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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedy

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!

Location:

Los Angeles, CA

Genres:

Comedy

Description:

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. Tune in for dating mishaps, heartbreak confessions, and the real talk you never knew you needed. New episodes every Friday!

Twitter:

@nicolebyer

Language:

English

Contact:

6472280288


Episodes
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Bizarre Relationships with Animals (w/ Rose McIver)

5/23/2025
Actress Rose McIver (Ghosts, iZombie, voice of Headgum) joins Nicole to explain New Zealand, why she doesn’t post her loved ones on social media, and talk about all the cute, funny other ways people show love. They get into weird animal relationship stories, like the woman in love with a dolphin (who died of heartbreak), the man who tried to live among grizzlies, and Nicole’s dream of becoming queen of the whales. Plus: a simple dinner hosting hack from Meghan Markle. WATCH this episode here: https://youtu.be/gdfc4IbNLv8 Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme » Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod *Referral Reward Disclaimer: As a Cash App partner, I may earn a commission when you sign up for a Cash App account. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:53:49

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Bob Derails the Pod (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

5/16/2025
Bob the Drag Queen (The Traitors, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) returns to the podcast to derail the show. This time, Bob interviews Nicole about her current relationship, run through their plans to prep for tariffs, and discuss LA's newest serial killer. He sniffs out the ulta-rich cast members on The Traitors, shares what he hates about Italy, and Canada’s ex-prime minister's blackface scandal. Plus, Nicole shares her latest showdown with the cops. Buy Bob's new book, Harriet Tubman: Live in Concert at readthedragqueen.com. WATCH this episode at youtu.be/ZojW_xiV2sM Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at oneskin.co #oneskinpod » SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. » Wayfair: Every Style, Every Home. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:08:08

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The Male Loneliness Epidemic (w/ Drew Afualo)

5/9/2025
TikTok star Drew Afualo joins Nicole to share her enemies‑to‑lovers love story and the worst dates that taught her to trust her gut. She tells the time she dated a man who drank ocean water and ended up getting his stomach pumped, walks through her viral list of red flags in men, and the backlash she received online for sharing it. They dig into the male loneliness epidemic, red‑pill culture, and what we can learn from the dating on Love On The Spectrum. Plus, Nicole tells the time she accidentally went on a beach date with a 60‑year‑old comedian, and the story of how banana bread uncovered an affair. Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/mM7FvATy35g Write Nicole a dirty message! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Quince: Treat your closet to a little summer glow-up with Quince. Go to Quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. » Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme » BetterHelp: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:06:27

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Dating Around the World (w/ Colton Dunn)

5/2/2025
Comedian and Nicole's fictional boyfriend Colton Dunn (Superstore, Grand Crew, Key and Peele) joins Nicole to talk about dating customs in Europe (and what we can learn from them), getting mad at your partner over what they did in your dream, and what surprised him most about becoming a dad. He reflects on why improv might never be cool- even if you're good at it, and shares behind-the-scenes stories from some of the most iconic Key & Peele sketches. Plus: diaper blowouts, fake babies at Disneyland, and getting called the "Black Seth Rogen." Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/qYOWub9maa0 Write Nicole a dirty message! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » ZocDoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/DATEME to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. » Sorry I Missed This: Search for “Sorry I Missed This” in your favourite podcast app! https://lnk.to/sorryimissedthisPS View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:57:58

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Too Shy to Talk to People (w/ Owen Burke)

4/25/2025
Comedian Owen Burke (Drunk History) joins Nicole for a conversation recorded in the middle of the Los Angeles fires (things were unhinged). They talk about trying to function while the world is burning, the early days of UCB, and how Owen managed to find a wife while being painfully shy and awkward with dating—and how you can too. Plus, Nicole shares the time she gave John Mulaney her number. John, please call back. Write Nicole a dirty message! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast an get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:04:33

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DIVORCED!!! (w/ Jackie Johnson)

4/18/2025
Comedian and friend Jackie Johnson was terrified to do this podcast… until she got a divorce. She joins Nicole to talk about dating a record number of canceled UCB comedians, surviving a nightmare marriage, and only realizing she was unhappy after it ended (plus how to spot signs of abuse in your own relationship). Jackie shares how therapy—and a witch’s spell—helped her find true love. Plus, they discuss the red flags they missed in past relationships, why getting married on Valentine’s Day was a HUGE mistake, the secret to getting out of jury duty, and Jackie’s genius advice on when to swoop in and land a man. Chicago! Catch Jackie’s show How to Get a Second Husband live on June 1st! Get tickets here. WATCH this episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/AjfNgx1xM5c Write Nicole a dirty message! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast an get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. » Mint Mobile: Don’t overpay for mobile data. Shop data plans at mintmobile.com/DATEME. » Wayfair: Every Style, Every Home. Shop the best selection of home improvement online. Head to Wayfair.com. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:07:48

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Childbirth Nightmares, Public or Private Proposal? (w/ Melissa Hunter)

4/11/2025
Writer Melissa Hunter (Santa Clarita Diet, She-Hulk, Home Economics) joins Nicole to talk through the messy reality of childbirth - including her 32-hour labor, an unexpected unmedicated birth after her epidural failed, and shitting on the table. They also get into whether proposals should be private or public (including Nicole’s dream proposal), the red flags of dating someone who won’t drop the bits, and the time Nicole got scammed by a hot Instagram dating coach. WATCH this episode on YouTube at: youtu.be/j990cfqbO6w Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast an get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Quince: Upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to quince.com/dateme for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! » OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at oneskin.co #oneskinpod » Helix Sleep: Go to helixsleep.com/DATEME for 20% off sitewide. » BetterHelp: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:50:06

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The Funny Guy Trap (w/ Wayne Brady)

4/4/2025
Comedian Wayne Brady (Whose Line Is It Anyway?, What If? podcast) joins Nicole to talk about the struggles of dating when everyone expects you to be the funny guy from TV. He opens up about being an introvert, and how his dates sometimes get disappointed when he's not his 'persona' they know him for. Wayne shares the wild story of dating someone whose parent was openly racist, the struggles he's faced navigating racism in relationships, and what it's like dating as a single father. Plus, the crazy story of how he got fired from Disneyland playing Tigger... the day before landing his big break. WATCH this episode here: youtu.be/9GIwjGwhpxs Check out Nicole's episode of Wayne Brady's podcast here: youtu.be/FGykSL24GZU?si=Vu9oYhPdpgPK2wLr See Nicole do stand-up at a city near you. See all dates and tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:12:57

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Chubby Chasers (w/ Jana Schmieding)

3/28/2025
Comedian Jana Schmieding (Reservation Dogs, Rutherford Falls) joins Nicole to discuss chub chasers, the difference between being fetishized and being genuinely wanted, and what it was like to date a man with body shame. She shares what it was like to date a sacred Native man, including a agonising "breakup ceremony" he put her through. Plus, they break down Curvy Wife Guy’s BBW bop, try to understand whatever the hell is happening between Kanye and Bianca Censori, and Jana shares her new daily ritual - a 6 seconds kiss on the lips to keep love alive. Watch this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/LfXEys73G_U Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:04:08

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Oops, All Red Flags! (w/ Mariah Smith)

3/21/2025
Comedian and writer Mariah Smith (Smith Sisters Live) joins Nicole to share some truly wild dating stories, including a guy who got horny discussing Black Lives Matter, and another who cried about his ex on the first date. She talks about her experience using an Instagram matchmaking service, and dishes out a hot tip for boosting your matches on dating apps. Plus, they try to settle the great iPhone vs. Android green bubble debate, and open up about their experiences losing over 100 lbs with Mounjaro. Watch this episode on YouTube to see our cute outfits! https://youtu.be/tU8d4azX5fI Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: » Alma: There’s no replacement for human connection. Better with people. Better with Alma. Visit helloalma.com/DATEME to get started and schedule a free consultation today. » OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at oneskin.co #oneskinpod » SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. » ZocDoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/DATEME to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:58:09

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Surviving Beergate & Escaping Trans-Chasers (w/ Dylan Mulvaney)

3/14/2025
TikTok sensation Dylan Mulvaney joins Nicole to share what it's like dating after transitioning in the public eye, including handling trans-chasers, dating straight men who don't live up to the hype, and her hot affair with Irish royalty. She opens up about navigating the aftermath of the infamous "BeerGate" controversy, and why being ignored on a gay cruise felt surprisingly affirming. Plus, Nicole shares the time she performed sketch comedy for Dolly Parton. Check out Dylan's new book Paper Doll, available now! WATCH this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/YAo5RvSrznk Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: » Skims: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at skims.com/dateme #skimspartner » Dipsea: Right now, listeners of this show can get an extended 30-day free trial! Just go to DipseaStories.com/DATEME to start your free trial. » BetterHelp: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. » Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:59:15

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Coming Out (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

3/7/2025
Comedian and best friend Sasheer Zamata (SNL, Agatha All Along) opens up to Nicole about her journey coming out, discusses whether it’s lesbian to collect chairs, and the bizarre YouTube dating show Pop The Balloon Or Find Love. She also shares how working on SNL impacted her dating life and discusses how to actually make new friends as an adult. Meanwhile, Nicole reflects on how she thought getting a boyfriend would change everything… and why it really hasn’t. Plus, the truly horrifying story of the time she had sex with a man wearing Vibram shoes. Yuck! WATCH this episode at youtu.be/XTkHzLhi4dw. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Quince: Upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to quince.com/dateme for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order. Panera: Use code TRUELUNCH for 20% off your Panera You Pick Two order on DoorDash. Audience Survey: ​​Go to GUM.FM/DATEME to fill out our audience survey. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:57:44

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How to Pull Rich Men (w/ Robby Hoffman)

2/28/2025
Comedian Robby Hoffman (Host of Too Far) joins Nicole to discuss being 'Jewish school slutty,' how growing up poor gave her the skills to pull rich men, and the best time to sneak away to the bathroom on a date. She shares the story of how she ended up dating a Bachelorette star mid-'exploration,' her golden rule for relationships (one hot, one smart—no exceptions), and the time she was invited to a Juneteenth cookout. WATCH this episode on YouTube at youtu.be/kKrxnRu_zGk Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: Alma: There’s no replacement for human connection. Better with people. Better with Alma. Visit helloalma.com/DATEME to get started and schedule a free consultation today. Dipsea: Right now, listeners of this show can get an extended 30-day free trial! Just go to DipseaStories.com/DATEME to start your free trial. Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme. NordVPN: Get the exclusive NordVPN deal now at nordvpn.com/DATEME Try risk-free with the 30-day money-back guarantee! Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen: The new wellness podcast from Audible. Go to Audible.com/Chrissypodcast and start listening today. Audience Survey: ​​Go to GUM.FM/DATEME to fill out our audience survey. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:54:21

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Proposing is So Weird! (w/ Mo Welch)

2/21/2025
Comedian Mo Welch joins Nicole to share how she met her wife at a lesbian bowling event, the unique “proposal order” they planned for their engagement, and whether height really matters in lesbian relationships. She dives into LA’s tight-knit lesbian scene, questions why society clings to outdated proposal traditions, and pitches her take on improving Love Is Blind. Plus: the story of how she lost her virginity at circus school—with a clown. WATCH this episode on YouTube at: youtu.be/iIE1Acf-y_0 Check out Mo Welch's new special, DAD JOKES, on Hulu. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: SquareSpace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. ZocDoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/DATEME to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at oneskin.co #oneskinpod Skims: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at skims.com/dateme #skimspartner Audience Survey: ​​Go to GUM.FM/DATEME to fill out our audience survey. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:59:41

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How Your Attachment Style Predicts Your Dating Disasters (w/ Dating Coach Sabrina Zohar)

2/14/2025
Happy Valentine's Day! Dating coach Sabrina Zohar joins Nicole for a deep dive into attachment styles and how they shape our love lives. Are you anxiously attached, always seeking reassurance and fearing abandonment? Or are you more avoidant, pulling away when things get too close? Sabrina breaks down the key differences, explaining how both styles stem from a common fear of rejection- and how recognizing your patterns can help you build healthier relationships. They discuss how to stop spiraling, set boundaries, manage emotional dysregulation, and choose self-love over external validation. Plus, Sabrina shares her personal experiences and expert strategies to help you rewire your attachment style and create connections that feel safe, stable, and fulfilling. WATCH this episode at youtu.be/WgrjHKyk57o Learn more about Sabrina Zohar at sabrinazohar.com. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: Arya: Visit arya.fyi and use code DATEME for 15% off today! NordVPN: Get the exclusive NordVPN deal now at nordvpn.com/DATEME Try risk-free with the 30-day money-back guarantee! BetterHelp: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme. DraftKings: New players can play five bucks to get a spin on the mystery wheel for a shot at up to TWO THOUSAND in Casino Credits! Download the app and sign up with code DATEME. Audience Survey: ​​Go to GUM.FM/DATEME to fill out our audience survey. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:04:39

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THE LOST EPISODE (w/ Bobby Moynihan)

2/7/2025
Rescued from a broken time machine, we travel from the past with an unhinged LOST episode of the podcast. Comedian and friend Bobby Moynihan (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss dating on SNL, how he met his wife while teaching improv, and why the TV show LOST played a weirdly huge role in their relationship. He talks about loving being a dad, and what he planned for his dream wedding. Also, we may have gotten way too drunk. Questionable decisions were made. We don't know who the president is yet. Minds were lost. Chaos ensued. A must-listen. Heads up: This episode contains MAJOR LOST spoilers. WATCH this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/KmuyBNbd7nI Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: Arya: Visit arya.fyi and use code DATEME for 15% off today! Quince: Upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to quince.com/dateme for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order. Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Dipsea: Listeners of this show can get an extended 30-day free trial. Just go to DipseaStories.com/DATEME to start your free trial. Audience Survey: ​​Go to GUM.FM/DATEME to fill out our audience survey. This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:08:35

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Dating as a Child Star, Proposing Naked (w/ Josh Peck)

1/31/2025
Comedian and actor Josh Peck (Drake and Josh, Good Guys podcast) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife at a Halloween party, proposing to her while naked, and what it was like to date as a child star. They share their experiences of being fat, how losing weight changed their dating lives, and why the right person just gets you. Plus, Nicole reflects on past relationships… and admits she really misses her fat ass. WATCH this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zTe1yl5Nr-E Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:50:02

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Hygiene Horror Stories: Mud Butt Mishaps (w/ Siobhan Thompson)

1/24/2025
Writer and comedian Siobhan Thompson (Dimension 20, Rick & Morty) joins Nicole to dive into the messy realities of hookup culture—from men leaving skid marks in bed to requesting ass-eating with a muddy butt. They debate whether it’s okay to ghost someone after a one-night stand. Siobhan shares why she had to turn off DM requests from D&D fans, her biggest dating 'icks,' and the differences between dating in London and Los Angeles. Plus, a PSA on why you should NEVER DATE YOUR IMPROV TEACHER. WATCH this episode on YouTube: youtu.be/asu1JrsFkxc. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:01:38

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Matching Your Silly (w/ Eugene Cordero)

1/17/2025
Comedian and actor Eugene Cordero (Loki, The Mandalorian) joins Nicole to discuss having a UCB-involved proposal, his most awkward date, and finding someone that matches your silly. Plus, Nicole shares her attempt to get into anime - for a man. WATCH this episode on YouTube at youtu.be/ffIFVa7Ba0o. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:01:00:21

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Left by my Fiancé, Relationship OCDs (w/ Allison Raskin)

1/10/2025
Author and mental health advocate Allison Raskin joins Nicole to talk about being left by her fiancé, dating with OCD, and how it affects relationships and intimacy. They learn how to make a guy laugh (according to WikiHow), discuss the most heartbreaking celebrity breakups, and explore the collective trauma we’ve experienced post-pandemic. Plus, Nicole gets hit on at Comic-Con. WATCH this episode on YouTube at https://youtu.be/Di9fzkjxMDc. Check out Allison Raskin's books at allisonraskin.com/books. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Follow: YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Duration:00:59:12