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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class mental health professionals who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'l help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage. We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.

Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class mental health professionals who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'l help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage. We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.

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United States

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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class mental health professionals who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'l help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage. We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.

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English


Episodes

How to Navigate Mental Illness AND Addiction/Betrayal Trauma

1/19/2021
Mental illness and addiction, as well as betrayal trauma, can be parallel struggles! And it can be very difficult to understand where one starts and the other begins, or which one leads to the other. In this episode, Mark talks raw and real about his own struggles with mental illness that began as a small child and how that morphed into and ran alongside his decades of addiction. Mark and Steve also discuss some important aspects of mental illness and addiction/betrayal trauma— -...

Duration:00:32:32

Should We Hide Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma From Our Kids?

1/12/2021
It's hard enough navigating through porn/sex addiction and betrayal trauma as adults! But what happens when we're raising kids at the same time? What should we disclose to our kids, if anything at all? And if we do disclose—how, when and how much should we share? And how can we create an environment where we don't pass on the same dysfunctional behaviors to our children? How do we help them to grow up and be sexually and relationally healthy? In this episode, Mark talks raw and real about...

Duration:00:36:34

How to be Emotionally Healthy as an Individual and Couple in 2021

1/5/2021
We're all SO glad 2020 is over! In fact, we should all receive a t-shirt that reads, "I Survived 2020!" And we're all hoping 2021 will be SO much better. But . . . the reality is, this year could bring some challenges even more daunting than last year! We just don't know. The key is to seek emotional health and resilience for ourselves personally and as a couple-ship, NO MATTER WHAT this year brings! In this episode, Mark and Steve share some practical, in-the-trenches ways to maintain and...

Duration:00:37:37

Ditch the “New Year’s Resolution" BS—it doesn’t work!

12/29/2020
Can you believe it--it's a NEW YEAR! And it's that infamous time again--New Year's Resolutions! In this episode Mark and Steve get real about WHY these resolutions virtually never work to produce long-term LASTING change. Using the "resolution" approach, especially for overcoming porn addiction and healing betrayal trauma, often does just the opposite! Here's why— - We mistake "novelty" and initial "excitement" as true commitment. - New Year's Resolution "energy" is only temporary--the...

Duration:00:38:32

Learning from Mark & Steve's "Recovery Ghosts of Christmas Past"

12/22/2020
This episode is a kind of "Christmas gift" from Mark and Steve to their listeners. They talk raw and open about how too many Christmas seasons over their decades of deep addiction were anything but merry and joyful! But, today Christmas time is SO MUCH BETTER! Mark and Steve share HOW they and their wives have turned Christmas into a truly enjoyable, peaceful, connecting time. Recovery, healing and Christmas truly can harmonize! Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension...

Duration:00:37:18

Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part Three: Finding Serenity in the Midst of Family "Stuff"

12/15/2020
During the holidays, "families" can be both an opportunity AND a challenge! Family interactions can support us on our paths of recovery and healing OR knock us off the path! In this Part Three episode, Mark and Steve offer guidance on HOW to successfully navigate family and the holidays— - Balancing TIME between self, marriage and family. - What to do when "enmeshed" family dynamics collide with new recovery and healing skills. - How we can easily fall into old unhealthy family...

Duration:00:34:52

Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Par Two: "Self Care? Forget that! It's the Holidays, Bro!"

12/8/2020
It's SO easy to "go off the self-care rails" during the Holidays! If we're not careful, we can tend to use as an excuse for laziness, apathy, self-indulgence, disconnection, etc., the old "Yah, but it's the Holidays!" In this Part Two episode, Steve and Mark talk about their own tendencies to fall prey to "holiday laziness" and how easy it is to fall out of the structure and routine of HEALTHY LIVING!!! Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling Learn more about Mark...

Duration:00:28:38

Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part One: Preparing for and Managing Triggers

12/1/2020
The holidays are a time for MAJOR EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS—good and bad. In fact the Holidays are intended and designed to elicit intense emotions. These can be ignited by our internal or external environments. In this episode (part one of a 3-part holiday series) Mark and Steve get real about HOW to deal with holiday triggers in a healthy way— - Normalize your holiday triggers—they're going to happen! - Practice simply "being" with your emotions as opposed to "doing" something about them. -...

Duration:00:29:37

Where Relationship Expectations Collide with Individual Boundaries

11/24/2020
It's very natural and legitimate to have certain expectations in our marriage relationship. And we NEED healthy boundaries in order to make steady progress and attain and enjoy real CONNECTION. But what happens when our relationship expectations come into conflict with our individual recovery and healing boundaries? What happens when expected goals or timelines aren't met or change? How do we deal with setbacks, disappointments and "unmet" expectations? Can expectations and boundaries be...

Duration:00:30:17

The "Unholy Triad" that can Decimate Your Marriage!

11/17/2020
In their own addictions, recoveries and healing, and working with people all over the world, Mark and Steve have come to understand an "unholy triad" that decimates marriage: Pride; Shame; and Trauma. In this episode Mark and Steve get raw and real about how these three HUGE challenges can derail our most cherished relationships and how to begin moving through and beyond them. Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling...

Duration:00:24:16

What Does it Really Mean to "Man-Up"?

11/10/2020
With so many dominant influences from Hollywood, the mainstream media, pornography and the role models we were raised with, there's a LOT of confusion about what it really means to "man-up." It's NOT the "macho/sexual-prowess" stereotype the culture often tends to promote. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk open and real about their own experiences as men and their work with men across the world. A man's strength has NOTHING to do with being "weakness-free." It has EVERYTHING to do with...

Duration:00:27:50

How We Get Stuck in our Pain . . . and How to Heal and Move Forward

11/3/2020
In this episode, Mark and Steve come from a very heart-felt place in speaking to the women who may find themselves "stuck in the pain of Betrayal Trauma." This is actually a very common struggle for many in early or even ongoing healing and recovery. Mark and Steve discuss— - How the "grieving process" is a necessary part of facing pain and beginning to heal. - Many women and men feel like they "don't have a voice," aren't being heard and often never really learned "how" to have a...

Duration:00:35:14

Is there a Place for "Sexual Entitlement" in a Healthy Marriage Relationship?

10/27/2020
Mark and Steve produced this episode in response to a PBSE listener's question— Hi Guys! Would it be possible to talk about entitlement in an episode? I feel like many men struggle with a sense of entitlement for sexual pleasure and/or being "serviced". I know for my husband and many of his friends, the belief is that if they aren't getting it from their wives, they have the right to seek it elsewhere (porn, affairs etc). How does someone work on changing their mindset of entitlement and...

Duration:00:30:59

If You Don't Have Honesty—You Don't Have Much

10/20/2020
This episode starts with Mark and Steve getting super raw about how lying was a big part of their addiction years and early recovery. - There are MANY "layers of lies" that can be obvious or very subtle; active lies or passive ones. - Why do addicts tell lies? And why do spouses often have struggles being totally open and blunt about what they're feeling and thinking? - Why is dishonesty SO devastating to a marriage relationship? - HOW can we make the shift into total honesty,...

Duration:00:34:55

Are YOU Choosing Your Life . . . OR . . . is "IT" Choosing You?

10/13/2020
Mark and Steve get personal and talk about how, for much of their lives, they lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "It is what it is," and "Things never change, so why bother?!" As CRAZY as it sounds, much of our TRUE POWER resides in this bold claim: "Acceptance is the answer to many of life's problems." Listen in as Mark and Steve talk about HOW to: - Embrace serenity in accepting the things you can't change; - Muster the courage to...

Duration:00:35:54

In Recovery & Healing—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?

10/6/2020
In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about their personal "God journeys"—how God operated in their lives BEFORE recovery and healing (crazy dysfunctional!)—and how their God relationships evolved in ways that literally "saved" their lives and marriages. Maybe in your individual and couple recovery and healing you could use a personal "God assessment." Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services In...

Duration:00:35:51

Hey, we're doing well, so we can let up on our Boundaries—Right?

9/29/2020
When things have been going well for awhile in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, there can be a temptation to relax the boundaries we've agreed to. This can also seem like a viable option when things are continuing to fall apart in the relationship. In either situation, experience tells us that the BEST chance your marriage has is within the safety and growth of BOUNDARIES. In this episode, Mark and Steve get into some of the more subtle and advanced nuances of boundaries— -...

Duration:00:31:55

I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Partner—Are We Done?

9/22/2020
We live in a culture that can easily tend to make physical/sexual attraction the "be all, end all," in marriage relationships. In this episode, Mark and Steve share their own raw and real marriage experiences in relation to this poignant and difficult topic: Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services Here's an article about healing Betrayal...

Duration:00:43:20

How to Have DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS that bring TRUE CONNECTION!

9/15/2020
Our most DIFFICULT conversations can also be the most CONNECTING! In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and real about WHY we avoid difficult and uncomfortable conversations and HOW we can turn these situations into TRUE CONNECTION! If you're a couple where many or most of your hard conversations turn negative and divisive, this episode will help you understand "why" that happens and "how" to turn things around so you can stop fighting and start CONNECTING! Find out more about Steve...

Duration:00:35:20

How Do We Become Trapped in a "Marriage Crisis" and Can We Ever Come Back Together?

9/8/2020
Porn addiction, Betrayal Trauma and other challenges can plunge us hopelessly into a seemingly perpetual pattern of Negative Relationship Patterns! This constant negativity wears us down until we can't see EVER having a happy, connected, fulfilled relationship. In this episode, Mark and Steve speak from personal marriage experience, as well as years of working with couples, about WHY we get trapped in our Negative Relationship Patterns and HOW to Break Free. Find out more about Steve Moore...

Duration:00:37:38