How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
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The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
Location:
United States
Description:
The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
Language:
English
Website:
https://drmaryhan.com/
Episodes
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Emotions & The Glitter Jar
5/19/2024
In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I want to show you a really great bucket emptying tool and strategy for your children that is the glitter jar.
Now, obviously a glitter jar is rather lovely and beautiful and very aesthetic in your home, but it's also a superb way of explaining emotions to children and teens, whether that's big emotions around anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, or whether it is around overwhelm, stress and anxiety.
I'd love to see your glitter jars, share your photos to contact@drmaryhan.com, and please share this episode with your friends, family and colleagues that need some extra support.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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Duración:00:11:04
Raising Confident Girls
5/15/2024
There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.
Here are the highlights:
(2:20) Brain facts for context
(12:10) Language matters
(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance
(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement
(22:30) Play tricks with the mind
(24:50) Praise bravery
Here are the highlights:
(2:20) Brain facts for context
(12:10) Language matters
(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance
(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement
(22:30) Play tricks with the mind
(24:50) Praise bravery
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
💚 You can purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Let's Build Your Child's Self-Esteem'' at 8am GMT on the 1st June.
💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:30:01
Self Belief
5/15/2024
Self belief is the foundational layer to self-esteem and self confidence. Without it you're building on quick-sand. I will share ways to help children believe in their own capabilities - regardless of age.
Here are the highlights:
(5:25) I can have a go
(8:47) Don’t jump in to fix
(11:38) Provide options
(12:54) Break challenges into bite size chunks
(14:02) Feedback loop
(15:45) Constructive feedback on effort
(17:30) Social modelling
(21:14) Tackle self-limiting beliefs
(23:15) Fear of judgement
(24:34) Visualise success
(27:43) Constructive self-talk
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:31:02
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Tackle Your Overwhelm
5/12/2024
This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for everyone, not just parents!
Have you ever stopped to think how many roles you juggle each week? It's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when you’re trying to keep everyone happy with a limited resource - time.
Listen in as I share my 3 practical tips.
Oh, and don’t forget to share with friends and family who could use a little relief from their overwhelm.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
💚 You can purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Let's Build Your Child's Self-Esteem'' at 8am GMT on the 1st June.
💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:08:40
How To Get Children To Open Up
5/8/2024
How can we get a non-communicative child or teen to open up? Feels like mission impossible yet with a few tweaks, and a whole lot of faith it is possible. I'll share my top four don'ts and my top five dos.
Here are the highlights:
(00:45) You can’t help your child with anxiety or confidence if they won’t open up to you
(1:58) Don’t ask your child about their day
(3:27) Don’t expect overnight changes
(4:13) Don’t jump in with solutions
(5:07) Don’t take things personally
(6:55) Seize the opportunities
(9:45) Take care of yourself!
(11:15) Build in connection time with each child each day
(14:03) Listen
(17:22) Maximise non-eye contact moments
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:20:34
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should We Ban Smart Phones??
5/5/2024
In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast I tackle a very topical listener question: “Should we ban smart phones??”
Whilst I have very strong opinions regarding children’s use of smartphones, the internet, and social media, I don’t believe that banning them is the solution. Instead, let’s teach our children how to use them safely, which starts with modelling moderation of use of ourselves!
I’d love to know your thoughts on this topic. Do you know how much screen time you have each week?
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:09:05
Managing Exam Stress
5/1/2024
How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.
Here are the highlights:
(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand
(03:00) Our role as parents
(4:00) Practical support
(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation
(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
💚 You can purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Let's Build Your Child's Self-Esteem'' at 8am GMT on the 1st June.
💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:25:12
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help! I Hate Playing With My Children
4/28/2024
In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast, we tackle a wonderfully honest question: "Help! I hate playing with my children."
As parents, it's natural to feel overwhelmed at times. But, we can learn a lot from our children by being authentic and vulnerable.
Listen in to hear my top tips on how to connect with your children and make the most of your time together.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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Duración:00:08:39
Changing Self-Critical Language
4/24/2024
How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!
Here are the highlights:
(2:35) Why is this important?
(6:06) A bit of science…
(7:58) Self-audit
(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play
(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?
(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel
(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
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Duración:00:29:45
Bucket Emptying Episodes; I Don't Want My Child To Grow Up!
4/21/2024
As parents, we all want to cherish every moment we have with our children. But what happens when the thought of them growing up becomes overwhelming?
This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode tackles this listener question head-on. Listen in as I share my top tips on how to cope with this common fear.
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:09:56
Ep 150 - 18th April - Vulnerability in parenting
4/17/2024
Being vulnerable as a parent feels counterintuitive - aren't we meant to be strong, unwavering in our confidence, and stable?? Yes, and no! I'll share why vulnerability will in fact make you a better parent and how.
Here are the highlights:
(1:25) What do we mean by vulnerability?
(3:20) Be mindful who you’re vulnerable with!
(7:20) Vulnerability encourages and creates emotional connection
(8:55) Vulnerability creates harmony and peace
(8:29) Vulnerability cultivates a growth mindset
(12:39) Vulnerability humanises us as parents
(14:33) Vulnerability sets us free from having all the answers
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Duración:00:18:55
Bucket Emptying Episodes; I'm Worried I Won't Be A Good Mum
4/14/2024
In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.
Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.
Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.
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Duración:00:11:30
For Your Children
4/10/2024
Ever wished I could speak directly to your children and offer them my tips and advice?? Well this episode is just for them - alright, and you if you really must listen to it!! I share with them 5 empowering truths.
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Duración:00:25:54
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Know Your Vulnerabilities
4/7/2024
In today's bucket emptying episode, I talk about something that will help you as a parent, and that's about knowing your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities.
Children and teenagers thrive from a very consistent approach to boundaries, but our approach can relax when we are vulnerable.
Join me as I explain how knowing your weaknesses and our vulnerabilities is a really crucial part to knowing and understanding where you are being inconsistent with your parenting.
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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:08:02
Are We Too Soft (Part 2)
4/3/2024
Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!
Here are the highlights:
(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries
(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development?
(8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development
(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development
(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of development
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:28:38
Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Power Of Yet
3/31/2024
Have you heard of the "power of yet"?
This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power.
Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:08:02
Are We Too Soft? (Part 1)
3/27/2024
Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode.
Here are the highlights:
(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?
(4:00) Children are a building under construction
(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?
(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations
(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child
(17:45) The importance of boundaries
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:22:07
Bucket Emptying Episode; The One Minute Welcome Rule
3/24/2024
I've got a great Bucket Emptying tip for you today - the one minute rule.
This is super helpful to reset your mindset when returning home from work, collecting your children from school and is a great tip to teach your children too!
I hope you enjoy the episode. Please share with anyone you think could find it helpful.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
💚 You can purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Let's Build Your Child's Self-Esteem'' at 8am GMT on the 1st June.
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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Duración:00:09:49
Managing 'Big' Change
3/20/2024
Big change can feel super scary. What we might see as routine our children might feel is their biggest challenge yet! How we prepare them is crucial - remember we're raising resilient adults.
Here are the highlights:
(01:08) The balanced see-saw
(3:44) Acknowledge your child’s lens
(6:12) Be prepared
(9:31) Talk about it sooner rather than later
(12:40) Actively listen to your child
(15:21) Build your child’s toolkit and practice
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
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Duración:00:19:58
Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why It Takes A Village
3/17/2024
Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century?
Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world.
I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
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Duración:00:11:43