The Queer Confidence Podcast

Send us a Text Message. Taking a break. It sounds great! By why is it so filled with guilt? By the end of this episode, you're going to reclaim your right to rest. Feeling guilty about resting? Caught up in the grind of endless productivity? Our capitalist society has us believing that our worth equates to how much we're doing, but it's time we debunked this myth. This episode explores the importance of taking breaks without guilt and letting go of the pressure to make rest another form of self-improvement. Through a raw discussion of my personal struggles with overworking, we question the hustle culture and remind you that your value is not determined by productivity. So, take a breathe, relax, and remember rest is about simply being. I'm looking forward to my own rest now as we close out the year. And I look forward to spending time with you in the new year! Thank you for supporting the mission through your monthly contribution and by inviting your friends. Remember, your value does not come from what you do or how much you do. Your value comes from who you are. Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. What happens at the intersection of spirituality, sexuality, and unapologetic queerness? We're about to find out, as we chat with the one and only Kaelan Strouse, a.k.a Ecstatic Self. As a tantra and spirituality coach, Kaelan shares the wisdom he has gathered on his personal journey, igniting a path for us to explore our own spirituality and sexuality without judgment or fear. In this episode, Kaelan guides us to a deeper understanding of human connection, intimacy, and vulnerability. He advocates for the celebration of sexuality as a crucial part of our spiritual life, eroding the shame typically associated with it. If you feel intimidated talking about sex in this way, or your past has left you jaded and hesitant to anything spiritual, I think you'll really appreciate Kaelan's approach. We also discussed cultural appropriation in spirituality. Kaelan has some great tips on respecting other cultures while learning from them. So, join us today for your own self-discovery, transformation, and unlearning as we queerize Tantra and Spirituality with Kaelan Strouse. Connect with Kaelan: Website: https://ecstaticself.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/ecstaticself Linktree: https://linktr.ee/ecstatickae Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Get ready for a journey into the life of Morgxn Thicke, a queer, femnasty individual with Butch Queen tendencies who's making waves the gay porn industry. Morgxn's real, raw, and riveting insights about life behind the scenes and beyond the spotlight will transform your understanding of this industry. From their queer persona to the highs and lows of their private life, Morgxn's authenticity will leave you captivated. Your gonna love Morgxn's insights on open communication in intimate relationships and its undeniable influence in the adult entertainment industry. Morgxn takes us through their adventures since breaking into the industry in 2019, revealing their experiences with initiating critical sex work conversations, and the tightrope walk between embracing new experiences and confidently upholding their own boundaries. We journey further into the world of sexual intimacy and gender confidence, exploring Morgxn's approach to creating chemistry and passion in their work. Something I really appreciate about this conversation with Morgxn is how they underscore the significance of self-love, and pursuing what genuinely ignites joy. We round out our discussion by celebrating Morgxn's contribution to the industry and their impact in fostering a safe haven for sexual exploration. Prepare to have your perspective broadened and your understanding deepened in this enlightening episode. Connect with Morgxn: Linktree Instagram Twitter More links on my website. Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. This episode is on embracing vulnerability to foster connection and love. Dropping the armor is about allowing yourself to be human, and following the advice you give to others. It's empowerment through imperfection. This is what authenticity looks like. Mentioned in this episode: Brené Brown on The Tim Ferriss Show Podcast Instagram Clip Listen to the full episode here: Brené Brown — Striving versus Self-Acceptance, Saving Marriages, and More (#409) or watch on YouTube Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Flamy Grant is the first drag queen to ever top the iTunes Christian singles and albums charts! Flamy's story isn't just about music; it's about resilience and authenticity in the face of adversity and online trolling. It's about refusing to compromise on true identity despite societal pressures. If you grew up evangelical christian, you won't want to miss this episode. It this episode Flamy takes us deeper into her personal life, exploring her battles with religious trauma from evangelicalism and her journey into the transformative world of drag. Hear how Flamy uses this platform to express herself and challenge gender stereotypes, even in spaces where acceptance is hard to find. And that's only the tip of the iceberg. She's got the best advice I've ever heard for dealing with haters and trolls online. We dive into Flamy's creative process and the nostalgic elements in her music, the struggle of reconciling faith with sexuality and gender identity, and her role as a queer voice in the evangelical space. We end with a heart-touching discussion of her song 'Holy Ground,' a song that unveiled part of Flamy even before the creation of Flamy herself. She also set a record for being the first guest to ever make my cry on my podcast. Grab a tissue box y'all! Referenced in this episode: Here’s the video with the woman freaking out about candles at Bath & Body Works Flamy’s favorite song is 'Holy Ground' Flamy’s new single 'Fortune Teller' is OUT NOW everywhere you like to listen. Connect with Flamy: Website: flamygrant.com Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. This episode is all about cover coming the fears, embarrassment, and discomfort that hold you back from being authentic. We all know what it's like to be judged or shamed simply for being your authentic self. I was just eight(ish) when my passion for the Princess Jasmine dress earned me shame rather than applause. This childhood encounter and similar episodes throughout my life taught me that authenticity often comes with a price. Today we're taking that embarrassed boy who loved a princess dress to an adult who finds joy in vibrant eyeshadow. Fear of authenticity is a common thread uniting many of us. In this episode you'll learn to embrace the 'confident queer' in you through authenticity, acceptance, and self-love. Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Have you ever wondered how your upbringing and identity shape your financial journey? My guest, financial planner Melissa Gonzalez, shares her inspiring story of shifting from viewing money as a negative force to understanding it as a tool for empowerment and opportunity. Raised in a predominantly female household, Melissa provides a unique perspective on the impact of family and identity on one’s financial journey. Melissa openly discusses her experiences as a queer woman in the financial industry, highlighting the importance of leading with identity. She offers valuable insights on overcoming the fear surrounding finances and approaching goals with an abundance mindset. Her candid reflections on her own experiences of workplace challenges post coming out as lesbian, and her journey to financial confidence, will leave you feeling inspired and empowered. In the latter part of our episode, we focus on the financial challenges unique to the queer community. Melissa shares her wisdom around topics such as estate planning, adoption, emergency funds and workplace harassment. She also offers practical advice for budgeting, financial planning, and finding a financial advisor who understands your unique needs. Plus she answers the big question: 'Do you need to invest in real estate in order to create financial freedom?' Trust me, you won’t want to miss Melissa’s empowering story and tips for planning a better financial future. Join us to overcome your financial fears and leave feeling confident. Connect with Melissa: melissagonzalez.nm.com Linkedin Instagram: @melissagonzalezofficial Email: melissa.gonzalez@nm.com Linktr.ee Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Are you trapped in the vicious cycle of self-sabotage? Imagine turning your perceived flaws into your greatest gifts. This episode is all about breaking free from that negative pattern, shedding the shame that's been holding you back, and learning to love and appreciate yourself, scars and all. In this episode you'll learn a unique four-step process to help you see your flaws as your super powers. Do you find yourself avoiding confrontations or procrastinating? These behaviors, deeply rooted in our beliefs, can significantly impact our self-confidence and keep us stuck in self-sabotage. But, what if we told you that you could transform these behaviors into your secret superpowers and use your unique strengths to your advantage? This episode will help you identify these hidden strengths and gives you the tools to harness them. Whether you choose to work with me one-on-one or utilize these tools on your own, this journey will lead you to feeling a whole lot more confident. Get ready to embrace your individuality and turn your flaws into gifts. If you're hiding from your sexual health (like I've done) Mistr is an excellent judgement free resource. You can get tested for HIV & STIs for FREE in all 50 states, D.C. and Puerto Rico. Everything is handled online and through your at home test kit. No doctor's office, no needles, no paperwork and free delivery. And you can even get PrEP totally free with or without insurance. Mistr is for all adults 18 and older. And Mistr can provide you with care no matter what your HIV status is. Mentioned in this episode: Episode 51 - Edging Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Welcome to a hilarious behind the scenes chat with Quincy Bazen, the multi-talented stand up comedian and co-host of the Dom Pop podcast. Take a peak into his world growing up a Navy brat, to co-creating a hit podcast, and making the daring move of relocating to sunny Los Angeles. There's never a dull moment as Quincy humorously shares his experiences, whether it's about his desire to pretentiously add accents to his name or his personal journey with ADHD. This episode takes a deeper dive into Quincy's love for the performing arts and his knack for balancing multiple careers. You'll hear about his personal growth through his acting career, his passion for writing and directing, and his web series 'Rest in Pieces'. But that's not all, Quincy also opens up about his liberating journey of coming out, the struggles, and the joys of embracing his queer identity. Our conversation is sure to keep you gripped as we navigate the challenging terrain of authenticity, social expectations, and the journey to self-confidence. We also delve into the realities of living a public life, dealing with people’s perceptions, and the relentless pursuit of self-acceptance. Quincy and I share our experiences, the highs and lows of performing in front of vast audiences, and the strains of managing an online presence. We also discuss how therapy, and plastic surgery played roles in boosting his confidence. Expect a heartening chat full of laughs, insights, and a whole lot of inspiration. Connect with Quincy: Linktree (for upcoming shows and more) Instagram TikTok X Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Have you been feeling like you just don't know how you can possibly handle all of life's stressors? Feeling like you just don't got this anymore? Tired of faking like you have it all figured out? That's what we're talking about on today's episode. Join me as I share my own story of grappling with accepting help. We cover everything from anxiety episodes to understanding how dependency, codependency, independency play a part in your overwhelm. I reveal in my personal journey how acknowledging the need for support has been pivotal in my healing process. The second part of our discussion revolves around the varied nuances of dependency, codependency, independence, and the less acknowledged, interdependence. We'll take a look together at the difference between "I've got this." and "We've got this." And delve into the significance of interdependence - a balanced and healthy way of relating to others. Interdependency is about balance - relying on others emotionally while not losing sight of your individuality. Discover how acknowledging your need for support will actually empower you, not hinder you. And by the end of this episode I hope to change your mantra from "I've got this", to "We've got this". Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Today we sit down with Christynne Wood, a national trans and civil rights activist, and 2023 San Diego Champion of Pride winner. Christynne shares her vivid memories of growing up in Springfield, Ohio, dealing with gender dysphoria and the impact a single understanding kindergarten teacher had on her life. Together, we explore the courage and resilience it takes to be true to oneself, amidst the challenges and adversity. Imagine being in the Navy in 1974, and dealing with your own internal battle of gender identity. That's precisely what Christynne Wood experienced, and she opens up about this journey, from her enlistment to marriage. Her personal testament is a tapestry of dedication, resilience, and love that is sure to inspire many. But that's not all. Christynne also pulls back the curtain on her world of activism, recounting her encounters with a conservative group called Santee Parents 4 Choice, and a protest outside the YMCA that tested her resolve. She passionately advocates for safe spaces, state law support, and the importance of not facing life's difficult transitions alone. Join us as Christynne shares her wisdom and experiences, and discover how you can join her fight for transgender rights at the Trans March in Orlando, Florida on October 7, sponsored by lucha.org. It's an episode that promises to leave you inspired to get involved in your local politics, and more understanding of the struggles and triumphs of the transgender community. *Correction: Around 42 mins Alex said bluechip.org was sponsoring the march in Florida. That was a mistake. Christynne is being sponsored by lucha.org. Details about the Protect Tans Kids March on Oct 7 in Orlando Florida herehereherehere Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Ever felt the crushing weight of anxiety and longed for an effective tool to manage it? Well, there's no need to feel alone or overwhelmed anymore. Lay back and enjoy as this audio guides you to new and healing sensations. This episode is designed to be your guide whenever anxiety strikes. The best part is, you can do this while sitting or laying comfortably. It's not just about "managing" anxiety, it's about connecting with it, accepting it. Through this practice you'll prove to yourself that you can confidently navigate discomfort. You may find this episode calming, and it's a perfect listen if you can't fall asleep. If you'd like a personalized one-on-one sessions to further help manage your stress, boost your confidence and improve your mental health, schedule a coaching call. Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Have you been curious about how to bottom better or even at all? Do you have questions you're afraid to even ask? Are you nervous about what you might find out? Strap in (or strap on) for an honest discussion as Alex Hall aka The Bottom's Digest lays it all out there. In this episode you'll learn nutrition techniques, booty hole exercises, and perhaps new information on douching to help make bottoming the most delicious, magical, pleasurable experience possible. Alex debunks the myth of the 'bottom diet' and emphasizes the role of fiber supplements and plant diversity in maintaining a healthy gut. Then we really take you THERE as we candidly discuss what to do in a messy situation. We emphasize the power of communication and provide strategies to address the associated shame and anxiety. We explore techniques to loosen up and highlight the importance of stretching the anal area for healthy sex. Finally, we wrap it up with a celebration of bottoming, with Alex explaining why it can be such an exciting and pleasurable experience. Get ready to learn, laugh, and let go of your inhibitions in this unmissable episode! Mentioned in this episode: Psyllium husk capsules, or powder- These Amazon affiliate links helps to support the podcast Dope Kitchen on Instagram Du Douche Colon Infographic The ZOE organization and Dr Tim Spector Butt Clock Method by Dr Carlton My podcast episodes on Shame: Ep 5 - ShameEp 53 - KinkEp 55 - BDSMEp 86 - Your Inner VoicesEp 90 - Erotic Shame Healing w/ Nico NovaAlex mentioned "box breathing" if you've never heard of it, here's a quick definition: It's called box breathing because like a box has 4 equal sides, there are 4 equal parts to box breathing. 3-4 seconds breathing in, four 3-4 seconds holding your breath, 3-4 seconds exhaling and 3-4 seconds holding after your exhale. Connect with Alex here: Website: TheBottomsDigest.com Instagram: @bottomsdigest TikTok: @bottomsdigest YouTube: The Bottom's Digest Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Have you ever been sitting in front of your birthday cake just about to blow out the candles when suddenly, on the other side of the window, your car explodes? Yeah... me neither. But my boyfriend has! And today he's joining the podcast to share some funny stories from his life. There's no big life lesson to learn today. Instead, I hope you have fun just hanging out with us and laughing along. Come meet my boyfriend! Join the Instagram Broadcast Channel to ask my boyfriend and other future guests questions https://ig.me/j/AbaiM8L424iLTobM/ Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Ever found yourself stuck in a mental rut filled with negativity and can't seem to shift gears? This episode is all about how to work through that, but not in the typical 'love and light' bullshit way. Getting stuck in a negative spiral is part of being human. In today's conversation, we explore how to navigate these mental slumps, not by rushing through them, but rather embracing the experience. We discuss the importance of allowing your emotions to be felt and expressed, and how changing your perspective can lead you out of this mental maze. It's about being present, experiencing and expressing your emotions, and changing your focus - all without any shame or guilt. Don't forget! Join the Instagram broadcast channel for behind-the-scenes goodies and the opportunity to add your input to the show. Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. What happens when an entrepreneur steps back from their podcast for eight months due to a whirlwind of life events? A mini identity crisis YAYYYYYY 🎉 This last year has been nuts, moving across the country, experiencing a breakup, hiring a new assistant, and juggling part-time work, just to name a few things I've been up to. This period of intense change sparked an identity crisis and compelled me to reassess my entrepreneur identity. Hear about the invaluable lessons I've learned about the importance of balance between work and self-care, and how I emerged stronger from this period of uncertainty. My biggest realization (or reminder) since we last talked was that life is like art, it's open to our interpretation. I'll share how this perspective helped me appreciate the highs and lows of my journey. And candidly talk about the challenges of starting new projects, grappling with imposter syndrome, and how I've made sense of it all. I'm back and ready to embark on this new phase of our journey together. Missed ya! * * * Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. This week I have an interview to share with you. While media has improved in the way it represents queer people, there are many groups of people still missing from the scene. There are large areas of America that are not as devoid of queer life as it might seem. So today I'm chatting with my assistant. He chose to be queer in rural America. I hope you have as much fun getting to know him as I have. Enjoy. PS. If you need help in your business with things you'd just rather not do, he can help. Reach out. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/95 ***About the new format & Discount Code*** Thank you for being one of our awesome loyal listeners! I can't express how thankful I am for you. I can't wait to be back with you in the new year. The new format will include a lot more guests. If you have any topics or guest you would like to suggest, please email us at podcast@coachalexray.com As a thank you for your support of the show, get 50% off your first month of the Confident Queer Membership. Just use code: PODCASTFAM *** Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. The holiday season is upon us. And with it, the stress of family dynamics. So let’s talk about it. I’ve got a framework that’ll make it much easier for you to set boundaries. Let’s make that difficult conversation with mom, dad, grandma, whoever a bit easier so you can clear that elephant out of the room and enjoy their company a bit more. Enjoy! Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/94 Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Weather you're using social media to connect with people or as a way to make money, it's still requires you to put in labor. So how is this free labor affecting your overall "work load"? Can you spend time online without getting closer to burn out? And is the pressure to put on a show online eroding your authenticity? In this episode, we're exploring all that and more. If this is important to you, you're going to love the workshop I'm running called Off Stage. We're going to actively work on managing the balance between on and off our social media stage. Sign up here for the Off Stage workshop. Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/93 Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com

Send us a Text Message. Today you get to meet my friend Chelsea Dickinson aka The Sabotage Queen. Every time we’ve FaceTimed we said, “why the heck did we not record this? People would PAY to listen in on our conversations! This shit is gold.” Sooooo now you do get to listen in, but for free! On today's episode we talk about how you should be more of a bitch on the internet, how to survive overwhelming amounts of attention, and how to set boundaries in the increasingly less private online world. It’s the unfiltered conversation you didn’t even know you needed to hear. Enjoy! Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/92 Support the Show. Get on the best email list for building your confidence, sign up and receive my free 21 Sassy Affirmations for Confidence Got a guest nomination, question, or topic idea? Email podcast@coachalexray.com Get the inside scoop, join the Instagram Broadcast Channel 🦄 Instagram | TikTok | coachalexray.com