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The Virtual Couch is a podcast is hosted by Tony Overbay, a marriage and family therapist, humor columnist and motivational speaker who works with a large number of individuals and couples in a variety of areas including marriage, sexual addiction, and parenting. Tony, and his guests, hope to provide listeners with tools and strategies to help break negative patterns and embrace new and exciting challenges in their lives.

The Virtual Couch is a podcast is hosted by Tony Overbay, a marriage and family therapist, humor columnist and motivational speaker who works with a large number of individuals and couples in a variety of areas including marriage, sexual addiction, and parenting. Tony, and his guests, hope to provide listeners with tools and strategies to help break negative patterns and embrace new and exciting challenges in their lives.
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The Virtual Couch is a podcast is hosted by Tony Overbay, a marriage and family therapist, humor columnist and motivational speaker who works with a large number of individuals and couples in a variety of areas including marriage, sexual addiction, and parenting. Tony, and his guests, hope to provide listeners with tools and strategies to help break negative patterns and embrace new and exciting challenges in their lives.

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The Backside of Anger

7/15/2019
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Have you ever been so angry that you felt completely out of control? What if that feeling was one that you carried with you constantly? What if you didn’t even realize that there was another way to feel, and, once you realized that there was another way, a better way, was it too late to employ the tools that brought you to this realization. Today’s episode is about anger, anger management, and what that process looks like when it works. Too often people go through anger management...

Duration:00:36:38

Welcome to Holland!

7/12/2019
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Welcome to Holland! Please, take a look around, I know you thought you were heading to Italy or Hawaii, but since you're here, let's find a pair of wooden shoes and head over to the closest windmill...I think you'll grow to love the place! This episode is thanks to the essay "Welcome to Holland" by Emily Perl Kingsley. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp.com. Use betterhelp.com/virtualcouch to receive 10 percent off your first month of Betterhelp.com's online counseling services...

Duration:00:12:53

How To Raise Successful Kids, So Says Science!

7/8/2019
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Tony cover's Bill Murphy's http://contact.billmurphyjr.com/ Inc. Magazine article: 7 Science-Backed Things You Must Do to Raise Successful Kids https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/want-to-raise-extremely-successful-kids-science-says-do-these-7-things-every-day.html He also refers to a couple of additional articles in the episode, one from Scientific American titled: Is Divorce Bad for Children https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-divorce-bad-for-children/ as well as a few additional...

Duration:01:00:56

How to Empathy! Do You Really Know What Someone is Going Through? Bonus, Empathetic Statements Included!

7/1/2019
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“I know how you feel.” Do you really? While this phrase is well-meaning, can one truly understand what another is going through when each one of us is an entirely unique individual with only our own setup situations and circumstances that we bring to the table? After all, you are the only person in the history of the earth who has gone through exactly the situations that you have gone through based on the things that you have uniquely seen, done, experienced and felt up to this point in your...

Duration:00:41:00

Guys Only Emergency Episode! What's Your Intention? Gentlemen, Let's Step it Up!

6/27/2019
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Gentlemen, guys, dudes, my brothers, it's time we take a step back and really look at what we're trying to accomplish in our marriages, in our relationships. What's your intention, is it to make our spouses, our kids, feel dumb when they try and communicate with us or is it to create an atmosphere where our kids and spouses feel like we are their rock, their secure place, their cheerleader, their wise old sage, their safe place? I need you to take a serious look in the mirror, own your part...

Duration:00:19:57

Am I Bipolar? Everything You Ever Wanted to Know (and Didn’t Know You Wanted to Know) About Bipolar Disorder

6/25/2019
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Everyone has mood swings, sometimes throughout a week, or a day, even within the span of a minute we can go from feeling like everything is right in the world, to wanting to crawl back in bed for the day. But does having regular ups and downs mean that you’re bipolar? Bipolar disorder is one of the most misunderstood diagnosis in the mental health field and the term “I’m bipolar” or “she’s being bipolar” is thrown around too casually, especially for people who are truly suffering with the...

Duration:00:33:06

When Your Marriage Is Hurting, Tony Overbay on Julie Lee's I See You Podcast

6/19/2019
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My interview on Julie Lee's I See You Podcast. From Julie's show notes: "Joined by The Virtual Couch's Tony Overbay, today we are talking all about marriage! 'Seeing' your spouse with compassion and connection are key in saving a marriage. Tony, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist is here to teach us about EFT, gas-lighting, and creating safe relationships." Julie was a guest on The Virtual Couch episode 123 where she talks about her own journey with battling anxiety and depression....

Duration:00:48:09

Dan Radin, CEO of Auxbus, On Creating an End-to-End Podcasting Platform

6/17/2019
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Dan Radin, CEO of Auxbus, joins Tony Overbay, LMFT on The Virtual Couch podcast to discuss what led Dan, a 15-year veteran of the audio industry, to venture out on his own and start a company with the lofty goal of creating an end-to-end podcasting platform that would help seasoned podcasters and newbie's alike sound like a professional? Dan has more than 75 professional and consumer audio technology products under his belt, but Dan discovered a lot of pain in creating his own professional...

Duration:00:55:32

Early Riser, or Night Owl, Who is More Productive? Can You Change?

6/11/2019
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Do you consider yourself a morning person, or a night owl? And who is more productive? More importantly, if you are a night owl but you want to become an early riser is that even possible? In this episode discover if the early bird, does, in fact, get the worm? And who performs better in school (hint, the grade point difference between night owls and early risers is BIG!), and at work, the morning person, or the night owl? I refer to the article "Can You Will Yourself to Be a Morning...

Duration:00:32:05

Rob Winkler, 5th Planet Games, on Parasocial Relationships, Why the Game of Thrones Finale Feels Like a Breakup.

6/6/2019
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Rob Winkler, 5th Planet Games, on Parasocial Relationships, Why the Game of Thrones Finale Feels Like a Breakup. Rob Winkler, Founder and Studio Lead of 5th Planet Games started writing a blog during the final season of HBO's Game of Thrones with a goal of sharing his thoughts with a co-worker or two. Rob's ramblings grew quickly as he mixed humor with an in-depth analysis of characters., and predictions of potential plot twists all wrapped up in an easy-to-understand writing style. Shortly...

Duration:00:42:14

Is Gaslighting Always Intentional? Plus More Real-life Gaslighting Examples

6/3/2019
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The phrase "gaslighting" is making the rounds lately, and with the increased awareness around the term, many people are accusing their spouses, parents, and co-workers of gaslighting them in all areas of life. A lot of times, the accuser is correct, by definition, meaning yes, the person they are accusing may be trying to convince them that what they are saying isn't true, but is gaslighting always intentional? Can gaslighting come from a place of simply being misunderstood or is it always...

Duration:00:44:25

Therapy Session 1, Sitting in My Office to Talk About Pornography (For Addicts, Spouses, and Parents) Part 1 of 2

5/28/2019
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I wanted to go a bit off-script in this 2-part episode to talk about what it would look like if you were coming to see me to talk about pornography addiction. Is it an addiction? Why is it a big deal? Is it a big deal? OK, fine, I got caught, or maybe even I turned myself in, but isn’t that enough? So sure, I’ve tried to stop looking at pornography a few times in the past, maybe even A LOT of times in the past, so why can’t I? In part 1 I talk about the effects of “sexualization” young, how...

Duration:00:44:36

Ep130 Dr. Kevin Pugh on Transformative Experiences in Education

5/23/2019
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Dr. Kevin Pugh joins Tony to talk about Transformative Experiences in education. Dr. Pugh, a high school friend of Tony's, is one of the pioneers in the field of Transformative Experience Theory, which is a belief that “life is about having rich experiences and the things we learn in school should enrich and expand our everyday experience outside of school.” The Transformative Experience Theory focuses on how in-school learning can enrich out-of-school experience by expanding perception,...

Duration:00:57:45

Ep129 Do I NEED My Partner For My Own Happiness? Exploring Dr. Sue Johnson's Love Sense

5/21/2019
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One of the popular messages shared by both therapists and media alike is that we are supposed to be in complete control of our own emotions before, or even IF we then turn to others and that it is necessary to love yourself first and only THEN will someone else be able to love you. But according to Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of the highly successful evidence-based couples therapy model, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), our new knowledge “stands that message on its head.” Dr. Johnson, in her...

Duration:00:36:54

Ep128 Dr. Adam Harcourt on Brain Fog, Migraines, TBI, Concussions and Simple Brain Exercises

5/16/2019
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Why are some days just harder to get started than others? Do you sometimes feel like your brain is enveloped in a fog? Have you ever wondered where your migraines come from? Why do some treatments work for one patient but not for others for what appears to be the same symptoms? Dr. Adam Harcourt is the owner of Imagine X Functional Neurology and a highly decorated Professor of Clinical Neurology at the Carrick Institute for Graduate Studies. Dr. Harcourt has developed his own novel Migraine...

Duration:00:52:21

Ep127 Tony Reacts to the article “Why Do People Lie to Their Therapists” plus Habit Change, Narcissism, Gaslighting and More!

5/14/2019
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If you have access to anyone under the age of 25 in your life, ask them about “reaction videos” and then watch their own reactions! Whether you love watching old people react to rap videos, or your favorite actor or musician react to people watching them perform, sites like YouTube are full of these reaction videos. Tony first answers a question about why it takes longer than 21 days to truly create a new habit (and where that myth comes from), and then he dives into the research behind...

Duration:00:52:24

Ep126 Recognizing the Raw Spots in Relationships (EFT)

4/30/2019
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Have you ever felt like everything was going right in your relationship? You are laughing, communicating well, when all of a sudden the mood has dramatically shifted? What just happened? Chances are you’ve rubbed up against a “raw spot” in the relationship. According to Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, almost all of us have at least one hypersensitivity, or “raw spot” that, when rubbed in a relationship, can cause immediate feelings of emotional detachment, hurt, and...

Duration:00:28:43

Ep125 Navigating a Faith Journey/Crisis, Fowler's Stages of Faith, Truth, Beauty and Goodness

4/22/2019
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For many, a faith community, or religious congregation, is a safe place to return regularly to be spiritually fed before heading back to an often chaotic world. But what happens when that previously “safe” community begins to feel like a place where one is no longer welcome? Is the problem with the individual, or with the community, or congregation? If you are a parent to someone who is experiencing a faith crisis, what do you do? Are there certain things that you say that seem to trigger...

Duration:00:52:46

Ep124 Happy Wife, Happy Life is Evidence Based! Emotionally Intelligent Husband Key to Better Marriage

4/16/2019
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Have you ever heard the phrase “Happy Wife, Happy Life?” As cliched as it sounds, there may actually be some data to back it up. A study published in the Los Angeles Times in the late ’90s, that has since been built upon, shares that the key to a strong marriage is for a husband to be willing to accept his wife’s influence. Tony talks about why simply “active listening” is not enough, and how this study, published by the Gottman Institute, paved the way for more of the evidence-based...

Duration:00:15:22

Ep123 Julie Lee Host of I See You Podcast Talks About Her Journey With Anxiety and Depression

4/11/2019
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Tony Overbay interviews Julie Lee, Host of the “I See You” podcast and author of the children’s book Broccolipunzle: A Fractured Fairytale. Julie talks about her personal journey with anxiety and depression. Julie grew up in a family of six children, with a father who battled bipolar disorder. She never thought that she would deal with mental illness until one day she found herself in the middle of a panic attack at the beginning of her teaching career. That initial panic attack led her back...

Duration:00:47:20