Why Can't We Talk About It?

It’s not goodbye, it’s see you later! In this episode Jocelyn explains why she’s stepping away from content creation. We’ve loved working on this podcast together, and we’re so grateful to our listeners for their meaningful messages and feedback :) We’re excited to see what the next chapter holds! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode Danny and Joce have an open conversation on aging. Has our perspective changed in our 30s? How do we feel about the decades ahead? What does society tell us about our worth (about women's worth, particularly) as we grow old? We discuss all these questions and more! Things mentioned: Book recommendation: Wrong Place Wrong Time by Gillian McAllister https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/59947696 Restaurant mention: https://aloetterestaurant.com/ Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, Jocelyn shares her experiences with burnout at work. She talks about how she recognized the symptoms of feeling burnt out – and what helped her overcome it. She also shares the most helpful way to support someone in your life who is experiencing burnout. It’s not always easy to say the right thing! Tune in to learn more. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Is it a hobby…or is it a hustle? In this day and age it has become almost expected that we turn our passion projects into income streams, but in this episode Danny and Joce discuss why it’s important to have hobbies that prioritize joy over productivity. Tune in to hear more! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode we delve into toxic masculinity – what it is, and how it’s affected both of us. Tune in to hear about why we think it’s important to kick harmful stereotypes around masculinity to the curb! Things mentioned: Danny’s book recommendation: https://www.amazon.ca/Does-Inside-Minds-Angry-Controlling/dp/0425191656 Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode Danny shares how he took steps in therapy to articulate his struggle with self-worth, and how a few childhood experiences impacted him. He also shares how looking at those situations from his family’s perspective have helped him understand what he went through, as he takes steps to unlearning certain perspectives on his path to feeling worthy. Reco items: https://www.wonderbly.com/ca https://www.amazon.ca/Monopoly-E3113092-Deal-Card-Game/dp/B07F8JBWZR Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Do you feel better when your space is clean and tidy? If so, you’re not alone! In today’s episode we talk about the effects that tidying up and organizing can have on your mental health. Danny shares tips for how he handles household tasks, and Joce talks about her habit of decluttering on the daily. Tune in to hear more about the effects of cleaning on mental health. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, we share some of our thoughts on whether or not New Year’s resolutions are actually helpful. Do you stick to your goals? Danny and I share our outlooks, along with some helpful tips for setting - and keeping - those resolutions! So if you're feeling stuck in 2022, give this episode a listen! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In today's episode we're covering what we understand to be boundaries, how we know if they've been crossed, and how to be better at setting them! Contrary to how it might feel, setting boundaries is not rude - it’s a necessary skill that will improve your mental health, and help you take better care of yourself AND those around you. Tune in to hear more! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

It’s hard making friends after we graduate from school! As we grow older, sometimes our original friend groups drift, or we move to a new place and have to start all over… If you’d like to make new friends, but don’t know where to start, then today’s episode is for you! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In today’s episode we talk about the importance of recognizing emotional labour in relationships, and what happens when someone’s unfairly carrying the mental load for their household. We also break down weaponized incompetence - if you’ve never heard that term, you’re going to want to tune in and hear Danny’s perspective :) Articles referenced: https://www.nytimes.com/article/emotional-labor.html https://www.theskimm.com/wellness/weaponized-incompetence https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2NOsE-VPpkE https://www.huffpost.com/entry/weaponized-incompetence-women_l_61e71983e4b0d8b665717814 https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”, because otherwise you’ll feel guilty? Do you find yourself agreeing with others to avoid conflict? Do you feel the need to be liked by everyone around you? If you relate to any of these questions, then you might be a people-pleaser! In today’s episode, we break it all down and share our personal experiences with people-pleasing…and how to stop. Articles referenced: https://www.blackfemaletherapists.com/people-pleasing-vs-codependency/#:~:text=Codependency does usually involve aspects, further than just people-pleasing. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58690308-book-lovers https://brenebrown.com/hbo-max-presents-brene-brown-atlas-of-the-heart/ Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Jocelyn’s anxiety manifests itself physically, which makes her feel embarrassed, which makes her feel even more anxious! This makes social and work-related situations extra challenging. In this episode we talk about how anxiety can come back, even if you’ve done lots of therapy to overcome it, and what helps in those triggering situations. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, Danny talks about why he procrastinates – the reason goes alllll the way back to his childhood (as most things on this podcast do!) ⁠Procrastination might seem like a weird subject for a mental health podcast, but there's a lot to uncover! ⁠ Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Have you ever had to break up with a friend? Have you ever been broken up with? Was it harder for you than a romantic break up? In this episode we talk about it all, and swap stories of how some friendships in our lives have fallen apart – for better or for worse. Book recommendation: Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode we talk about body image struggles, and how our earliest memories shaped our relationships with our bodies. This one's for anyone who has struggled with their body image, who has felt like they'd "be happy if they changed XYZ" about their appearance, who always feel like they're being looked at but not seen. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Danny shares his take on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) in this beautifully vulnerable episode. He talks to Jocelyn about how he recognized the effects of CEN in his life, and how working through it all has helped him understand some of his behaviours as an adult. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

Do you feel like you’re a burden on your loved ones? Has it stopped you from forming meaningful connections? In today’s episode we talk about the negative impacts of feeling like a burden, and why that feeling happens in the first place. We also talk about ways to combat that feeling and how we can help each other. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

In this episode, we discuss our own unique experiences growing up as Asian-Canadians and seeing (or not seeing) ourselves represented in the media we consumed. Jocelyn is mixed-race and was born in Toronto, and Danny is Taiwanese and immigrated to Canada when he was 6. We talk about what it was like to feel “othered” and the effects of tokenism. Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/

What does anxiety feel like? When did you first notice you had anxiety? What is the difference between nervousness and anxiety? In today’s episode, Jocelyn and Danny discuss these questions, as well as what practices have helped alleviate these anxious feelings. Therapy is one solution, but there’s more! Follow the pod: https://www.instagram.com/whycantwepodcast/ Jocelyn's blog: https://www.jocelyncaithness.com/