Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

Have you ever wanted to get more sex education but have no interest in talking to a coach directly? Did you have a belief that your sex life should be amazing always, only to find that it's a really difficult expectation to live up to? This episode is dedicated to everyone who would like more sex education but could not imagine themselves reaching out to work with a coach personally. I get it... It's awkward! Maybe it's just not for you, maybe there's an acessability issue. That is why you'll enjoy this conversation with my guest Mariah Freya. She is the founder of Beducated. She's making a global impact by making sex education accessible. In this episode: What should your kids know from you about sexual health? You are their first teacher! What is the sexual lifeline? Our thoughts on people who try to discourage sexual health education. Listen until the end for a discount code on a Beducated subscription! Also - Happy Sexual Health Month! XOXO Kristen

On this episode of Keep Them Coming, I’m thrilled to talk to Zach Watson, aka The Recovering Manchild. Zach’s relatable approach to addressing mental load, invisible labor, and the challenges of modern relationships has really struck a chord with me, and I know it will with you too. Today, we’re diving deep into how he uses humor and vulnerability to foster conversations about personal development, communication, and navigating partnerships. So get ready for an engaging discussion on everything from household responsibilities to the small yet significant ways we can better support each other in relationships. Watson, and Invisible Labor Coach, was also quoted in my August column Love and Loads: Why not doing your fair share is killing your sex life. Available online August 16th. His TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recoveringmanchild His IG: https://www.instagram.com/realzachthinkshare/ RSVP for Kristen's workshop Tap Into Pleasure on September 4th: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/event-details/tap-into-pleasure

This episode is dedicated to those of you who celebrated the Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy last week (July 15th-21st). What do you do to work through jealousy in relationships (especially ENM)? And is it something that you can even prevent? Have you ever said "I'm too jealous to be in a nonmonogamous relationship"? Ever heard of "creative monogamy"? My guest today, Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker bestselling author - we talked about her book Project Relationship - and she's also an AASECT certified sex educator. She co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her anchor partner, Ken, and she's been featured in the New York times. Vogue. NPR and the Atlantic. Find her at jolihamilton.com and her quiz at joliquiz.com Read my July 2024 Keep Them Coming column via ThePitch.com

Did you know oral sex leads to orgasm 3 times more than intercourse? Did you also know that studies are beginning to prove that STIs are spread more now by oral sex than by other forms of sexual contact? On this episode, I was joined by Melanie Cristol, the founder and CEO of Lorals. Lorals is an FDA-approved product whose mission is to empower people to experience intimacy freely and fully and to connect with our partners in a variety of ways. They see Lorals as reinventing oral sex - helping everyone have uninhibited maximum oral pleasure every single time. Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen Lorals website: mylorals.com Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates Learn more about my coaching services: openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered? https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen Facebook https://www.facebook.com/openthedoorscoaching Instagram https://www.instagram.com/openthedoorskc/ YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching788

Welcome to Keep Them Coming. I'm your host, Kristen Thomas, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist. This episode marks the exciting kickoff of season three, and I promise it's going to be hotter and more educational than ever before. In this episode, I am joined by fellow sexologist Savannah Rose of Savannah Rose Coaching. We dive deep into the world of solo pleasure in celebration of International Masturbation Month. Discover why we prefer alternative terms to 'masturbation,' and explore fascinating statistics about solo pleasure time, including why many women prefer it over intercourse. Savannah shares her expertise on closing the orgasm gap, healing from abuse, and living authentically. We discuss the role of pleasure in people's lives, and how to make partnered playtime more connected and hotter. This conversation is filled with profound lessons, practical advice, and plenty of fun. Don't forget to check out my monthly column in The Pitch and stay tuned for more exciting content this season. Enjoy the episode! Mentioned in the episode: Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz Come As You Are by Dr Emily Nagowski Sex Coach U and Dr Patti Britton VITA and Layla Martin Sex For One by Betty Dodson Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies like Intimate Rose and Bathmate: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered? https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen Facebook https://www.facebook.com/openthedoorscoaching Instagram https://www.instagram.com/openthedoorskc/ YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching788

It's International Masturbation Month!! My guest is Kya, founder of so(l)o. Kya is a pleasure activist who believes that pleasure is a key component of living a wholehearted life. After noticing a gap in the market for intimate wellness products that focused on self-pleasure and catered to BIPOC women, Kya founded so(l)o. so(l)o creates all-natural, sustainable intimate wellness products that are specifically created for self-pleasure. Kya was so passionate about so(l)o that she quit her corporate gig and moved to Berlin....after a great deal of strategy and thought, of course. You can follow Kya’s life in Berlin on @brooklyntoberlin and follow so(l)o @mysoloislove on Instagram. Grab a bottle of Glow Intimacy Oil Formula No. 1 and use discount code Open15

This episode features Dr Chelsia Potts, an educator and content creator. Dr Potts and host Kristen Thomas discussed sex and neurodivergency. Have you found that when you're dating, it's easy to be all hot and heavy when you're still in the new relationship energy but then you suddenly feel disconnected? Are you overwhelmed once you have to merge the emotional and physical in a relationship? Worry that your autism or ADHD will prevent you from finding a caring and understanding partner? This episode is for you. Topics include: Aging, shifting, and unmasking - how we mourn removing our mask Dating with autism or ADHD Recognizing red flags Learning to build connections Overcoming shame Find Dr Potts TikTok @heavyonthedr Become a member of The Pitch and get a copy mailed got your house every month.

The conversation you are about to listen to between my guest D Rashaan Gilmore and I is...Maybe not going to make some of you very happy. Sorry, not sorry. I don't really care. We live in Missouri and we no longer have the time to mince words. Our conversation covered topics like houselessness, classism, voter apathy, and allyship. D Rashaan is a serial entrepreneur, community connector, organizer, collaborator, and an Emmy Award winner. He is particularly passionate about making a difference and has found a home for his voice in service of marginalized and stigmatized communities. He is the founder and CEO of BlaqOut, a grassroots movement organization that seeks to organize and mobilize the black LGBTQ community in Kansas City. Consider becoming a member of The Pitch for as little as $5 a month, you could get The Pitch delivered directly to your house no matter where you live.

I know I say this a lot, but I'm constantly excited about the guests that I have on the show. I'm extra excited about today's guest, Alicia Sinclair. She's also a Certified Sex Coach. We went through the same program at Sex Coach U. Sinclair is the CEO and founder of Children of the Revolution, which holds the brand's b vibe, Le Wand, and The Cowgirl. She'd already been in the sex toy industry for a long time before becoming a Sexologist, and when she saw that there were some holes to fill in that industry (wink, wink), specifically about pleasure education, she got her certification and started her own companies, and a pleasure revolution while she's at it. She believes heavily that education and pleasure go hand in hand. If you don't feel like you have learned enough about anal from me and my podcast, then you need to check out their Anal Academy. Also since it's Women's History Month, I asked her about women in history that she looks up to. We also discussed overcoming vibrator objections, favorite positions for integrating vibes with a partner, and what's next in sex tech. If you are not local to the Kansas City area, or just have not had a chance to pick up your copy of The Pitch on newsstands, read my March column Still Got It: Aging doesn't have to slow you down in the bedroom.

When my guest today came over to my office to hang out and chill one day a couple of weeks ago, I was intrigued with her because it was refreshing that we had had some pretty similar experiences, but this also seemed like someone I could learn some lessons from. Ellie Berland is a sacred life and business coach, and she is a big believer in pretty much everything can be seen as divine - that even includes your kinky side. Her pendulum has swung from purity culture into the poly lifestyle, and then into swinging, and now, into a celibate lifestyle as she learns more about herself. We talked about a lot of things in this episode, including BDSM and finding a Dom, connecting to your body, and learning to captain her own ship. Find Ellie on Instagram or her BioPage. Learn more about afterglow and use code XOKRISTEN to get a 7-day free trial.

Curator of the soon-to-be-unveiled KC Rainbow Tour Joel Barrett joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. Joel shared stories of this city's queer past, including the influential 1966 meeting of the North American Conference of Homophile Organizations or NACHO, pronounced NAY-KOE, which was the ember of activism that helped spark the Gay Rights Movement; stories of an open lesbian Bunny at the Playboy Club named Lea Hopkins; the Jazz District; the Gay and Lesbian Archives of Mid-America; and Womantown. We also discussed showing respect via pronouns, finding long-lost gay family, and Anita Bryant. Find the KC Rainbow Tour on: Instagram JoelSpeaksOut.com Happy Singles Appreciation Day! Enjoy this playlist Single and Vibin' on Spotify.

Friend of the show Lucy Rowett, CSC primarily focuses on helping women and non-binary femmes with embodying pleasure. In this episode, Lucy and I are talking all about the variety of documentaries discussing sex cults and sex scandals, including NXIVM, Jerry Falwell Jr, Teal Swan, One Taste, among others. We covered some feel-good shows that are about sex, too, like How To Build A Sex Room and Goop Lab, as well as Sex, Love, and Goop. You can find Lucy at LucyRowett.com or Instagram.

Some of you are fresh out of Dry January and are wondering if you could be dating differently moving forward. Others of you have been sober for years and struggle with being bored on dates. Whether you're a sober dater or simply want fresh and creative date ideas, you'll love this episode of Keep Them Coming. Melissa and Kristen discussed tips for talking to your date about not drinking, where to find people besides a bar, and what Melissa finds sexy in a man. She went on 66 first dates, so she's got some opinions! Melissa Saubers is a Quantum Manifestation Teacher, Healer, Facilitator, and Coach, who has developed a holistic manifestation and healing approach rooted in science, psychology, and spirituality. She has a fascination for the subconscious mind, the quantum field, manifestation, and expanding consciousness and helps clients on their healing, expansion, and manifestation journeys with a variety of healing modalities including breathwork, quantum hypnosis, hypnotherapy, cacao, and energy healing. Melissa hosts many events around the Kansas City area including the weekly love-donation-based Sunset Breathwork event every Tuesday night at 7pm. Melissa can be found online at HealandExpand.com and on Instagram @MelissaSaubers Listen to Kristen's Red Light Special or Singles Appreciation playlist on Spotify. Try afterglow for 7 days FREE with the code XOKRISTEN: https://afterglow.ubpages.com/xokristen/

Ever wonder why men seem to be Mr. Wonderful at first but really start to show their asses after a few months? It's as if they couldn't keep up the act once they thought they had you hooked. You may have found a selfish short-term thinker rather than a generous long-term thinker. Chantal Heide - AKA Canada's Dating Coach - is a dating and relationship coach and expert. She's the author of 10 books (plus two workbooks), and it's her book, No More Assholes, that caught Kristen's attention on TikTok. Chantal is so good at dissecting situations and behavior. She mixes the nerdy science-y stuff with romantic actions to help people change their relationship trajectories. Topics include: how to stop fighting with your spouse, why no kissing for 90 days may be the bold dating move to change your life, dating after divorce, addressing mismatched libido, and much more. Find Chantal Heide on TikTok or Instagram, or grab her books on Amazon. Read my January 2023 column from The Pitch - Please Cancel My Monthly Subscription

Kristen is joined today by friend and fellow Sexologist Mieke Stapelberg. They met through Sex Coach U at a SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) workshop. What better time to make a friend, than when you're being your most vulnerable and exposing yourself to new things? In addition to talking about her some of her brands - including Mind Sex and Karma Mind - Mieke and Kristen talked about mental health, bias, stigma, self-reflection, and the recent Andrew Tate scandal, of course. They also discussed ethical porn and supporting sex workers. So there's a little bit of something in here for everyone! Find Mieke on Instagram @karmamind_

Back on Keep Them Coming for another episode - it's my friend, colleague, and co-host Kristine D'Angelo. She's a Portland based Certified Sex Coach and we are hosting a couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX in a few months. We discussed who our retreat is for and some of the topics we will cover. If you and your spouse or partner really love each other, buuut - come to the retreat and we will help you over come that "but". Also included - responsive desire, being an interesting partner, extreme unity vs extreme autonomy, empty nesters and divorce, and moving beyond talking about it to fixing it! Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information or to complete the interest form. You can get more of Kristine by going to doyoursexlifeafavor.com

Mariah Grant is the Director of Research and Advocacy for the Sex Worker Project at the Urban Justice Center. The midterms are coming, and if the blue wave succeeds, the conversations around decriminalizing sex work could result in action. In the meantime, we discussed ways that everyday people can reduce harm for sex workers. We also covered topics like the Safe Sex Worker Study Act, how to speak to legislators to drive change at the state level, and how cops aren't the answer in solving the current issues. Also, pay attention to where you spend your dollar. Lots of big corporations and banks discriminate against SWs. Find your way over to the Urban Justice Center's website and give them a donation! Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information about my couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX April of 2023.

CSC Kaci Mial joined KTC to discuss all things sex and pregnancy! We talked about the unique challenges that trying to conceive (TTC) couples face. She shared ways to relieve the pressure, to make sex less mechanical, and she provided some great resources for listeners. If you've ever been scared to have sex while pregnant, you need this episode! New moms, dad, and parents alike need support to adjust to their new role as parent and partner. Kaci also talk about what she thought, as a new Mom, was sexiest about her husband after she had their first child. Website : sexcoachkaci.com Email : sexcoachkaci@gmail.com Instagram : @SexCoachKaci ResourcesWhy Did No One Tell Me This? The Doula’s Honest Guide For Expectant Parents, Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak (Pgs.185-186) And Baby Makes Three: The Six Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, John Gottman PhD and Julie Scwartz Phd Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy, Stephanie Buehler Phd Planned Parenthood Reproductive Justice Timeline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkvGmGNKvSU&ab_channel=PPGNYAction

AJ Cheyfitz is both a sex therapist, as well as a kink and BDSM educator in the DC area. AJ taught me all about The Violet Wand, including great information about care, such as cleaning, safety protocols, and more. If you have been a BDSM or kink practitioner for a while, and you've been playing with different things that give you those stringy or those thuddy sensations, and you're looking for something a little bit more interesting, electricity play could be something for you to try.

My new friend, Anna Koehler, joined me. She and I are co-hosting a workshop coming up called Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date. If you feel like the pandemic has made you start holding back, something has made you feel like you're having a harder time putting yourself out there, or maybe you became single for the first time in a long time in the last couple of years. You're not alone. And we have solutions for you in this workshop! Ana also discussed her one woman show called Cold Showers. We threw in some of our ideas about how to get the second date. I also gave my opinion on who should pay for the check on the date. Found out that I got nominated for The Pitch's Best Of For 2022. I got nominated for two awards - Best TikTok and Best Local Personality. I'd appreciate your vote.