Unlimited

Send me a text! Healing our relationship with attention begins with noticing the ways in which our natural need for attention has been damaged. In a society that commodifies attention and polices who and what is allowed attention, we develop a distorted relationship with a core aspect of how we connect to each other. This disconnection feeds feelings of isolation and loneliness, leaving us vulnerable to systems that exploit our need to feel seen and heard. By addressing the shame around seeking attention and understanding its role in genuine connection, we can start to reclaim our capacity for presence, care, and community in a way that fosters deeper relationships and collective healing. In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Cher Hale (she/her), to join me in a conversation about the weaponization of attention and healing our relationship with attention. Some of what we talk about in this episode includes: LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: The Slow Build to & the Life-Saving Payoff of Asking for Attention The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy Learning Self-Advocacy to Strengthen Collective Action with Jenique Jones Swimmy by Leo Lionni Holiday Stress Support CONNECT WITH CHER: Substack: For the Attention Website CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Website Instagram Facebook Get email updates Support the show

Send me a text! Navigating tough conversations with emotional awareness is a critical skill as we are all likely to need to engage difficult dialogues, especially during this time of heightened political and social tensions. These types of conversations can be emotionally taxing, and it's important we approach them with both strong self-awareness and self-care. Our ability to show up authentically, compassionately, and aligned with the change we want to see in the world as we interact with others is directly tied to our own inner work. In this episode of Unlimited, I offer insights and tools for navigating tough conversations with emotional awareness. Some of what I talk about in this episode includes: LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: Read This to Get Smarter: About Race, Class, Gender, Disability & More By Blair Imani Blair Imani Instagram on tough conversations Shenikka Moore-Clarke, MSW, LICSW The Healing Vibe Therapist How to avoid sharing election misinformation - NPR Understanding Your Stress Language Stress Release Strategy Guide BOOK A PAY WHAT YOU CAN COACHING SESSION If you found this episode helpful, please share it! You can tag me on social: @unlimitedcoachval Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Website Facebook Instagram Get email updates Schedule a free initial consult Submit a question Support the show

Send me a text! Learning self-advocacy to strengthen collective action is a critical component of sustainable social change. Those of us socialized as women are often conditioned to prioritize supporting others, which can make self-advocacy more difficult. However, by connecting to our own value and values, and speaking up for ourselves even when it’s uncomfortable, we lead by example and inspire others to do the same. Cultivating this sense of self and worth strengthens our resilience, reducing fragility when engaging with diverse perspectives. It also empowers us to lead collaboratively and contribute to collective action, rather than remaining trapped in hierarchical, individualistic, and oppressive ways of being. In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Jenique Jones (she/her), Executive Director at WhyHunger, to join me in a conversation around social change through learning self-advocacy to strengthen collective action. Some of what we talk about in this episode includes: LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: The Pressure to Love Your Job with Cristin Downs Micro-Actions to Manifest Big Change with Taina Brown Dealing with Impostor Syndrome CONNECT WITH JENIQUE: Website LinkedIn WhyHunger Instagram WhyHunger TikTok CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Website Instagram Facebook Get email updates Support the show

Send me a text! Embracing periods of reflection, introspection, and processing is a crucial but often overlooked and devalued aspect of personal and societal growth and change. To create real shifts in the world’s imbalances, we must first engage with the internalized patterns and conditioning that hold us back. This self-work not only deepens the impact of our efforts, but also cultivates more intentional, present, and joyful relationships. However, by undervaluing these periods of reflection and recalibration, society continues to perpetuate oppressive systems. If we aim to truly create change, we must honor these cycles of introspection, building the resilience, creativity, and effectiveness needed to dismantle harmful structures and shape the world we want to live in. In this episode of Unlimited, I explore and strive to coalesce my thoughts around the importance of embracing periods of reflection. Some of what I talk about in this episode includes: LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: Micro-Actions to Manifest Big Change with Taina Brown The Pressure to Love Your Job with Cristin Downs Supporting Changes in Your Life Black Liturgies post on Instagram Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color This Here Flesh by Cole Arthur Riley Rustin on Netflix The National SEED Project If you found this episode helpful, please share it! You can tag me on social: @unlimitedcoachval Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Website Facebook Instagram Get email updates Schedule a free initial consult Submit a question Support the show