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Biden makes some lack luster promises in his first State of the Union. Texas is trying to recruit the general public to turn in parents of transgender children for "child abuse". We take a fieldtrip to our local sex shop and jerk off arcade, and we discuss the Ali Wong stand up special that makes Grace depressed. References: https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/texas-governor-calls-citizens-report-parents-transgender-kids-abuse-rcna17455 https://www.npr.org/2022/03/02/1083785432/biden-state-of-the-union-recap Ali Wong: Don Wong Netflix Special

The US Womens Soccer Team has won $24 million in a class action lawsuit against the US Soccer federation, a step in the right direction of equal pay in sports. North Carolina is now one of 20 states that provides access to birth control over the counter. And what can Kink Tok teach us and our partners? References https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olLPQ6vS9d8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olLPQ6vS9d8 https://www.npr.org/2022/02/22/1082272202/women-soccer-contracts-equal-pay-settlement-uswnt NC Birth Control https://www.ncleg.gov/Sessions/2021/Bills/House/PDF/H96v5.pdf https://www.northcarolinahealthnews.org/2022/02/18/north-carolina-no-longer-requires-a-doctors-prescription-for-birth-control-but-who-can-afford-it/ https://www.today.com/health/access-over-counter-birth-control-increasing-today-t228523 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sax-BwbdNt0

The Dark Truth behind Valentines Day actually sounds pretty Hot. We also discuss our latest reality TV obsession, Love Is Blind. References: https://www.thegypsythread.org/silphium-herbal-birth-control-ancients/ https://allthatsinteresting.com/silphium https://www.buzzfeed.com/mayaogolini/biggest-valentines-day-fail-stories https://www.instyle.com/holidays-occasions/valentines-day/sending-valentines-to-friends https://www.npr.org/2011/02/14/133693152/the-dark-origins-of-valentines-day https://nationaltoday.com/singles-awareness-day/

There's a reason why Romance novels have been the top selling genre for decades. The most popular fantasy shared by women is sexual domination, so why are many of us afraid to admit it and explore our fantasies with our partners? Charlotte recounts her teenage fantasies and reveals the three leading men who encompased them. Also is Grace Heightest? References: 99% Invisible: The Clinch https://99percentinvisible.org/episode/the-clinch/ Esther Perel https://www.estherperel.com/ https://www.calebadodson.com/writing/humanizing-our-fantasies-love-yourself https://www.sexedeast.ca/blog/exploring-sexual-fantasies https://www.businessinsider.com/which-sexual-fantasies-are-normal-2014-10 https://medium.com/sexography/where-do-sexual-fantasies-come-from-211a3d59e91b https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-sex/201807/where-do-our-sexual-fantasies-come https://www.insider.com/what-your-sexual-fantasies-say-about-you2020-7 https://www.brides.com/fantasize-about-someone-not-married-to-2303821 https://www.nytimes.com/1996/07/28/nyregion/the-good-and-bad-of-indulging-in-fantasy-and-daydreaming.html https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fighting-fear/201404/sexual-fantasies

For our 100th episode we talk about the pandemic that has plagued women in their 20's and beyond...Baby Fever! Why does it seem like everyone has it? And if you’re not feeling it, is that a sign you shouldn’t start a family? Grace also talks about her affinity for tiny shoes. Thanks for being with us for 100 episodes! References https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2021/12/how-common-baby-fever/621083/ https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Baby%20Fever https://health.usnews.com/health-news/health-wellness/articles/2015/09/14/is-baby-fever-real https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21842990/ https://www.nbcnews.com/healthmain/baby-fever-real-thing-not-just-women-study-claims-1C6437144 https://www.reddit.com/r/babyfever/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2029489/Whos-daddy-Men-suffer-baby-fever-new-study-reveals.html https://www.vice.com/en/article/xwpvb4/psychology-of-baby-fever-is-it-real https://www.livescience.com/15949-baby-fever-reproduction.html https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuSBPqkSpc0

Scrotum Steeping, Abortion Pills, and Discharge Oh My! A new male contraceptive, The COSO has made news for its innovative design and effectiveness. Think Apple product for tea bagging. The F.D.A. has announced the abortion pill will continue to be available by mail in the U.S. And how art is normalizing vaginal discharge. https://www.thisisavulva.com/dischargegallery References: https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/crossroads-lab/article256681357.html https://aidaccess.org/en/i-need-an-abortion https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/hormones/oral-contraceptives-fact-sheet https://www.coso-contraception.de/ https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2021-12-22/the-fdas-decision-to-allow-abortion-pills-in-person-wont-help-if-you-live-in-a-state-requires-it https://www.jamesdysonaward.org/en-US/2021/project/coso-the-new-way-of-male-contraception/ https://www.insidehook.com/daily_brief/health-and-fitness/steeping-your-balls-future-male-birth-control https://nypost.com/2021/10/15/men-can-prevent-pregnancy-by-giving-their-testicles-a-bath/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/12/16/health/abortion-pills-fda.html

Who's Gaslighting Who? What is Gaslighting? And why is it suddenly in the cultural zeitgeist? We discuss the warning signs of gaslighting and what to do if it’s happening to you. References https://www.thehotline.org/wp-content/uploads/media/2020/10/power-and-control-wheel-cropped.png https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-red-flags-gaslighting-in-relationship https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ToLfQU2xmg https://metro.co.uk/2020/06/18/what-racial-gaslighting-why-damaging-people-colour-12866409/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4P2Qwh1QCU https://www.instagram.com/p/CA82O3YlqUS/ https://www.psycom.net/gaslighting-what-is-it/ https://hbr.org/2021/09/how-to-intervene-when-a-manager-is-gaslighting-their-employees https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/what-gaslighting-how-do-you-know-if-it-s-happening-ncna890866

We discuss prevention and destigmatizing STIs. Having HPV is seen as a sexual right of passage, but a single vaccine can prevent its transmission and cancer. The gardasil vaccine is recommended for children but can be given up to 45 years of age. Let us know if you got the vaccine or if you would reccomend it. References https://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/infectious-agents/hpv-and-cancer https://www.ncsl.org/research/health/hpv-vaccine-state-legislation-and-statutes.aspx https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/here%E2%80%99s-radical-idea-easy-home-std-tests https://evekit.vn/en/

Raise a hand of you're depressed! We discuss the connection between depression and low libido. There’s a possibility that the treatment to your depression is also causing a decreased sex drive. References https://www.aafp.org/afp/2000/0815/p782.html https://healthtalk.unchealthcare.org/how-depression-can-affect-sexual-health/ https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/is-sex-an-antidepressant.aspx https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FyKr_laxu2I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2rvVEBh-Qc https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/sexual-health

Has a Hun or a Boss Babe ever slipped in your DMs promising a fantastic business opportunity? Are these women really living the She E O dream or have they Girl Bossed too close to the sun? MLM's or Multi-Level Marketing companies saw a spike in membership during the height of the pandemic when women were forced out of the job market. These companies are notoriously predatory and can slip by legal regulations leaving people high and dry, or more accurately in a warehouse full of moldy leggings. References https://www.fundera.com/resources/mlm-statistics https://www.ecosecretariat.org/best-mlm-companies/ https://jacobinmag.com/2021/10/multilevel-marketing-scam-lularoe-pyramid-scheme-capitalism-myth https://www.healthyway.com/content/multi-level-marketing-businesses-arent-making-people-moneyso-why-are-they-still-popular/ https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/multi-level-marketing-businesses-and-pyramid-schemes https://www.ftc.gov/sites/default/files/documents/publiccomments/trade-regulation-rule-disclosure-requirements-and-prohibitions-concerning-business-opportunities-ftc.r511993-00017%C2%A0/00017-57317.pdf https://www.huffpost.com/entry/say-no-mlm-pitchl_5f4d61d7c5b697186e39eaa1 https://www.politico.com/news/2021/11/05/kyrsten-sinema-multi-level-marketing-labor-519661 https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2021/01/anti-mlm-reddit-youtube/617816/ https://www.vox.com/the-goods/22732586/ftc-mlm-rohit-chopra-business-opportunity-rule https://medium.com/swlh/how-mlms-used-the-pandemic-to-prey-on-vulnerable-women-7be98f57674f

Biden's Build Back Better Plan gutted Paid Leave, or did it? We discuss the latest news regarding the deal. Texas is on it's fuck shit again. We also try to scrounge up some good news this week and maybe have solved feminism by replacing bikini bottoms with shorts? References: https://www.npr.org/2021/11/02/1051471123/female-beach-handball-players-bikini-shorts-norway https://www.forbes.com/advisor/personal-finance/cuts-from-reconciliation-bill-paid-family-leave/ https://www.vox.com/2021/10/29/22749595/paid-leave-sick-parental-leave-biden-build-back-better-bill https://www.npr.org/2021/11/02/1051471236/texas-governor-abbott-calls-for-removal-of-obscene-school-library-books https://www.npr.org/2021/11/03/1052121244/pelosi-says-house-democrats-are-bringing-back-paid-leave-in-their-spending-bill https://www.bostonherald.com/2021/11/01/battenfeld-voters-across-the-nation-rejecting-defund-the-police-candidates-but-not-in-boston/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/31/us/politics/paid-family-leave.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/03/nyregion/byron-brown-buffalo-mayor.html https://www.wgbh.org/news/politics/2021/11/02/election-day-2021-live-updates-and-insights-from-around-greater-boston https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/how-republicans-won-the-virginia-governors-race/ https://qz.com/work/2082746/elon-musks-tweet-captures-everyday-sexism-faced-by-women-in-stem/ https://www.indiatimes.com/technology/news/elon-musk-tits-university-twitter-552857.html Check out #TruthBeTold which has an interactive map on the legislative attacks on racial and gender justice legislation https://www.aapf.org/truthbetold Watch the rally to save paid leave https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=431771511662833

For our 2 year spooktastic aniversary we talk Witches! We might be Baby Witches. How did the idea of Witches start? Why are we still so fascinated by them? And how are modern Witches taking on modern problems? References: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QW5p0gNQiX4 https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/24/books/peak-witch.html https://goop.com/glacce-amethyst-crystal-infused-water-bottle/p/?taxon_id=1291 https://www.history.com/topics/folklore/history-of-witches https://www.bostonglobe.com/lifestyle/2019/10/30/millennials-and-gen-embrace-witchy-new-age-spiritualism/ojetIu5fYahXu4dxa2IF6I/story.html

What's behind the societal idea that Boys don't cry? Crying is a universal human experience that can be triggered by emotions and feelings, not just irritants. Various studies have found that crying because of strong emotions is more common among women than men. There has also been evidence that emotional tears chemical consistency differs from reflexive tears. Maybe women don’t cry more, but men cry less because of societal and hormonal influence. References https://nypost.com/2017/09/18/heres-why-women-cry-twice-as-much-as-men/ https://www.thrillist.com/health/nation/why-do-women-cry https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/men-and-crying-the-shamed-tears-of-boys-97ccf2e3841e https://www.bustle.com/wellness/why-cant-i-cry-experts-explain-the-science-19381382 https://www.sbs.com.au/news/why-do-women-cry-more-than-men https://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/02/cry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8CBqYocrM04&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=37 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XOo1OJFAeQ&list=PLfHPmT3pP0htzwUFnnxGIVSTLuUkUCjFo&index=39 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wc0GjfCG8u0 https://time.com/4254089/science-crying/

For decades Women (people with uteruses) have been responsible for birth control, but recent studies show that as many as 80% of men (penis havers) would take "male birth control" if it was available. So why isn't there a decent male birth control option other than condoms and vasectomies? What's stopping modern science from creating a viable male birth control option. Turns out its more complicated than it seems. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vasectomy-reversal-5-facts-men-need-to-know-2/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7MHOk7qVhYs https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/male-contraceptives https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/11/03/500549503/male-birth-control-study-killed-after-men-complain-about-side-effects https://www.healthline.com/health/birth-control/male-birth-control-options#outlook https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/4423-vasectomy-sterilization https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jun/05/male-birth-control-step-up-responsibility https://thepolypost.com/opinion/2021/09/14/men-want-to-control-womens-bodies-because-they-are-scared-of-male-birth-control/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vasectomy-reversal-5-facts-men-need-to-know-2/ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/4423-vasectomy-sterilization

The United States is the only country besides Papa New Guinea that does not provide paid maternity leave. Being able to take time off work is currently a privilege that is only allotted to white collar workers. 88% of American women do not get paid for a single hour after giving birth. Even unpaid leave, which some families can take depending on their employer is lower than the recommended 16 weeks from the World Health Organization. America needs to catch up with the rest of the world and practice what they teach in regard to "focusing on the family". Resources https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wi8Po3a3I0 https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210624-why-doesnt-the-us-have-mandated-paid-maternity-leave https://www.hrw.org/news/2011/02/23/us-lack-paid-leave-harms-workers-children https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/hr-topics/benefits/pages/how-bidens-paid-fmla-proposal-would-work.aspx https://www.whitehouse.gov/briefing-room/statements-releases/2021/04/28/fact-sheet-the-american-families-plan/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/29/upshot/paid-family-leave-biden.html https://www.youtube.com/watch?fbclid=IwAR1TFCzUWpP29orZXJweETAzg0ao-ZNOu36CImNsI59pP1Sz-yfSQhj0g&v=umiljrgv66w&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YMxqlo_4Hhw https://www.bloomberg.com/opinion/articles/2021-06-24/paid-maternity-leave-would-help-relieve-america-s-maternal-mortality-crisis https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/jan/27/maternity-leave-us-policy-worst-worlds-richest-countries

With the recent passing of the Texas Heartbeat Act the fight for abortion access is more important now than ever. There is a Nationwide protest for Abortion Access on October 2nd. https://womensmarch.com/mobilize Roe V. Wade is at risk of being overturned once again, but now there is a conservative majority in the supreme court. We talk about the case that could dramatically change things for the worse Dobbs vs. Jackson Women's Health Organization. Abortion access is critical for the health and well being of people with uteruses we need to make sure we maintain our rights and bodily autonomy. Resources: https://maps.reproductiverights.org/what-if-roe-fell https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/most-americans-dont-want-roe-v-wade-repealed-but-many-also-support-restrictions-on-abortion/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/18/health/abortion-rate-dropped.html https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2021/05/supreme-court-roe-v-wade-abortion-texas-mississippi-arkansas.html https://www.aclu.org/other/keep-marching-what-you-can-do-protect-reproductive-freedom https://maps.reproductiverights.org/what-if-roe-fell#no-roe-reality https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/27/us/politics/biden-abortion-democrats.html https://didbidensayabortionyet.org/ https://katv.com/news/local/lawsuit-filed-challenging-arkansas-near-total-abortion-ban https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/05/18/upshot/abortion-laws-roe-wade-states.html https://allaboveall.org/resource/each-act-fact-sheet/

Why is America so fascinated with young missing White women? The latest news headlines are saturated with the case of Gabby Petito. In reality more young Black and Indigenous women go missing at a statistically higher rate every year. We discuss the "Missing White Woman Syndrome" and the discrepancy between missing person cases and how it upholds white supremacy. References https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missingwhitewomansyndrome https://newsone.com/4210757/gabrielle-petito-media-coverage-missing-black-women/ https://womensmediacenter.com/news-features/the-urgent-crisis-of-missing-black-women-and-girls?fbclid=IwAR2TyAelSYb8meCwxwDhV5LbpeRXA5nmqXQVOOoZD8PJspFGVwcObcj9zoI https://www.law.georgetown.edu/news/research-confirms-that-black-girls-feel-the-sting-of-adultification-bias-identified-in-earlier-georgetown-law-study/ https://www.cbsnews.com/news/mary-johnson-missing-indigenous-woman-fbi-10000-dollars/ https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/gabby-petito-missing-persons-jelani-day-lauren-cho-daniel-robinson-1229842/ https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/lack-awareness-data-hinders-cases-missing-murdered-native-american-women-n1235233 https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/22/business/media/gabby-petito-missing-white-woman-syndrome.html https://www.cnn.com/2019/11/03/us/missing-children-of-color-trnd/index.html https://www.revolt.tv/2021/9/21/22686316/joy-reid-gabby-petito-white-woman-missing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ObsBDVzWgoQ https://blackandmissinginc.com/ Follow Black and Missing Foundation on Twitter https://twitter.com/BAMFI

The term "Aftercare" is widely known in the BDSM community but should be incorporated after any sexual situation no matter how vanilla you are! Aftercare helps you and your partner feel more connected after the hormonal come down of sex. We discuss different ways to engage in aftercare and how it can be incorporated in long term relationships and casual sex encounters. Resources https://medium.com/sexual-tendencies/why-aftercare-is-so-important-in-sex-vanilla-or-kink-c4197da2e9c7 https://www.wellandgood.com/aftercare-after-sex/ https://www.wellandgood.com/skin-psoriasis-treatment/ https://kimatwood.com/aftercare-an-important-though-often-overlooked-step/ "Just Sex" Hidden Brain https://hiddenbrain.org/ Sexual Aftercare Tips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkT7fKLRutE

The most restrictive law in the nation regarding abortion access has gone into effect on September 1, 2021. This is the first law of its kind that deputizes private citizens to sue one another for "aiding and abetting" an abortion. These McCarthy Era tactics are resurfacing in a big way, we discuss resources and what you can do to fight back. References https://www.dallasnews.com/opinion/commentary/2019/09/15/why-are-we-so-bad-at-prosecuting-sexual-assault/ https://www.npr.org/2021/09/08/1035119369/fact-check-texas-gov-greg-abbotts-misleading-remarks-on-the-states-abortion-law https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/08/world/americas/mexico-abortion-access.html https://www.npr.org/2021/09/08/1035089278/texas-governor-defends-abortion-law-saying-state-will-eliminate-all-rapists https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/we-categorized-hundreds-of-abortion-restrictions-heres-why-the-anti-abortion-movement-is-escalating/ https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/01/health/texas-abortion-law-facts.html Resources Repro Legal Denense Fund https://www.ifwhenhow.org/ Give Yourself and Abortion https://jewishcurrents.org/how-to-give-yourself-an-abortion/?fbclid=IwAR0yzEZblwOCWVVDYTD8X3qDL1ylZ8UwJYpfT7wqcrrF01Z5VCxX3jSoM Misoprostol Pill https://aidaccess.org/en/

Charlotte doesn’t understand the assignment. We learn there are surprising benefits of getting in tune with your hormone cycle. Knowing the ebbs and flows of your hormones can help "optimize your productivity" or simply help you be more in harmony with your body. Resources https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/alexandramysoor/2018/05/10/how-women-can-use-monthly-periods-as-a-productivity-tool/amp/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/elemental.medium.com/amp/p/4313616b9647 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=piniMW4pH6k