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Become a Calm Mama is a parenting podcast where you learn practical parenting tools and strategies so you can stop yelling, feel more calm, and show up as the mom you want to be. Darlynn is the top parenting coach for moms who want to know exactly how to handle misbehavior and create a peaceful home. Darlynn is known for her practical strategies and a down to earth understanding of what it’s really like to be a mom raising kids in the 21st century. Over the past 14 years, Darlynn has dedicated her life to becoming the mom she wanted to be for my kids. In that process, she created a parenting model called “The Calm Mama Process” that helped her navigate every tricky parenting moment that’s been thrown her way. From hitting to bullying, from toddler meltdowns to teenage shenanigans, from missing assignments to college admissions, from getting kids to bed to getting kids out of bed, from kids not wanting to get out of the bath to middle schoolers that don’t want to take a shower, from kids fighting in the car to kids who drive their own car, she’s seen it all. Darlynn has taught her model to hundreds of moms since 2015 and when they apply the Calm Mama Process to their tricky parenting moments they have calm and peace in their homes. Their kids' behavior improves, their relationship with their children gets so much better, and they enjoy motherhood (most of the time!). Darlynn teaches her process inside her coaching program, Calm Mama School, a lifetime membership program where you learn how to master your reactivity, teach kids how to manage their big feelings, and set limits that work. Each week she brings practical and simple strategies to the podcast so you can stop yelling and create a peaceful home.

Become a Calm Mama is a parenting podcast where you learn practical parenting tools and strategies so you can stop yelling, feel more calm, and show up as the mom you want to be. Darlynn is the top parenting coach for moms who want to know exactly how to handle misbehavior and create a peaceful home. Darlynn is known for her practical strategies and a down to earth understanding of what it’s really like to be a mom raising kids in the 21st century. Over the past 14 years, Darlynn has dedicated her life to becoming the mom she wanted to be for my kids. In that process, she created a parenting model called “The Calm Mama Process” that helped her navigate every tricky parenting moment that’s been thrown her way. From hitting to bullying, from toddler meltdowns to teenage shenanigans, from missing assignments to college admissions, from getting kids to bed to getting kids out of bed, from kids not wanting to get out of the bath to middle schoolers that don’t want to take a shower, from kids fighting in the car to kids who drive their own car, she’s seen it all. Darlynn has taught her model to hundreds of moms since 2015 and when they apply the Calm Mama Process to their tricky parenting moments they have calm and peace in their homes. Their kids' behavior improves, their relationship with their children gets so much better, and they enjoy motherhood (most of the time!). Darlynn teaches her process inside her coaching program, Calm Mama School, a lifetime membership program where you learn how to master your reactivity, teach kids how to manage their big feelings, and set limits that work. Each week she brings practical and simple strategies to the podcast so you can stop yelling and create a peaceful home.

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Become a Calm Mama is a parenting podcast where you learn practical parenting tools and strategies so you can stop yelling, feel more calm, and show up as the mom you want to be. Darlynn is the top parenting coach for moms who want to know exactly how to handle misbehavior and create a peaceful home. Darlynn is known for her practical strategies and a down to earth understanding of what it’s really like to be a mom raising kids in the 21st century. Over the past 14 years, Darlynn has dedicated her life to becoming the mom she wanted to be for my kids. In that process, she created a parenting model called “The Calm Mama Process” that helped her navigate every tricky parenting moment that’s been thrown her way. From hitting to bullying, from toddler meltdowns to teenage shenanigans, from missing assignments to college admissions, from getting kids to bed to getting kids out of bed, from kids not wanting to get out of the bath to middle schoolers that don’t want to take a shower, from kids fighting in the car to kids who drive their own car, she’s seen it all. Darlynn has taught her model to hundreds of moms since 2015 and when they apply the Calm Mama Process to their tricky parenting moments they have calm and peace in their homes. Their kids' behavior improves, their relationship with their children gets so much better, and they enjoy motherhood (most of the time!). Darlynn teaches her process inside her coaching program, Calm Mama School, a lifetime membership program where you learn how to master your reactivity, teach kids how to manage their big feelings, and set limits that work. Each week she brings practical and simple strategies to the podcast so you can stop yelling and create a peaceful home.

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English


Episodes

Holiday Overwhelm

12/1/2022
Overwhelm often comes from thoughts like… I have so much to do. I don't know what to do. I'm so behind. I don't know where to start. I'll never get this all done. I suck. These are just thoughts. They are sentences in your head. They aren't necessarily true. But thinking them can lead you to become overwhelmed and self-critical. Sometimes the simple act of writing all the things down that are in your head can help you feel less overwhelmed. In this episode I’m walking you through a...

Duration:00:25:06

Weaponized Gratitude

11/24/2022
With this podcast episode released on Thanksgiving, I’m talking all about gratitude, how it relates to children, how it relates to parenting, and what I'm calling weaponized gratitude. What is gratitude? In Brene Brown's book, Atlas of the Heart, she defines gratitude as, “an emotion that reflects our deep appreciation for what we value, what brings meaning to our lives, and what makes us feel connected to ourselves and others.” So it isn’t just about saying thank you, it’s an emotion....

Duration:00:26:41

Perfectionism, Motherhood & Me

11/17/2022
Today, I’m getting a little personal and sharing my story of perfectionism - how I realized I was struggling with it in the first place, where it came from, what it looked like in my life and some of the strategies I’ve used to get out of my own perfectionism. Of course, I’m also talking about how it relates to being a mom and what happens when we, as women and mothers, try to do everything perfectly. What perfectionism looks like For a long time, I didn’t identify as a perfectionist. I...

Duration:00:27:24

Boundaries And Limits

11/10/2022
In this episode, I’m talking all about boundaries, limits and rules. What is the difference between them? And how can you best utilize them, especially as we go into the holiday season? Rules, Boundaries & Limits - What’s the difference? A rule is when you say what your child can or can’t do. Rules are a first step in teaching your kid how to listen, be responsible and think A limit takes it a step further. It communicates to your child what they can do and the conditions that they can do...

Duration:00:33:00

Codependency In Parenting

11/3/2022
Today on Become A Calm Mama, I'm talking about a concept called codependency and how it shows up in parenting. Our children are naturally dependent on us to care for them. In this episode, I’ll help you understand the difference between healthy dependency and a less healthy codependent model. I’ll also give you some guidelines to figure out if codependency is a struggle for you and what to do about it. What is codependency? As parents, we are responsible for meeting our children's...

Duration:00:37:18

Respect Vs Disrespect

10/27/2022
One of the concepts that I teach in my program The Calm Mama Club, is this idea of mutual respect What I mean by mutual respect is that you as a parent are cultivating this idea of being in a community when having raising kids. You are creating what we think of as interdependence = I care about you. I help you. I am willing to be uncomfortable for your benefit. I'm willing todelay gratification so that you will be more comfortable or have your needs met. AND you are willing to do those...

Duration:00:26:59

Are you a mean mom?

10/20/2022
The difference between being mean and being firm can be confusing. A lot of moms think that when they are firm with their children, they are being mean. For example - when you have one of your kids pulling your other kid’s hair, it’s not mean to say “Stop that. Or Don’t do that. That’s not safe. ” with a firm voice. Or when your child is hitting you or spitting on you. It’s not mean to say “No. Don’t hit me. My body stays safe.” Moms will say to me “i was so mean. I’m such a terrible...

Duration:00:28:57

Things I Say The Most

10/13/2022
After 10 years of coaching parents, I’ve said a lot of things. But there are certain pieces of information, advice and mindset shifts that I come back to over and over again. In this episode, I’m sharing the five things I say the MOST as a parenting coach. And even if you’ve heard me say some of these before, they’re always worth hearing again. #1 Be comfortable with your kid’s discomfort. It’s in the tough moments of life where real learning and growing happens. And this can be hard for...

Duration:00:24:42

Overcoming Fear

10/6/2022
Welcome! I keep thinking of the image of a tightrope walker with a safety net below them. Your kids are on the tightrope, up high, navigating the distances between one development stage to another. You aren’t on the tightrope. You are the net holder. When your kids are little, your net is really close to the tightrope because you are literally keeping your kid alive. But as your kid gets older, your net needs to drop lower and lower. Dropping your net can be scary. Especially when...

Developing Responsibility In Teens

9/29/2022
**Raising Teens Masterclass!** Details below. This episode is all about raising responsible adults and, more specifically, developing responsibility in our teenagers. It’s all about the tension between what teenagers want (freedom) and what they don't want (responsibility). Today, you’ll learn how to navigate this tension by using limits and boundaries to give freedom and teach responsibility. The Relationship Between Freedom and Responsibility Teenagers want FREEDOM. They want to live...

Duration:00:29:11

Parenting Teens What It's Like

9/22/2022
Today we are going to focus on the PARENTS! Yay! The thing you want. Parenthood is a journey from feeling like you have a lot of control to feeling as if you have none. You go from being “in charge” of a tiny human to being not “in charge” of an adult. Yelling, threatening and bribing are ways you try to get your power back. Using fear to get your kids to listen is your attempt to feel in control. The thing is, you never had power or control in the first place. And no other time in...

Duration:00:50:42

What It's Like To Be A Teenager Today

9/15/2022
Today’s teenager is a complicated being. That’s why I’m so excited to have Jennifer Delliquadri with me on the podcast for the next 2 episodes! Jennifer is a life coach for teenagers and their parents. With over 14 years working as a classroom teacher, Jennifer is an expert at connecting with teens. Over the next 2 weeks, Jenn and I are talking about all things teenagers and all things parenting teenagers. We’re speaking from our experiences as coaches, and we are also both moms of teens,...

Duration:00:41:52

Adolescence & Identity

9/8/2022
Today I’m talking about the evolution of self concept and identity, and specifically, how that develops throughout adolescence. The onset of puberty and adolescence (usually around the age of 12), is when we really start to see our kids starting to figure out who they are and what they think and feel about themselves. They begin the process of creating a self concept. In this episode, we’ll go on a little tour of the different stages of self concept and how you can best support your teen...

Duration:00:22:25

Guiding Your Kid’s Self Concept

9/1/2022
What is self concept? How is it different from self esteem? Is it your responsibility as a parent to help shape your child’s self concept? In this episode, I’m talking all about self concept - what it is, why it matters and how it forms. What Is Self Concept? Self concept is a collection of thoughts you think about yourself. It’s different from self-esteem because esteem is more how you feel about yourself. How Does Self Concept Form? Children inherit their self-concept from parents,...

Duration:00:26:08

Make Mornings Easier

8/25/2022
With the start of a new school year, your morning routine may be a little rusty. You and your kids may kind of forget how mornings work, or you expect it to go really smoothly and it doesn't, or maybe you’ve never really had a consistent morning routine at all. If you’re struggling to get your kid out the door on time without a lot of stress and conflict, this is the episode for you! I’m giving you really practical tools and strategies to help create more calm in your mornings. I’ll walk...

Duration:00:33:49

Back To School Shit Show

8/18/2022
The transition back to school from summer break is definitely a transition. There are special challenges that come up, and I want you to be prepared for the shenanigans that might happen with your kids in the coming weeks. In this episode, I’m talking about 5 things you need to know as school starts and how to create the right mindset going into the next couple of weeks so that you can be compassionate with your kids (and so you don't lose your mind). I share these not because I want you...

Duration:00:21:26

Emotional Coaching Your Kid

8/11/2022
I bet you’ve been here… Your kid comes to you with a situation – there’s something happening they don’t like, maybe they’re having an issue with their teacher or a friend at school – and you respond with something like, “it’s not that big of a deal,” “you’re overreacting,” or “don’t worry about it, it’s gonna be fine.” You may have the best of intentions and even say these things in a really sweet way in an attempt to soothe your child or give them a new perspective. But instead your kid...

Duration:00:25:44

Dealing With Complaining

8/4/2022
There are times when your kids are going through something hard or they have something on their mind, and the way they process it is by talking to you - aka complaining. They get stuck in their big feelings. They’re afraid that the discomfort they’re experiencing is going to last forever. So they take all those thoughts and feelings and dump them on you. It’s like the big-kid version of a temper tantrum and it can go on and on…and on. When it comes down to it, your child is just looking...

Duration:00:31:27

My Kid Saw Someone Get Hit by a Bus

7/28/2022
In this episode you'll learn I’m sharing a story about something that happened with my son just this past week. It’s still pretty fresh, but it was just so powerful and also a huge learning experience for me so I’m telling you about it now. Last Friday night, my 16-year-old son was riding the public bus home from the mall when a woman walked in front of the bus on the freeway and was fatally struck. When he told me this over the phone, my mind could not catch up to the words that I was...

Duration:00:25:25

Why Do I Still Get So Mad? The 3 Stages of Becoming Calm

7/21/2022
One thing moms struggle with is feeling bad about their progress in becoming calm and showing up calm with their kids. Whenever they have an mad mom episode and act in a way they don’t think they should, a lot of criticism, guilt, and doubt pours in. They think they should know this already. They think they should be getting there faster. What they don’t understand is that becoming calm is a PROCESS. It’s a PRACTICE. It’s something you work on over time. Some days it’s easy, and some days...

Duration:00:30:49