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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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English

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Episodes

What Is God Doing In My Trauma? (with Matt Wenger)

3/18/2024
We need a theology of trauma. In this episode, Matt Wenger powerfully invites us to view our trauma through the lens of Jesus's life, death, and resurrection. This episode is a preview of our new online course at healyourtrauma.com Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for Christian men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. Boulder Recovery uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy. EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT: Today, Matt Wenger and Drew Boa are releasing a new free online course called "10 Ways To Heal Your Trauma: Resolving The Roots Of Porn And Sex Addiction." Get free access at healyourtrauma.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:20:56

How To Create Connection In Any Conversation (LIVE)

3/11/2024
Do you long for connection, but it feels impossible? In this episode, you'll learn extremely simple tools and techniques to create connection in any conversation—using your eyes, face, voice, and words. Helpful phrases: Resources mentioned (including paid links): Attunement: The Key To ConnectionThe Polyvagal Theory in TherapyMan Cards: Conversation Starters For MenDear Young Married Couple Card DecksTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:37:19

Why Men Don't Talk About Their Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

3/4/2024
There are over 40 reasons why men don't talk about their sexual abuse. Let's break the silence. In this episode hosted by Mike Chapman and Doug Carpenter, survivors of sexual abuse share vulnerable stories of harm and healing. Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of the HM fellowship for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting.com/contact Check out Mike's new podcast: Healing For Male Survivors Listen on AppleListen on Spotify Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Husband Material Coach, and the author of Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com Husband Material episodes about sexual abuse: Was I Sexually Abused?Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual DesireHealing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual AbuseRags To Riches To Ruin To RedemptionMale Survivors of Sexual Abuse Resources mentioned (including paid links): 1in6.orgMenHealing.orgMaleSurvivor.orgSecret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual DevelopmentBent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And FaithUnchained Memories: True Stories Of Traumatic Memories Lost And FoundScouts HonorTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:43:23

How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

2/26/2024
What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudill walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful. Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disclosure training and certification course, and they provide the highest level of support for professionals using their Restoring Truth Model. Learn more at kintsugirecoverypartners.com Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father. Dr. Janice Caudill is an APSATS supervisor, CSAT supervisor, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist supervisor, Certified Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist, Certified Intimacy Anorexia Therapist, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is the Founder of Intensive Recovery Healing and Intensive Recovery Coaching. Learn more at intensivehope.com Buy Dan and Janice's books! (these are paid links) For you (the blue books): Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual BetrayalYour Disclosure Document: A 10-Step GuideFor your partner (the green books): Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You HealFull Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your TermsFull Disclosure: Post Disclosure HealingTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:42:21

Healthy Fantasy vs. Unhealthy Fantasy

2/19/2024
Your imagination is not bad. Learn the 4 main types of fantasies, how to evaluate the healthiness of a fantasy, and what to do with your healthy/unhealthy fantasies! Related episodes: Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual DesireHow To Interpret Sexual FantasiesHow To Analyze A Sexual FantasyIntroduction To Sexual SymbolismHow My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over TimeTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:15:14

A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

2/12/2024
What is grace, and how does it apply to sexual recovery? Jonathan Daugherty inspiringly explains how grace is not "soft" but the most powerful force for transformation and freedom from porn. Pride, shame, and comparison all melt away under the core truth that you are worth the life of God's son, and that can never change. Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken, and founder of the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men. He also hosts the weekly radio program, Pure Sex Radio. Jonathan lives with his wife and family in San Antonio, Texas.​ Buy Jonathan's books (these are paid links): Grace-Based Recovery: A Safe Place to Heal and GrowGrace-Based Transformation: The 3-Stage Journey to Wholeness in ChristSecrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity and Second ChancesMeet Jonathan, Drew, and other sexual integrity leaders at the 2024 Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit in Colorado Springs, CO! Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:39:31

Singleness & Same-Sex Attraction (with Dr. Greg Coles)

2/5/2024
If you're single and you experience same-sex attraction, this episode is for you. Dr. Greg Coles offers insight, humor, delight, and hope that defies typical Christian categories of what a "good and beautiful life" can look like. Greg Coles is an author, speaker, and scholar at the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. Check out Greg's books (these are paid links): Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey Of Faith And Sexual IdentityNo Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging In A World Of AlienationThe Limits Of My World: a novelTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:36:25

Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

1/29/2024
What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic examples of what these two approaches look like, sound like, and feel like when you are... Drew Boa, Doug Carpenter, Henry Brown, and Jordan Castille are all members of the Husband Material Leadership Team. Related episodes: How To Outgrow Porn (Intro To HMA)Experience Healing Through PsychodramaHow To Reframe A Porn RelapseTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:20:23

Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)

1/22/2024
How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerful approach to outgrowing porn. Learn why we need to work with parts pre-emptively, how to "break the spell" when you're in a trance state, and practical ways Jesus can meet our attachment needs. Dr. Gerry Crete is a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of trauma, addictions, and anxiety disorders. He is a former president of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association, founder of Transfiguration Counseling, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Dr. Gerry has long been passionate about integrating principles of the Christian faith with effective mental health treatment. Buy Gerry's new book (this is a paid link): Litanies of the Heart: Relieving Post-Traumatic Stress and Calming Anxiety Through Healing Our Parts Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:47:59

What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

1/15/2024
How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she needs after a trigger tornado has passed. Discover how her triggers can become opportunities for healing! Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is the founder of Betrayal Healing and host of the Betrayal Healing Conference. She is passionate about helping women find their strength and pick up the pieces of their broken hearts after sexual betrayal, so they are able to see beauty, joy, and adventure again. Join me at Tammy's Betrayal Healing Conference from January 22-26, 2024! NOTE: This description contains an affiliate link. Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:39:46

Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)

1/8/2024
What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a story of difficulty, chalk artisan Philip Leach creates a visual representation while coach John Kilmer offers attunement. Then we invite Jesus into the story and watch the chalk art change. The result is jaw-droppingly beautiful and incredibly meaningful. Watch the video of this episode here: husbandmaterial.com/blog/healing-through-artwork-and-storywork-with-philip-leach-and-john-kilmerPhilip Leach is a worshipper and friend of Jesus who enjoys expressing creativity and building joyful connection through snow sculpting, Immanuel Doodling, deliberate appreciation, and facilitating times of quiet listening and art. His journey has included lots of hand-painted pottery as well as two decades of presenting “chalk talks”. His primary passion is joining other men in breaking free from anything that’s keeping us from enjoying life, and then practicing skills to move forward powered by Joy. John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus Christ who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com. This type of experience is now being offered every week inside Husband Material Academy (HMA). The doors to HMA are currently open! Join now before the doors close on January 14 at joinHMA.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:58:37

12 Reasons To Stop Shaming Yourself

1/1/2024
Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, what's more powerful than shame, and what you can do instead of shaming yourself. Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:21:19

How To Help Your Partner Heal (with Carol Sheets)

12/25/2023
How can I help my partner heal from the impact of my porn and sex addiction? Psychotherapist and author Carol Sheets reveals what sexually betrayed partners need most, and how you can "help her heal" when you create safety, practice empathy, offer validation, and take ownership without going into shame. This episode is super practical and full of great ideas! Carol Juergensen Sheets (LCSW, CSAT) also known as "Carol The Coach" is the author of many books and workbooks about sex addiction and partner betrayal. She is also the creator of ERCEM: Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model. Carol is also a guest speaker at The Porn Free Man Online Conference on January 5-6, 2024! Join us at thepornfreeman.com Books and workbooks featuring Carol Sheets (these are paid links): Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook For Sex Addicts To Help Their Partners HealHelp Them Heal: Teaching You Both How To Heal Your Relationship After Sexual BetrayalUnleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal Learn more about Carol at sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:36:35

Blessing vs. Cursing Yourself & The Story Behind Your Porn (with Chris Bruno)

12/18/2023
How do you shift from self-condemnation to self-compassion? Chris Bruno reveals how to discover the story behind your struggle with porn. You'll learn what it looks like to rediscover your true "masterpiece-ness" even in the throes of a porn relapse. Our deepest healing lies in turning to the God who knows and created us in His image. Chris Bruno leads Restoration Project and ReStory Counseling, where he helps people come alive. He is a licensed professional counselor who has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts. Chris is also a guest speaker at The Porn Free Man 2024 Online Conference on January 5-6, 2024! Learn more at thepornfreeman.com Check out Chris' online courses at ReStory Labs Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:31:23

How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

12/11/2023
What can sexual fantasies teach us? How should we analyze them? In this episode, Drew and Doug vulnerably share and analyze each other's sexual fantasies so you can understand what this work practically looks like and how to do it well. The best place to start is Husband Material Academy, which opens up on January 1. Learn more at joinHMA.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:00:18

Introduction To Sexual Symbolism

12/4/2023
What desires are commonly symbolized by the penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet? Find out in this short and sweet introduction! Related episodes: Theology Of The PenisUnwanted Sexual AttractionSexual Arousal vs. Sexual DesireHow To Interpret Sexual FantasiesWhat Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?Here is the video I mentioned: Trauma and Sexual Fetish | Where Do Fetishes Come From? Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:16:19

Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach (with Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson)

11/27/2023
What is the Immanuel Approach? How can it help Christian men outgrow porn? Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson unpack this amazing way to change your brain and heal your heart through connecting with Jesus experientially. You'll also hear a refreshing reminder of how Jesus relates to you with unconditional love, even in your deepest shame. Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson are the founders of Face To Face Ministries. They are passionate heart healers who have dedicated their lives to activating and equipping men and women with tools backed by brain science to accelerate personal breakthroughs through connecting with Jesus using the Immanuel Approach. Check out Cathy and Melinda's podcast here. Immanuel Sessions are designed to help you connect with Jesus, receive healing from emotional wounds and trauma, and uncover lies that keep you from living out the truth of who you are in Christ. There is no agenda other than to help you connect with Jesus and allow Him to lead you into greater healing, freedom, and wholeness. Schedule an an Immanuel Session with Face To Face Ministries here. Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links): Streams of Healing: Finding Your Way to Wholeness with Key Leaders in the Inner Healing MovementThe Immanuel Approach For Emotional Healing & For LifeThe Immanuel Approach For Emotional Healing & For LifeJoyful Journey: Listening To ImmanuelAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep LoveTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:48:14

Can Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)

11/20/2023
What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sexual recovery with medication such as naltrexone. You'll get wisdom about what to expect and how to decide what's right for you. Adam also addresses common objections and concerns about receiving psychiatric assistance with compassion and clarity from a Christ-centered perspective. Here are the case reports Adam mentioned about naltrexone: Internet sex addiction treated with naltrexone - Mayo ClinicNaltrexone in cases of compulsive sexual behaviors - Psychiatrist.comNaltrexone in the treatment of adolescent sexual offenders - National Library of MedicineTreatment Of Compulsive Pornography Use With Naltrexone: A Case Report - American Journal Of PsychiatryCompulsive Sexual Behavior and Alcohol Use Disorder Treated With Naltrexone: A Case Report and Literature ReviewInterested in learning more? Bring your questions to our Live Q&A with Adam O'Neill on Tuesday, November 28th @ 7 PM Eastern Time inside the Husband Material Community. Adam O'Neill is a Certified Physician Assistant who practices Christian Psychiatry in Virginia, where he is licensed to prescribe medications. Adam graduated from Thomas Jefferson University with a Masters of Physician Assistant Studies in 2019. Prior to that, he attended Wheaton College in Illinois, where he earned his Bachelors in Psychology. Learn more about Adam O'Neill & Associates at aoavirginia.com Buy Adam's book (this is a paid link): The Mind After Eden: Psychiatry in a Post-Fall World Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:32:09

What Is A Pornographic Approach To Recovery?

11/13/2023
How has porn impacted your approach to recovery? Learn 7 pornographic styles of recovery and what healthy recovery looks like instead. Pornographic recovery is: Healthy recovery is: The idea of "a pornographic style of recovery" is based on Andrew Bauman's concept of "a pornographic style of relating" (PSR) as described here: A Pornographic Style Of RelatingThe Psychology of PornOther Husband Material episodes mentioned: Long Distance FriendshipHow To Heal Your Inner ChildHow To Measure Freedom From PornHow To Outgrow PornTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:33:10

Helping Men Feel Safe To Open Up And Heal From Trauma (with Dr. James Reeves)

11/6/2023
What helps men feel safe to open up and heal from trauma? Dr. James Reeves (the pirate pastor) tells the story of facing his childhood wounds, building a hospital church, and creating the Fearless Series—which is fantastic! The Fearless Series for Men is designed for Christian men to get the conversation started about childhood sexual, physical, or emotional trauma and how it has affected their lives. Check it out: fs4men.comfs4women.comDr. James Reeves has been a pastor for more than 40 years. He nearly resigned, but chose to confront his past, and then used his newfound freedom in Christ to build a "hospital church" based on addressing emotional wounds. James is a regular speaker at conferences across America about how the local church can minister effectively to survivors of sexual trauma. Interested? Email James at Jamesreeves68@gmail.com. Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:25:08