Love and Abuse
Health & Wellness Podcasts
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your...
Location:
United States
Genres:
Health & Wellness Podcasts
Description:
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage. You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com. https://loveandabuse.com/
Twitter:
@love_and_abuse
Language:
English
Website:
http://loveandabuse.com/
Email:
paul@loveandabuse.com
Episodes
How does an abusive person become an abusive person?
4/30/2026
There's got to be a reason someone becomes abusive, right? All abusers abused as children... is that it? Maybe it's a mental health issue. Maybe it's none, some, or all of the above. Or maybe it's something else.
Duration:00:18:02
Getting conned into taking an unhealed abuser back
4/28/2026
They've changed! They've really seemed to change. They seem like a new person so you take them back. Then you find out they were just playing the long game. Emotionally abusive people can heal if they want to. Those who don't may just come back to fool you again.
Duration:00:25:25
Do mutually abusive relationships have a chance?
4/21/2026
Sometimes both people in the relationship are hurtful, controlling and manipulative. When that's the case, it's going to take more than one person stopping the behaviors, and that presents a few challenges in itself.
Duration:00:38:49
The superiority complex of misogynists
4/15/2026
Duration:00:28:32
When you won't see an emotionally abusive person change
4/8/2026
You can't fix what's unwilling to be fixed. And when someone would rather you and the relationship suffer and crumble than work on improving themselves, you might have only one choice left.
Duration:00:37:37
Did you sign up for a life of indentured servitude?
3/31/2026
If you feel trapped in a maze of emotional manipulation, hoping for a change that never comes, you might realize you've signed up for something you didn't expect and certainly don't want. There's a history lesson in this episode that may give you all you need to know for what the future holds for your relationship.
Duration:00:26:12
They say they love you but they hurt you anyway
3/24/2026
Some people seem to care but then do awful things. When they do, it's hard not to question if they love you at all.
Duration:00:27:18
I feel like a bad person for being abusive back
3/18/2026
Sometimes emotionally abusive people heal and change. Sometimes they just... change. Either way, when the victim of their behavior gets a "break", they might discover a lot of buried emotions that are just itching to come out.
Duration:00:24:42
The healed emotional abuser is more than just a behavioral change
3/13/2026
I've seen emotionally abusive people heal and become completely different people. You wouldn't even recognize them! And when you no longer recognize the person who's hurt you over and over again, that might be a very good thing.
Duration:00:51:49
Do we talk about divorce during the argument or the calm period
3/3/2026
When you've decided to leave the emotionally abusive relationship, when is the best time to bring it up? During the storm or the calm?
Duration:00:24:37
Do I accept that this is how theyll be forever
2/10/2026
Some behaviors are unacceptable. Some people are unacceptable. Just what should you accept and what should you do when you can't? Emotional abuse has a tendency to make you feel completely powerless, unable to make such decisions.
Duration:00:43:26
When its impossible to get away from all the toxic behavior
1/29/2026
Some relationships end but continue leaving destruction in their wake. Some don't end and you suffer through the daily drip-feeding of emotionally abusive behaviors until you lose your sanity. When there's no way away from all the toxicity, what can you do?
Duration:00:44:41
Dont call them what they really are, it will work against you
1/14/2026
Calling a duck a duck makes sense. But this logic works against you in the emotionally abusive relationship. Calling out an abusive person for who they are might just turn the whole thing around you.
Duration:00:32:22
Total defeat and burnout in the emotionally abusive relationship
1/9/2026
Every relationship should have stopping points when you feel yourself slipping away. Emotional abuse operates as a slow drip-feeding of toxic behaviors that gradually erode boundaries.
Duration:00:51:30
When you are a captured audience to the emotionally abusive monologuer
12/30/2025
The endless monologue of some emotionally abusive people is a tactic that keeps you silent and submissive. It's designed to wear you down until you finally give in.
Duration:00:33:11
Ive stopped being abusive, let's have sex
12/4/2025
Some emotionally abusive people do heal. And once they do, they might feel the relationship will be great from that point on. What they don't consider is that the victim of their abusive behavior is only starting their healing process.
Duration:00:53:19
Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're the abuser
11/17/2025
The emotionally abusive relationship is confusing and draining. If you don't get a grip on what's going on, you may start to believe perhaps you are the problem and they are a saint. Let's fix that faulty thinking.
Duration:01:09:14
The feelings of guilt and shame after leaving the abusive person
11/6/2025
If you've ever questioned how to forgive yourself for choosing your own well-being over an abusive partner, you're not alone. If you're feeling guilt or shame for leaving an abusive person, this is an important episode to listen to.
Duration:00:33:29
Breaking the trauma bond can be hard as hell
10/21/2025
If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I’ll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.
Duration:00:41:49
Can you heal from severe abuse while still in a severely abusive situation?
10/8/2025
Some people will deflect blame and make you feel like the problem. In this episode, I dive into this subject by examining a heart-wrenching story from a listener whose partner’s jealousy turned violent, leaving her questioning the future of their relationship and her path to healing.
Duration:00:45:22