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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will help you achieve lasting freedom from porn more quickly and permanently—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually healthy man of God.

So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will help you achieve lasting freedom from porn more quickly and permanently—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually healthy man of God.

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United States

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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will help you achieve lasting freedom from porn more quickly and permanently—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually healthy man of God.

Language:

English

Contact:

8174563235


Episodes

Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

5/16/2022
What is the difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter powerfully explains this concept and why it is absolutely essential for outgrowing porn. This episode is taken from our new course on Healing From Sexual Abuse. Learn more at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/healing-from-sexual-abuse Related episodes: How To Interpret Sexual FantasiesWhat Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?Join our private community at...

Duration:00:15:43

Should I Count The Days Since I Last Used Porn?

5/9/2022
Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count, and what works for me... 2 bad reasons: Legalism & License 3 good reasons: Celebration, Compassion, & Curiosity What works for me? Listen to this episode to find out 😉 If you loved this episode, you will probably love my book, Redeemed Sexuality. Buy it here (this is a paid link): Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation In...

Duration:00:21:23

Porn And Centering Prayer (with Matthew Lyda)

5/2/2022
What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering prayer: Matthew Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and a poet. He is the author of Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers (paid link). Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. Take Matthew's free 5-day course on centering prayer here. Please join us for "An Evening of Centering Prayer" inside the Husband...

Duration:00:35:24

The Gospel And Trauma (with Matt Wenger)

4/25/2022
How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma and outgrowing pornography. Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues and their impact on faith. The program uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive...

Duration:01:06:20

How To Heal Your Inner Child: Older Brother Coaching

4/18/2022
What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coaching. Older Brother Coaching is my unique approach to healing the inner child, which has led to hundreds of breakthroughs for Christian men outgrowing porn. In this episode, you'll learn the three steps of Older Brother Coaching. Then at the end, I'll lead you through a guided meditation to experience it for yourself. Resources mentioned (including...

Duration:01:04:32

The Blessing Of Being Reported (with Rich Moore)

4/11/2022
What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and propelled him into healing. Rich also reveals how to know if you should report yourself or someone else to local authorities. Rich Moore is the Associate Director of Men's Groups for Pure Desire Ministries, and a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). Rich has been involved with Pure Desire for over 20 years and serves a...

Duration:00:30:19

Healing Racial Trauma (with Sheila Wise Rowe)

4/4/2022
What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about how racial trauma can be healed. Sheila Wise Rowe is a truth-teller who writes passionately about matters of faith and emotional healing. She advocates for the dignity, rights, and healing of abuse survivors, those carrying racial trauma, and racial (re)conciliation. Sheila is the author of the award-winning book Healing Racial Trauma: The...

Duration:00:40:24

Why Didn’t I Like Vaginas?

3/28/2022
If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sexual parts due to purity culture, parents, peers, princesses, and porn. Books about sex and purity culture (paid links): A Celebration Of SexThe Gift Of SexTalking Back To Purity CultureTo understand how purity culture keeps men trapped in porn, take my free mini-course at outgrowporn.com Join our private community at...

Duration:00:19:27

How Does God View My Body? (with Matt Cline)

3/21/2022
What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have value, and how we can reclaim the parts we don't like. Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, focused on helping 1,000,000 people live porn-free and powerfully by 2030. He is also co-host of the Pure Victory Podcast. Matt lives in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada with his wife and two young sons. Restored Ministries Resources: Pure Freedom...

Duration:00:39:55

Toxic Shame vs. Healthy Shame (with Dr. Jake Porter)

3/14/2022
Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questions from science and scripture. Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Daring Ventures and host of the upcoming Choose Connection Online Summit for couples in recovery from addiction and betrayal on March 25-27, 2022. Husband Material is partnering with Daring Ventures to promote this awesome event using affiliate links. Get your free ticket to the...

Duration:00:41:17

Vulnerability 101 (LIVE)

3/7/2022
What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and more... If you want to become more vulnerable with men committed to curiosity and compassion, apply to join an upcoming Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group Resources on vulnerability (including paid links): The Power Of Vulnerability (TED Talk)Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love,...

Duration:00:47:15

The Power Of Identity (with Sathiya Sam)

2/28/2022
Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure identity, how to strengthen your sense of self, and why he recommends self-care using the 5 love languages. Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker who helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean™️ – a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn. This work has helped...

Duration:00:44:42

Rags To Riches To Ruin To Redemption (with Dr. Joe Martin)

2/21/2022
"You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity. You don't. How long do you wanna keep playing this game of the pity party and this shame when I got so much more planned for you?" —Dr. Joe Martin In this episode, Dr. Joe Martin shares his incredible story of God bringing redemption out of poverty, abuse, addiction, and divorce. He also reveals the 5 components of a kingdom man, and how to address voices...

Duration:01:05:48

How To Reframe A Porn Relapse

2/14/2022
What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewing relapse as feedback (not failure), the benefits of a growth mindset (not a fixed mindset), and the 3 types of feedback you must receive. Research mentioned in this episode (this is a paid link): Mindset: The New Psychology Of Success Other Husband Material resources mentioned in this episode: bookcoursecoaching

Duration:00:15:26

Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2 (with Mike Chapman)

2/7/2022
What is "normal" for survivors of sexual abuse? And what does healing look like? Mike Chapman offers validation and wisdom based on years of research and his personal healing journey. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn. Mike also facilitates a free private group for male...

Duration:00:39:09

Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1 (with Mike Chapman)

1/31/2022
You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy. He is also an incredible man of God, a powerful encourager, and a Certified Husband Material Coach with over 3 years of freedom from porn. Contact Mike for coaching at polarlifeconsulting@gmail.com Mike also facilitates a free private group for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse for members of the Husband Material Community. Another forum...

Duration:00:28:34

Was I Sexually Abused? (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

1/24/2022
How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening up about his own early sexual experiences... and how resolving sexual confusion helped him find freedom from gay porn. Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and professor of psychology. He and his spouse, Mary Carpenter, LMSW are the founders of Insight Counseling Services in Rochester, Michigan. Buy Doug's new book (this is a...

Duration:00:48:09

Introduction To Healing Prayer (with Leslie Weinzettel)

1/17/2022
What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing prayer, because Leslie Weinzettel offers incredibly helpful guidance on how to pray for one another in a way that is truly healing. Leslie Weinzettel has been practicing and growing in the ministry of healing prayer for the last 17 years. As a former staff member of Christian Healing Ministries in Jacksonville, FL, she shares from her many...

Duration:00:52:00

Building A Porn-Free Body: Momentum (with Alex VanHouten)

1/10/2022
In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and founder of the Betterment Company and the Better Daily App. Alex lives in Greenbrier, Arkansas with his wife and two boys. Here is Alex's new...

Duration:00:49:52

Building A Porn-Free Body: Motivation (with Alex VanHouten)

1/3/2022
How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can strengthen your sexual integrity. Along the way, Alex shares a wealth of insights from science, Scripture, and his own story of freedom. Alex VanHouten is a father, husband, and self-proclaimed fitness nerd. He has served thousands of clients as a health coach, nutritionist, and personal trainer for the past 16 years. He is the owner and...

Duration:01:01:51