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Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Location:

United Kingdom

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Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Language:

English

Contact:

447866097247


Episodes

Relapse Prevention Tools (1)

1/16/2021
Remember the Stages of the Change process: Pre-contemplation→Contemplation→Preparation→Action→Maintenance→Relapse We are firmly at the Relapse stage, because you now have reached a minimum of one year of sobriety. It is all about what you need to be doing to ensure the rest of your life is sober. Here are some tools to facilitate that long term permanency of sobriety. Look to your future. See it. Envision it. Dwell on it. Milk it. If you can see it, you can have it! We are full circles...

Duration:00:08:11

Undistort your distorted thinking

12/30/2020
They are insidious, don't play by the rules and definitely don't play fair. We are talking about Cognitive Distortions. What are they? They are your thinking, telling you untruths to enable you to justify acting out and therefore relapse. You stay on the cycle of sex addiction: Cycle of Sex Addiction This is all taking place at the Preparation Stage. You are 10 minutes from acting out, unless you can see the Cognitive Distortion that is threatening your sobriety. Act now or it will be...

Duration:00:08:11

Creating new Thinking

12/16/2020
CBT Cognitive →Behaviour Your thinking →Behaviour Thinking = Behaviour Get it! Whatsoever you are habitually, regularly, repeatedly, churning around, playing with, dwelling upon, reflecting upon, nurturing in your mind - will eventually (at some point) become the very thing that you will go on to act upon (to do). If you can change your MIND, you can change your LIFE. If you can change your thinking, you can literally change your whole life and its trajectory. It is that stark. That...

Duration:00:08:26

Identifying & Managing your Triggers

11/27/2020
Managing your sobriety is about Risk Management. Risk Managing your Triggers. Just like many projects may include a discussion about possible risks, they go on to consider what to do if those risks manifest. So too, for you, where your aim is to achieve a lifetime of sobriety. You want to keep those old neural pathways shut down and not reactivate or re-open them by constant merry-go-round relapses and sometimes, binges. It begins with "Identifying" and "knowing" your Triggers. Anticipate...

Duration:00:06:48

Brain & Brain functioning

11/6/2020
Understand brain structure and name the various parts and their role in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction. How does the brain respond to "Trauma"? Understand how addiction hijacks the brain and therefore why I do brain surgery on each of my clients. I cut off the top of their skull, remove their brain and put it on the chair beside them! I talk with the client and separately to their brain. The brain is not their best friend. It is not going to working with them to achieve sobriety and is going to...

Duration:00:08:38

This "Attachment" thing (continued)

10/8/2020
Secure Attachment defined. Then we take a look at the three Insecure Attachment Styles. Are you Avoidant, Ambivalent/Anxious or Fearful Avoidant. Childhood development holds the clues to their setting up. Know your Attachment Style and affect your behaviour patterns in relationships with others, into your future - with help from The Kairos Centre. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction...

Duration:00:06:53

This thing called "Attachment".

9/30/2020
The past holds the clues to why we do what we do, which affects our present and shapes our future. Get back control and influence by better understanding you. There are not many shaping influences from childhood as significant as "Attachment Styles". Do you have Secure Attachment in how you do relationships and interact with others or is it Insecure Attachment; if Insecure Attachment, which of the three styles best describes you? In all your getting, get understanding. Move stuff from the...

Duration:00:07:17

Unmet Core Emotional Needs & unresolved issues drives a person to act out

9/16/2020
Identify the types of triggers at work and therefore the Feeling-State the person wants to escape? What is the preferred Feeling-State being sought? Know yours. Better understand you. Then you are better prepared for the "fight back", with tried and tested tools - that work - provided by The Kairos Centre. Additionally, people bounce back from tragedy, trauma, crisis, and stress by having certain “protective” conditions in their lives. Do you have the full complement of bounce-back...

Duration:00:07:39

"Values": In every day activities, we would rarely contemplate undermining and trashing them

9/2/2020
Our "Values", go to the core and foundations of how we prefer to do life. In most every day situations, we would not contemplate undermining our Values. Yet, how is it that when Sex, Porn & Love Addiction behaviours beckon, so quickly our Values face compromise and are even trashed? Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to...

Duration:00:08:15

Get to know & better understand your Core Emotional Needs

8/25/2020
Identify and know your Top 3 Core Emotional Needs and be better able to understand your patterns of behaviours. What are your Core Emotional Needs? What happens if they are depleted? What are the consequences? How will they manifest in your life? What do they have to do with fight, flight and/or freeze response. Better understand you and how they manifest in "Acting out" behaviours. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online...

Duration:00:08:53

Shame + Narcissism = Sex Addiction

8/20/2020
Shame is a massive issue. Start to know it, understand it, see it and call it out. Begin the journey of underderming it, disempowering it and in so doing, loosening its grip and hold over your life. You can change only what you can see. What you cannot see or understand, you have no hope of affecting or changing and it continues to work away in the unseen (in the unconscious). Come out of "hiding", but only to the "right people" so they don't increase your sense of shame. Presented by The...

Duration:00:07:23

Delay the need to immediately gratify your desire

8/11/2020
Those with Sex, Porn, Love addiction tend to have a reduced ability to delay gratification; yet are disciplined in other areas of life. Secrets held back from a partner: Do you share? Will it break the back of the relationship? Yet trust goes to the foundation of any progressive relationship. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic...

Duration:00:08:37

Practical tools for Recovery from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing)

8/4/2020
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) tools have a whole heap of resources for helping to manage emotions, bring down stress, anxiety, tension, upset, pressure and bring back homeostasis - without using negative past coping and self-soothing "Acting OUT" activities that your brain got use to gravitating to as its "go-to". Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme,...

Duration:00:07:57

Define your Sobriety

8/4/2020
The 3 Circles Exercise helps you define your sobriety. (A different exercise to that similarly so called in 12 steps groups). You decide what your sex life will look like for the duration of the Recovery Programme. What sexual activities are "OK", "NOT OK" and which are "IFFY". Relapse often occurs where your brain negotiates with you that certain "IFFY" behaviours are "OK", when really they are "NOT OK". Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first...

Duration:00:08:17

12 Steps Support groups

7/21/2020
Don't be an island & do Recovery on your own. 12 Steps groups like SA, SAA, SLAA, Celebrate Recovery, X3 Watch Groups are "co-therapy" type supports, that supplement your recovery. Get rid of inhibitions and Hollywood movie misconceptions. Shame will be challenging you, but you will use a different reasoning to justify why you don't attend. Presented by The Kairos Centre: https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love...

Duration:00:09:09

Your Triggers don't come from nowhere!

7/21/2020
Your triggers don't just come out of nowhere. Take back control of your eyes, your thinking & fantasy, which is undisciplined and you gave free rein to, years earlier. If you can change your thinking, you can change your life. Use R.A.I.D to help you. Small incremental steps lead to the good outcomes that you desire. Presented by The Kairos Centre: https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery...

Duration:00:08:12

This is where it starts! - Sobriety - Your Recovery

7/21/2020
Begin at the beginning. Many people experience some type of wounding during early development and learn to manage their emotions, but sometimes it gets the better of them. Sex addiction is not about sex. Sex is a symptom of an underlying problem. Sex is not the problem. It is a symptom and an outlet. We do not see with our eyes. We see with our brain. Want to know more; to better understand? Get your calendar ready for the countdown; Porn-blocker is no more than an attempt at delay, but...

Duration:00:07:54

What Is A Feeling State?

6/16/2020
What is a feeling state and how does this impact behaviours as they relate to sex, porn and love addiction? And where Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) come into this? I'm sure you've come across the term CBT before and in this episode, I'm going to break down the term so that you understand how your cognitive (thinking state) will go on to become the behaviour that will be acted out. Presented by The Kairos Centre: https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Probably the world's...

Duration:00:09:04

Differentiating Between A Compulsion And An Addiction

6/10/2020
Often the words Compulsion and Addiction are used interchangeably, but there actually is a difference between a compulsion and an addiction, and I want to help you understand the difference. I start by giving you a definition of what it means to have a Compulsion and then contrast that with an Addiction. I also talk about the brain's active role in which behaviour you will choose. Presented by The Kairos Centre: https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Probably the world's first...

Duration:00:08:03

You Are Not Your Behaviour

6/3/2020
When we talk about sex, porn and addiction, it's important we separate the behaviours from the person. So in this episode, I talk about why it's important to identify what is you, and what is your behaviour and understand the difference between adding something to your life as opposed to being intertwined with that something. I also talk about how habit and repetitive behaviour practices lead to a person maintaining the behaviours that constitute sex, porn or love addiction. Presented by...

Duration:00:08:44