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Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Location:

United Kingdom

Description:

Helping you better understand Sex, Porn & Love Addiction; guiding you through the neuroscience of the brain and sharing what we now better understand about the brain's involvement, from childhood development. To help you effect change; find the real authentic you (whose truth self went off at a tangent in childhood); so that as you discover and become re-acquainted with the real you, having learnt to like yourself, you are equipped to be the best that you can be.Maximise the living of an increased quality of life; and on the journey, achieve recovery and sobriety from Sex, Porn & Love Addiction using The Kairos Centre Changement Recovery Online Webinar programme; bringing colour back to life - without shame.What may be the world's first fully comprehensive Video-on-Demand Webinar Programme to help you gain sobriety and Recover from Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviour.

Language:

English

Contact:

447866097247


Episodes

Find your Safe, Calm, Relaxed, Peaceful place when Triggered

6/4/2021
Urge Surfing, Mindfulness, Reciting your Pillars, are some ' in the moment' fight back techniques. Here is another one, taken from our EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) practice that is sure to benefit you. .....but it is all about the tapping, to benefit from igniting the left & right brain - in the form of Bilateral Stimulation. Otherwise, you are just doing 'positive thinking'! It works! Give it a try. Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how. Presented by...

Duration:00:07:51

Beware of the Sabor-toothed Tiger response

5/11/2021
Fight the Sabor-toothed Tiger with a lemon! Sucking a lemon and longer, deeper breathing can help you overcome the fight/flight/freeze Sabor-toothed Tiger brain protective response. Let the team at The Kairos Centre show you how. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to like you and positioned to become the best that you...

Duration:00:06:50

"Action" toward change or are you really at Pre-Contemplation!

4/28/2021
If you are not at "Action"; if you have been pushed, enticed, guilt tripped, coerced, under duress, pressurised, police involvement or legal process; partner threat to leave and take the children; such things are not necessarily good enough incentives to see you through a Recovery Programme in the longer term. You must be at "Action" Stage, having got there because you see a need and desire has caught up. Know the Stages Of Change Cycle. Get knowledge. Get understanding. Reclaim your life...

Duration:00:07:02

Sex & Technological Advancement

4/7/2021
How did Technological Advancement get us here? Cave men drawings on walls ➡ camera/Erotic paintings, literature, Bath houses ➡ (1860-1970) Camera images, Porn mags, Picture/cinema house projectors (public) ➡ 8mm projector in homes ➡ (1973 to 1990) VCR !interactive videos in private home (over take porn mags) ➡ (1990 to 2004) WWW, proliferation of porn sites, dialup, broadband, cyberworld, virtual world, smart phones, lap dance clubs, social networking sites ➡ ....and all these are way out...

Duration:00:10:07

Shift your thinking & protect your heart

3/30/2021
It all starts in the mind. What starts in the mind, is tossed around over and over and over as you get on with your day, your week, your month (because of your cognition), will eventually percolate into your heart. A mouth full, but did you get it? People speak the things that are in their hearts. Behaviour (action) will spring forth. That is CBT principles. Regular, frequent, habitual negative thinking, will eventually lead to behaviour (that is also negative). The corollary is that...

Duration:00:09:20

Harmful Consequences

3/16/2021
Sex, Porn, Love Addiction will always cost you way more than you ever bargained. Do yourself a favour. Put pen to paper and spend a chunk of time reviewing the impact, toll and cost it has reaped from you; in terms of Financial spend, Health toll, Personal Development, Relationships, Self-image, Legal conseqences, Social impact, Physical danger & more. Weigh them up. But don't stay down and low for too too long. Resolve to reverse the trend. Presented by The Kairos Centre:...

Duration:00:08:05

"I wish someone would have told me...."

2/24/2021
Consider the exerts form this article written by a woman (Lauren Dubinsky - What I wish I'd Known Before Watching Porn, 2012): "I wish that 10 years ago someone had educated me on pornography. What it is, what it does and what it reaches in and destroys in the hearts, minds and bodies of men and women. I wish that someone would have told me that researchers have suggested it sabotages your sex life. I wish someone would have explained how dopamine.... drives you to return to what provided...

Duration:00:09:32

Porn-blockers & The Couple Recovery

2/11/2021
Porn-blockers: The best that a porn-blocker can be is that of being "a delay". They cannot truly block that which a person is determined to view. Delay can, however, get you through to another day of sobriety. The Kairos Webinar Video-on-demand and its Webcam Recovery Programme is all about "The Couple Recovery". A partner should rightly say " ...and what about me." Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn,...

Duration:00:06:57

Relapse Prevention Tools (2)

2/2/2021
One such action to take (amongst other Relapse Prevention Tools) is to write a "Goodbye Letter" after achieving one year sobriety anniversary. Personify Sex, Porn, Love Addiction as a real person with whom you have been in a real affair. Your partner has not had you 100% to themselves and has shared you with this other person. In the letter addressed to Mrs Sex, Porn, Love addiction, tell the behaviour about the good times that you had together; how it was a friend when you needed her...

Duration:00:07:31

Relapse Prevention Tools (1)

1/16/2021
Remember the Stages of the Change process: Pre-contemplation→Contemplation→Preparation→Action→Maintenance→Relapse We are firmly at the Relapse stage, because you now have reached a minimum of one year of sobriety. It is all about what you need to be doing to ensure the rest of your life is sober. Here are some tools to facilitate that long term permanency of sobriety. Look to your future. See it. Envision it. Dwell on it. Milk it. If you can see it, you can have it! We are full circles...

Duration:00:08:11

Undistort your distorted thinking

12/30/2020
They are insidious, don't play by the rules and definitely don't play fair. We are talking about Cognitive Distortions. What are they? They are your thinking, telling you untruths to enable you to justify acting out and therefore relapse. You stay on the cycle of sex addiction: Cycle of Sex Addiction This is all taking place at the Preparation Stage. You are 10 minutes from acting out, unless you can see the Cognitive Distortion that is threatening your sobriety. Act now or it will be...

Duration:00:08:11

Creating new Thinking

12/16/2020
CBT Cognitive →Behaviour Your thinking →Behaviour Thinking = Behaviour Get it! Whatsoever you are habitually, regularly, repeatedly, churning around, playing with, dwelling upon, reflecting upon, nurturing in your mind - will eventually (at some point) become the very thing that you will go on to act upon (to do). If you can change your MIND, you can change your LIFE. If you can change your thinking, you can literally change your whole life and its trajectory. It is that stark. That...

Duration:00:08:26

Identifying & Managing your Triggers

11/27/2020
Managing your sobriety is about Risk Management. Risk Managing your Triggers. Just like many projects may include a discussion about possible risks, they go on to consider what to do if those risks manifest. So too, for you, where your aim is to achieve a lifetime of sobriety. You want to keep those old neural pathways shut down and not reactivate or re-open them by constant merry-go-round relapses and sometimes, binges. It begins with "Identifying" and "knowing" your Triggers. Anticipate...

Duration:00:06:48

Brain & Brain functioning

11/6/2020
Understand brain structure and name the various parts and their role in Sex, Porn, Love Addiction. How does the brain respond to "Trauma"? Understand how addiction hijacks the brain and therefore why I do brain surgery on each of my clients. I cut off the top of their skull, remove their brain and put it on the chair beside them! I talk with the client and separately to their brain. The brain is not their best friend. It is not going to working with them to achieve sobriety and is going to...

Duration:00:08:38

This "Attachment" thing (continued)

10/8/2020
Secure Attachment defined. Then we take a look at the three Insecure Attachment Styles. Are you Avoidant, Ambivalent/Anxious or Fearful Avoidant. Childhood development holds the clues to their setting up. Know your Attachment Style and affect your behaviour patterns in relationships with others, into your future - with help from The Kairos Centre. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction...

Duration:00:06:53

This thing called "Attachment".

9/30/2020
The past holds the clues to why we do what we do, which affects our present and shapes our future. Get back control and influence by better understanding you. There are not many shaping influences from childhood as significant as "Attachment Styles". Do you have Secure Attachment in how you do relationships and interact with others or is it Insecure Attachment; if Insecure Attachment, which of the three styles best describes you? In all your getting, get understanding. Move stuff from the...

Duration:00:07:17

Unmet Core Emotional Needs & unresolved issues drives a person to act out

9/16/2020
Identify the types of triggers at work and therefore the Feeling-State the person wants to escape? What is the preferred Feeling-State being sought? Know yours. Better understand you. Then you are better prepared for the "fight back", with tried and tested tools - that work - provided by The Kairos Centre. Additionally, people bounce back from tragedy, trauma, crisis, and stress by having certain “protective” conditions in their lives. Do you have the full complement of bounce-back...

Duration:00:07:39

"Values": In every day activities, we would rarely contemplate undermining and trashing them

9/2/2020
Our "Values", go to the core and foundations of how we prefer to do life. In most every day situations, we would not contemplate undermining our Values. Yet, how is it that when Sex, Porn & Love Addiction behaviours beckon, so quickly our Values face compromise and are even trashed? Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction Recovery Programme, where you discover the real, authentic you; get to...

Duration:00:08:15

Get to know & better understand your Core Emotional Needs

8/25/2020
Identify and know your Top 3 Core Emotional Needs and be better able to understand your patterns of behaviours. What are your Core Emotional Needs? What happens if they are depleted? What are the consequences? How will they manifest in your life? What do they have to do with fight, flight and/or freeze response. Better understand you and how they manifest in "Acting out" behaviours. Presented by The Kairos Centre: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp Probably the world's first comprehensive Online...

Duration:00:08:53

Shame + Narcissism = Sex Addiction

8/20/2020
Shame is a massive issue. Start to know it, understand it, see it and call it out. Begin the journey of underderming it, disempowering it and in so doing, loosening its grip and hold over your life. You can change only what you can see. What you cannot see or understand, you have no hope of affecting or changing and it continues to work away in the unseen (in the unconscious). Come out of "hiding", but only to the "right people" so they don't increase your sense of shame. Presented by The...

Duration:00:07:23