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We all love a good adventure, but let’s be real—traveling as a gay man isn’t just about picking a destination; it’s about finding places where you can truly feel safe, seen, and celebrated. So, where in the world can you be your fabulous, free self without worry? This week, I’m joined by LGBTQ+ travel expert & Queer Adventurers founder, who’s here to drop all the tips on traveling smart, safe, and stress-free. What you’ll learn: maximize your travel budgetplan trips without the overwhelm Pack your bags, grab your passport, and tune in—this episode is your ultimate gay travel guide. About Lindsey Lindsey Danis empowers LGBTQ travelers to understand and advocate for their needs and plan incredible adventures while feeling seen, heard and supported. Lindsey writes regularly about LGBTQ travel for publications including AFAR, Condé Nast Traveler, TripSavvy, GayCities, and Longreads. Lindsey is the founder of the LGBTQ travel blog, Queer Adventurers, which offers travel planning advice, money-saving travel tips, and destination guides written for an LGBTQ audience, with a focus on female and nonbinary people. Newsletter subscribers get LGBTQ travel trend updates and free resources on how to make the most of every trip. Lindsey lives in the Hudson Valley of New York with her partner and two dogs. When not writing, Lindsey can be found hiking, kayaking, or cooking. Connect With Lindsey Website Queer Adventures Author Instagram Travel Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Life feeling a little too much lately? You’re not alone. But what if you could hit reset and find your calm—no matter what’s happening around you? Even if that means you relinquish your family upbringing, get ex-communicated from your church, and finally start living your truth as a gay man, as you always meant to be. Enter Chad Michael Hardy, author of Law of Zero, here to help you ditch the stress, drop the guilt, and reclaim your joy. What you’ll learn: zero If you’re ready for less stress & more YOU, this episode is a must-listen! About Chad While the world today seems filled with upheaval and uncertainty, finding calm within the chaos can feel impossible. Enter Chad Michael Hardy – a new author who’s compelling and inspiring memoir/self-help story is especially timely in today’s polarized climate. While avoiding political discourse, he offers fresh ways to process personal stressors and find clarity in challenging times. Chad’s backstory: From gaining global fame as the creator of the controversial “Men on a Mission” calendar that led to excommunication from his faith and revocation of his BYU degree, Chad’s journey also includes embracing his identity as a gay man raised in a devout Mormon household. Now, Chad is channeling his unique insights into Law of Zero, his debut book that reached #2 on Amazon’s Gay & LGBTQ+ Bestsellers list (Gay & LGBTQ+) and #16 in New Age Self-Help in less than a week of debuting on January 7th. In Law of Zero, Chad blends his remarkable story with practical guidance to help others reset, recharge, and reclaim joy. His five principles - Find Awareness, Secure Alignment, Take Ownership, Release to Receive, and Engage Power - provide actionable tools to manage stress, rediscover balance, and live authentically. Connect With Chad Website Instagram Chad's Business Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

How do you balance faith, sexuality, and life—without losing your mind? Finding the just right path to authenticity can feel overwhelming, even chaotic. But here’s the truth: authenticity is a journey, not a destination. And living your most fulfilled life as a gay, Jewish Rabbi (or whoever you are) is exactly the path you’re meant to walk. Joining the conversation today is Rabbi Steven Greenberg—author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition and founder of Eshel, an Orthodox LGBTQ+ advocacy and support organization. He’s here to share his wisdom on embracing all of who you are and aligning faith, identity, and purpose as a Jewish queer man. Key lessons you'll learn: About Steve Rabbi Steven Greenberg is an educator, writer and speaker who has led the call for LGBTQ+ inclusion in the Orthodox world. He is the author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, (University of Wisconsin Press) for which he won the Koret Jewish Book Award for Philosophy and Thought in 2005. Rabbi Greenberg is presently the Founding Director of Eshel, an Orthodox LGBTQ+ community support, education and advocacy organization and lives with his partner, Steven Goldstein, and daughter, Amalia, in Boston. Connect With Steve Website Facebook Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

HIV may be a lifelong journey, but it is not a death sentence. Yet, for Black gay men, that journey often comes with unique challenges—stigma, erasure, and systemic barriers that make living openly and authentically even harder. As we close out Black History Month, we sit down with Jordan J. Edwards - Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative, whose candid and unfiltered approach will challenge you to see beyond limitations and embrace the power of your own visibility. In this episode, you’ll: representationrepresenting yourself This is a conversation about truth, resilience, and reclaiming space. About Jordan Jordan J Edwards (He/Him/His) is a Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative. Through his passion and lived experience as a person living with HIV, Jordan serves the Black, Queer plus community by developing curriculum, increasing opportunities for transportation, and linkage to care services for those living with HIV and those interested in PrEP. Jordan became a 2024 White House Rising Leader and a Greater Than HIV Ambassador through his development in the HIV sector. Connect With Jordan Website Jordan's Instagram The Normal Anomaly Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Black gay men don't feel safe talking about this? That includes a lot of territory. But why do they feel this way? It's because of the double margins they experience and then add to it familial socializing and you've got the perfect reason black, gay, men struggle to show themselves fully in society. Visionary leader, host and founder Dear Black Gay Men podcast, Jai The Gentleman joins me today for a raw, candid, chat about being black and gay on the planet. Key lessons you'll learn: About Jai The Gentleman Under the visionary leadership of host and founder Jai The Gentleman, the Dear Black Gay Men podcast has gained a loyal and growing audience across the nation, with each episode offering a candid, humorous, and always insightful look at life through the lens of Black queer identity. Dear Black Gay Men emerged as Jai’s love letter to every hopeful single who yearns for genuine connection and understanding. Jai amplifies the voices and experiences of Black gay men through raw, authentic content and conversations free from taboo, and his national platform has become a trusted space where no topic is off-limits, fostering open discussions on everything from love and relationships to mental health, identity, and self-empowerment. Connect With Jai The Gentleman Website Podcast Instagram Facebook Banned book club Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Open relationships for gay men: a recipe for disaster or the key to thriving love? This week, we’re breaking it all down! Join me and Dr. Wade Maggert as we explore: It’s time to break free from outdated ideas and discover what works for YOU. Tune in for laughs, insights, and real talk. About Wade Dr. Wade Maggert, esteemed mental health expert and advocate, harbors a past as vibrant as his current professional pursuits. Before his doctoral days, the world knew him as DJ Ra, spinning tracks in the most electrifying gay nightclubs across global capitals. His journey through the highs of fame was a prelude to personal transformation. Encountering the consequences of an intense lifestyle led him to therapy, revealing the scars of an anti-gay upbringing. Embracing self-love marked the beginning of his dedication to mental health, inspiring a profound shift from electrifying dance floors to empowering lives in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. With a Master of Social Work from UNLV and a groundbreaking PhD in Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Dr. Maggert has pioneered research into the depths of the masculine psyche. As an educator and a seasoned practitioner, his mastery extends from academia to the frontlines of mental health advocacy. His specializations in advanced therapeutic techniques have revolutionized treatment paradigms. At the helm of three VA mental health programs and at the heart of his private practice, Dragonfly Psychotherapy, Dr. Maggert is a trailblazer for trauma and addiction recovery within the LGBTQ+ community. Beyond his professional prowess, he is a Zen Buddhist adept, weaving the tranquility of meditation into his therapeutic approach and sharing his wisdom at the Houston Zen Center. Dr. Maggert's life's work is not just his occupation, but his offering to the world. Connect With Wade Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Sex. Sexual Dysfunction. You're junk just ain't working right. Don't panic gay men. But get the right help. Today, Dr. Joshua R. Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist and sexual health specialist based in West Hollywood, dives deep into the world of gay mens sexual health, hormone balance, and of course the overall biggest challenge - erectile dysfunction. Trust me this Doc delivers!!! Today we tackle... Whether you’re curious about restoring vitality, enhancing intimacy, or simply learning more about your bod and sexual health as a gay man, you won't want to miss this conversation backed by science and delivered with compassionate care. About Dr. Gonzales Joshua R. Gonzalez, MD, is a board-certified and fellowship-trained urologist and sexual medicine specialist who focuses on managing sexual dysfunctions in men and women at his self-named practice, Joshua R. Gonzalez, MD, in the West Hollywood neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. At his state-of-the-art facility, Dr. Gonzalez understands the toll hormone deficiencies, menopause, arousal disorders, and erectile dysfunction (ED) can take on one’s quality of life. He offers complete general urology and sexual health care at his office to patients, many of who identify as members of the LGBTQ+ community. He invests in advanced technology, such as penile doppler ultrasounds and SoftWave® therapy, to ensure that his patients receive the highest quality of care without invasive surgery. He strives to uncover the root of sexual dysfunction through comprehensive testing one-on-one time with his patients. Dr. Gonzalez uses his extensive experience to find the best treatment for every patient, whether they have a hormone imbalance or an enlarged prostate. The practice is home to a wide range of minimally invasive treatments for urology and sexual dysfunction treatments, including UroLift® for benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) and hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Dr. Gonzalez aims to help every patient restore their vitality and regain control over their sexual function. Connect With Dr. Gonzales Instagram Dr. Joshua's Testosterone Replacement Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Let's be honest. The planet is a little crazy these days, from politics to divides amongst us as humans on a wide variety of issues - including our rights being stripped away for being LGBTQ+- it is only going to get more challenging for many of us in marginalized communities. Today's podcast is for you gay men, truly for you, to help you find ways to navigate these challenging times and to stay resilient even in the face of those who would have us erased. Here's tips for staying on track, and being good to yourself. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Let's be honest. The planet is a little crazy these days, from politics to divides amongst us as humans on a wide variety of issues - including our rights being stripped away for being LGBTQ+- it is only going to get more challenging for many of us in marginalized communities. Today's podcast is for you gay men, truly for you, to help you find ways to navigate these challenging times and to stay resilient even in the face of those who would have us erased. Here's tips for staying on track, and being good to yourself. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Let's be honest. The planet is a little crazy these days, from politics to divides amongst us as humans on a wide variety of issues - including our rights being stripped away for being LGBTQ+- it is only going to get more challenging for many of us in marginalized communities. Today's podcast is for you gay men, truly for you, to help you find ways to navigate these challenging times and to stay resilient even in the face of those who would have us erased. Here's tips for staying on track, and being good to yourself. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Disco! For most gay men of a certain age - like those of you who listen to 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk - Disco represented so much of our lives then and now. It was the age of freedom, fun, pushing the "extremes" and also the age of loss due the HIV/AIDS epidemic. In his newly released book, Author Frank DeCaro, takes us on a frolicking, entertaining, yet serious tribute to the overlooked art form of disco, which has never been given its proper due, nor taken its true place in the historic struggle for LGBTQ+, gender, and racial equality. Key lessons you'll learn: About Frank Frank DeCaro’s work has appeared in myriad publications including the New York Times Magazine, Martha Stewart Living, Entertainment Weekly, Newsweek, Vogue, and the Advocate. He is also the author of Rizzoli’s Drag: Combing Through the Big Wigs of Show Business. on their journey. Connect With Frank Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Some of the deepest challenges we face as gay men, is letting go of shame around virtually everything we do. From sex and relationships, to body image and the overt need to prove ourselves in our careers. Today, along with my guest, Brandon Simpson, we cover a wide variety of topics to help you bring more joy into your life as a gay or bisexual man without letting today’s world, steal your confidence to be you. This week, we’re breaking down: ShameBoundariesThe Tech EffectThe Bright Side of Sex & Porn Through this honest conversations we hope you find wayst to build confidence, foster connection, and live unapologetically in the world. About Brandon Brandon Simpson is an Associate Therapist in Southern California. Throughout Brandon’s career, he has made it his mission to create safe spaces for LGBTQ people to be their most authentic self, without the pressure of the work around them. Brandon is trained through the International Institute for Trauma & Addiction Professionals to help individuals and couples affected by sex and porn addiction. Brandon chose to become a therapist to create nonjudgmental spaces for open dialogue where people can pave the way for personal growth and healing. Connect With Brandon Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Sex, intimacy, and connection—beyond the labels and limits. Society teaches us, as gay men, to define sexuality by where it happens, but what if it’s really about how we connect with ourselves and other gay men? Whether it’s a hookup or a long-term partnership, intimacy and liberation are possible everywhere. It’s all about unlocking your body’s wisdom as a gay man and embracing the full spectrum of erotic energy - without shame. Join Court Vox, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach and host Rick Clemons, as we explore the deep, playful, and sacred sides of sexuality. We're getting mentally naked with what it means to fully embody pleasure—solo or with a partner. Key lessons you'll learn: Join us as we invite vulnerability to be our friend, and then join us at Court's Event - Connect, March 6 - 9, 2025 and enter 40PLUS at check out and receive a $100 discount. About Court Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, based in Los Angeles CA . He is Founder of The Bodyvox. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private immersions, clients cultivate toys to unlock limitations and shame, to embrace a deeper sense of intimacy with their whole self. Traditional forms of therapy are done solely through talk, while the work of a somatic coach is to further this form of work via body-based exercises, experiential learning, and touch, in comfortable, judgment-free, and caring environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of learning. Vox is a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities and genders and has been featured in AskMen.com, Cosmopolitan, and Well & Good magazines. He offers workshops and retreats across the globe for GBTQ men, and is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body. His online course and community, Invitations to Intimacy, offers foundations in embodiment suited for the eroticerotic, as well as a community of like-minded individuals to support one another on their journey. Attend Courts Events in 2025 Connect - Enter 40PLUS at check out and receive a $100 on your registration for this event. Sacred Connect With Court Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

In this episode, we explore Boy From the North Country, the powerful self-help memoir by Dr. Durant. With the intensity of a car chase, Dr. Durant shares his journey from the volatile backroads of rural Northern New York to the vibrant but challenging world of gay San Francisco. Part memoir, part psychological insight, this story unpacks how trauma shapes us, how mindfulness can aid in healing, and how even the Grateful Dead played a role in his survival. Key lessons you'll learn: Join us as we uncover this tale of resilience, wisdom, and finding hope against all odds. About Jason Dr. Jason Durant is a gay man, psychologist, and author living in Manhattan and Hillsdale, NY. Dr. Durant’s life experience growing up as a gay kid on a farm in rural New York State provided fodder for both laughter and tears. His progression through life and his work as a psychotherapist offer him a unique perspective on life as gay man learning to live with the trauma of growing up as an isolated queer kid. His adventures in San Francisco’s bohemian enclaves of the Castro, the Mission District and in the hills of Northern California’s golden triangle bend the narrative of the traditional healing story into a winding tale built on learning self acceptance through self exploration, music, and even psychedelics. Taken together, this unique and inspiring story was lived by only one person, just as all lives are and this is why he is the man best situated to tell this story. Connect With Jason Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Mindfulness, meditation, self-mastery - all buzz, buzz, buzz worthy words these days. However, they are more then buzz words. They are are practices that as we ease out of the craziness of the holidays and 2024, can support all of us as gay men to embrace life through a new lens and settle into the daily chaos that can drive us crazy. From dating and relationships, to careers and the pursuit of purpose, mindfulness as we age should be top priority, just like going to the gym. Joining me today is Dr. Theresa Skoor - Dr. T - who doles out some powerful wisdom on how age mindully with joy, happiness, and fun. During this provocative episode you learn: About Theresa Dr. Theresa B. Skaar, also known as Dr. T, is an educator and facilitator dedicated to empowering individuals to meet life's challenges with more curiosity, ease, and joy. With a PhD in social psychology, certification in Mind-Body Medicine, and extensive Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction facilitator training, she is uniquely qualified to help people achieve their personal and professional growth goals. Dr. T's workshops and speaking engagements cover critical topics such as managing burnout, cultivating self-awareness, navigating grief, and aging mindfully. Her expertise in evidence-based practices makes it easy for learners of all levels to understand and apply these tools in their lives. With her engaging demeanor, Dr. T brings humor, compassion, and relatable experiences to her presentations, making them informative and enjoyable. Participants leave her workshops and talks with actionable insights and tools that they can confidently apply to their daily lives. Dr. T loves to explore her creative side through watercolor and acrylic painting. She also enjoys reading, walks in nature, and knitting. She lives with her husband and their two dogs and deeply values her connections with friends and family. For Listeners of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Podcast Join Theresa for A Complimentary: Everyday Mindfulness: A Live Guided Session [video width="640" height="480" mp4="https://rickclemons.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/202412241359.mp4"][/video] Discover how mindfulness and meditation can bring more calm and clarity to your daily life. In this interactive one-hour session, you’ll learn practical ways mindfulness can support you, participate in a guided mindfulness practice, and have the opportunity to ask questions. Whether you're new to mindfulness or looking to deepen your practice, this live session offers a welcoming space to explore and connect. Join us and take a mindful pause for yourself! These sessions are being offered on January 22, 2025, for free at the following times: 3 pm ET | 2 pm CT | 12 PT 5 pm ET | 4 pm CT | 2 PT 7 pm ET | 6 pm CT | 4 PT 8:30 pm ET | 7:30 pm CT | 5:30 PT CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP! DON'T MISS OUT! Connect With Theresa Website Instagram LinkedIn InsightTimer Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then

Let's be honest. Building a meaningful gay relationship doesn’t come with an instruction manual—or does it? I say it does. Enter The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men by Tom Bruett, the ultimate playbook for navigating love, connection, and everything in between. Whether you’re struggling with communication, intimacy, or just figuring out how to meet someone who doesn’t ghost you after date three, this guide has you covered. Bruett brings practical advice, expert insights, and a no-nonsense approach to help you create the relationship you truly deserve. Here's what's in store in this episode: About Tom Tom Bruett, LMFT is a therapist, trainer, consultant, and author who works extensively with the queer community. He is the founder of the Queer Relationship Institute, which provides therapy for queer folx and training for therapists who work with queer relationships. Tom has trained under Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson in the Developmental Model of Relationship Therapy, which he now trains other therapists in. His book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment will be published by Jessica Kingsley in March 2025. In his downtime, he loves theatre, travel, and collaborating with his partner to keep their rescue dog, Millie, from causing too much mischief. Connect With Tom Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

When life hands you lemons, you go camping, even if you didn't think you liked camping. Inspired by his journey of recovering from divorce and an abusive relationship, Author Upton Rand shares how he found peace and a path forward even when his life was at it's darkest moments. In his books, Upton blends humor with heartfelt experiences as he recounts hilarious misadventures—from wrestling with uncooperative tents to witnessing drag queens having dance-offs with confused deer. Along the way, he also shares valuable insights into the LGBTQ+ camping community and promotes health, wellness, and safe outdoor experiences. In this exciting episode with Upton Rand, you’ll discover: How he overcame social anxietyThe powerful lesson he's learned about embracing mistakesHow he developed a "step through and keep going" mentality Tune in for a dose of inspiration, laughter, and practical advice to take on life with confidence! About Upton Upton Rand is an adventurer, storyteller, and the author of “Gay Campgrounds: The Ultimate Gay Camping Travel Guide.” Blending humor with heartfelt experiences, Upton’s book is part travel guide, part hilarious memoir, capturing the wild and wonderful world of gay camping. He shares misadventures that range from wrestling uncooperative tents to witnessing drag queens having dance-offs with confused deer, all while providing valuable insights into the LGBTQ+ camping community. A passionate advocate for health and wellness, Upton is committed to promoting safe and informed experiences within the community. He’s a strong supporter of PrEP and the U=U movement (Undetectable = Untransmittable), breaking down important research in an accessible and entertaining way within his book. Additionally, a portion of his book sales is donated to the Cleveland AIDS Task Force, reflecting his dedication to giving back. Whether he’s encouraging a generation to step away from dating apps and reconnect face-to-face or sharing laughter-filled anecdotes from his journeys, Upton brings warmth, humor, and inspiration to every conversation. Connect With Upton Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Sex, pleasure, gay men. How do we find the pathway to enhance our sex and pleasure while letting go of the shame of growing up gay? First and foremost we embrace that we deserve to be gay men and experience pleasure. Helping us unpack the journey to pleasure is Dr. Israel Martinez with his new book Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex. During this provocative episode you learn: About Israel Dr. Israel Martinez (he/him), LCSW, is a certified sex therapist and coach with a group practice that specializes in therapy with the LGBTQ+, ethically non-monogamous, and kink/BDSM communities. He is the author of the books Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex and Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship and a chapter on therapy for LGBTQ+ relationships in Social Workers: Finding Real Solutions to Real Problems. Dr. Martinez supervises and trains other therapists to more ethically and effectively treat clients within gender, sexual, and relationship diversity (GRSD) groups. Dr. Martinez is clinically licensed in NY and NJ. He lives in NJ with his husband, Matt, and their cat, Mijo. Connect With Israel Website Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

It’s time to break the stigma and reframe the narrative around gay sex workers. When we realize it is legitimate work, we create a safe space for respect, dignity, and safety for those in the industry. Today's episode with gay sex worker and legal expert - Matthew Roberts, challenges outdated taboos, promotes understanding, and showcases how he advocated for policies that protect and empower sex workers, ensuring their voices are heard and their rights are upheld. In this bold and eye-opening episode, you’ll discover: The surprising truth about the men who seek out male sex workersThe #1 reason men turn to male sex workersHow to become a powerful advocate for the sex work industry About Matthew Matthew Roberts is a gay, male sex worker in Australia with over 10 years experience. He supports other sex workers to assert their legal rights and helped to decriminalise sex work in the Australian state of Victoria. He believes it's ok to pay for sex, but sex work clients require specific skills to get the most out of a commercial sexual experience. Connect With Matthew Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Trauma has impacted us deeply—especially here in the U.S., where the 2024 election brought new waves of confusion and fear for us as gay men. How do we heal from these experiences? Where do we find the strength to move forward? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow life coach and podcaster Wil Fisher to explore how healing ourselves creates ripples of healing for others and helps us rebuild our communities, even in the midst of chaos. Here’s what you’ll take away: Practical paths to self-healingOne powerful phraseTools for acceptance and conscious living Let’s navigate this journey together and find light on the path ahead. About Wil Wil Fisher is the host of the podcast Queerly Beloved, founder of Willfully Living, his life coach practice, and facilitator of Awakened Hearts, a retreat for GBTQ men. Wil is on a mission to empower GBTQ men to lead lives of unwavering authenticity, unbridled freedom, and boundless joy! Before moving to San Diego, Wil served as the executive director of Easton Mountain, an LGBTQ retreat center in upstate New York. Wil also spent many years in NYC where he earned his MA in Applied Theater, raised money for GBTQ nonprofits, and co-founded a company called Man Question. His podcast, Queerly Beloved, explores topics around queerness and spirituality and features interviews with some of the most renown visionaries in of the world of LGBTQ spirituality. His group retreat, Awakened Hearts, invites GBTQ men to cultivate more self-love and experience open hearted connections with like-minded men. Heart Live Retreat - Joshua Tree, CA January 23 - 25, 2025 Learn More and Register Here For The Retreat Hearts Alive is a retreat for like-minded GBTQ men to come together, away from their default worlds, to reflect on their lives, connect with their hearts, do some powerful transformational work and boldly step into a more expressed and authentic version of themselves. We’ll look at the areas of our lives where we aren’t showing up in the most aligned ways and we’ll discover strategies to shift that. Our time together will be nourishing and joyful as we playfully grow connections with each other and form loving, heart-centered community. Connect With Wil Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…