All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

In this episode, we’re exploring a different way of looking at your life and your marriage: the belief that it all works out for you. We’ll dive into: If you’ve been tired of forcing things, rushing things, or stressing over why it hasn’t happened yet—this conversation will help you see your challenges through a whole new lens. For more help and support making this perspective your way of LIVING, I invite you to consider working with me directly in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Over the past week, I released a special video series called The Mindsets for a Happier, More Connected Marriage. And in case you missed it — or just prefer to listen on the go — I’m bringing the full series to you here on the podcast. In this series, I walk you through 5 powerful mindsets that can completely change the way you and your spouse communicate and connect. Because the truth is, it’s not just about what you say. It’s about the mindset you bring into every conversation. These 5 mindsets will help you: So whether you’ve been following along with the videos or this is your first time hearing the series, I know you’ll walk away with practical shifts you can start using right now in your marriage. And... Early Enrollment for The Marriage UpGrade is open NOW. See what bonuses and special incentives I have for you by joining the VIP list here: https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/

Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We’re just stuck in the same patterns”? Maybe you’re tired of the arguments that go nowhere… Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don’t really connect anymore. You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.” You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners. In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage. After listening, you’ll walk away with: :: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what’s not working) :: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently :: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner’s (and what that looks like in real life) :: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easier This episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in. Also mentioned in this Episode: The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

You’ve built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside. But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you’re just roommates passing in the night. In this episode, I’m breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again. If you’ve ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you’ll want to listen in. And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/ Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits. Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again. In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage. You’ll learn: How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights. Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior. What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters. How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick. And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs. If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage. You’ll learn: If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward. And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship. I’ll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want. By the end of this episode, you’ll know: This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too. And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Staying out of that negative cycle isn’t just about avoiding another argument. It’s about giving your relationship the stability it needs so you can actually enjoy your time together… … and so you have the runway to address the deeper issues that have been wearing on you both. In this episode, I’m sharing the key shifts that help you: This is how you break the cycle and start building a relationship that feels good to be in. And for more personalized support to help you and your partner keep your marriage feeling better for longer more sustained periods of time, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. You can learn more about becoming Better Together by booking a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder. You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you’re stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it. That’s the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting. In today’s episode, I’m walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle. You’ll learn how to: This episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you’ve been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap. And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship. Skills like: In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools. And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren’t actually conscious choices. They’re inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up. In this episode, we’re talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace. You’ll hear how these patterns show up: -When you’re constantly blaming others but feeling stuck -When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be -When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own life This is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself. It’s not easy work, but it’s the kind of work that changes everything.  If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for. You’ll learn: We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard. If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words… This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict. And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware... And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness... We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern. You’ll hear: But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected. If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you. And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm. If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it… Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail… You’re in the right place. We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions: This episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it. Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn’t seem to meet you there? Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down. If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you’re likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic. In this episode, we’re unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart. You’ll learn: This is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it’s so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better. You’ll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:

You’ve probably heard the phrase “own your emotions”—but what does that actually mean in a marriage? Does it mean your partner gets a free pass to ignore your feelings? Does it mean you’re supposed to just “deal with it” when you’re hurt or disconnected? Not even close. In this episode, we’re unpacking the delicate balance between emotional self-responsibility and relational needs. Because here’s the truth: Yes, your feelings are yours. But that doesn’t mean your relationship shouldn’t feel good. This conversation is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck between two extremes:

What if the friction in your relationship isn't just about unmet expectations, but a deeper misalignment in values and life goals? In this episode, we delve into the challenging yet liberating concept of recognizing when you and your partner might not be the right fit for each other. We'll explore: This conversation isn't about giving up; it's about honoring your truth and creating space for both partners to thrive—together or apart. Tune in to discover how acknowledging a mismatch can be a courageous step toward personal growth and authentic connection. Also mentioned in this episode: It’s normal to have doubts—especially when love is there, but the differences feel hard to bridge. I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to explore how my private coaching program can help. This is your chance to explore those lingering “What ifs” with clarity and compassion. You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Let’s talk: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t see eye to eye with you on some of the most important aspects of life? Maybe it’s domestic responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy, finances, or even how you handle marriage challenges. The truth is, when it feels like you're constantly clashing, it’s often because you’re not aligned on your values—the deeper essence of what drives your decisions. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking why these differences can feel so intense and how they tie back to core values versus specific expectations. Whether it's a clash between traditional and modern views on roles, a difference in how you view intimacy, or how you approach finances, these fundamental values impact everything. I’ll share key insights on how to: This episode is for anyone who’s feeling stuck in these deeper conflicts and wants to find real alignment and peace in their marriage. If you're ready to uncover the root issues and make empowered choices that bring you closer, tune in now. And if you'd like my personal help navigating the biggest expectation clashes in your own marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You’ve probably heard the term “inner work” thrown around in the personal development world, but what does it actually mean, and how does it impact your marriage? In today’s episode, we’re digging into why inner work is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform not just yourself, but your relationship. Whether you’re just starting your personal growth journey or looking to expand your current growth plan, this episode will help you understand why this work is essential—especially when it comes to the way you show up in your marriage. Inner work isn’t just about self-improvement—it’s about understanding your triggers, breaking unhealthy patterns, and creating emotional resilience that positively impacts every part of your life. So if you’re ready to start building a stronger, healthier version of yourself, and unlock a more connected, peaceful relationship with your partner, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover exactly how to get started on the path of personal growth and transformation, right now. Also mentioned in this episode: If you'd like my personal help walking you through your own inner transformation, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call by visiting my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/