Meltdown, Panic, or Rage?

Muriel Gabriela Harrington

This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice. You lost control again, and now you cannot tell what it was. A meltdown? A panic attack? Or were you, this time, genuinely angry? The three feel almost the same from the inside, and getting the name...

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Meltdown, Panic, or Rage?

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Disclaimer

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Preface

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The Tell Them Apart Series

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When You Lose Control, But Why?

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Three explosions that look the same

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Why the wrong name costs you twice

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Name it, calm it, own it

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What this book is not

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A first small step

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Chapter 1: Three Ways to Lose Control

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The first: a meltdown

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The second: a panic attack

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The third: a rage

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Why they look so alike

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Three people, three states

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You're not a bad person for losing control

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Where we go next

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What you've learned

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Chapter 2: Overwhelm, Fear, or Anger

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Overwhelm drives the meltdown

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Fear drives the panic

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Anger drives the rage

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Three engines, three responses

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Feeling the difference

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Devi finds her engine

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Stop grading the feeling itself

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Where we go next

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The takeaway

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Chapter 3: Is There a Target?

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Why the target read works

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Finding the real target

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Targets pointed at yourself

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When the target is hard to find

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Reading the target together with the engine

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Eli checks for a target

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A target doesn't make you a monster

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Worth keeping

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Chapter 4: What Set It Off

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Three kinds of trigger

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Reading the onset speed

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The RSD spark

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Mapping your triggers

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When triggers are tangled

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Farah maps her sparks

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Your triggers aren't proof you're too much

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What you've learned

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Chapter 5: What Your Body Wants to Do

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The meltdown wants the load to stop

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The panic wants to be safe

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The rage wants to push back

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Reading the core impulse

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When the impulse is hard to read

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Gabriel asks what he wanted

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Wanting to push back doesn't make you violent

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The takeaway

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Chapter 6: The Build and the Aftermath

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Three different shapes

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Reading the aftermath

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The aftermath tells you about repair

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When the shape is hard to read

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Hana reads her shapes

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Remorse is a starting point, not a sentence

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Worth keeping

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Chapter 7: When a Meltdown Looks Like Rage

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Why they look identical

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The tell is the driver and the target

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The two-way cost of getting it wrong

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Compassion and accountability are not opposites

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Iris untangles two episodes

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Stop assigning yourself the maximum penalty

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Chapter 8: When It's More Than One

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How the chains run

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Reading the chain

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Intervene at the root

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The accountability nuance in chains

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Jonah reads his chain

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A chain isn't proof you're a lost cause

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Chapter 9: The Real-Time Decoder

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Why a few questions

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The three questions

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The backup: the build

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Matching the read to the response and the responsibility

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A worked example

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Track it over time

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Close enough is enough

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Where we go from here

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Chapter 10: Calming a Meltdown

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The first move is less

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Get to safety and space

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Let your body do what helps

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Recovery takes real time

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Preventing the next one

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Owen takes the load off

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Reducing load is treatment, not weakness

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Chapter 11: Cooling a Rage

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The first move is to harm no one

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Cool the body before the grievance

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Then address the grievance, calmly

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Repair the harm

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The safety chapter: when rage involves real aggression

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Priya cools instead of erupting

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You can hold both compassion and accountability for yourself

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Chapter 12: Riding Out a Panic

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Name the false alarm

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Ride the wave

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The safety rule that matters most

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When panic keeps coming back

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Sam rides it out

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A panic attack is not a weakness

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Chapter 13: Explaining Without Excusing

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Why explaining matters

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Explain the three states simply

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The line: explaining is not excusing

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Ask for what each one needs

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Self-advocacy and accommodations

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Counter both the shame and the excuse

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Maya explains and owns

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You can take responsibility without destroying yourself

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Where this leaves us

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Conclusion: Name It, Calm It, Own It

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What you can do now

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The three words to keep

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The balance this book asks of you

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What this book was, and wasn't

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The story you leave with

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Your next step

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