Parenting Post-Wilderness

We’re not just responsible for our kids, we’re also responsible for teaching them how to be responsible for themselves. We want to teach our kids how to solve their own problems and be self-reliant and self-governing. I get it. It’s SO hard not to intervene when you see your teen trying to figure something out by themselves, taking the long route, and making mistakes as they go. But if you’re constantly rescuing them to provide that comfort, you’re not teaching them how to problem solve and be resilient in life. In the end, we learn more from our mistakes than from things going right. So let’s have a look at how we can help our kids navigate their own lives! In this episode on letting our kids be independent, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

The tension is building and the situation is starting to escalate from bad to worse. We’ve all been there, haven’t we? As easy as it is to join our teens in this escalation, they need us to be regulated and available in order to de-escalate. Opening up the conversation helps us create a deeper connection and enables both sides to open up a bit more about what’s going on and their perspective on the situation. “If you have somebody in front of you who is completely dysregulated, you are gonna want to stay regulated as much as you possibly can.” - Beth Hillman Let’s dive into how to do this in today’s episode! In this episode on how to de-escalate your teen, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Sometimes it’s hard to trust our teen’s journey. We might not be able to visibly see the progress our teen is going through, even though it surely is happening. At the same time, we have our own ideas of what our teen’s progress should look like. When you hold on to your ideas of what progress should look like, and where your teen should be, the progress can seem slow. We’re inviting you to look at things differently. How can you start trusting your teen’s journey? This is what Seth and I are diving into in today’s episode. In this episode on trusting your teen’s journey, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Ready to start creating your very own Parent Home Plan? Don’t worry, you don’t have to start from scratch, because I’m sharing my Parent Home Plan Template with you for free! Click here for your free copy of my Parent Home Plan template! In this episode on creating your parent home plan, we discuss: www.bethhillmancoaching.com/homeplanIf you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

We’re a few episodes into our mini-series on boundaries and creating a Parent Home Plan to be consistent and follow through on your boundaries. Now, we’re getting closer to the actualization of your own home plan! In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through the three phases of building your Home Plan: Phase 1: Preparation Phase 2: Structure Phase 3: Follow through Have a listen to prepare yourself for next week’s episode where we'll be walking through my Parent Home Plan template together. Can't wait? Click here for your FREE download! Let’s do this, parent! In this episode on creating an effective Home Plan, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Moments of disagreement are perfectly normal when there are more than one person involved in raising a (struggling) teen. One parent wants to implement a certain boundary, while the other doesn’t. One parent wants to be more strict, while the other prefers a looser approach. Today, I want to propose some ideas to you about ‘same page parenting’, as I’d like to call it. Before we dive in, it’s important to understand that being on the same page, doesn’t mean you have to agree on every word and every line of that page. There’s no space for black & white thinking or ‘wrong versus right’ when you’re talking about a future no one can predict. In this episode on same-page parenting, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Let’s get into action parents! Today we’re talking all about setting the stage to create a parent home plan that actually works! If there is one takeaway from this episode, it’s this: Boundaries are not a way to control your teen. They’re a way to control yourself. They’re a way to take up your role as a parent and lead. The change begins with us, parents. This is it. Doing our work first, getting to a loving, healthy space so we can create loving and effective boundaries for our kids (& ourselves). Ready to dive in? In this episode on setting the stage to create a Paren Home Plan that works, we talk about: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Some people think that being a parent coach means I have it all figured out. Hah! I’ll tell you about a situation that happened just last week that will show you how untrue this is! Even though I’m a coach, and Seth’s a mentor, we’re not done. We’re still a work in progress. And we always will be. But by being intentional, and realizing the growth we’ve been through, we can learn to find joy, even in hard moments. Life gets hard sometimes, and breaking the cycle of old habits and patterns isn’t easy. Hah, I noticed it myself just last week! (I’ll tell you all about it in the episode) I know you’re putting in all the hard work and are trying to help your family. And then sometimes, hard times arrive and life is difficult and overwhelming, leading to frustration. Why aren’t things going well for you? You’re trying so hard! Oh, I’ve been there. So has Seth. And so has every other parent on this journey. It’s completely normal. And you know what? You now have the insights to know you can take a step back and realize this is just a hard moment that will pass. Let’s learn more about this in today’s episode! In this episode on intentionally enjoying life even though things are hard, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Many parents confuse setting boundaries with requests or expectations but they are not the same. The way you phrase your boundaries and present them to your teen is incredibly important. Let’s learn more about these common pitfalls in setting boundaries in today’s episode! In this episode on common pitfalls in setting boundaries, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Are you having trouble setting healthy boundaries with your teen and actually sticking to them? If you are, you’re not alone! It’s one of the topics I get the most questions on, and I used to be the worst at it myself! But I can tell you this: Setting boundaries and following through with the consequences is in the best interest of your whole family. Setting boundaries is one of my favorite topics to talk about so you can expect more episodes on this topic in the upcoming weeks. But let’s be honest, the concept of setting boundaries is simple, but it’s not easy. So before we dive deeper into how to actually do this, it’s important to understand why it’s so beneficial for ourselves, our teens, and really our entire family to have healthy and clear boundaries in place that we are consistent with. Let’s dive in, shall we? In this episode on the benefits of boundaries for parents and teens, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

I’m continuing my conversation with Les Harris, wilderness therapist and LCW, who has some incredible insights to share about the importance of listening to the feedback our children give us. Let’s start with an important reminder: none of us are perfect. We all mess up from time to time, and that's totally okay. Now, here's a game-changer: listening to our kids' feedback. By truly hearing them out and understanding their underlying message, we can better meet their emotional, physical, and relational needs. This deepens the trust and connection between us, setting the stage for beautiful growth. In this episode on listening to our kids’ feedback, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Today, I’m joined by Les Harris, a wilderness therapist and LCW to talk about the things we can do as parents before thinking of sending our kids to wilderness. Here’s one thing both Les and I know to be true: A regulated parent has the ability to regulate a dysregulated child. Isn’t that what we all want to be able to do? If this feels unattainable for you right now, know that it’s not. You can see this episode as a first stepping stone toward the parent you want to be. In this episode on regulating a dysregulated child, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

How often do you wake up and your mind starts racing about all the things you have to do that day, leaving you paralyzed? How many times do you start thinking of everything that needs to be done this week, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted? When tasks or to-do lists seem long and overwhelming, it can become hard to accomplish even the smallest tasks. This is the case for all of us, and maybe even more for those of us with ADHD. Today, we share a very simple but often overlooked strategy to conquer overwhelm: breaking our day into bite-sized pieces. It’s a very simple concept but there is more to it. In today’s episode, we take a deep-dive into why this concept works, different strategies to implement it, how we can motivate our teens to do it, and much more! In this episode on conquering overwhelm, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

What advice would a wilderness guide give us parents? That’s a question we’ll get answered today. Mark Adamski is back with invaluable advice about parenting and our relationship with our teens. With the right mindset, anything in a relationship can be fixed. That’s how Mark sees it and I couldn’t agree more. So what does this mindset entail? What do we need to do as parents to heal our relationship with our struggling teen? Have a listen to today’s episode to hear all of Mark’s top tips! In this episode full of advice from a wilderness guide, we discuss: You can connect with Mark on Facebook: Mark Adamski Coaching or learn more about Wilderness Reboot on their website. If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Being the sibling of a teen that’s struggling and goes to treatment isn’t easy. Mark Adamski, who is now a wilderness guide himself, experienced this first-hand. In today’s episode, he shares his experiences when his brother went to treatment for substance abuse and how this eventually led Mark to become a wilderness guide. Mark is sharing his story of becoming a wilderness guide and shares some golden nuggets we need in order to understand our teen. Have a listen! In this episode on going from being the younger sibling to wilderness guide, we discuss: You can connect with Mark on Facebook: Mark Adamski Coaching, or learn more about Wilderness Reboot on their website. If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Every one of us has about 80.000 thoughts each day. Most of our life is created with our minds. And the more we have a specific thought, the more it tends to become a belief. So, what if you’re having negative thoughts about your teen? What if thoughts like ‘I just really don’t like my kid right now’ or ‘I can hardly stand my kid right now’ have crossed your mind? Believe me when I say, you’re not alone. Besides, these are actually very natural thoughts to have in any kind of relationship. In this episode on creating healthy thoughts, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

If your teen is coming up to their sobriety anniversary, or even their anniversary of going to or coming home from wilderness, you might feel the need to celebrate. But should we indeed celebrate during those anniversaries or does your teen need something else instead? With his own 5-year sobriety anniversary coming up, Seth shared his perspective with me: his sobriety anniversary doesn’t feel like a time for celebration at all. Tune in to hear why! In this episode on sobriety and wilderness anniversaries, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Is it time for your kid to go back to high school after treatment? Maybe the transition back to school will run flawlessly. For many families though, returning back to regular high school isn’t the preferred option. Or possibly it’s simply not working. Online education might be an excellent solution! Today, I’m interviewing Anjilee and Sara, co-founders of Mountain Point Academy, an online school for grades 6-12 that likes to do things a bit differently. Their personalized approach can offer your teen the support and freedom they need in their education after treatment. Online education is absolutely worth looking into for everyone who doesn’t fit the traditional mold. Have a listen to today’s episode to learn more about online education and Mountain Point Academy! More about today’s guests: Anjilee Ferguson and Sara Busalacchi have over a decade of experience in online learning, working in the field since its inception. They have a passion for helping students succeed which led them to co-found Mountain Point Academy, an online school for grades 6-12. Their mission is to help provide students with a personalized approach to online learning, with 1:1 support for students to find joy in learning and citizenship. You can find more information on Mountain Point Academy on their website, Facebook page, Instagram (@mtnpointacademy), or Linkedin page. - - - - - - - - - - If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Feelings can be described as a vibration we experience in our bodies. Often we think that those feelings are involuntary and caused by life circumstances out of our control. But actually, our feelings are caused by what we think. And the good thing about this is that we can control our thoughts pretty well! The pause is a space we can create in order to feel our feelings BEFORE we react to them. A space of allowance and acceptance of those feelings. A space to take ownership of what happens in our brain and body before we interact with another human being. I tell you all about it in today’s episode! In this episode on learning to feel instead of react, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

Today, we’re talking about burnout, and more specifically, therapeutic burnout in both parents and teens. Not many people realize therapeutic burnout is a thing so let’s have a look at what it is and where it comes from. In this episode on therapeutic burnout in parents and teens, we discuss: If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here. And remember parents, the change begins with us. - - - - - - - - - - Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much! And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!