The Fertility Warriors

Is it a sign from the universe or something else? I know that when I was on my fertility journey, at the start there, there were MANY times when I questioned whether the universe was sending me a sign that I wasn’t meant to be a mother. Years later, as my entire emotional wellbeing has changed, I know better. And just the other day I caught myself saying to a friend that I was receiving all of these signs from the universe… before then ‘resetting’ in my mind and asking myself the truer, deeper questions that I needed to ask. Tune into today’s episode and see (especially right at the end) how to truly know what to do when you think you’re seeing signs all around and also how our brain influences what we see. And… if you’ve seen, we’re about to close the doors on The Reset program. If you’d like to know more, click here

This is for anyone who has tried meditating, but still feels heavy under the weight of trying to conceive, and why meditations might not be working for you. Over the years I’ve worked with hundreds of women in my programs, previously The Fertility Warrior Intensive but now my program is called The Reset and… it’s been really interesting because so many of the women I’ve worked with are… just like me. Type A personalities. I was the type who really and truly struggled with: Not being able to hard work myself into getting pregnant Feeling out of control in my life and not knowing what my future would look like And so many of the women we’ve worked with are exactly the same. My programs haven’t supported them with education on getting pregnant because honestly, the majority of women, haven’t needed it - being educated hasn’t been the problem - everyone is already (by and large) taking the supplements, eating a healthy diet, knows when they’re ovulating. And almost everyone has also already tried meditating to feel better. For some it helps a little, for some it has made them feel more anxious (which has then often led to them feeling like they’re doing it wrong or they’re broken). So spoiler alert - you’re not broken… but meditating might not be right for you, or might not be enough. Tune into today’s podcast to learn more about: The 5 reasons guided meditations might not be working for you What might be a better strategy for women who’ve experienced trauma The 3 pillars we focus on in my program, The Reset And don’t forget, if you haven’t already - make sure you jump in to catch my free masterclass on how to cope with negative pregnancy tests here.

We’d love to invite you to our free Masterclass How to cope with negative pregnancy tests (and other setbacks), regardless of whether you’ve been trying to conceive for 6 months or 6 years. Tickets are free, but limited. Register and get yours at robynbirkin.com/masterclass

This podcast is jam-packed with practical advice and tips on what to reply when they ask when you’ll get pregnant…. And are actually secretly trying to conceive, but it might be taking longer than you anticipated. You know… those family functions, milestone birthdays with friends, or even work functions and things shift when they ask you this. In this podcast I talk about: Don’t forget to get your free ticket to my upcoming masterclass here, or put your name down on the waitlist for The Reset so you get first dibs (and best rewards) here.

One of the moments etched into my mind from my season of trying to conceive was a friend’s birthday party and it was one of many times that I felt sad.. And just deflated by a friend’s pregnancy. I was still recovering from hyperstimlation and a medical miscarriage and the last thing on earth that I felt like doing was celebrating… and so while everyone else did, I dragged myself along with a big water bottle…. And while they all dressed up… I just wore a black summer dress. This was my rock bottom season, and yet there she was, absolutely gorgeous and glowing with her four month pregnant belly.

One of the biggest misconceptions that I work through with clients is that as soon as you get pregnant, the anxiety melts away - and I feel really passionate about not promoting that myth…. Because I’ve seen too many times that it keeps us stuck in not seeking help. Instead… what it does… is stop us from developing true emotional coping skills that will support us through pregnancy, birth and beyond. On today’s podcast I talk about:

What is the best way to help your partner through infertility and loss… particularly if you’re also struggling with it all yourself? Listening to this podcast could be a combination of many different folks! It could be husbands, wives, same sex couples - and within that, differing dynamics of energy. It hurts, truly to see your partner really struggling with navigating next steps… and just life… while they’re trying to conceive and working through infertility, pregnancy loss and generally disappointment month after month, while often being expected to continue on with their life (with potentially other people not knowing about what they’re going through) as if they aren’t going through the biggest upheaval of their lives. So what is the number 1 way to support your partner through infertility, pregnancy loss and other factors in TTC that make it incredibly emotionally hard. On today’s podcast, I talk about:

On today’s podcast I talk about 7 really compelling reasons why you might decide to shift your focus to, and invest in cultivating a strong mindset, and some of these are things you may not have thought of before. When I talk about investment, I’m not just talking about money (although obviously sometimes things cost money! ha!) but I’m also talking about…. Shifting your mental load and focus, prioritising your time and investing in being open to change. Truly… the way you’re feeling and dealing through infertility, loss and trying to conceive, can have a positive ripple effect throughout your entire life… not just for what is going on for you now.. But in terms of the future you and any future setbacks or challenges you experience in the future. Tune into today’s podcast and let me know what you think. I’m so humbled that so many of you listen to me every Wednesday. A BIG thank you. Here’s 7 reasons to develop a strong mindset through infertility.

We had a support call in our Fully Supported community (we have them weekly FYI - and Fully Supported is my membership program for folks who've completed The Reset and want more resources, support and community. You can learn more about The Reset here). But on the call I always open up with a quote or something to ponder. Last week, I shared this quote: Healing doesn't have to look magical or pretty. Real healing is hard, exhausting and draining. Let yourself go through it. Don't try to paint it as anything other than what it is. Be there for yourself without judgement. And this really stood out to me because so many people expect that you can start the process of healing, and it's this instant process of feeling like you're walking through a candyland

Over the years I've had certain beliefs that have shifted.... That have been game changers for my mental health and moving forward. In today's podcast, I talk about right of these game changers and how these have benefitted my life (and how they can benefit yours too!). It's a pretty broad spectrum... but once you can start making shifts in your mindset, it starts to filter down through to the decisions you make... and then the experiences that you have of life, how you weather the storms of life and generally the lens through which you view your life. Which flows through to your mental health. Tune into the podcast and let me know what you think! On the podcast I also mentioned my Instagram - and yep! I share lots of additional trainings and resources over on Instagram, as well as a big Q+A sticker on Wednesday's and on Friday's (to lighten the mood) I share some funny memes I've come across (and almost always - they've got nothing to do with fertility or trying to conceive!). Come and follow me @robynbirkin

On this podcast I talk about what my journey to healing looked like and the secret to feeling better.... But it's not always what we think looking from the outside in.... On this podcast I talk about: •The moment I started healing •Why sometimes adding things to the to do list is not always helpful in feeling better •Why exhaustion is one of the hallmarks of not coping •The easier way to feel better and what the secret to that really is. •3 pillars I teach. Links in this podcast: Join The Reset - my signature program Watch my free masterclass

Today's podcast is all about being a powerful advocate for yourself at the fertility clinic. And... if things aren't going swimmingly, this is my plea, to please be the squeaky wheel.

Hope = believing it's possible + having energy When you are in your lowest moments, it can feel like you've lost hope and the question I'm always asked is 'how can I find hope" Perhaps you've noticed that hope and optimism is more abundant at certain times in your cycle - so around ovulation, but then it feels in the leadup to your period like it's gone. Or... obviously right after you get your period and you feel like you're crashing down. On today's podcast I'm talking about: •Some of the thoughts you may experience when it feels like you're drowning under the weight of it all •What hope really is (and why you do, always have hope - it's not gone - it's just hiding) •What you should be looking for instead of hope, and what struggling to find hope really is a symptom of •What this could be telling you (or not telling you) about what you should do next

This podcast is inspired by the MANY MANY people reach out to me on my Instagram Stories each week who are in this exact position. So every Monday/Tuesday I release a Q+A sticker on my Instagram asking for what you need help with, and I have this question multiple times each week, phrased in many ways. The question is basically: it is looking like I'll need donor [insert thing here - egg, sperm, embryo] and I just need to get my head around the concept that this is my reality to help me move forward. So today on the podcast I'm talking about how to come to terms with needing a donor on your fertility journey - and primarily the mindset shifts that you might need to get you to a place of feeling like you can even just consider whether donor conception is the right next step for your family. Tune in and let me know what you think... and do make sure you're following me on Instagram if you'd like to hear more from others who have questions (and what my answers are) or if you too have a question you'd like to submit. You can find me on Instagram at @robynbirkin

Sometimes life just feels like one shitstorm to another and it can feel hard to come up for air - I get that! So on today's podcast, I'm chatting through some first steps to help you feel like you can come up for air after it just feels like you're at rock bottom. It's a combination of some practical steps (especially the last bit), some mindset shifts and some education/guidance around what you can be aware of in your mind and body when you're feeling like that. If I can share with you one thing though before you listen: it's that... I get it and I've been there, and there's no shame (at all) in getting help or being where you're at. Sending you so so much love.

Have you ever felt paralysed by what your next steps are and terrified that you'll make the wrong choice? And... just wanted to know what someone else (who gets it and who understands) would do in your situation? Well, I have! And one of the things I absolutely love is knowing what others would do. If you've had multiple cycles it can feel derailing... and it can feel like not wanting (at all) to repeat Groundhog day. As someone who has now had nearly 1,000 clients navigating infertility, loss and trying to conceive, this is what I'd do if I'd had multiple cycles. In this podcast episode, I share with you: •The red flags to look out for (both for yourself and your fertility specialist) •What to look for in your test results •What I'd do to take stock and check in with myself on where I'm at (the easy activity) I hope this episode helps. While my superpower is in helping you navigate the complex emotions of infertility, loss and trying to conceive, you may also be interested to know that I do have a bundle of resources to help those who are looking for some practical 'get pregnant' next steps - based on the work I've done with so many clients, and the beautiful relationships I also have with other fertility practitioners. It's called the Get Pregnant Pronto Pack and it's currently only $27. Click here to find out more and whether it might be able to help you.

Today on the podcast we're talking about whether you should out yourself as trying to conceive and navigating infertility and some of the big mindset work that can go into making that emotional shift. Because I know that... when we first start trying to conceive, there's often a picture and scene in our heads of nobody knowing and then having that magical secrecy and a surprise announcement. But... part of the acceptance of infertility.... Is accepting that our journey to conceive won't necessarily look like everyone else's, and then peace comes from finding magic and beauty in our unique and special path. In this episode I talk about: Some of the benefits of telling people about your journey The way I feel is the most helpful way (for all parties) to announce that you're going through infertility and possibly fertility treatments What my story of telling people looked like right through to announcing my pregnancy Hope you find this episode incredibly helpful, and as mentioned in the library, if you'd like my free resource - head to robynbirkin.com/library

In this deeply personal and relatable story, I welcome Jennifer Robertson to the podcast this week - who gets open and honest with us about her journey of navigating surrogacy and feeling like she constantly needed to pivot on her journey to conceive - and what the emotional hurdles were to getting there. Jennifer is a Fertility Coach and now... mum of two who was a Type A 'get shit done' personality whose life was consumed for seven years by trying to conceive. Her journey included IVF, surrogacy, heartbreaking miscarriages and a surprise natural pregnancy. She lives on the Gold Coast in Australia (a fellow Aussie!) with her two little miracles, Luca and Sophie. Tune in to hear more about Jen's story, and you can learn more here: Website: https://www.jenniferrobertson.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msjenniferrobertson/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClikGpEjoBP-_OOIiktaZDA?view_as=subscriber

Today on the podcast it's my pleasure to welcome the lovely Kate Nguy who shares her story of having 3 ectopic pregnancies to go on to have 3 children (and all of the aha moments, shifts and changes she had in between). Kate is the founder of Shee Revival and she is a fertility coach and womb educator - she helps support women to tune into their bodies more authentically and weave education about their cycle into their everyday living, as well as helping them support and promote their fertility, overcome blocks and increase their energy. She is a qualified yoga teacher with many years of experience as well as a reiki energy healer, womb healer and more. Kate has been a friend for many years and has beautiful energy and outlook as well as lots of qualifications. Kate was also part of the Feel Better Weekend and provided us with both a yoga class and a workshop on how to rewrite your fertility story - and these were two of our most popular sessions. You can find Kate here: Website: https://www.sheerevival.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fertilitycoachkate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sacredspacesyoga

So if you follow me on Instagram, you'll know that every Monday I do a Q+A sticker on my Instagram Stories (and I've started saving lots of the replies on my Instagram highlights too so you can come and find me, and make sure you tune in because there may be some answers that I share that will help you too) - but a great question came through a few weeks ago from an audience member who was feeling scared about an upcoming HSG. We also asked the audience who shared GREAT feedback about what their experience was like as well as tips for others, but then at the end, I shared 8 things that can help if you're feeling nervous about fertility treatments - whether that's an HSG, a retrieval, injecting yourself - whatever it may be. And many of these are concepts and strategies that have personally helped me too as I've navigated medical procedures since my fertility journey too. Press play on this episode to learn more. And you can follow me on Instagram here.