dealbreaker. They debate whether a boyfriend kissing his girlfriend every single time she gets in the car is romantic or suffocating, react to the shock of a surprise giant tongue ring mid-dating, and argue over a man who feels “betrayed” after learning his girlfriend had a nose job at 19. The episode spirals into celebrity look-alike delusion (strong Joey Tribbiani energy), plus why everyone can’t stop talking about The Golden Bachelor! It's a modern dating drama, cosmetic surgery disclosure debates, and maybe too brutally honest relationship takes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices