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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will make it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.

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Episodes
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Why We Sexualize Emotions And How To Desexualize Them

5/20/2024
Why do we sexualize emotions, and how can we desexualize them? In this episode, I explain what it looks like to "right-size" sexual energy through processing emotions and releasing trauma. Free tools to process emotions: Feelings And Needs WheelFeelings And Needs Inventory Ready to release some trauma? Husband Material Retreathusbandmaterial.com/retreat "Before the retreat, I was plagued with an overwhelming sense of sadness that I could ignore for a while but never escape. During the retreat, I was able to access my suppressed, righteous anger, experience it, and direct it for good." —Scott Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:26:49

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Overcoming Sexual Entitlement (with Noah Filipiak)

5/13/2024
What happens when you feel entitled to sex and treat your wife like a replacement for porn? In this episode, Noah Filipiak tells his story of overcoming sexual entitlement and objectification. Along the way, he unpacks the false promises of purity culture, what love really looks like, how God's grace changes us, and the power of gratitude. Noah Filipiak is a pastor, author, and the host of The Flip Side Podcast. He also blogs at noahfilipiak.com. Noah and his wife Jen have three daughters. He is on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram @noahfilipiak. Buy Noah's book (this is a paid link): Beyond the Battle: A Man’s Guide To His Identity In Christ In An Oversexualized World Needed Navigation: A Teen’s Guide to His or Her Identity in Christ in a Sex & Porn-Filled World Join a 7-week online group with Noah to experience how to overcome pornography, lust, and fantasy. After the 7 weeks, alumni get to join the free Beyond the Battle alumni community filled with ongoing support and encouragement. Sign up at www.beyondthebattle.net. Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:39:46

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Hope And Healing For Sexless Marriage (with Adam and Karissa King)

5/6/2024
What is the definition of sexless marriage? Why do couples experience this? Sexless marriage is often a symptom of deeper psychosomatic issues. Adam and Karissa teach practical tools to build a sexful marriage through vulnerability, intimacy, and safe touch. This episode can also help couples for whom intercourse is painful or not possible. Adam and Karissa King are a licensed coach/therapist team and the founders of Dear Young Married Couple, where they help couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose. Free download: 5 Steps When Trust Has Been Broken Free download: Because, Because, Because Check out Adam and Karissa's EROS Conference: dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros My wife and I attended and it was exactly what we needed! Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links): FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More Connected REALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant Other SEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having Sex Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:40:30

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Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: How To Respond To A Story (Part 4)

4/29/2024
How do you respond to someone else's story with curiosity and compassion? In part 4 of this 4 part series, Marcus Spaur shares his story: "If I Only Could Have Been..." If you love story work, you'd love Husband Material Groups. Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/group Drew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.com Wendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator at The Allender Center. Wendell serves as adjunct faculty at The Seattle School Of Theology & Psychology. Email Wendell at bishopmoss@gmail.com Marcus Spaur is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, and CCAR Coach. Marcus is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. Learn more at betweenthecoverscoaching.com Chris Inman (M.Div, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. Chris is the founder of Porn-Free Masculinity. Email Chris at chris@np-recovery.com Resources for responding to someone else's story: Attunement: The Key To ConnectionHow To Create Connection In Any ConversationTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:03:04

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Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: How To Write A Story (Part 3)

4/22/2024
How do you write a story about your trauma and sexual experiences? In part 3 of this 4-part series, Wendell Moss shares his story: "Sex & Sexuality" If you love story work, you'd love Husband Material Groups. Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/group Drew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.com Wendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator at The Allender Center. Wendell serves as adjunct faculty at The Seattle School Of Theology & Psychology. Email Wendell at bishopmoss@gmail.com Marcus Spaur is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, and CCAR Coach. Marcus is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. Learn more at betweenthecoverscoaching.com Chris Inman (M.Div, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. Chris is the founder of Porn-Free Masculinity. Email Chris at chris@np-recovery.com Resources For Story Writing (including paid links): Story Writing ResourcesExpressive Writing: Words That HealTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:42:22

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Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: Why We Do Story Work (Part 2)

4/15/2024
Why is story work absolutely essential for men outgrowing porn? In part 2 of this 4 part series, Chris Inman shares his story: "The Lonely Walk." If you love story work, you'd love Husband Material Groups. Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/group Drew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.com Wendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator at The Allender Center. Wendell serves as adjunct faculty at The Seattle School Of Theology & Psychology. Email Wendell at bishopmoss@gmail.com Marcus Spaur is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, and CCAR Coach. Marcus is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. Learn more at betweenthecoverscoaching.com Chris Inman (M.Div, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. Chris is the founder of Porn-Free Masculinity. Email Chris at chris@np-recovery.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:33:36

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Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: What Is Story Work? (Part 1)

4/8/2024
What is story work? Where did it come from? What does it look like? In part 1 of this 4-part series, Drew shares his story: "The Day I Got Braces." If you love this series, you'd love Husband Material Groups. Apply to join a group at husbandmaterial.com/group Drew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.com Wendell Moss (MA, LMHC) is a therapist, lead instructor, and facilitator at The Allender Center. Wendell serves as adjunct faculty at The Seattle School Of Theology & Psychology. Email Wendell at bishopmoss@gmail.com Marcus Spaur is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, and CCAR Coach. Marcus is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. Learn more at betweenthecoverscoaching.com Chris Inman (M.Div, PSAP) is a Certified Unwanted Guide and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. Chris is the founder of Porn-Free Masculinity. Email Chris at chris@np-recovery.com Resources for Story Work: The Allender CenterAllender TheoryUnwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To HealingRedeeming HeartacheThe Place We Find OurselvesThe ReStory CourseTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:40:59

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Porn and Inner Healing Prayer

4/1/2024
What is inner healing prayer, and how can it help men outgrow porn? This episode is a preview of our new online course, "10 Ways To Heal Your Trauma: Resolving The Roots Of Porn And Sex Addiction." Get free access at healyourtrauma.com Resources for Inner Healing Prayer: Streams of Healing: Finding Your Way to Wholeness with Key Leaders in the Inner Healing MovementIntroduction To Healing PrayerExperience Healing Through The Immanuel ApproachTransformation Prayer MinistryListening To ImmanuelTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:21:23

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Porn and Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)

3/25/2024
What is Polyvagal Theory? How can it help men outgrow porn? John Kilmer skillfully describes the autonomic nervous system and how to (re)shape it in order to experience regulation without unwanted sexual behavior. John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. John has completed the Foundations of Polyvagal Informed Practice Clinical Training Series with Deb Dana. He's a grateful follower of Jesus who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com. This episode is a preview of our new online course, "10 Ways To Heal Your Trauma: Resolving The Roots Of Porn And Sex Addiction." Get free access at healyourtrauma.com Books on Polyvagal Theory (these are paid links): AnchoredPolyvagal Theory in TherapyThe Pocket Guide To The Polyvagal TheoryTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:23:56

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What Is God Doing In My Trauma? (with Matt Wenger)

3/18/2024
We need a theology of trauma. In this episode, Matt Wenger powerfully invites us to view our trauma through the lens of Jesus's life, death, and resurrection. This episode is a preview of our new online course at healyourtrauma.com Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for Christian men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. Boulder Recovery uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy. EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT: Today, Matt Wenger and Drew Boa are releasing a new free online course called "10 Ways To Heal Your Trauma: Resolving The Roots Of Porn And Sex Addiction." Get free access at healyourtrauma.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:20:56

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How To Create Connection In Any Conversation (LIVE)

3/11/2024
Do you long for connection, but it feels impossible? In this episode, you'll learn extremely simple tools and techniques to create connection in any conversation—using your eyes, face, voice, and words. Helpful phrases: Resources mentioned (including paid links): Attunement: The Key To ConnectionThe Polyvagal Theory in TherapyMan Cards: Conversation Starters For MenDear Young Married Couple Card DecksTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:37:19

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Why Men Don't Talk About Their Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

3/4/2024
There are over 40 reasons why men don't talk about their sexual abuse. Let's break the silence. In this episode hosted by Mike Chapman and Doug Carpenter, survivors of sexual abuse share vulnerable stories of harm and healing. Mike Chapman is a Certified Husband Material Coach and the leader of the HM fellowship for survivors of sexual abuse. Contact Mike at polarlifeconsulting.com/contact Check out Mike's new podcast: Healing For Male Survivors Listen on AppleListen on Spotify Dr. Doug Carpenter is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Husband Material Coach, and the author of Secret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual Development. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com Husband Material episodes about sexual abuse: Was I Sexually Abused?Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual DesireHealing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual AbuseRags To Riches To Ruin To RedemptionMale Survivors of Sexual Abuse Resources mentioned (including paid links): 1in6.orgMenHealing.orgMaleSurvivor.orgSecret Shame: A Survivor's Guide To Understanding Male Sexual Abuse And Male Sexual DevelopmentBent On Men: A Memoir On Taboo Feelings, Fraternal Curiosity, And FaithUnchained Memories: True Stories Of Traumatic Memories Lost And FoundScouts HonorTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:43:23

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How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

2/26/2024
What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudill walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful. Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disclosure training and certification course, and they provide the highest level of support for professionals using their Restoring Truth Model. Learn more at kintsugirecoverypartners.com Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father. Dr. Janice Caudill is an APSATS supervisor, CSAT supervisor, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist supervisor, Certified Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist, Certified Intimacy Anorexia Therapist, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is the Founder of Intensive Recovery Healing and Intensive Recovery Coaching. Learn more at intensivehope.com Buy Dan and Janice's books! (these are paid links) For you (the blue books): Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual BetrayalYour Disclosure Document: A 10-Step GuideFor your partner (the green books): Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You HealFull Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your TermsFull Disclosure: Post Disclosure HealingTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:42:21

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Healthy Fantasy vs. Unhealthy Fantasy

2/19/2024
Your imagination is not bad. Learn the 4 main types of fantasies, how to evaluate the healthiness of a fantasy, and what to do with your healthy/unhealthy fantasies! Related episodes: Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual DesireHow To Interpret Sexual FantasiesHow To Analyze A Sexual FantasyIntroduction To Sexual SymbolismHow My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over TimeTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:15:14

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A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

2/12/2024
What is grace, and how does it apply to sexual recovery? Jonathan Daugherty inspiringly explains how grace is not "soft" but the most powerful force for transformation and freedom from porn. Pride, shame, and comparison all melt away under the core truth that you are worth the life of God's son, and that can never change. Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken, and founder of the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men. He also hosts the weekly radio program, Pure Sex Radio. Jonathan lives with his wife and family in San Antonio, Texas.​ Buy Jonathan's books (these are paid links): Grace-Based Recovery: A Safe Place to Heal and GrowGrace-Based Transformation: The 3-Stage Journey to Wholeness in ChristSecrets: A True Story of Addiction, Infidelity and Second ChancesMeet Jonathan, Drew, and other sexual integrity leaders at the 2024 Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit in Colorado Springs, CO! Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:39:31

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Singleness & Same-Sex Attraction (with Dr. Greg Coles)

2/5/2024
If you're single and you experience same-sex attraction, this episode is for you. Dr. Greg Coles offers insight, humor, delight, and hope that defies typical Christian categories of what a "good and beautiful life" can look like. Greg Coles is an author, speaker, and scholar at the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. Check out Greg's books (these are paid links): Single, Gay, Christian: A Personal Journey Of Faith And Sexual IdentityNo Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging In A World Of AlienationThe Limits Of My World: a novelTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:36:25

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Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

1/29/2024
What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic examples of what these two approaches look like, sound like, and feel like when you are... Drew Boa, Doug Carpenter, Henry Brown, and Jordan Castille are all members of the Husband Material Leadership Team. Related episodes: How To Outgrow Porn (Intro To HMA)Experience Healing Through PsychodramaHow To Reframe A Porn RelapseTake the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:01:20:23

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Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)

1/22/2024
How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerful approach to outgrowing porn. Learn why we need to work with parts pre-emptively, how to "break the spell" when you're in a trance state, and practical ways Jesus can meet our attachment needs. Dr. Gerry Crete is a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor who specializes in the treatment of trauma, addictions, and anxiety disorders. He is a former president of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association, founder of Transfiguration Counseling, and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. Dr. Gerry has long been passionate about integrating principles of the Christian faith with effective mental health treatment. Buy Gerry's new book (this is a paid link): Litanies of the Heart: Relieving Post-Traumatic Stress and Calming Anxiety Through Healing Our Parts Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:47:59

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What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

1/15/2024
How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she needs after a trigger tornado has passed. Discover how her triggers can become opportunities for healing! Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is the founder of Betrayal Healing and host of the Betrayal Healing Conference. She is passionate about helping women find their strength and pick up the pieces of their broken hearts after sexual betrayal, so they are able to see beauty, joy, and adventure again. Join me at Tammy's Betrayal Healing Conference from January 22-26, 2024! NOTE: This description contains an affiliate link. Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:39:46

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Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)

1/8/2024
What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a story of difficulty, chalk artisan Philip Leach creates a visual representation while coach John Kilmer offers attunement. Then we invite Jesus into the story and watch the chalk art change. The result is jaw-droppingly beautiful and incredibly meaningful. Watch the video of this episode here: husbandmaterial.com/blog/healing-through-artwork-and-storywork-with-philip-leach-and-john-kilmerPhilip Leach is a worshipper and friend of Jesus who enjoys expressing creativity and building joyful connection through snow sculpting, Immanuel Doodling, deliberate appreciation, and facilitating times of quiet listening and art. His journey has included lots of hand-painted pottery as well as two decades of presenting “chalk talks”. His primary passion is joining other men in breaking free from anything that’s keeping us from enjoying life, and then practicing skills to move forward powered by Joy. John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus Christ who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com. This type of experience is now being offered every week inside Husband Material Academy (HMA). The doors to HMA are currently open! Join now before the doors close on January 14 at joinHMA.com Take the Husband Material Journey... YouTubeHusband Material CommunityHow To Outgrow PornHusband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Duration:00:58:37