Want to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan

On this episode I discuss indulgent emotions like confusion, doubt, worry, overwhelm, anger, and victimization emphasizing how these emotions can keep individuals stuck and hinder personal progress. I share personal experiences and insights on how to identify, understand, and overcome indulgent emotions by changing thought patterns. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Rhonda Farr is a certified life coach who works specifically with high achieving men who want more intimacy in their marriages. Listen in as we explore: - the challenges faced by both higher and lower desire partners. - the need to express personal desires. - and the importance of owning and sharing individual needs and emotions within a relationship. If you want a little insight into the mind of your spouse, you'll definitely want to listen in. Rhonda's Website: https://rhondafarr.com/ Rhonda's Podcast - The Intimacy Podcast For the Million Dollar Man https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rhonda-farr Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rhondafarr_coaching/ https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

On this episode I share the story of Eve (from Adam and Eve), emphasizing Eve's courageous choice to follow her calling by leaving the Garden of Eden and the subsequent challenges she faced in the lone and dreary world. Drawing parallels to modern-day experiences and difficulties people face while pursuing their missions, I encourage listeners to embrace difficulties, trust the journey, and acknowledge that even in challenging times, there is room for growth and positive impact. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

John Ripley joins me to discuss his mission to help men of faith live up to their full potential. Our discussion focuses mostly on healthy masculinity, the obstacles men face in developing it, and how woman can help their husband's and son's embrace it. Podcast Abraham's Sons 52 https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/abrahams-sons-52-s-podcast--6060173 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/abrahams.sons.54 Twitter @abrahamssons52 Email john@ripleyconstruction.ca https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

We all claim we want to know what our spouse desires until we find out what it is. Then we wish we didn't know because it feels like an expectation we have to take care of. On this episode I emphasize the importance of acknowledging personal choice and responding to desires from a place of love rather than pressure so you can know your spouse's desires without feeling controlled by them. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

I am joined by Lisa Helton, host of The Trusted Friend Podcast. Together we discuss the power of sharing women's stories to inspire, connect, and uplift each other. Lisa highlights the important impact of listening and learning from diverse narratives and she also emphasizes the importance of being a safe space for others to share their experiences. The Trusted Friend Podcast: https://thetrustedfriend.podbean.com The Trusted Friend Website: https://www.thetrustedfriend.ca/ Find The Trusted Friend on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetrustedfriend And Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090792966814 https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Trust me when I tell you there is a difference between taking care of someone and caring for someone, especially in a marriage. "Taking care of" implies managing someone. "Caring for" implies loving and cherishing someone. If you want a more intimate, healthy, strong marriage, it's good to get clear on which you do more of; "taking care of" or "caring for". https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

It's not bad to enjoy the validation other people give us but at some point we have to learn to start validating ourselves. This can be hard, uncomfortable work. So, instead of doing the work of learning to self-validate, more often than not, we double down on seeking outside validation instead. That's when we get greedy. On this episode I talk about validation greed, how most of us get caught in it, and why we may want to cut it out. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Our personal experiences and pain can be valuable for others. When we share these experiences we can help others avoid making the same mistakes we made or fast-track their own growth in all areas of life. For us, learning from others and their experiences helps us avoid unnecessary suffering and achieve personal growth. Joanne MacLennan Art https://www.instagram.com/joannemaclennanart/ https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

It's not strange to worry sometimes, but can it be taken to an extreme? I think so. On this episode I talk about: - why we worry. - how other's offer us worry and add to our existing worry. - why worrying isn't loving. - how worry can become habitual. - and how to decrease how much you worry. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Collaboration is when you work together, sometimes in separate roles, to create a common goal or outcome. This is what most of us want to do in our marriages but too often competitiveness and costly accommodations work against us. Whereas, when we can collaborate and work together we can build a life that benefits both of us. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

To cherish someone is to hold them dear. It's to protect and care for someone lovingly. It's to show affection for someone. It's to nurture, value, treasure, and adore someone. In this episode we discuss: - the meaning of cherishing. - the importance of cherishing. - different values that are apart of cherishing. - and ways to cherish your spouse. CHERISHING IS DEEPEST KIND OF LOVE, MUST BE CULTIVATED AND RENEWED DAILY https://www.deseret.com/1992/10/18/19011172/cherishing-is-deepest-kind-of-love-must-be-cultivated-and-renewed-daily#:~:text=Cherishing is first of all,person can have for another. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Do you ever feel like you just care too much about what other people think of you? I get it. We all desire to be liked and accepted by others. But what would it be like if you decided that it's okay for people to be wrong about you? I promise, you want to learn how to do this. It's life changing. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

I really believe it is important to be kind, but this can be hard in difficult situations or when others may be unkind to me. On this episode I share some personal experiences and observations to emphasize the need for conscious effort in choosing kindness, even when faced with adversity. I also suggest various strategies for cultivating kindness in our interactions with others. Feeling Kind episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1929716/12771047-feeling-kind https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

As I sat down to set some goals this year a strange thing happened. I had no idea what goals I wanted to set. My desire to set a goal was gone and I felt totally thrown off. I took my struggle to my life coach who helped me realize I was trying to set goals to prove I was worthy of self-love. I knew I no longer wanted to set goals to prove my worth so I decided to focus on choosing something to create this year. In so doing I knew my "goals" would naturally come. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

In this episode I explore the concept of exposure and its benefits in personal growth and development. I share personal anecdotes and examples of how exposure to new experiences can make us more capable, flexible, and confident in facing life's uncertainties. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Is there something you don't currently desire but want to desire? Maybe it's regular exercise, or a mediation practice, or more sex. In this episode I dive into things we want to desire but currently don't desire and I provide tips on how to cultivate that desire. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

It's the beginning of 2024 and so I have to ask: What do you want to create this year? Whether you know it or not, you are always creating something, good or bad, positive or negative. And your greatest creative powers come from your brain. That's why this episode is about focusing deliberately on what you want in order to create more of it in your life. Because, as Jen Sincero says, "What you focus on you create more of." https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

Lexie Hill is an expert in helping people deal with overthinking. Lexie shares her personal journey to coaching, the effects of overthinking on individuals, and gives multiple strategies to cope with overthinking such as setting aside worry time, journaling, maintaining self-compassion, focusing on controllable elements, and practicing the 5 4 3 2 1 grounding technique. Lexie also covers the importance of self-care and the role of coaching in helping individuals to navigate challenges related to overthinking. Lexie Hill's Website: https://lexiehillcoaching.com/ Lexie Hill Coaching on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexiehillcoaching/ https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com

"Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” I heard this on a podcast and it hit me with such force. I knew I wasn't great at that kind of generosity, but I wanted to be. This started me on a whole exploration about generosity and how overcoming scarcity mindset and developing an abundance mentality is key to increasing generosity. https://jamelynstephan.com https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/ https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/ jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com