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Kelly Powers, CRNA and Divorce Coach, offers invaluable insights and guidance for those facing the daunting prospect of a crumbling marriage amidst the burden of losing a baby. The episode touches on several key points: Kelly's Personal Journey: Kelly shares her own challenging divorce experience and how it led to her career as a divorce coach.Compounded Grief: The discussion explores how divorce can intensify grief, especially after pregnancy or infant loss, and the reluctance of healthcare providers to seek emotional support.Seeking Professional Help: Kelly stresses the significance building a team of professionals including a assistance early in the divorce process, whether through therapy, counseling, or working with a divorce coach.Building a Support Team: Creating a support network a therapist, divorce coach, attorney, real estate agent, financial planner, etc.Divorce Statistics Among Healthcare Professionals: Kelly highlights limited divorce statistics in the healthcare community, acknowledging that healthcare providers, due to their demanding careers, may face slightly higher divorce rates.Impact on Children: The episode explores the impact of divorce on children and advises against exposing them to parental conflicts, notifying their teachers, seeking help from the school counselor, finding a play therapist if they are young, etc.Working with a Divorce Coach: Kelly explains the process of working with a divorce coach, including an initial 90-minute consultation for personalized emotional support, legal guidance, and strategies for moving forward. Virtual support group for healthcare professionals going through divorce - email Kelly if you are interested (mindsetcoach78@gmail.com) You can find more about Kelly on her website, schedule a consultation here, or Instagram Pause to Remember Resources for female, healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy and infant loss: Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up on the waitlist here. Donate to support the podcast and community offerings at Pause to Remember here. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

Reverend Daryl Lavway engages in a meaningful conversation with host Amy Pelkey, CRNA. Leveraging his extensive ministry experience and role as a chaplain in a Level 1, academic, medical center, Daryl provides profound insights into the intersection of grief and faith. Five key points discussed include: It was God's willGod needed another angel,How do you know? Daryl's insights offer a fresh perspective on how to approach religious comments, embrace your faith, and seek meaningful support with the help of an individual or community. He reminds listeners to trust their instincts honoring the memory of your baby. Read more here. If you have questions or would like to connect with Daryl, email: amy@puasetoremember.org. Pause to Remember Resources for female, healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy and infant loss: Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up on the waitlist here. Donate to support the podcast and community offerings at Pause to Remember here. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

Dr. Errin Weisman is a burnout coach, mentor, speaker, podcaster, and friend. She shares her experience with burnout that began in medical school and escalated during her residency and early years as an attending physician. This led to her feeling trapped. The episode highlights the impact of the pandemic on burnout and the challenges faced by healthcare professionals. Dr. Weisman emphasizes the importance of seeking support, finding a community, and making changes to overcome burnout. The conversation explores topics like self-discovery, navigating grief, and making assertive choices. Financial concerns, prioritizing mental health, and addressing work addiction are also discussed. Find inspiration and resources to deal with burnout by listening to the conversation. Mentioned in the podcast: Philippa Kennealy, MDDr. Kara PepperDr. Michelle Quirk Connect with Dr. Errin Weisman: Email:hello@burntouttobadass.comWebsite:https://www.burntouttobadass.com/https://www.doctormefirst.com/Podcast:Burntout to BadassDoctor Me FirstInstagram: @errinweisman@burntout_to_badass Blog post with additional information is here. Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up here. Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen Podcast audio editing by Jake Swanson.

Two experiences can co-exist. Create space to tend to your experiences and the feelings that arise along the way while cultivating self-compassion and love. This meditation is about 5 minutes long. Pause to Remember Information Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website InstagramFacebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up here. Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate.

Katie Cooper, MS, CRNA, APRN has a unique perspective on fertility care. Not only did she donate her eggs to a family in her 20s, she now specializes in fertility anesthesia. Listen to our conversation as we cover: ABC News segment Here is Katie's contact information: www.CRNAACLS.comherekcoopercrna@gmail.com Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up here. Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

Chelsey Herzig, CRNA works in a critical access hospital in Minnesota. She talks about her daughter, Brynn, and the impact losing her has made in her life including her career and marriage. Some of the things discussed include: here Pause to Remember Information Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up here. Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for group or private options here. Pause to Remember FREE Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Other Links Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. HIiMofX2gDuMey3t2Ulx

Bailey Dykema, CRNA works in Minnesota at a critical access hospital. She has been on a four year infertility journey (IUI and IVF) and experienced a miscarriage in November 2022. Bailey shares her experiences with: Self care includes therapy with Debbie Fischer at Partners (in)fertility, taking time off from work, changing her workouts, and Fertility Hope YogaCommunity support including Hugh and Grace and Mom's In the MakingBailey recommends Dr. Hopeman at the Center for Reproductive Medicine in Minneapolis You can connect with Bailey on Instagram @mrs_dykema Find more resources in this blog post. Pause to Remember Information NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options here. Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen Podcast editor: Jake Swanson

MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options here. Do you have questions? Talk to Amy here. Pause to Remember Free Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook GroupVirtual Support GroupeBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Also, you can Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, or Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate.

Sara Asch, from The Center for Grieving Children, in Portland, Maine, works closely with families, volunteers, and the community in the areas of grief and loss, program development, outreach, and training. Sara offered many suggestions and insights regarding grieving children. Some include: Recommended Books: (Note: If you decide to purchase through these links, the Pause to Remember receives a small commission at no extra cost to you.) Life Is Like the WindThe Goodbye BookThe Invisible StringCry Hard But Never Break Resources: National Alliance for Children's Grief (NACG), National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization, Maine Grief Support Pause to Remember Information NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options here. Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider Be a guest on the podcast, Contact Amy Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. Music credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen Podcast editor: Jake Swanson

Macy Guisto, DPT talks about chronic pain after pregnancy and infant loss. In this episode she talks about: Risk factorsPain after delivery c-sectionIdentifying contributing factorsInduced labor, epidurals, and c-sectionsHow do you make a plan and where do you start?3 Priorities Where to find Macy Guisto. Instagram: @paincoachmacyEmail: macy.guisto@gmail.comWebsite: Wonsettler Physical Therapy Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider Be a guest on the podcastContact AmyYoga NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the January 2023 group or private options here. Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember here Other Fractal of Light,

David Allsop, MS, CFLE, CNP is completing his PhD in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. He is investigating how sexual wellbeing changes after pregnancy loss and hopes to better understand the experiences of the couples in the ALOE study. ALOE stands for Acknowledging Loss Outcomes and Experiences. Couples can participate in the ALOE study if they have: Have been in a relationship with their partner for a year or more Are not currently or recently receiving fertility treatment Each partner must be willing to complete a survey (30-45 minutes) once a month for four months. They will be compensated. You can sign up here or contact the team by email: ALOE@Dal.ca In this episode we talked about how sexual health impacts both mental health and happiness. Samantha Joel's research about predictors of relationship quality is mentioned. Sexual satisfaction is a predictor or a good relationship. Researchers know little about how pregnancy loss affects couples’ sexual relationships, which makes it difficult for couples to get the help they need after a loss. Studying this is fairly new. There are only three empirical studies on this topic. One trend in the data includes mothers having a decreased sexual desire after loss. The research that showed 42% of surgeons had experienced pregnancy loss was in 2021 in JAMA Surgery. You can access it here. Natalie Rosen - Couples and Sexual Health Research David Allsop's email: David.Allsop@dal.ca Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant Loss Facebook GroupVirtual Support Group Amy's Calendar eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider Be a guest on the podcastContact AmyYoga NEW OFFERING IN 2023! - MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. Learn more and sign up for the January 2023 group or private options here. Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember here Other Fractal of Light,

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Three goals are outlined to create a guide for you. With these goals, suggestions are made for what you can do or buy to help alleviate feelings of isolation, support day-to-day responsibilities at home, and offer comfort. This information is written in a blog post found here. You can also have it emailed along with information from Episode 20 by clicking here. Resources: eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers Facebook GroupFREE Yoga Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,

This episode is for all the support people who care about a family member, friend, neighbor, or co-worker who is grieving after a pregnancy or infant loss. A comprehensive list of what not to say is reviewed with examples. Suggestions to start a conversation with a griever and how to create a safe space for them to share is also offered. This information is written in a blog post found here. You can also have it emailed to you by clicking here. Resources: eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers Facebook GroupFREE Yoga Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,

Mindfulness Practice Do you ever feel like your mind is scattered or you're distracted by your emotions? Meditation is one mindfulness practice to help you redirect your awareness to the present moment. Here is a meditation for when you feel like your mind or emotions are getting the best of you. You can listen to this mindfulness practice in your call room, car, bedroom, gym, or anywhere else. Resources: Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers Facebook GroupFree eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossFREE Yoga Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember - "Buy a Latte" here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com

Dr. Tyra Abdalla, DPT specializes in pelvic health. In detail, Tyra talks about: You can find Tyra on Instagram @pittsburghpelvicpt or at Wonsettler Physical Therapy in Scenery Hill, PA (724) 945-5161. Tyra can do in-person and tele-health evaluations. Resources: eBookA Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers Facebook GroupFREE Yoga Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember - "Buy a Latte" here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,

Brenda Behan, LSW, learned there was something wrong with her son, Tucker, when a cystic hygroma was detected at her first ultrasound appointment. At that time, she was experiencing numbness on the right side of her body. Soon after, a large lesion was detected on her brain stem, MS was diagnosed, and treatment began. Brenda had many difficult decisions to make including: Tucker's memory is preserved through the work Brenda and her husband, Trevor, do through Good Day Racing. Want a free eBook and receive a weekly email from Pause to Remember? here Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss here FREE YOGA with the Pause to Remember Community HERE Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember - "Buy a Latte" here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,

In this episode, Amy Pelkey talks about taking a break from digital break. She shares some thoughts from Cal Newport's book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World and how they can be applicable to anyone including grieving mothers. Both positive and negative aspects of social media while grieving are highlighted with the hopes of inspiring more mindful use of social media. Want a free eBook and receive a weekly email from Pause to Remember? here Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss here FREE YOGA with the Pause to Remember Community HERE Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember - "Buy a Latte" here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,

Do you feel like there is a sea of options to help you with your grief but sifting through the resources feels like a time consuming task? Why don't you take a listen to this episode focused on EMDR which stands for "eye movement desensitization and reprocessing?" EMDR is a type of therapy with many applications including PTSD, anxiety, depression, substance use disorder, and grief. Jeff Tejcek, founder of Virtual EMDR, talked with Amy Pelkey about EMDR. Here are some of the highlights of this episode: Virtual EMDRGetting Past Your Past Where to find Jeff Tejcek's and his contact information: Website LinkedInEmail:jeff@virtualemdr.com Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss here FREE YOGA with the Pause to Remember Community HERE Want a free eBook and receive a weekly email from Pause to Remember? here. Where to find Pause to Remember WebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember - "Buy a Latte" here Other here here.www.AmyPelkey.com Fractal of Light,