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Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.

Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.

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United States

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Maybe Someday is a podcast about deciding whether to have a child in a culture that makes motherhood seem mandatory. Host Sarah Dobson speaks with guests about the personal and political dimensions of motherhood as she comes to terms with deciding not to have kids.

Language:

English


Episodes

Reflection: This is it

12/19/2019
A couple of months ago I went back and listened to the very first episode of this podcast. I wanted to remind myself of what it felt like to be at that starting point 18 months ago, realizing that I’ll never be somebody’s mother. Honestly, I was surprised at how emotional it all was. So today, join me for a final reflection that brings season 2 to a close. And if you’ve been a part of Maybe Someday’s story, thank you. Support the show! Become a patronFollow Maybe Someday on InstagramThis...

Duration:00:05:58

Getting unstuck (with Bianetth Valdez)

12/12/2019
Bianetth Valdez was born and raised in Texas, straddling two cultures. As a Latina, she grew up believing that being a mother was what was expected of her, and she didn’t give it a second thought. But when she turned 25 she started to encounter women who were living fulfilling lives without kids, and she started questioning what she wanted for herself. I loved hearing her unique perspective and think you will, too. Support the show! Become a patronFollow Maybe Someday on InstagramThis...

Duration:00:47:21

Choosing the life you already have (with Kerry Graham)

12/5/2019
Earlier this year Kerry Graham published an article on HuffPost called: No, I Don’t Want To Have Kids And I’m Tired Of Having To Explain Why Not. Kerry reached out to me not long after she published the article, because she had a lot more to say about deciding not to have kids. We talked about how Kerry handled ambivalence about being childfree, and how she decided that she didn’t want to have kids. We also talked about her two big passions, teaching and writing, and how those passions led...

Duration:00:48:07

Should a childfree life be everyone's goal? (with Rosie Tran)

11/21/2019
If you’ve been around here for a while, you’ll know that I’m a big believer in celebrating everyone’s choices, no matter what they are. As long as you’re comfortable with your decision, or comfortable living with the question for a while, I’ll cheer you on. So when Rosie Tran reached out to me to pitch a discussion about why being childfree should be everyone’s goal, I hesitated. My gut reaction was to be really skeptical and uncertain that this was the right kind of conversation for the...

Duration:01:02:37

Looking back on your choices (with Antonia Banewicz)

11/14/2019
When I talk to people who are grappling with the decision not to have a kid, one of the worries I hear most often is about whether they’ll regret the decision when they get older. Will they feel they missed out on something? Who’ll look after them? What will their legacy be? Because most of the conversations I have on this show are with people whose ‘fertility expiration date’ hasn’t yet passed, this isn’t a topic that we’ve covered in much depth. Except ,of course, as a hypothetical. So...

Duration:00:45:01

Surviving combat wounds and infertility (with Casey Jourdan)

9/26/2019
Truly, in my eyes, every single one of my guests is extraordinary. But I have to tell you that Casey Jourdan, my guest this week, is remarkable. At just 17 years old, she enlisted in the military. After graduating high school, she was deployed to Baghdad at the beginning of the Iraq war. Years later, she and her husband went through round after round of IVF. On this episode we discuss surviving combat wounds and infertility. Casey is truly a fighter. If you’re trying to conceive or if...

Duration:01:01:35

Quirkyalone and childfree (with Sasha Cagen)

9/19/2019
In 2004, Sasha Cagen wrote a book called Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, based on a term she’d created to describe people who are comfortable being single but who want to be in a relationship and won’t settle for something (or someone) that doesn’t allow them to be who they truly are. I first found Quirkyalone probably 10 years ago, and like most people who are drawn to Sasha’s book, I felt like someone finally understood me. So having Sasha on the show meant a lot...

Duration:00:49:18

Enthusiastically childfree (with Laura Belgray)

9/12/2019
Laura Belgray (yes, THAT Laura Belgray) has a very happy life without kids. But she spent a long time on the fence deciding whether to have them—she wanted to want kids, but she just didn’t. Laura noticed that there weren’t a lot of examples of women who were living full, rich, happy lives without kids (except for, um, Helen Mirren), which made imagining a happy childfree life a lot harder. (Although Helen Mirren is a pretty great role model tbh) So, Laura ended up becoming her own...

Duration:00:53:35

Childfree for the climate (with Rachael Levasseur)

9/5/2019
I get scared sometimes about the state of the world. No matter which way I turn there’s hate and turmoil and corruption and climate disasters. It makes me think about what it must be like to bring a child into this moment in history. I think about the children in my life who are living through it, and I wonder what their future will look like. I wonder if there will be anything left for them. So, this week on the show I chat with Rachael Levasseur about choosing not to bring a child into a...

Duration:00:52:24

Reflection: How I learned to trust myself

8/29/2019
These last few episodes have got me thinking about listening to your intuition, trusting your gut, and following your own path. I used to believe that I didn’t really have much of a sense of intuition-that all my decisions could be made with logic and deliberation and pro and con lists. But that was a long time ago. And I was dead wrong. This week on the show, I'm sharing how I learned to trust myself. I hope this helps you to trust yourself, too. So that when the decisions comes to...

Duration:00:05:46

Living life to the fullest (with Briena Sash)

8/23/2019
Usually, when people talk about living life to the fullest, they mean having adventures and maximizing every moment for excitement. But I think living life to the fullest actually means having the freedom to go where life asks you to go and letting yourself experience the full range of human emotions—not just the pleasant parts. Join Briena Sash, owner of Wellness Stock Shop, and I this week as we talk about how she lives life to the fullest and how her decision not to have children has...

Duration:01:00:09

Honoring yourself (with Satya Purna)

8/15/2019
Like many of the guests I’ve spoken with this season, Satya Purna knew she didn’t want to have kids. What she did know was that she wanted to be her own boss. So that’s what she set out to do. This was such a rich discussion about honoring yourself and honoring what makes you come alive, following your gut, and thinking critically about the stories you hear—from yourself and from the world around you. Support the show! Become a patronFollow Maybe Someday on InstagramSatya's episode page

Duration:00:50:54

Trusting your intuition (with Melanie Scott)

8/8/2019
Melanie Scott, the Intuitive Business Strategist, is my guest this week. She takes a spiritual and intuitive approach to being childfree by choice (and really, to making any life decisions). I think this is an important topic for us to cover on the show. Over the last year, I have started tuning into my intuition and paying attention to how my thoughts affect my mood and it has truly improved my life. This ended up being such a rich and wonderful conversation about dealing with difficult...

Duration:00:50:13

Reflection: Am I really childfree?

8/1/2019
The focus for this season of the podcast has mostly been on stories about being childfree by choice. I’ve put myself in the childfree by choice camp because I’ve decided not to conceive a child or to raise one. But I always feel a bit uncomfortable talking about being childfree because I don’t know that I am, exactly. But I don’t feel that I have a kid, either. Tune in this week to hear more about my own journey with stepmotherhood. Support the show! Become a patronFollow Maybe Someday on...

Duration:00:05:47

Going all in with your bonus kids (with Patricia Qhobela Jenkins)

7/25/2019
Patricia Qhobela Jenkins always knew she didn’t want to have biological kids. When she met and married her husband, she got two “bonus” kids in their teens. On this episode, Patricia talks about what it was like for her to become a parent to those two kids and to be all in. I very selfishly treated this as an opportunity to get advice from someone who’s been where I am now. If you're a step-parent yourself, I think you'll love this conversation, too. Support the show! Become a patronFollow...

Duration:00:55:48

Defending your childfree life (with Jennifer Rogers)

7/18/2019
Jennifer Rogers never felt that ticking biological clock. So she and her husband (who also doesn’t want kids) decided to focus their love on their four rescue dogs, their nieces and nephews, and their friends’ kids. On this episode, she shares a lot of hard-won wisdom about what it’s like to step outside of the mainstream, what it’s like to challenge the belief of “that’s just the way things are” and really stop to think for a minute about what you want and why you want it. Support the...

Duration:00:48:57

Changing your mind about having kids (with Tia Johnson)

7/11/2019
Tia Johnson grew up spending a lot of time with her grandmother and step-grandfather. When they died, Tia went through a period of deep grief and transformation. Tia’s spiritual journey after the death of her grandparents helped her to redefine herself, her life, and her outlook on having children. Tia used to second guess becoming a mom because of how unsafe the world is. But after a lot of reflection and a lot of talking with people she trusts, she has changed her mind. She’s decided that...

Duration:01:06:40

Reflection: Will I regret not having kids?

7/4/2019
Sarah reflects on the conversations she's had recently about mixed feelings and potential regret around not having kids. Ambivalence doesn't have to mean that you're indecisive. It means that you're thoughtful and introspective about how you want to live your life. Continue the conversation! Become a patron. Follow Maybe Someday on Instagram

Duration:00:22:00

Grappling with ambivalence (with Sara Hopkins)

6/27/2019
Sara Hopkins is ambivalent about having kids. She's decided that she won't have them, but she still struggles with the choice. She wonders why her ambivalence keeps showing up, she wonders what to do about her ticking biological clock, and she wonders whether she might be missing out on "the greatest love of all." In this wide-ranging conversation, Sara and I talk about ambivalence, loss, friendships, intuition, and creativity. Support the show: become a patron Follow Maybe Someday on...

Duration:01:42:25

Facing your fertility expiration date (with Leslie Cason)

6/20/2019
Leslie Cason is getting close to her “fertility expiration date”, as she calls it, but she hasn’t spent a lot of time thinking about it - until now. Our conversation explored ambivalence, grief, legacy, and restlessness towards the end of our fertile years. Leslie is at the point in her life where she feels the clock running out, but she doesn’t want kids badly enough to have them on her own. Still, she struggles with the idea that one day this decision won’t be hers to make. Support the...

Duration:01:19:23