I Missed Me

We spend so much time scrolling through curated lives that we start to lose touch with what is actually real. But the most important shift we can make is learning to unlearn the "norms" social media has forced on us. In this episode, we’re getting honest about social media's effect on self-perception and the toxic habits we’ve accidentally normalized. I’m sharing the specific self-reminders that keep me grounded as a content creator and how to protect your mental space in a digital world. From the pressure of constant comparison to the truth about what happens behind the screen—this is a reminder that your worth isn't measured in likes, and it’s okay to step back and reclaim your reality. If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind because of what you see online, or if you’re struggling to separate your true self from your digital self, this episode is for you. What’s Inside: The Normalization Trap: Identifying the behaviors social media says are "normal" that actually drain our peace. Perception vs. Reality: How the digital world warps how we see ourselves and others. The Creator’s Perspective: My personal grounding techniques for staying authentic in an aesthetic world. Digital Boundaries: Practical ways to be protective of your time and mental energy. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures #selfgrowthjourney #boundaries #mindsetshift #imissedme Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It can feel incredibly isolating to have high standards in a world that tells you to "lower your expectations," but what if the problem isn't the size of your heart, it’s just the people you’re giving it to? In this episode, we’re getting honest about self-worth, healthy relationships, and the power of knowing your value. We’re breaking down the difference between being "difficult" and simply being high-maintenance for the wrong person. From identifying if you’re in the right relationship to learning how to stop apologizing for your needs—this is a reminder that you aren't asking for too much; you’re just asking the wrong people. If you’ve ever felt like your expectations are "too high," wondered why you keep feeling disappointed by those around you, or need a roadmap for how to find connections that actually align with what you deserve, this episode is for you. Inside the Episode: Expectations vs. Reality: Why it’s okay to have high standards in love and life. The "Right Person" Filter: How to know if your relationship is actually serving your growth. Redefining "Too Much": Turning self-doubt into self-assurance. Alignment over Attachment: Learning to choose people who can actually meet you where you are. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It’s easy to feel like you’re failing when the motivation just isn't there, but the real breakthrough comes from learning to show up even when you feel "lazy." In this episode, we’re stripping away the pressure to be perfect and getting honest about what it looks like to stay consistent during a low-energy week. We’re moving past the "all or nothing" mindset and focusing on the small, non-negotiable promises that keep you moving toward your goals. From practical shifts in your routine to the 3 tips that help me stay disciplined when I’d rather stay in bed, this is a reminder that your evolution is built in the quiet, unmotivated moments, not just the high-energy ones. If you’ve been waiting for a "spark" to get started again or feel like you’re falling behind because you’re tired, this episode is for you. What’s Inside: Redefining Motivation: Why relying on a feeling is the quickest way to stay stuck. Navigating the "Lazy" Days: My personal approach to maintaining momentum when energy is low. 3 Practical Discipline Tips: Actionable steps to help you stay committed to your vision. The Power of Showing Up: How small, messy actions lead to long-term identity shifts. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We talk a lot about wanting to keep every connection forever... but what if the real shift happens when we stop treating "moving on" like a crime and start seeing it as a requirement for our own evolution? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the heavy, often silent transition of outgrowing friendships and navigating the constant identity shifts of your 20s. From the guilt that eats at you when you realize you no longer "click" with certain people to the bittersweet truth that some relationships are meant to be a season, not the whole story—this is a reminder that choosing your growth doesn't make you a bad person. If you’ve ever felt like you’re "the villain" for needing more than your current circle can give, or if you’re struggling to let go of a version of yourself that no longer exists, this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode is inspired by the viral Vogue article "Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?" Because I kind of agree, not because love is embarrassing, but because, like the article says, making your boyfriend the center of your life is not healthy. We’re getting honest about identity, codependency, and the "cringe" of making a relationship your whole personality. From the ways we abandon our own passions to the subtle habit of disappearing into someone else’s life—this is a reminder that healthy love should amplify who you are, not replace it. If you’ve ever felt like you lost your "cool" the moment you got into a relationship, or you’re struggling to find the balance between being a partner and being your own person, this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Link to article: https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now #Vogue #RelationshipAdvice #IMissedMe #SelfGrowth #IdentityCrisis Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We spend so much energy making excuses for people that we stop listening to what our gut is actually telling us. It’s not about being quick to judge or cutting people off at the first sign of friction; it’s about learning to distinguish between a bad day and a pattern of behavior that doesn't respect your worth. In this episode, we’re getting honest about self-awareness, discernment, and the messy reality of outgrowing people. It’s not about being judgmental; it’s about learning how to fairly assess if a connection is healthy or just heavy. From identifying one-sided energy and subtle competition to knowing when to set a boundary versus when to walk away—this is a reminder that the quality of your life is often a reflection of the people you allow to stay in it. If you’ve ever felt drained by a "best friend," struggled with the friend who only reaches out for favors, or wondered how to actually act on the red flags you’re seeing without feeling like the "bad guy," this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We often talk about wanting to achieve more or reach that next milestone… but what if the real shift happens when we finally stop looking at everyone else’s clock and start trusting our own? In this episode, we’re getting honest about comparison, the pressure of "feeling behind," and how to reclaim your peace. From the toxic cycle of social media scrolling to the deep-seated fear that we aren't doing enough - this is a reminder that your journey isn't a race, and your timeline is exactly where it needs to be. If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling short, wondered why everyone else seems to have it figured out, or felt that heavy weight of "comparison is the thief of joy," this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures #selfhelp #healing #feelingbehind Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We often talk about wanting to change our lives… but what if the real shift happens when we finally let go of the person we used to be? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the grieving process of personal growth and why growth requires the end of your old self. From the discomfort of "losing yourself" to the beauty of rediscovery — this is a reminder that you aren't alone in feeling lost during your evolution. If you’ve ever felt like you’re in a transition period where you no longer fit into your old life but don't quite know who the "new you" is yet, this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Let’s be real for a second: the "perfect time" is a myth we tell ourselves so we don't have to start. If you’ve been sitting on an idea, a goal, or a version of yourself that you’re dying to meet, but you’re waiting for the stars to align... this episode is your sign to be honest with yourself. Today, we’re breaking down why we procrastinate, how perfectionism is actually just fear, and how taking messy action completely changed my life. I’m sharing the raw truth about how I stopped waiting and started doing. No more "I'll start Monday." We’re starting now. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzure. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We talk a lot about wanting better friendships… but what if the real shift happens when we become the friend we’re looking for? In this episode, we’re getting honest about friendship, self-awareness, and personal responsibility. From communication and boundaries to presence, empathy, and emotional maturity — this is a reminder that the relationships we attract often reflect the way we show up. If you’ve ever felt disappointed by friendships, outgrown certain people, or wondered why your connections don’t feel as deep or aligned as you want them to be, this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What if the thing you’re most afraid of—being cringe, being judged, being misunderstood—is actually the key to your freedom? In this episode, we’re talking about why being cringe is being free and how letting go of other people’s opinions can completely change the way you show up in your life, your creativity, and your goals. From people-pleasing and overthinking to self-expression, confidence, and authenticity, this is a reminder that you don’t owe anyone a polished version of yourself. If you’ve ever held back from posting, creating, speaking up, or simply being yourself because of fear of judgment, this episode is for you. With Love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

January comes with a lot of noise. Pressure to reinvent yourself overnight, to have it all figured out, to wake up as a brand-new person just because the calendar changed. But what if that pressure is fake? In this episode, we talk about the truth behind January expectations, why having a bumpy start to the year is completely okay, and how growth doesn’t need a specific date to begin. You don’t need a perfect morning routine, a strict plan, or a dramatic reset to move forward. Sometimes, restarting looks like resting. Sometimes it looks like pausing. And sometimes it simply looks like choosing yourself again, whenever you’re ready. This episode is a reminder that you’re not behind, you’re not late, and you’re not failing. Your goals don’t expire in January. You’re allowed to begin again at any moment, in your own way, on your own time. Press play if you need permission to take your time, soften your expectations, and redefine what progress really means. With love, Mafe Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back to I Missed Me. This feels like the right way to start the year: slow, honest, and real If you’re new here, hi, I’m Mafe. And if you’ve been here since the beginning, thank you for still choosing to listen. This podcast started in 2022 as a safe space for self-love, healing, and growth… but behind the scenes, I’ve been growing too, sometimes beautifully, sometimes painfully. But what I realized is this podcast has never been about perfection; it’s been about showing up as I am. This podcast has held me through so many phases of my life, and I’m so grateful I didn’t walk away from it. I love creating this space. I love connecting with you. And I love that we get to grow together, even when it’s messy. Thank you for being here. Thank you for listening. And here’s to starting the year gently—together. With love, Mafe. Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures== Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sometimes letting go feels like failure, like you didn’t try hard enough, like you’re walking away from something you were supposed to hold on to. In this episode, we talk about the truth behind letting go — of people, of situations, of old versions of yourself. Not from anger, not from bitterness, but from a place of honesty, self-respect, and trust. This conversation is for anyone who’s holding on because it feels safer than releasing. For anyone stuck in the in-between, grieving what was, questioning what’s next, and learning that peace doesn’t come from control, but from surrender. If you’re in a season of release, this episode is your reminder: it’s okay. You’re not losing, you’re making space. With love, Mafe Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: https://patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode, we dive into a truth most of us ignore: staying the same is actually harder than changing. We talk about why holding onto old versions of ourselves feels “safe,” even when they’re quietly breaking us, and why the pain of stagnancy is heavier than the fear of starting over. This episode is your reminder that discomfort doesn’t mean something is wrong; it often means you’re finally growing. If you’ve been feeling stuck, restless, or afraid to take the next step… this conversation will feel like a deep breath. You are allowed to change. You are allowed to evolve. And you are allowed to become someone new. A soft push for anybody who needs it today — because staying the same is harder, and your new life is waiting. With love, Mafe 🤍 Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 👇 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode, we talk about something so many of us avoid but eventually face: starting over. The endings we fear, the in-betweens that scare us, the unknown that makes us feel like everything is falling apart. But the truth is… starting over isn’t proof that you failed, it’s proof that you grew. It’s evidence that you were brave enough to choose yourself, even when it was uncomfortable. Beginning again requires so much courage, and you’re never actually starting from zero, you’re starting from everything you’ve survived.You’re not behind. You’re becoming. And you’re allowed to begin again — softly, slowly, and without explanation. With love, Mafe 🤍 Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 👇 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most powerful shifts you can make in your life: appreciation. Appreciation as awareness, presence, softness, and self-respect. We talk about why what you appreciate, appreciates — and how noticing the small, quiet miracles around you completely rewires your mind, deepens your relationships, and brings you back home to yourself. This episode is a reminder that you can’t attract from lack—you attract from contentment, from noticing, from choosing to say “thank you” for even the simplest things. If you’ve been chasing, forcing, comparing, or doubting… this episode is your gentle reset. A slower breath. A softer perspective. A reminder that nothing is missing — and that appreciation is the energy that brings everything you want closer. With love, Mafe 🤍 Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 👇 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code MAFEANZURES for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today’s episode dives deep into something we’ve all faced: heartbreak. But not the kind where you pretend you’re fine while still checking their stories at 2 AM. This one’s about actually getting over someone emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Because getting over someone isn’t about forgetting them — it’s about forgiving yourself, outgrowing who you were, and choosing peace over chaos. If your heart still hurts right now, this episode is your reminder that healing is happening — even when you can’t feel it yet. With love, Mafe 🤍 Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 👇 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code MAFEANZURES for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We grow up believing love is something we find in another person that it’s something to search for, chase, or wait for. But love isn’t a destination or a single relationship. Love is everywhere. In this episode, we explore what it means to see love beyond romance — in friendships, in creativity, in kindness, in community, and within yourself. Love exists in every act of compassion, in the things that make you feel alive, and in the way you show up for the world. Love is not a person. Love is a force and it’s all around you. With love, Mafe 🤍 Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me. Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content: patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 👇 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code MAFEANZURES for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When life feels heavy, it’s easy to believe that what you’re going through is all there is. But every storm eventually passes, and every chapter no matter how painful leads to another. In this episode, we talk about shifting perspective, finding light in dark seasons, and remembering that your story is still unfolding. You are not your struggles, your fears, or your mistakes. You are the strength that grows through them, the beauty that follows, and the peace that’s still on its way. With love, Mafe Go to https://beacons.ai/imissedme and check out all of I Missed Me Sign up to our membership and get access to monthly exclusive content — patreon.com/Imissedme Check out my personal socials below 💌 https://beacons.ai/mafeanzures Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code MAFEANZURES for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Kensington Publishing: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Check out Shopify: https://shopify.com/mafeanzures Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/i-missed-me/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy