Let's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert

Mason Sawyer lost 3 children and his wife in a sudden tragedy, now he spends his time helping others. We talk about a whole lotta shit. Here's what CoHost AI said this episode is about: "Some conversations hit you with a hard truth: there is no “right thing” to say, and there is no fix coming. That’s where we start with Mason Sawyer of The 1090 Rule, a host who has spent years sitting with devastating loss stories and learning what actually helps. We dig into what it means to hold space for grief, why advice can create distance, and how silence, patience, and plain human honesty can make someone feel less alone. From there, we widen out into the messy ways people cope. We talk about crying, dark humor, and the quiet work of “caring for the soul” rather than obsessing over solutions. Then the conversation turns toward sexual shame, porn addiction, and sex addiction recovery, including how novelty and doom-scrolling can rewire arousal, how to spot the line between pleasure and compulsion, and why porn can become a powerful form of emotional numbing when stress, anxiety, or grief spikes. We also get practical about parenting and healthy sexuality: how to speak without shame, how consent language can be simple, and how to create the kind of trust where a kid can actually come to you. If you take one thing away, let it be this: sadness and joy can coexist, and connection is a skill you can practice. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway." ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

Angel shares how living in Los Angeles made community and confidence feel effortless, then moving to Jakarta created a full-on identity crisis: different beauty standards, different social rules, and suddenly no easy place to fit. Instead of forcing a new persona, we explore dissolving the old one and sitting in the blank slate long enough for something truer to appear. We also get practical about energy, power, and embodiment. When you stop performing for approval, you get your energy back. When you stop trying to fix people, you stop bleeding yourself dry. And when you use the body as a truth meter through breathwork, yoga, and somatic awareness, you can navigate relationships with more clarity, including knowing when something has moved from weird to painful to harmful. We close with the sharp distinction between pain and suffering, and a reminder that choice and power are almost always closer than they feel. If this hits, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s rebuilding, and leave a review so more people can find it. What part of your identity are you ready to let go of next? ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

So many women are quietly carrying a fear that runs their love life: “If I want too much, I’ll be judged or left.” We go straight into that tension, unpacking sexual shame, the pressure to stay palatable, and why self-censorship can feel safer than honesty. Along the way, we connect the “too much” story to abandonment wounds and early experiences that teach the nervous system to hold back, perform, and prioritize someone else’s comfort over real desire. From there, we zoom out into a holistic view of sexual wellbeing. We talk about sexual energy as life force energy, the kind of creative fuel that affects confidence, health, relationships, and purpose. We also challenge the limits of symptom-only thinking in modern Western medicine and ask the questions that actually change outcomes: Are you emotionally safe? Are you having sex from duty or from genuine want? What happens in the body when you suppress your truth for years? We also get practical and specific. We share first steps for rebuilding a sexual relationship with yourself, why embodiment matters more than just collecting information, and how therapy or skilled support can help you clear the beliefs that block body love. Then we explore tantra, polarity, and the shift from goal oriented sex to deeper, heart-opening love making, including simple frames that change how you touch and how you’re touched. If you want more freedom, more honesty, and more aliveness in your sex life, hit play, share this with a friend who needs it, and subscribe so you don’t miss what comes next. What part of this conversation do you want to explore more deeply? ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

What if keeping everyone happy has been teaching your body a risky lesson: my safety depends on your approval? We dive into people pleasing not as a character flaw, but as an adaptive relationship strategy that once kept us connected and now keeps us stuck. With stories that range from being the “teacher’s pet” to a drained family dinner after a long day at Universal, we draw a clear line between clean compromise and compliance that breeds resentment. Together we unpack how approval-seeking gets wired into the nervous system, why disappointment often feels like danger, and how to retrain those alarms with steady, repeatable practices. We share simple scripts—“Discomfort is not danger” and “My truth spoken calmly is safer than my silence”—and show how to use them in real moments: telling a client that extra requests cost extra, giving direct feedback at work without over-explaining, or choosing a quiet night instead of one more obligation you don’t have energy for. The goal isn’t to swing toward selfishness; it’s to make choices from truth instead of fear and to invite the people you love to do the same. You’ll hear practical rules of thumb to spot a people-pleasing yes—like whether you’ll stew, scorekeep, or blame later—and learn why most relationships can tolerate disappointment and then repair. For those who can’t, that clarity is a gift. By the end, you’ll have language, mindset shifts, and tiny experiments to help you set boundaries without being a jerk, honor your limits, and build connection that’s deeper because it’s honest. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a brave “no,” and leave a quick review to help more listeners find these tools. What’s one small no you’ll practice this week? ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

What if great sex isn’t about getting somewhere, but about feeling everything? We share five practices that turn a frantic sprint to climax into a steady, nourishing experience that fills the whole body and brings you closer to your partner. It starts with a simple shift: stop forcing arousal and start feeling. By settling into your senses—skin, breath, weight on the sheets—you invite the parasympathetic nervous system to take the lead. Performance anxiety eases, erections can ebb and flow without panic, and pleasure becomes a current you can ride instead of a peak you must reach. From there, we reframe how we look at a lover’s body. Rather than chasing novelty, we practice contemplative appreciation—a gaze that lets beauty move us inward and expand desire from neediness into generosity. We talk about how porn habits can narrow attention and how slowing down reopens it. Then we dig into a practical cornerstone: relaxing the pelvic floor. Chronic clenching forces a fast finish; softening turns the pelvis into a doorway for sensation to travel through the hips, spine, and chest. We connect this to self‑pleasure habits and explain why the way you touch yourself trains the way you touch another person. Expression seals the shift. Sound and movement aren’t theatrics; they are tools for circulating arousal so it doesn’t bottleneck. Gentle hip waves, a rolling spine, breathy moans—they spread charge, release tension, and invite your partner into a shared rhythm. Finally, we drop the finish line altogether. Lasting longer comes from feeling more, not less, and from building the body’s capacity to hold intensity through breath work, meditation, and patient touch. Think of sex like a slow meal—rich, textured, and satisfying—where the goal is to savor every flavor. If this sparks something, subscribe, share with a friend who’d love it, and leave a review telling us which practice you’ll try first. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

What if calm began at your feet? We guide a simple, vivid meditation that starts by relaxing the shoulders, face, and pelvic floor, then shifts awareness into the soles to create a grounded base. From there, we play with a light Qigong-inspired image: breathe as if you’re drawing air up through your feet and legs into your body, then exhale back down through the legs. It’s not literal breathwork—it’s a sensory frame that helps the nervous system settle, quiets a busy mind, and replaces head-heavy tension with embodied ease. Once that foundation feels steady, we raise the stakes in a gentle way. We invite you to bring a real-life trigger into awareness—maybe a relationship longing, a habit you’d like to soften, or any shiny urge that usually pulls you off center. The practice is to keep your feet rooted and your pelvic floor relaxed while the breath continues its upward flow. As sensations tighten—perhaps a closing in the chest or a clench in the gut—we use the breath like warm sunlight, offering space for the body to open. This is where grounded attention shifts from a nice idea to practical soul work: learning to hold desire without getting dragged by it. By the end, you’ll have a repeatable technique you can use at your desk, on a walk, or before a tough choice: anchor attention in the feet, relax the seat, breathe up through the legs, and exhale down to release. Expect less rumination, more presence, and a steadier center when life presents its pulls. If the groove feels good, linger for a few extra minutes to reinforce it. Subscribe for more guided practices, share this with a friend who needs grounding today, and leave a review to tell us what shifted for you. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

What if the feeling you’re chasing is already available in your body, quietly waiting under the noise? I share how a simple, repeatable Qigong routine—deep belly breathing, a relaxed pelvic floor, and soft, grounded feet—reshaped my days from the inside out. The practice made me less desperate for external wins and more energized to pursue what matters, a paradox that turned out to be the point: calm is fuel when it lives in the body, not just the mind. We begin with a short guided segment you can follow along with to feel the core cues in real time. From there, I unpack the ripple effects: steadier emotional regulation during high-stakes conversations, a spontaneous shift from shallow chest breathing to slow abdominal breaths, and the way that physiological change quietly rewired my baseline consciousness. As sensitivity increased, my energy habits changed too—I cut caffeine to near-zero without willpower and doubled down on consistent sleep because my nervous system finally told the truth about what helped and what hurt. The conversation also moves into intimacy, where presence becomes the setting rather than the goal. Grounded breath and relaxed attention shift sex from a hunt for intensity to an experience of depth, connection, and whole-body pleasure. Sensitivity turns out to be the unlock: it widens the spectrum of sensation and allows arousal to circulate through the body instead of bottlenecking. No mystical posturing required—just repeatable cues that make the room feel different. This is not about perfect routines or rigid beliefs. It’s about a practical, 15–20 minute, every-other-day habit that cleans the lens and lets you meet life with more calm, clarity, and charge. Try the guided practice, notice your breath during the day, and see what changes when your feet meet the ground. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review telling me what you felt. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

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Here's what AI said this episode is about: What if the best sex of your life starts with doing less? We dive into a counterintuitive practice that swaps clenching for softening, urgency for receptivity, and a finish-line mindset for waves of full-body pleasure. By anchoring to the simple release you feel while peeing, we retrain the pelvic floor to relax during arousal, letting sensation spread through the belly, hips, spine, and legs. The result isn’t just intensity—it’s nourishment that lingers long after the lights go out. I break down the mechanics that changed everything: relaxing the pelvic floor and anus, softening the soles of the feet, and breathing low into the belly until the waistband gently expands. Movement matters too. When the hips naturally tuck and the spine undulates, energy circulates instead of bottling up. That circulation shifts the ejaculation reflex from a default endpoint to a true option. The orgasmic arc begins deep near the sacrum, rolls outward, and arrives in waves you can ride rather than force. We also talk training. Like meditation, depth comes with repetition: breathwork, body awareness, and energetic practices build capacity so the body can hold more charge without tipping into release. That shift changes the psychology of sex. Chasing gives way to receiving, pressure dissolves into presence, and connection becomes richer because the body already feels full. Porn reliance eases, confidence rises, and partnership becomes an exchange of abundance instead of a scramble for relief. If you’re curious about turning arousal into a full-body experience and freeing yourself from the “must finish” script, this conversation offers practical cues and grounded insight. Listen, try the techniques, and tell me what shifts for you. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a review to help more people find it. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

I have learned there are five different ways to engage with s*xual energy. I am sharing them with you here. 1. Escapism 2. Trying to have an orgasm 3. Pleasure and enjoyment throughout the entire experience 4. Giving and receiving love 5. Ecstatic Union Join my next men's group: https://sites.google.com/view/8weekmensgroupcom/home ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

In this video I talk about the many ways a lesson from Alexey Welsh has impacted me in the recent weeks. In short, I am learning the skill of sensitivity in sexual practice and it has been so remarkable I wanted to record a video just quickly outlining the few key points I have experienced. I hope this is useful for you. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

Is it time to reimagine sexuality as something sacred and awe-inspiring rather than just a biological function? Join me as I share my personal journey of overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors and addiction by embracing sex as a profound mystery. Influenced by Western civilization and purity culture, our perceptions of sex have often been marred by shame and guilt. Together, we’ll explore how honoring sexual attraction can lead to personal growth and a richer understanding of ourselves. Discover how redefining sex beyond societal constraints has been transformative in my life, and how it can be for you too. We dive into cultivating sexual energy with sensitivity and mindfulness, moving beyond the relentless pursuit of novelty. Inspired by Thomas Moore's "The Soul of Sex" and insights from Alexey Welsh, we’ll discuss the power of engaging deeply with erotic energy rather than seeking intensity. Hear about four enlightening discoveries that have reshaped my view on sexuality, offering an invitation for listeners to reflect and perhaps find new perspectives on this intimate aspect of life. Whether it's the subtle sensations akin to a meditative practice or understanding the pitfalls of intensity, this episode promises a mindful journey through the nuances of erotic energy. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

I respect Alexey Welsh so much. This is the second episode we have recorded together about sex. He has a truly eye-opening perspective on sex, and a great course online that I have personally used. https://www.lovefloweducation.com/ (Alexey's course) https://www.youtube.com/@AlexeyWelsh (Alexey's YouTube) ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

After a week or two of being engrossed in my work projects my partner asked me how I had been feeling about our relationship. This lead to a discussion about our different "appetites" for relationship and we both sought to understand one another more instead of argue over who was right / wrong / who needed to change, etc. We distilled the 3 things that we think worked well in our conversation, and recorded this episode to share them with you! ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

I have struggled to know how to best guide myself to sexual well-being. Indulgence, or self restraint in the name of being "good". That false dichotomy split when I realized there was no top-down rule that I could apply to know how I should behave, instead, drawing much inspiration from mindfulness practices, I have learened to simply check-in with my body to see if my desire is even legitamite or just the consumption tapeworm that lives inside my brain and can't stand to suffer a minute of boring, bland, challenging reality! (this is the case 99%) of the time. My line in the sand: no disembodied consumption! I hope this helps you! ----- Here's what AI said this episode is about: Can the way we consume sexual content be as mindful as the way we approach eating? Join me as I unravel the duality of sexual messaging in modern culture, where sex is both sensationalized and repressed. I open up about my personal journey through sexual repression and the subsequent obsession it triggered, swinging between strict control and unchecked indulgence. By introducing the concept of disembodied consumption, I invite you to consider the importance of mindful engagement with our sexual desires, much like we do with our nutritional needs. By differentiating between embodied and disembodied desires, I highlight the pitfalls of mindless consumption and explore alternative ways to satisfy our needs. This episode promises to enhance your understanding of how to cultivate a healthier, more embodied relationship with your sexuality, ultimately enriching your meaningful experiences. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

In many episodes I have shared information on the mechanisms of addiction - so you're better equipped to face it. We have spent time looking closely at things like dopamine, habituation, and self-discipline. (Dr. Anna Lembke & Dr. Daniel Lieberman) I have for a long time pointed to these topics when sharing about my journey with sex/pornography addiction. But here recently I've started to realize the credit might need to be shared with a simple breathing exercise I started doing about a year and a half ago. (Looking back now I think it's actually made all the difference.) --------------------- Here is what AI said my episode / video is about: What happens when you transform sexual obsession into a grounded, self-aware experience? Join me, Braxton, as I share my raw and honest journey from the depths of sexual addiction to a state of more harmonious sensuality. Hear firsthand accounts from my personal struggles and triumphs, fueled by insights from renowned experts like Anna Lemke and Daniel Z Lieberman. Discover how a simple breath exercise became the cornerstone of my transformation and gain a deeper understanding of the brain's reward system and the concept of anhedonia, which marked my turning point. Together, we'll explore how shifting our consciousness can radically change our relationship with sexuality and enhance our overall well-being. Through practical techniques such as breathwork, mental reminders, and grounding exercises, we can shift from a mindset of scarcity and frustration to one of abundance and pleasure. Using examples from my own life, including a revealing comparison of experiences at a music festival over two years, we'll highlight how these internal shifts can transform external stimuli from sources of suffering into enriching gifts. Tune in to learn tools that can help you reconnect with your sensual self and foster a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with your own sexuality. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

5 reasons I don't watch porn (even when I want to) 1. It makes sex about dopamine chasing 2. Real sex is better and it kills that 3. Habituation is dog shit 4. It reinforces a style of sex that I am trying to unlearn 5. It's mostly disembodied consumption for me, and I'm asking what purpose I want sex to serve in my life? ----------------- Here is what AI says this episode is about: Ever wondered why giving up porn could transform your life in ways you never imagined? Join us as we unpack the deeply personal motivations behind choosing real-life intimacy over the fleeting thrill of pornography. Discover how shifting your focus from the pursuit of novelty to genuine, meaningful connection can make your sexual experiences far more fulfilling. By sharing our own journeys, we aim to provide you with insightful reminders to stay on course, highlighting the pitfalls of habituation and the chase for more extreme content that never truly satisfies. We'll also explore the concept of "disembodied consumption" and how it can lead to a cycle of unfulfilling behaviors. Learn how to distinguish genuine needs from mere boredom and make more conscious decisions about your sexual energy. By redirecting this energy towards real-life experiences and genuine connection, you can foster deeper love and mutual enjoyment with your partner. Don’t miss out on these enlightening reflections and practical tips that lay the groundwork for choosing meaningful intimacy over the empty allure of porn. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

This is one of the most important distinctions I have found on my way out of darkness of sex addiction. Even when I felt NOTHING during sex.. I constantly chased it down and organized my life around it. Why? Here's an AI summary of my episode: Ever wondered why some addictions feel impossible to break? Join me, Braxton Gilbert, as I uncover the surprising truth behind sex addiction: it’s not about the act itself, but the anticipation leading up to it. Sharing my personal journey, I reveal how the dopamine rush from anticipating sexual activities fueled my addiction, drawing parallels to the thrill-seeking behaviors seen in gambling and shopping addictions. This episode promises to shed light on how understanding this distinction became a liberating force in my recovery, helping me see through misleading behaviors and grasp the true essence of my addiction. Facing the monotony of daily life often drives us toward compulsive behaviors for a spark of excitement. In the second part of this episode, I recount how recognizing the choice between engaging in these behaviors and succumbing to addiction was pivotal for me. Through a personal anecdote, I highlight how boredom can tempt us, but by focusing on healthier decisions and understanding that addiction was overshadowing the positive aspects of sex, I found the strength to make better choices. This episode aims to provide valuable insights, encouraging a balanced approach to being pro-sexual while firmly opposing addiction. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

I am practicing approaching sex from a totally different intention. In the past, sex has been all about entertainment, and chasing down an orgasm. However, a few episodes ago Alexey Walsh shared with me a different model for engaging with sex, one that aims at saturation instead of "completion". I am learning to saturate in the of emotional substances that make up the flow of sexual energy (mainly love and connection) instead of just quickly reaching for sex as a cure for boredom. In this episode I tell the story of the two most recent sexual experiences I have had and what they have taught me about this. ----------------------------------------------------------- Oh, and here's how AI sums up this episode. lol What if redefining the way you approach sex could lead to deeper, more meaningful connections with your partner? On this transformative journey, inspired by holistic sex teacher Alex A Walsh, we uncover how shifting the focus from personal pleasure to fostering a loving, caring bond has revolutionized our intimate moments. Join me, Shekhar Mario, as I open up about my profound experiences that have reshaped sex into an act of love and emotional connection, marking a significant step in my personal growth and healing journey. Discover how embracing sexual discipline and well-being has led to remarkable changes in my life. By comparing fleeting highs from substances like cocaine and MDMA to the enriching exchange of love and presence during intimate encounters, I'll share the importance of genuine connection in fulfilling emotional needs. Listen as I recount vivid stories of personal transformation that will inspire you to cultivate a nourishing emotional bond with your partner, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling sexual life. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

In this video, I share 4 themes of pornography and sex addiction that upon noticing them have really helped me in my personal growth. I hope that by sharing these discovers they may help you too! Four distinct themes of porn and sex addiction: 1. I can't catch anticipation (they feeling I was after) 2. After years of misuse, I became reliant on my behaviors for baseline dopamine (addiction) 3. I learned to objectify people and this really screwed up relationships 4. I learned to see sex as a solo act of consumption instead of fundamentally an act of relationship with someone else (how did I get it so wrong) here's what AI said this episode is about.. As I lay bare my struggle with porn and sex addiction, you're invited to witness the raw transformation that reshapes the meaning of pleasure and connection in one's life. This episode is a tapestry of vulnerability and hope, threading my personal narrative with the universal challenge of breaking free from the shackles of compulsive behaviors. We confront the paradox of the never-ending chase for an illusive 'perfect' experience, and how it can consume us, leaving a void where satisfaction should reside. It's a profound examination of the addict's mind, where anticipation's fleeting high supersedes any actual fulfillment, a cycle all too akin to the gambler's plight. Venture into the heart of addiction and its insidious impact on our capacity to savor life's true joys. We dissect the journey of rekindling a damaged dopamine system and the quest to reclaim the essence of sex as an intimate, relational act, not a solitary conquest. Shining a light on the often-overlooked power of co-regulation exercises, we share how such practices can fortify the bonds of intimacy, fostering a deeper connection that transcends mere physical gratification. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of addiction, and emerge with a newfound understanding of what it means to connect, love, and feel alive again. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert