Your Intended Message

You can't do everything but you can do something Episode 217 (Myke is based in New York state) In this conversation with Dr. Myke Merril we explore: About our guest: He has written 28 books to make his wealth of knowledge and insights widely available. Dr. Mike has two mottos of life. One, be constantly curious, learn something about everything, frequently use the expression, tell me more. And to I cannot do everything, but I can do something. So I will do that. Learn more about his book and services https://whydopeopleactthatway.com/ ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Dr. Myke Merrill: Tell us a little bit about what is this thing that we call reality? That is a tremendous philosophical question. But it's also a biological question. How a person how every human being perceives the reality in which they are personally immersed, there isn't a reality of what's happening and some star somewhere 400 light years away. The reality is, that's not a part of our reality. But when I'm driving along, and somebody cuts me off, that is part of my reality. And the question then is, how do I perceive that moment? Is that an aggressive moment? Or do I have compassion in that moment? Is it somebody who just wet their pants and are trying to get to a bathroom really badly? And they're not thinking about anything else? Or did they just get fired from work? And they're pretty much at the end of their rope. I mean, I don't know what's going on. But my reality is the journey I'm on. ----- But a starting point is it's either a reaction or a response. A reaction is unplanned, spontaneous, and usually less or uncontrolled. A response is reasonable, mature, experienced, and and has a plan. They're both emotional. They're both emotion, emotion is both sides. But if you have a reaction, can you shift that to a response? Can you say, I know I just gave you the finger because you pulled in front of me. Let me back that up just a little bit. Because I'd like to take a different course here, or you're in an argument with your your management team and your business. And some new startup comes in with some wild idea. And you immediately trashed the person, not the idea. And to be able to that was my reaction, and to be able to say, I just reacted there, and I don't want to do that. Let me pull that back. And let me respond, not react. Both of those are emotional, both are intense. loads, it really matters what we're talking about here. But I'm going to respond instead of react. So emotion for me became either the reaction or the response, linking my perceptions to my motivations, and their interactive. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.

12 Secrets from David Copperfield to help your Business In this episode, your host, George Torok reveals these secrets that he learned while assisting David Copperfield on stage at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas. George Torok helps executives deliver their high value presentation more effectively. Naturally he studies other presenters and performers to learn from their techniques and styles. He observed David Copperfield up close and uncovered these gems in his performance that apply to business communication. ----- Excerpts from this podcast David Copperfield - live at the MGM Grand Hotel Las Vegas! You might be fascinated to know what I discovered behind the curtain. I was lucky enough to assist him with one segment of his show. Of course I was sworn to secrecy and cannot reveal the magic behind that trick. Watching a master at work inspired me to do more than just watch - to observe and learn. I can reveal to you the secrets of David Copperfield that you can apply to your business. What are those 12 Secrets? There is no magic Illusion is more powerful than reality People believe what they want The audience is always right Preparation is everything Prepare for the unexpected Believe in people Offer them hope Make it fun Be vulnerable Don't be seduced by technology You don't need a cape. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

10 Lessons to launch your product on KickStarter Episode 215 (Aurora is based in Vancouver, Canada) In this conversation with Aurora Winter we we explore: About our guest and offer: To participate in the book launch, visit this site before July 16, 20224 https://magicmysteryandthemultiverse.com/ After this date, you can still visit this url for the latest on this series of fantasy books from Aurora Winter. ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Aurora Winter: The quick summary on Kickstarter is that it is it is a crowd funding platform that is specifically oriented for supporting the creation of new products. So that would include books, but it also could include a backpack or a watch or a new kind of jacket or glasses, and or jewelry. So many creators have fun or even a film, many creators have funded their project on Kickstarter. Kickstarter is distinct from other crowdfunding platforms. It's not like a GoFundMe, it's not please, please, please, I need money, it's more, I have this exciting idea. It's so wonderful. And I would really like to give you the opportunity exclusively to get this hot off the press before it's available to the general public. And usually, you will also get something different and distinct from what is available for the general public. So people who like first editions, people who want signed editions or they want something collectors, Kickstarter is really great for that. And one more thing I learned about Kickstarter, and I've a number of things to share. But one other thing that people might like to know is Kickstarter is your first stop, it doesn't take away from selling your product on Amazon or wherever you might sell it. But if you go to Kickstarter, first, you offer that exclusive window, and you don't have to ship the following day. So you can use the funds to create your movie, or to finish, you know, your design of the book cover. In my case, my book is already done. So that wasn't the case. But Kickstarter does give you the opportunity for a little window of time to finish your creative project. Like my son did a video game on Kickstarter. So it's something and it's something that's, I think, really exciting and fun, because you get to meet the creators. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Leadership lessons from dog training How can you lead your team like training a dog Episode 214 (Brady is based in Austin, Texas) In this conversation with Brady Foulk we explore: About our guest, Brady Foulk: A passionate and knowledgeable dog trainer whose expertise transcends conventional boundaries. With a rich tapestry of experience and certifications in Dog training, Lifestyle Coaching, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and ABA therapy. Brady, at 29, has dedicated the last 6 years of his life to crafting the perfect canine companions. Whether it's honing the skills of service dogs or instilling a sense of calm and security in emotional support animals, Brady's holistic approach resonates deeply with every furry friend and their loving owners, fostering a harmonious and enriching bond. ----- Join the dog training community. https://www.newdirectiondogtraining.com/free-community1 ----- It's not about giving your people dog treats. It's more about understanding their perspective and seeking to direct their behavior. ----- And I want your audience to know if you have a dog, you're in the right place. We're going to talk about some dog training tips and tricks, I got lots to share. And yeah, if you don't have a dog, I want you to know, you're also in the right place. We're gonna talk about effective, elegant leadership, we're gonna talk about how it applies to your business and how it applies to your life. ----- And so let's address the issue of punishment. Yeah. When does punishment fit and what are relevant punishments do we do we take a rolled up newspaper and hit the dog on the nose? Yeah, I don't believe in physical punishments. I feel like there's we've evolved to a point where we can communicate more effectively. It's like it's not appropriate for me to hit you. If I get mad at you. I have to figure out how to communicate to you to work with you. And most of the time, you probably don't feel heard. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Advance your career success with better communication skills Simple steps to become an effective communicator Episode 213 (Ty is based in Toronto, Canada) In this conversation with Ty Hoesgen, we explore: About our guest, Ty Hoesgen: Ty Hoesgen grew up as a shy, awkward farm kid near a town of 800 people. He's the author of "Elite Communication Skills". You can take the free course, "Speak like a Confident Leader in 7 Days: at https://howtospeakbetter.com/ Follow at https://www.instagram.com/tyhoesgen/ Connect at https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyhoesgen/ ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Ty Hoesgen: There's a famous scene from the show The Office, if any of your listeners have seen the office, and it's Michael Scott, who is the head boss there, and he says, Sometimes I just start a sentence. And I don't really know where it's going. But I just hope I find it along the way. And that's what a lot of people seem to do, especially in the corporate world, when it matters the most, to be clear, to have people understand, to be persuasive to be powerful. And so one of the biggest mistakes is just having no structure, no organization, in the way that you are explaining something, you're just rolling the dice and hoping for the best when you open your mouth. ----- So how can someone better structure their message? This is something that should absolutely be taught in schools structuring your message. So first, what is your intended message? This is something that you should know, before you start speaking. I teach a framework that a lot of my clients find very easy, and they find it very useful. It's called the PRP framework. So it's point. Reason. Point. It's very simple. If you get asked a question, you start with your main point first. So your intended message first, what's really the main thing you want them to know? Then the reasons so why do you think this? Where did this point come from? Why do you believe this? And so you give your reasons for that. And then because people tend to hear and remember the things that they hear first, and the things that they hear last the most. Whereas you want to restate our point at the end, because we want the last thing they hear to be that main message. So we've got our point, first, than our reason or reasons. And we restate it with a point at the end, the Restatement at the end, very underrated and necessary. Because if you ever been in a situation where the conversation just kind of gets off track, sometimes that's because somebody has ended their point with something that's a little bit off. And people respond to whatever they hear most recently. So if we restate the main point, at the end, it's a lot less likely those conversations are going to get off track. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Helping managers become executive leaders Leading is different from managing Episode 212 (Vanessa is based in Toronto, Canada) In this conversation with Vanessa Judelman we explore: About our guest, Vanessa Judelman: Vanessa is a leadership consultant and executive coach. Over the past 20 years she has trained and coached thousands of people across the globe in organizations including Campbells Soup, HelloFresh, the SickKids Foundation and the Four Seasons Hotels and Resorts. Learn more about her book "Mastering Leadership: What it Takes to Lead in Today's Fast Paced World" at: www.mosaicpd.com ------ Excerpts from this conversation with Vanessa Yudelman: And I just want to develop the muscle of listening because I it's not something that we were taught at school. ----- I always tell leaders, first of all, think about your intention for the meeting. Why do you want to meet with them? Is it an accountability meeting where you want to make sure they're, they're moving their goals forward? Is it a coaching meeting, where this is someone who's new, and you want to develop them? Like, what's the purpose? So that's the first place to start is, so I would recommend you identify the purpose, then share it with your team? You know, a lot of leaders think that just because they're a leader, they have to have all the answers. And I always say that's not true. You, as a leader need to have the questions. You don't necessarily need to have the answers. So say to your team, hey, you know, I really feel like I'm not getting you're new to the team and not giving you enough time to develop your skill in this area. And so I was thinking we could do a one on one. Would that be helpful for you? Again, check in? Oh, yeah, that'd be great. Okay, let's do the agenda together. Here's what I was thinking. I was thinking, like, I always asked, you know, what the suggestion I was thinking we could talk about, you know, this certain skill, what did you do to work on the skill last week? What are some of your gaps, what support you need for me? Right. And so again, it's a lot of questions. And by giving them the agenda in advance, people know what to expect, and they can prepare for the meeting. So they know, every Monday, you know, my leader is going to ask me what I did to work on the skill last week, and where I'm still feeling stuck. So you can either Yeah, so those are a couple of suggestions to get those meetings started. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

How to improve your thinking skills regardless of your strengths Strengths and opportunities for ADHD entrepreneurs Episode 211 (ST is based in Florida) In this conversation with ST Rappaport we explore: About our guest, St Rappaport: Been studying how the brain thinks (& what we can do to improve it) since the age of 11 Always looking to solve the root cause of any issue (instead of just putting on a band aid) Absolutely love learning but not school. Dropped out of school at 16 ST Rappaport Helping ADHD entrepreneurs optimize their brain so growing their business is easier. Grab your copy of Your Essential Guide to Cognitive Functions Free Thinking Skills Assessment: www.lifepixuniversity.com/brain ----- Excerpts from this conversation with ST Rappaport: I think that people with ADHD are the real movers and shakers of this world. Anyone who's done anything really big in this world, most definitely has ADHD. And I just love being around such people. ----- And sometimes it's a good idea not to consider all the details, because if you did, it would overwhelm you and scare you. ----- Do you believe that people can multitask? No. What we do is we task switch. Yes, we are switching tasks really, really quickly from tasks that is includes if you have ADHD, and a lot of people think they have ADHD, and they can multitask really well. But if you observe yourself, what you're actually doing is you're switching from task to task really, really quickly. only exception to this is when you're doing a task that doesn't require brainpower. Then let's say for example, if you're driving driving down the highway, 60 miles an hour, and it's like, just not thinking and you have a podcast playing, you could still be listening to your intended message, right? You're still listening to the podcast. However, if out of nowhere, a car comes and cuts you off. Or all of a sudden, like there's a bike that like a pedestrian or something that you think you weren't expecting those few seconds to settle and stop and you were focused on the road, You're more focused on the road, your brain didn't hear what was in that podcast, you will literally if you want to hear what was said, we'll have to go back there a couple of seconds to hear it because your brain was shut off. So you can multitask until one of the things don't need brain power. ----- You want to make sure you are always, always always always doing new and challenging tasks. If you want to keep your brain young, you want to do new and challenging, not just new and not just challenging, but those two together, those are the best way for you to keep your brain young and provide any of the elderly diseases that none of us want related to the brain. ------- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Communication secrets from magic and hypnotism How to better connect with people you don't know yet Episode 210 (David is based in Boston) In this conversation with David Reich we explore: About our guest, David Reich: David has had a successful career as a technology and thought leader, and combines that with his passion and talent as a magician, mentalist and stage hypnotist, to create unique experiences of Entertainment, Education and Enlightenment. David discovered how the principles of a mystery performer can be used to become an overall better communicator, and more specifically, he has developed the Tactical Communication Method. Learn mor about David Reich and his services at his website https://davidreich.com/ Get your free copy of the Seven Tools of Tactical Communication https://davidreich.com/tacticalcommunication/ ----- Excerpts from this conversation with David Reich: Action Items ----- The biggest key really is observation. We have to look at other people, we have messages, we have things we want to say, we want to sell an idea, we want to convey a joke, we want to tell. And we have to not only know what we want to say, but how it's landing. And that's actually how I came up with this whole tactical communication method. Because as a magician as a mentalist, as you're going through your performance and your communication, you need to see how things are landing where people's eyes are. And if it's working, and if it's not. And then and this, this takes a bit of practice, okay, can't do it overnight, just like anything good requires a bit of practice. But you can start to tailor your message and tailor how you're communicating real time on the fly, to make your message resonate. And that's how you get people to want to hear what you have to say. ----- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. ----more---- Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

How to promote your business with video What are your video choices? Episode 209 (Mark is based in Austin, Texas) In this conversation with Mark Wonderlin we explore: About our guest, Mark Wonderlin: Mark is owner of Mosaic Media Films, the highest-rated video company in Austin Texas. His team creates cinematic business videos with marketing in mind. He loves to travel and much as he loves creating video content. ----- You can access the free video resources at his site https://mosaicmediafilms.com/resources/ ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Mark Wonderlin: What kind of videos should they be producing at first? Where do you start that? So most of the time, when clients are looking for video from us, they're looking for typically what's called a business promo video. And that's usually where we try to steer them. So the conversation that we have about video is a little bit different than most other production companies out there. I really want to understand what are you doing for marketing? what's working, what's not working? What is the problem we're trying to solve that this type of video or other types of videos will help solve in your marketing strategy. So sometimes it's a promo video, sometimes it's a case story, or testimonial video, sometimes it's a series of videos that work in your funnel to increase trust and credibility. So we really try to understand what is the problem that they have? And how can video what type of video will work, or what series of videos will really help them. The two most popular videos that we do is what's called a business promo video. Some people call it a company video, some people call it a Brand Story Video, it's essentially a two minute video that tells the story about what you do, and what makes you uniquely different. And I say tells the story about you very lightly, because I often have to explain to clients that it's not really a story about you, as much as is a story about your customers journey. So it's really about what is the problem or the pain that your customer has? How could you uniquely solve that? And what does their life look like, once you've worked with them. And that's really what you want to do. Because However, people are seeking you out with your primary marketing objectives, whether it's SEO, or pay per click or social, when they come into your business or brand, they essentially are acknowledging that they have a problem. And they want to make sure that you can kind of solve that problem. They're there's a story that they're already playing in their head, and they want someone that's gonna help change and transform that story, whether it's in the form of a product for a result that they want, or a service, or an objective that they're trying to achieve in their life, whether it's their business, or personally. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

If you had to choose between feeling confident or appearing confident what would you choose? Listen in to discover the answer and why it is important to you. In this solo show George offers you a whole body. mind and soul experience to enhance your confidence. Insights from this episode about feeling and appearing confidence when you speak in public. These quotes from your episode were generated by Headliner AI. If you enjoy them please tell other podcasters by giving a shoutout to https://headliner.app in your episode ✨ --- 🗣️ Quotes from George Torok "How can you be more confident when it's your turn to speak?" "It's more important that you appear confident." "The audience doesn't need to know what's going on in your head or in your body." "Clarify your purpose by asking yourself this three-part question: As a result of this presentation, what do you want people to think, feel, or do?" "Don't read it, know it, and then deliver it." "Remember to breathe." "When you smile, you are more attractive." "Believe in yourself and your ability." "Your message has value." --- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Everything begins with a conversation A solid conversation starts with trust Episode 207 ( Mary is based in Minnesota) In this conversation with Mary Schmid we explore: About our guest, Mary Schmid: Mary Schmid, MBA, has expertise in trust-based conversations. As the author of “Make or Break Conversations,” she offers valuable insights rooted in neuroscience. With her deep understanding of evidence-based neuroscience, Mary delivers transformative programs that elevate good conversation to trust building interactions. Mary’s unique ability lies in translating scientific knowledge into practical, actionable steps that you can apply in your next conversation, ensuring others feel heard, seen, and valued. ----- Connect with Mary on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryschmid/ Learn more about her services at the website https://maryschmid.com/ ----- Highlights from this conversation with Mary Schmid: Practice active listening skills like paraphrasing, asking open questions, and summarizing to build understanding. Slow down conversations and take time to discover other perspectives before deciding on solutions. Prepare for difficult conversations by getting clarity on the purpose and considering different perspectives. Use plain language instead of jargon to be understood and build connection. Get to know team members personally before instituting changes as a new leader. ----- Exactly. And what really happened in the brain before those good feelings, feeling in sync is that something happened in that conversation, who knows what it is, it's verbal, it's nonverbal is a feeling or a memory that you've had talking to a person perhaps like this person that was good, it just felt good. What really happened is your brain sensed respect, safety. And all of a sudden, it opened up. So what happened is when your brain senses this respect, and safety and going back and forth, talking with each other, there's a chemical release called oxytocin. And oxytocin opens up the prefrontal cortex, the smart part of our brain, the executive part of our brain that's responsible for innovation, problem solving, connection, cost, and it feels like a good conversation. But what happens preceding that feeling like it was a good conversation was this invisible chemical reaction that happens in your brain, and my brain and the brain of all humans. ----- There's three levels of conversation, and one is not better than the other. That's what people immediately think like, Oh, my God, I know that we need to understand the three levels, and how we can use them and how they impact the people so that our intended message reaches the people rather than go astray. So the first level of conversation is what I call an informational conversation. We use it all day long. In our life, you ask a question, I give an answer. Here's, where's the meeting? What time is this? What's where do we go for that? Question? Answer? That's fine. Sometimes that's all we need is to get the question answered, and get the information. However, when we're in conversations, when we're in meetings with other people, I think we need we may need more than just a question and answer to build trust. Because data, information, logic does not build trust. So we're in a meeting, perhaps, and we ask a few questions, you know, we're not totally blind to other people. So we ask a few questions. And what our brain does is it automatically says, Oh, I know the answer. I'm going to tell them. So with a few pieces of information, a little bit of data, lickety split, away we go, we talk to people and tell people what to do based on a limited amount of information. And we think that's going to do the trick. We're thinking that we're being helpful, but we're really not we're shutting them down. And so we not only tell them what to do, we are really helpful, George, and we're going to tell them how they need to do it. ------ ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast...

How to Turn Words into Wealth How to meet the needs of your three brain barriers Episode 206 (Aurora is based in Vancouver) In this conversation with Aurora Winter we explore: About our guest, Aurora Winter: She's the award winning Best Selling Author of half a dozen books, including Turn Words into Wealth, A blueprint for your business brand and book to create multiple streams of income and impact Aurora learned how to reinvent herself and her life the hard way, when her 33 year old husband died suddenly leaving her widowed with a four year old son. She later learned how to master reinvention and pivoting and has launched three different businesses in different industries, which grew each to over seven figures. Learn more about Aurora and her services at: https://www.aurorawinter.com/ Check out her latest fiction books at MagicMysteryAndtheMultiverse.com ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Aurora Winter "It's our heart that provides the meaning and purpose and the values." "The right words in the right sequence, to the right audience, can change your mind, can change your business, can change your wealth in 20 minutes or less." "Human beings survived over the millennia by being cautious about where they want to expend calories or expend fat. The brain uses a lot of fat to process information." "We buy with emotion, we take action with emotion, either something we want to move toward or something we want to move away from." "People love to be a part of something that's bigger than themselves. People are hungry for meaning and purpose." ----- In the world of communication, the difference between a missed opportunity and a life-changing conversation can be as simple as choosing the right words. This week's podcast episode features Aurora Winter, a master of reinvention and a beacon of wisdom on how to leverage language for success. Aurora's journey is nothing short of inspiring. From the tragic loss of her husband to building million-dollar businesses, her experiences have culminated in a profound understanding of how to craft messages that resonate. In our conversation, Aurora delves into the neuroscience of communication, explaining how the brain processes information and why this matters for anyone looking to make an impact. With her book, "Turn Words into Wealth," Aurora provides a blueprint for those seeking to create influence and generate income through effective communication. She emphasizes the importance of addressing the 'croc brain' with a compelling hook, engaging the social 'midbrain', and finally, satisfying the intellectual 'cerebral cortex' with the substance of your message. But it's not just about the science. Aurora's approach is deeply rooted in the heart. She believes that numbers can't provide meaning and purpose—our values and passion do. Her insights on the emotional and social triggers that drive human behavior are invaluable for anyone from entrepreneurs to leaders to aspiring professionals. Listeners will find themselves armed with actionable tips, from crafting attention-grabbing titles to framing their offerings in a way that adds value and builds trust. Aurora's advice is a testament to the power of generosity and authenticity in building a brand and a legacy. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to elevate their communication game. Whether you're pitching a business idea, writing a book, or simply looking to connect more deeply with others, Aurora's guidance will help you turn your words into a wealth of opportunities. So, if you're eager to learn how to articulate your mission, convey your value, and truly connect with your audience, tune in to this enlightening conversation. It's time to transform your words into a tool for unparalleled success. Listen to the full episode now and join the ranks of those who know that the right message, delivered the right way, can indeed change the world. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about...

Why did Forbes call Geoff Ramm a Game Changer? Why the extra mile and exceeding expectations is not enough Episode 205 (Geoff is based in north east England) In this this conversation with Geoff Ramm we explore: About Our Guest Geoff Ramm: Forbes stated "Geoff Ramm is a Game Changer in the world of customer service". He is the author of two books, Celebrity Service and Celebrity Service Super Stars. He has delivered his message to audiences in 50 countries. Learn more about his books and service at https://www.geofframm.com/ ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Geoff Ramm: For anybody listening, I've got my hand up quite high, Jeff, we're pretty good. But there's always room for improvement. And I will challenge the audience and say, Where does that improvement come from? Because if you go the extra mile and exceed expectations, those are the words that your competition are talking about right now. And I said, in six months time, you'll have all got, you know, an extra mile further forward. But it's hardly the LEAP you could make unless you change your mindset. And you change your mindset with one question. And that question is a philosophy. It's a philosophy that I've wrote about, that I speak about all over the world. It's the philosophy that every audience, every team, every brand gets within seconds. And this is what I hope Forbes may have just seen in me. So as you write, how do you go from a seven to an eight to a nine to a 10? And beyond? It's this one question if your next customer, client, passenger member, guest, we're an A list, celebrity, Hollywood, God, or goddess, if your next client were Taylor Swift, George Clooney, Denzel Washington, what would you say? What would you do? How would you react? What would be the difference in the way that you would treat them? ----- But what I have George on screen, and you've seen this many times, when we've spoken internationally together, I show pictures of my daughter, and her love for coloring in and an art. And so I show these photographs of when she was little coloring in and so the audience can see what my dog, they know her name, they know what she loves. But now they can see her. And that connection to the audience is very, very strong. But I'm telling the story of this experience in a toy shop. But I see the funny and I see the quirky and all of the stories that I tell. And it was a beautiful piece of selling, it was a beautiful piece of customer experience. But it was all about personalization, which I talk a lot about, because people talk about personalization. But I don't see many examples. So when I deliver my stories, they're packed full of examples. But hopefully, there's some key tips and learnings from that that a business can go. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Write email that gets you the results you want. Avoid sending email that shows up in the news, or in court Episode 204 (repeat of #134, Liz is based in L.A.) Listen to this conversation with Liz Danziger before you send that toxic email and save yourself grief. About Liz Danziger: Liz is the author of four books published by major publishers including business writing guide, Get to the Point! She is also a columnist on Inc.com She has decades of experience in helping teams to write clearly and confidently. Her goal is to empower people to wield the power of words to create success. To receive her monthly writing tips called Writamins visit www,WorkTalk.com At the same site you can get your copy of Ten Tips for Communicating Effectively in a Fast-Paced World. You can arrange a complimentary 30-minute call to explore communication issues in your organization. Select a time on her calendar https://calendly.com/worktalk ------ Excerpts from this conversation with Liz Danziger: Mistakes that right off the bat, you could say, okay, stop doing this, this and this, and people's writing will dramatically improve? Yes, one thing is that they could know their purpose before they start and know their point before they start. My view is that most writing problems happen before a person starts to write. They happen in the thinking phase when people don't think about their purpose. And that's why I'm so pleased to be on this podcast, your intended message, because that's exactly what the worktop trainings are about is having people be clear on their intentions, and then target their readers. And so the first thing is to know your purpose and your point. The second thing would be to think about your reader it astonishes me sometimes, how people will just sit down and they're just tap it, tap it tap, but they're writing away. And then if I stopped them in coaching or in training, and I asked them, so what do you think your readers interested in? And they're like, oh, that's an interesting question. So they need to think about the reader and they need to use clear language. And the last thing I will say is, people have to reread before they send. It's a common common error that people just tap it tap and send without proofreading. And they live to bear the consequences.

Do you have copycat competitors? Does your message sound and look like everyone else? Episode 203 (Daniel is based in Florida) In this conversation with Daniel Den we explore: About our guest Daniel Den: Daniel became fascinated with marketing and sales almost two decades ago. Today he is the co-creator of the X Factor Effect methodology where he and his team have helped over 20,000 students and clients grow their businesses. Daniel teaches that “Different is the new Better” and his framework includes nine pillars for differentiating your business so that you can become a market leader or category king or queen. Daniel Den is the author of the new book "Ideas That Influence," that was built to help business owners discover their own WILDLY SUCCESSFUL MARKETING IDEAS! ----- Get your Big Ideas Box at https://www.bigideasbox.com/free-box-ideas-that-influence ----- Excerpts from this conversation with Daniel Den: If we are doing things exactly like our competition, then we end up becoming the average of our competition and the average competition goes out of business within about five years. ----- And what we discovered is that if we take one big difference, but then stack that with another big difference, and then stack that with two or three big differences, additional differences, then you can get to the point where you become such a unicorn in your market, where the barrier of copy ability is just too high. And where it would be laughable if somebody decided to copy you, after you had implemented all of those differences. And so amongst the nine different pillars that we've come up with, we help people become drastically different to the point where they are a unicorn inside of their market, where they can quickly become a market leader, or a category king or category queen. And that makes all the difference that makes all the difference. ----- We call it joining the age of experience. And the age of experience, what we've found, George, is that we all have enough stuff. We all are blessed. Today, we all have lots of stuff. mass produced, we can pretty much get access to anything. And in today's world, stuff is not what people want anymore. What people want more, is a great experience, and they're willing to spend their disposable income on a great experience. ----- Any damn fool can put on a deal. But it takes genius, faith and perseverance to create a brand. Dan Ogilvy, ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Make PowerPoint Enhance Your Presentation Don't be a PowerPoint Fool Episode 202 (Ellen is based in Iowa) In this conversation with Ellen Finkelstein we explore: About our Guest Ellen Finkelstein: She's a PowerPoint MVP and has been one since 2010. That's a Microsoft award and it stands for Most Valuable Professional. There are only 18 in the United States. Ellen has been training and writing about PowerPoint since before 1999, including several books (written quite a while ago) and her PowerPoint Tip blog. She isn't a designer so she loves to help non-designers create great PowerPoint slides that communicate clearly, command attention, and help the audience understand and remember the message. ----- The Techniques that Will Make Designing Your Slides EASY!" https://www.ellenfinkelstein.com/pptblog/getstarted/ ----- And so that's what how you have to write the content. And I do recommend doing that outside of PowerPoint and it's thinking about what you're saying. So number two, I'll just go really quickly on the slide poor but everybody knows what death by PowerPoint is there's just lots and lots of text on a slide, slide after slide of text. There's a fair amount of research that shows that we can't listen and look at the same time. That research is why there are some states that have laws against even being on the phone while you're you're listening to someone and talking to somebody while you're driving. Okay, because you can't really listen and see at the same time, probably what the person is saying on the phone is a lot more interesting than what's in front of you. So when you put up a slide with a lot of text, people start to read it, we're more visual, the part of the brain that that takes in visual information is much bigger than the part that takes an auditory information. People read it, but they can read faster than you could speak. So they read ahead of you, they're not listening. And then when they're finished, they go back to listening to you. And they see that, oh, I've already read that. So why should I pay attention to the speaker? ----- That image should help people understand and remember what you are saying. ----- I mentioned that presenters screen which functions a little bit like a teleprompter, and so the audience doesn't see it, you see your notes that you've put in the Text Pane, but they just see the slides. ----- Never make text move. So don't make text fly in or fly up. It's almost always annoying to the audience. Because as the text is flying in, they see it and trying to read it, but it's moving. It gives people a headache. It's not nice to the audience to do that. So I would say I almost always use either appear or fade, if I'm using it on text, you know, it doesn't move at all. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

How to use Three-Box Storytelling to build Relationships A simple method to frame and tell your stories Episode 201 (Repeat of #68) At the time of this interview, Graham Brown was based in Singapore Highlights from this conversation about storytelling The Heart as an Analogy (00:00:00) An analogy for the heart as a symbol of music, love, and relationships. Introduction of Graham Brown (00:01:22) Overview of Graham Brown's background and achievements. Introduction to Three Box Storytelling Technique (00:02:45) Explanation of the three-box storytelling technique and its application in business communication and sales presentations. Three Scenes of a Story (00:04:03) Explanation of the three scenes in a story using the example of "A Christmas Carol." Application of Three Box Technique in Sales Presentation (00:06:07) Demonstration of how a business leader can use the three-box technique in a sales presentation. Transformation and Crossing the River (00:10:44) Discussion on the transformation journey in storytelling and the symbolism of crossing the river as a challenge. Importance of Trust in Storytelling (00:12:22) The significance of establishing trust through commonality and backstory in storytelling. Power of Analogies in Communication (00:14:52) Exploration of analogies as short form stories and their effectiveness in communicating unfamiliar concepts. Creating Familiar Territory in Communication (00:20:04) Emphasizing the importance of finding familiar territory in introducing new ideas or technologies. Behavior Change and Familiarity (00:21:48) Highlighting the role of familiarity in facilitating behavior change and acceptance of new concepts. The familiarity part (00:22:56) Neuropsychological studies show the brain can't distinguish between past, present, and future, making familiarity crucial in storytelling. Archetypes and plot lines (00:24:42) Joseph Campbell's hero's journey and the use of existing archetypes and plot lines in storytelling. Podcast guesting agency (00:27:03) Graham Brown's agency, Podcast Guesting Pro, helps people get booked on podcasts and navigate the process. Effective use of stories in sales presentations (00:29:52) Maya Angelou's advice on making people feel something, using the power of the backstory, and the importance of practice in storytelling. ---- Podcast Guesting Pro is a dedicated Podcast Booking Agency that works with B2B thought leaders. They help you reach new audiences and build your authority by booking you on podcasts to showcase your expertise and spread your message. Learn more here... https://www.podcastguesting.pro/ ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

Why is listening a life saving skill in nature Let's learn communication skills from the elephants In this enlightening episode, host George Torok chats with leadership consultant and coach, Hugh Coppen. Episode #200 (Repeat of #57) When he's not on safari in Zimbabwe, Hugh lives in California. Coming from a Zimbabwean farm, Coppen has a deep-seated love for wildlife. Now, as a leadership consultant, he channels his passion into valuable lessons for CEOs worldwide. His company, Tasimba, provides immersive safari experiences in Zimbabwe, creating a unique environment for personal and professional growth. In this discussion, Coppin draws fascinating parallels between wild animal communication (especially elephants) and how we as humans can use similar communication methods. From understanding body language to acknowledging the power of silence, we explore lessons from the wild that can enhance our effectiveness in communication. We delve deeper into 'listening' - not just to spoken words, but to non-verbal cues and our surrounding environment. Given their lack of speech, wild animals embrace body language and other communication modes that are insightful to us. Coppen uses practical examples from the animal kingdom, like the positioning of an elephant's head or a flapping of the ears, to underline the importance of body language in effective communication and building listeners’ trust. This episode, combining adventurous storytelling with critical leadership insights, is a must-listen for professionals looking to enhance their communication skills or anybody interested in learning from nature. We also look at advanced communication skills in wilderness creatures like Rams and impalas,, especially during their mating seasons. These creatures have evolved complex vocalization methods and an astounding sense of sound, facilitating communication across great distances, safeguarding them from predators. Another point of discussion is the intricate sub-aural communication method elephant families use. These communications, mostly unheard by humans and predators, help elephants coordinate complicated activities and respect for each other. The example of Cape buffalo herds coming together in large numbers during scarce resources is another humbling lesson to humanity. Finally, we examine the immersive safari tours in Zimbabwe hosted by Tasimba. These tours provide a unique opportunity to understand nature’s wonders more deeply and learn valuable lessons about living harmoniously with nature. Many guests return with a renewed commitment to conserve wildlife and their habitats following these transformative experiences. Consider the perspective of how observing wilderness communication can provide profound insights into better communication, collective living, and harmonizing with nature's wisdom. ----- Enjoy the beautiful wilderness photos here. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/

You can calm that angry person in 90 seconds or less Treat anger as a normal emotional response that you can control Episode 199 (Doug is based in California and this is a repeat of episode 117) Why you need to listen to this episode now. If you ever need to face angry people and want a better way to manage the situation, listen to this conversation to save the situation and relationship. If you ever feel out of control from your own anger, examine this perspective to maintain your dignity while deescalating the situation. ----- George Torok and special guest, Doug Knoll - an attorney turned peacemaker - explore the nuanced world of anger and its impact on both personal and professional environments. Focusing on de-escalation strategies and the key role of active listening, this podcast sheds light on how to manage one's emotions, particularly anger, in challenging situations. Knoll provides a unique perspective on anger, viewing it as a response to boundary violations rather than labeling it as “good” or “bad”. His de-escalation strategies have found success in the most unlikely of places, including maximum-security prisons, attesting to their effectiveness. The takeaways from this episode can help leaders better understand their team's emotions, promote effective conflict resolution, and ensure a healthier, more empathetic workspace. The podcast dives deep into the concept of triggers and their role in hijacking rationality, offering effective tactics to anticipate, understand, and respond to these emotional triggers. The importance of self-awareness and self-regulation are highlighted, along with a novel approach to redirect the frustration caused by commonly-encountered triggers. Transitioning into the more sensitive realm of emotional invalidation, the episode examines its harmful effects in personal and professional relationships. The discussion is geared towards parents, teachers, team leaders, and anyone looking to foster emotional safety and create deeper, healthier relationships. The importance of emotional validation is underpinned, coupled with practical techniques to effectively validate and address emotions. Notably, this episode not only offers intellectual paths to managing anger but also guidance for those grappling with pervasive anger issues stemming from trauma. Prepare to be drawn into a riveting conversation about controlling anger for personal growth and professional success as you tune into this podcast. ----- About Doug Noll Doug Noll is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker. In addition to his law degree, he has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies. In 2000, he left a successful law practice as a civil trial lawyer to help people resolve conflicts without litigation or conflict. Doug was born nearly blind, partially deaf, and with two clubbed feet. His disabilities were challenging to overcome….and he did He’s a second-degree black belt and tai chi master, a certified ski instructor, an airplane and helicopter pilot, a white-water river rafter, and a jazz violinist. Doug teaches people how to de-escalate angry people in 90 seconds or less. His fourth book, an Amazon bestseller, is called De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug has online video courses and provides workshops and coaching to individuals and organizations desiring to increase their emotional competency. As a listener of Your Intended Message you are entitled to receive a free book, How to Listen Others into Existence. Learn more Doug Noll here https://dougnoll.com/ ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations,...

The Magic Words to Motivate, Engage & Influence Seven simple words to boost the power of your message Episode 198 (Tim is based in Boston) In this conversation with Tim David we explore: About our Guest Tim David: Tim is the author of several books, including, "Magic Words: The Science and Secrets Behind 7 Words that Motivate, Engage and Influence". A CNN piece listed him as the 9th best motivational speaker in the world. For 8 years, he was a professional magician touring and delivering up to 300 shows a year. Learn more about his latest book here: Magic Words: The Science and Secrets Behind 7 Words that Motivate, Engage and Influence ----- Excerpts from this Conversation with Tim David: The thing that magicians really focus on is the other person's perspective. And if you think about it, a magician is going to practice for hours in front of a mirror so that we can see what you see, we're going to video record ourselves, we're going to hire coaches to sit in different seats of the theatre, so that we know exactly what each audience member is experiencing. In fact, there's a phrase that magicians tell each other all the time when they're critiquing each other. And the phrase is, watch your angles. ----- One of my speaking coaches said to me, I need you to pretend that half of your audience is blind, and half of your audience is deaf. That way you can cater your audio and you can cater your visual messages and treat each one independently. ----- The seven words are yes, but if because, help, thanks, and a person's name, and a person's name. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more. Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success. Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills https://www.instagram.com/georgetorok/