Love and Abuse
Health & Wellness Podcasts
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage. You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com. https://loveandabuse.com/
Location:
United States
Genres:
Health & Wellness Podcasts
Description:
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage. You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com. https://loveandabuse.com/
Twitter:
@love_and_abuse
Language:
English
Website:
http://loveandabuse.com/
Email:
paul@loveandabuse.com
Episodes
Ive stopped being abusive, let's have sex
12/4/2025
Some emotionally abusive people do heal. And once they do, they might feel the relationship will be great from that point on. What they don't consider is that the victim of their abusive behavior is only starting their healing process.
Duración:00:53:19
Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser
11/17/2025
The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.
Duración:01:09:14
The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person
11/6/2025
If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.
Duración:00:33:29
Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell
10/21/2025
If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I’ll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.
Duración:00:41:49
Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?
10/8/2025
Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner’s jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to healing.
Duración:00:45:22
Why you may not be ready to call it abuse when it is abuse
9/17/2025
The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse?
Duración:00:25:44
Do you end the relationship because they won't?
9/3/2025
How do you know when it’s time to instigate a split? If your partner’s behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what?
Duración:00:31:14
The breadcrumbing of relationships' past
8/19/2025
Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!
Duración:00:18:19
The language patterns of the abusive person
8/12/2025
The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.
Duración:00:24:55
Can you ever go back to who you were?
7/28/2025
In abusive relationships it might be difficult or even impossible to discern which parts of yourself are truly you and which are shaped by the abuse. Let's talk about what it takes to start building or rebuilding your identity.
Duración:00:26:36
Never trust someone who wants to change who you are
7/17/2025
Duración:00:18:25
The love of my life is the abuser in my life
7/7/2025
Love can feel like a double-edged sword, cutting deep despite the tender moments. Or is that really love? Caring and kindness mixed with toxic, controlling behaviors create a dangerous emotional cocktail of bonding and trauma.
Duración:00:40:36
You being the center of their attention is most of the problem
5/27/2025
What does it take for an abusive person to change? A whole lot (if they even want to change), but this one component of healing is often one of the hardest for them to stop. Their consistent focus on you can make their healing and change much more difficult, let alone having no time and space to heal yourself.
Duración:00:32:05
When someone wants to change who you are
5/20/2025
The one-off difficulties in relationships are perfectly normal for everyone. They're not welcome, necessarily, but normal. But what happens when the "one-offs" become systemic? What happens when they are non-stop? That's when changes are inevitable.
Duración:00:35:17
The empty threats that keep the abuse cycle alive
4/29/2025
When they threaten to leave or take something away from you, but they never follow through, expect them to repeat that behavior indefinitely. Empty threats are effective on those who fear them coming true. There is a way to stop the empty threats (but you probably won't like it).
Duración:00:32:46
Trying to figure out who the emotionally abusive person really is in the relationship
4/14/2025
You'd think it'd be easy to figure out: The hurtful one is the abusive one. But what happens when the victim gets convinced they are the abuser? Determining that while in the abuse cycle can sometimes be very difficult. However, I make it very clear in this episode.
Duración:00:42:09
When a relationship is not a relationship
3/26/2025
"Everything's great with me," they say, as you sit there staring, confused, wondering what the hell you're missing because you're having a completely different experience as them. When is a relationship not an actual relationship anymore?
Duración:00:25:22
Don't lock yourself into a worse situation
3/11/2025
When you get into an emotionally abusive relationship, you have no idea what you're walking into. When you figure it out, you might have to make some tough choices. One of those choices might lead to getting deeper into something you know is bad for you.
Duración:00:32:10
Why abusive people need to maintain power and control over you
2/21/2025
Some people just won't stop being hurtful. Why won't they stop? Are they just terrible people we have to accept and move on? Power and control is their M.O. and it's important you know why. For some there is hope. For others, well, it may take a lot more than hope to see change. https://loveandabuse.com
Duración:00:42:40