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Matt is untoxicated. Now he seeks answers to the questions addiction leaves in its wake.

Matt is untoxicated. Now he seeks answers to the questions addiction leaves in its wake.

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Matt is untoxicated. Now he seeks answers to the questions addiction leaves in its wake.

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English


Episodes

Ep35 – Echoes of Recovery: Healing for the Loved Ones of Alcoholics

4/2/2020
One of the most widely accepted misperceptions about alcohol addiction is that the drinkers are the only people facing enormous challenges in recovery. The fact is that the loved ones of alcoholics have just as much work to do to heal, and the stigma associated with codependency makes the work just as challenging. In this episode, Sheri and Matt introduce our new Echoes of Recovery program for the loved ones of alcoholics. We discuss what we offer to the millions of effected loved ones, and...

Duration:00:48:19

Ep34 – Pandemic Policy Fuels Epic Liquor Store Lines

3/26/2020
On our first remotely recorded episode due to the COVID-19 pandemic, Matt and Debbie Scheer discuss the public policy decision that threw Denver into chaos. The mayor announced that liquor stores and marijuana dispensaries were not essential, and would close the following day. That order lasted about an hour due to the chaos it caused. Lines wrapped around blocks as people scrambled to get their booze before their access was cut off. It would be funny if not so damn sad, for a number of...

Duration:00:30:45

Ep33 – Quarantine and Isolation – Alcohol will Only Make it Worse

3/13/2020
While the COVID-19 pandemic is nothing like the terrorist attack on America we suffered during 9/11, it does isolate and confine us in a similar way. Back then, 19 years ago, I sat on the couch, watched cable news, drank massive amounts of vodka and sulked. I can't help but imagine that millions of drinkers will have the impulse to do the same thing now as we hunker down and watch the news about the spread of the disease and associated closings and cancelations. On this episode of the...

Duration:00:32:54

Ep32 – Sex Miseducation: The Lasting Impact

3/6/2020
Was your middle school sex ed experience as shrouded in shameful secrecy and as incomplete as ours? In this episode, Matt and Debbie talk about the lasting negative impact of our society's refusal to talk openly and honestly about one the most potentially beautiful and totally natural human acts. It isn't just about fumbling awkwardness. When we don't talk about sex, fulfilment, satisfaction, pride, love and intimacy are nearly impossible. Doing it in sobriety creates a whole new set of...

Duration:00:56:18

EP31 – The Destruction of Intimacy in our Alcoholic Marriage

2/28/2020
Sheri and Matt dive deeper than ever before into the intimate details of our alcoholic marriage. Our relationship started in a very typical manner - we mixed booze and romance and lowered all inhibitions. As life pressure built from work stress and raising children, our intimacy morphed from typical to tragic, and love was squeezed out of our physical connection. Now, in recovery from alcoholism, we are trying to pick up the pieces and restore trust and intimacy from the rubble of our...

Duration:00:59:06

Ep30 – Humor is the Ultimate Icebreaker with Debbie Scheer

2/17/2020
The damage done by alcohol is no laughing matter, but if we lighten up and loosen up, honest, healing conversation often follows. No one knows more about using humor as the ultimate icebreaker when discussing difficult subjects than my friend Debbie Scheer. Debbie is a professional speaker, she is the mother of two young boys and she is living her best life alcohol free. She uses humor to delve into the issues no one is otherwise willing to talk about. This is the first of (hopefully) many...

Duration:01:02:28

Ep29 – Doritos Made Me an Alcoholic: The Why, the How and the Stigma of Alcoholism

2/3/2020
To blame my alcoholism on Doritos is a bold statement, but the more we learn about neurochemistry and the way our brains process inputs, the more obvious the link between my adolescent snack patterns and my addiction to alcohol becomes. I am often asked how I knew I was an alcoholic when my high-functioning life hid it so well. I am also often asked how I became an alcoholic while others with similar drinking patterns seem immune to the disease. In this episode, I answer those questions, and...

Duration:00:46:33

Ep28 – Bar Zero: Great Food, Exotic Drinks, Fun People with No Alcohol

1/14/2020
Emily Schrader has always been a risk taker. Drinking alcohol and doing drugs was a natural fit for a woman living life on the edge. Now, with 15 years of sobriety, she is taking a different kind of risk putting everything she's got into her non-profit mission called Bar Zero. Starting as a catering company that offers an exotic dry bar experience, Bar Zero will eventually grow into a full brick and mortar restaurant and bar here in Denver. With the "sober curious" movement proving to be...

Duration:01:02:01

Ep27 – Accomplishment Black Hole

1/8/2020
I'm supposed to feel rested coming off the holidays, right? So why do I feel so bad - worthless and sinking? Some people drink to avoid processing trauma, abuse or neglect. High-functioning alcoholics like me drink as a reprieve from the relentless pursuit of accomplishment. This episode isn't specifically about alcoholism or addiction in general. It is about dealing with the human condition in a society that pushes us into an endless loop of self-dissatisfaction.

Duration:00:34:53

Ep26 – Surviving the Holidays Sober

12/13/2019
This is our third consecutive sober holiday season, and it is monumentally better for both my wife and me. In this episode, Sheri and I discuss the differences in Christmas number three on our quest for recovery. The stress and excitement are still there, but we've finally shed the pressure from both keeping up appearances, and the dreadful anticipation of alcoholic antics. It's really much, much better, but it didn't come easily nor quickly.

Duration:00:36:52

Ep25 – My Alcoholism is Not a Spiritual Problem

11/25/2019
In this episode, I share a speech I gave to a community of people recovering from alcoholism through the twelve steps. It was not an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, though many of the people in the audience were AA participants. In the speech I make the argument that alcoholism is not a spiritual problem for me, so a spiritual solution is no solution at all. The speech led to a lively, yet open-minded discussion. Now I want to know what you think. I hope you'll listen, share a comment or send...

Duration:00:17:43

Ep24 – When Alcohol Stops Working with Jolene Park

11/11/2019
Jolene Park and her friends were like the cast of Sex in the City with their nights on the town and affinity for classy wines while complaining about their relationship struggles. The dots where there, but Jolene couldn't connect them. Until she stopped drinking. Now Jolene is a leading voice talking about the benefits of going alcohol free, no matter where you are on the spectrum from casual drinker to falling-down drunk. Learn more about her nutrition and freedom from drinking coaching at...

Duration:01:03:13

Ep23 – Healthy Delay: The Pace of Recovery for an Alcoholic Spouse

10/28/2019
When I was trying to gain my permanent sobriety, I needed my wife's support more than ever. I thought her cautions attitude and reserved enthusiasm was selfish on her part. I didn't understand that she needed to protect herself, and she had no control over my commitment to never drink again. I was the one who was selfish by crushing her soul, then expecting her to celebrate my recovery. We discuss this topic, and also our new ebook written from Sheri's perspective called: He's Sober. Now...

Duration:00:49:30

Ep22 – Gray Area Drinking with Christy Wynne

10/14/2019
Christy Wynne didn't have a spectacular, catastrophic, up-in-flames relationship with alcohol. Sure, she partied for many years, but she decided to leave the booze behind because she just didn't feel right, and she could deny the cause of her health just being off no longer. Now she has taken her sobriety to new levels by coaching other gray area drinkers and speaking out about the damage caused to women by the mommy wine culture. In this episode, we debate the use of the label, "alcoholic,"...

Duration:00:45:02

Ep21 – Sheri’s Social Drinking: Alcohol Remains Toxic to Our Marriage

9/30/2019
The damage done to our marriage by my active alcoholism was massive. We are still trying to deal with the resentment, and repair trust and our intimate relationship. But now, we face an unexpected challenge. Sheri's occasional, social drinking is having a toxic effect on our marriage. I'm not proud of the impact, but I do think it is important that we talk about it. Please let us know what you think. Comment on the episode, or contact us directly: matt@SoberAndUnashamed.com...

Duration:00:58:38

Ep20 – Alcoholism is More Prolific than Cancer, and We Are the Cure

9/19/2019
Almost 15 million Americans have cancer, but there are more than 15 million American alcoholics. Addiction to alcoholism touches all of our lives. In this speech designed to inform and destigmatize, I talk about how victims of cancer are treated with love and care while victim of alcoholism are treated with scorn and shame. The cure for alcoholism is available to us in changed attitudes and in the voices of those of us willing to tell our stories - willing to wear the label alcoholic without...

Duration:00:26:58

Ep19 – Fearless Teen Drinking: Make Alcohol a Choice

9/6/2019
Listen to this speech I wrote for the students at a large, racially and economically diverse high school after they experienced a series of brazen and dangerous incidents of alcohol abuse. We can't convince all adolescents to abstain from alcohol, but we can convince them to make drinking a choice with two acceptable answers. Let's reduce peer pressure and increase mutual respect. Maybe we should give our teens the chance to make the right choice when drinking alcohol isn't an expectation....

Duration:00:20:32

Ep18 – Getting Our Marriage Unstuck with Jason & Lana

8/12/2019
Sheri and I are stuck. We have made tremendous progress in the recovery of our relationship, now in the third year of my sobriety, but resentments from the past continue to haunt us. We have unpacked, dealt with, explored, rehashed, discussed and worked through all of the issues. We have apologized - me for my drunken behavior, and Sheri for her angry responses - sincerely and endlessly. But it isn't enough to free Sheri of the burdens of resentment. Good news - Jason is back. Untoxicated...

Duration:00:40:38

Ep17 – Sheri’s Story, Part 2: Recovering Our Marriage

7/9/2019
In part two of a three part series about how Matt's alcoholism has damaged our marriage, Sheri talks about the process of recovering our marriage from the depths of distrust and deceit. While we've made good progress, learning to love again is ongoing and requires patience and massive effort. The raw emotion in this episode tells the whole story.

Duration:01:08:29

Ep16 – SHOUT Sobriety Week 6

6/21/2019
God has an important place in my life. He always has. I am a very spiritual person, and I pray constantly both now and back when I was in active alcoholism. That's why I don't believe God wants us to let go and let God. For me, God has given direction to my life, but he expects me to do the work to get sober. I don't believe alcoholism is a spiritual problem. I believe it is a brain disease. My faith helps me, but it is not required for permanent sobriety. That's why we leave God mostly out...

Duration:00:30:50