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We are all at different place on our healing journey. Thriving Adoptees helps you along your unique journey with insights from your fellow adoptees. So that their learnings catalyse your healing. So why do I love helping adoptees heal? I was adopted at 5 weeks old and told about it so young I don't ever remember not knowing. I didn't experience any conscious adoption trauma until I hit 40 when I found out my childhood teddy bear was a gift from my birth mother. This caused an eruption of anger, feeling rejected and unloved. That kickstarted a learning journey that led me to heal and then want to help others. I created the podcast so guests help listeners along their unique healing journey and see their worth. That's the reason the Thriving Adoptees logo is a diamond. You are a diamond. We are all diamonds. Diamonds whose worth is hidden by our trauma. But every metaphor has it's limits. Diamonds have a finite value. Your value is infinite. Most podcasts for adoptees focus on stories, we focus on healing. Email me at simon@thrivingadoptees.com if you'd like to have a chat about being a guest on the show. There have been 83,000 downloads of the show since launch in April 2021.

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We are all at different place on our healing journey. Thriving Adoptees helps you along your unique journey with insights from your fellow adoptees. So that their learnings catalyse your healing. So why do I love helping adoptees heal? I was adopted at 5 weeks old and told about it so young I don't ever remember not knowing. I didn't experience any conscious adoption trauma until I hit 40 when I found out my childhood teddy bear was a gift from my birth mother. This caused an eruption of anger, feeling rejected and unloved. That kickstarted a learning journey that led me to heal and then want to help others. I created the podcast so guests help listeners along their unique healing journey and see their worth. That's the reason the Thriving Adoptees logo is a diamond. You are a diamond. We are all diamonds. Diamonds whose worth is hidden by our trauma. But every metaphor has it's limits. Diamonds have a finite value. Your value is infinite. Most podcasts for adoptees focus on stories, we focus on healing. Email me at simon@thrivingadoptees.com if you'd like to have a chat about being a guest on the show. There have been 83,000 downloads of the show since launch in April 2021.

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@_simonbenn

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English

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00441423359379


Episodes

Befriending Loss With Jennifer Jue-Steuck

2/23/2024
So many of us spent so long pushing tough emotions like loss away. So much of that has been unconscious. What if we can welcome loss in like a friend? So it loses its power over us? Jen shares her learnings from the loss of two mothers. From Laguna Beach (Orange County), California, Jennifer Bao Yu "Precious Jade" Jue-Steuck is an author, screenwriter, children's novelist, adoption researcher, and adoption columnist. Adopted from Taipei (by an American family from Los Angeles), Jennifer is a graduate of New York University's Tisch School of the Arts and Harvard University, where she was a Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation Scholar. She is the founder of Chinese Adoptee Links (CAL) International — Global Generations, the first global group created by and for the more than 150,000 Chinese adoptees growing up in 26+ countries around the world. She currently serves as the co-founder of Harvardwood Vancouver-Seattle (for Harvard alumni in the Arts & Entertainment), and is the West Coast Brand Ambassador for Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs (HAE) Canada. Jennifer has given more than 100+ adoption talks in 8 countries, including several Keynote Speeches, on behalf of the international adoption community. A contributor to St. Martin’s Press, Oxford University Press, MIT Press, Conde Nast and more, Jennifer was recently awarded a runner-up prize by International Thriller Writers (ITW). She won her first writing competition at age 9, and has been writing ever since. The Stepmother's Project is Jennifer's first Canadian global media project ("EVERY MOTHER MATTERS"). https://www.gofundme.com/f/Stepmother-Project https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-jue-steuck/

Duration:00:56:39

Grace With Louise Browne

2/22/2024
Would you like a better relationship with yourself? Less anxiety? Less anger? Listen in as we talk about forgiving ourselves, grace and much more. I don't usually swear on the podcast but I do so for emphasis. Sorry for any offence caused. Would you like a better relationship with yourself? Less anxiety? Less anger? Listen in as we talk about forgiving ourselves, grace and much more. I don't usually swear on the podcast but I do so for emphasis. Sorry for any offence caused. Louise Browne is a baby scoop era adoptee from the United States living in California. She Co-Hosts a podcast, Adoption: The Making of Me, that helps to get adoptees stories out in the world to help change the narrative around adoption. Louise enjoys spending time with her grown son, her husband, family and friends, hikes, enjoys nature and is working on writing her first novel and getting a Young Adult published. Find out more at: https://twitter.com/LouiseBrowne_LA https://www.facebook.com/louise.b.gonzalez https://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-browne-3b5a0519/ https://www.adoptionthemakingofme.com https://www.facebook.com/themakingofmepodcast https://www.instagram.com/themakingofmepodcast https://twitter.com/makingofmepdcst

Duration:01:02:52

40 Years Of Healing With Paige Strickland

2/20/2024
One of the strongest themes in our conversations on healing is that it's an ongoing process. So what do learn over that process that helps us along that process? Listen in as Paige shares what she's done and continues to do to help her along the process. Paige Adams Strickland (1961- ) was born in Cincinnati, Ohio and adopted at 13 months. In 1987 she began a search for her biological family members. She has a BA from Florida State University in Spanish Education. She has 30 years experience in teaching. Her writing has been featured and won attention from scinti.com, a wordwithyoupress.com, soniamarsh.com and adoptionvoicesmagazine.com. Listen to her previous interview: Paige felt ashamed about being adopted when she was younger. Listen to what she's learned over the years to leave this behind. We discuss overcoming stigma, questioning the primal wound and our true identity to feel better, do better and thrive. https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/from-shame-to-thriving-with-paige-strickland Find out more about her at: https://stricklandp.wordpress.com/author/stricklandp/ https://www.facebook.com/23plas https://twitter.com/plastrickland23 https://www.instagram.com/paigeladamsstrickland/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/paige-adams-strickland-4819722b/ https://www.instagram.com/akin_to_and_after_the_truth/ Check out her books at: https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3APaige+Strickland&s=relevancerank&text=Paige+Strickland&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Paige-Adams-Strickland/e/B00FQ6GU5C?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1644231531&sr=8-1

Duration:00:58:22

Gratitude Josee Brault

2/19/2024
How do you feel when say that you should be grateful for having been adopted? Angry? Frustrated? Invalidated? Feeling grateful is totally different to being told to feel grateful. Listen in as Josee shares a lifetime's of insights on gratitude and much more. https://www.facebook.com/JoseeBraultofficial

Duration:00:49:57

Unshackling From Trauma With Adoptee Suni Zmich

2/1/2024
Does trauma sometimes keep you locked up?Listen in as transracial adoptee shares Suni powerful insights about breaking free from our trauma to find the freedom that sets us free. Here's a link to Suni's previous interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/lightbulb-moments-with-adoptee-suni-zmich Here's a bit about Suni and her book: After ignoring her own adoption story for 50 years, SUNI MILLER ZMICH journeyed alongside the interviewees as they described their stories, connecting on an elemental level, her unanticipated reward was she could clearly see herself in the mirror for the first time in her life. She is the mother of two daughters, a retired accounting and finance manager, and a transient ex-army brat poised for the next adventure. Practically empty nesters, she and her husband, Kurt, live in Minneapolis. For Now. When I first started Through the Lens of Ourselves,I only had a vague idea of what I wanted to accomplish.​ I am an adoptee. After conducting many interviews, my personal journey melded with the interviewees. I learned that ALL members of the adoption triad yearn for familial connection. In listening to the birth mothers, I was surprised at my own reaction. For years, I had harbored resentment about my own birth parents and would not fully invest myself emotionally with my adoptive parents. But after allowing myself to see through the lens of the birth parents in my book, I felt safe enough to become closer to my adoptive parents. My hope is that my book will bring peace to to those who are still traumatized by their adoption experience. I will forever be grateful to the individuals who were brave enough to share their stories with me. They nourished my soul and I hope their stories will feed the world. Listening to the stories of others touched by adoption healed me. My hope is that my book will also heal you. You know that quiet voice that whispers to you when you first wake up in that fuzzy space between sleep and full consciousness - where your dreams and reality collide? I would sometimes hear those little nudges to examine my adoption. Here's the link I to the Dragon story mentioned https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7stT4OQoFGU Here's links to her website with links to Amazon etc: https://www.sunimillerzmich.com/ Here are links to her social media: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100068780925549 https://www.instagram.com/sunimillerzmich/

Duration:00:45:00

Peace With Gilli Bruce

1/31/2024
Peace. Isn't that what all want? Or maybe just a bit more peace would be nice. A bit more well, peaceful. Triggered less of the time. Trigger for shorter periods of time. How do we find peace when our nervous systems have been shot to pieces? When we are constantly hyped up and hyper-vigilant. Adoptee and therapist Gill shares 25 years of learnings and what's really worked for her. https://www.facebook.com/gilli.bruce https://www.lara-leon.com/first-retreat-for-adopted-adults-june-2023/ https://howtobeadopted.com/blog/2021/study-into-lifelong-impacts-of-adoption-by-gillian-bruce

Duration:01:08:25

Choices With Jill Bolte Taylor

1/30/2024
Most of us aren't choosing how we feel most of the time. Most of us aren't choosing what we think most of the time. Our trauma is choosing our thoughts and feelings for us. So how DO we choose? Listen in as neuroanatomist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor dives deep into learning to choose. Fascinating and empowering. Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist whose research specialized in understanding how our brain creates our perception of reality. She was interested in this subject because she has a brother who is diagnosed with the brain disorder schizophrenia. As irony would have it, in 1996 at the age of 37, Dr. Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain. On the afternoon of this rare form of stroke (AVM), she could not walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. It took eight years for Dr. Jill to completely rebuild her brain to recover all physical, emotional, and thinking abilities. Dr. Jill is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey (published in 2008 by Viking Penguin), which is still often the #1 book about STROKE sold in the Amazon marketplace. In addition, her second book WHOLE BRAIN LIVING: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life was published in May of 2021 by Hay House and is now readily available. In 2008, Dr. Jill gave a presentation about her experience with stroke at the TED Conference in Monterey, CA, which was the first TED talk to ever go viral through the internet. TED and Dr. Jill became world-famous instantaneously and that TED talk has now been viewed well over 27.5 million times. This 18-minute presentation catapulted Dr. Jill into the public eye, and within six weeks of presenting that TED talk, she was chosen as one of TIME Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World, she was the premiere guest on Oprah’s Soul Series webcast, and her book My Stroke of Insight became a New York Times bestseller and remained on the list for 63 weeks. Dr. Jill is passionate about educating the public about the beauty of our human brain, and she is committed to not only helping others find their way back from neurological trauma but is eager to help everyone better understand their brain so they can live their best life. Her Foundation Jill Bolte Taylor BRAINS is dedicated to providing educational services and promoting programs that are related to the advancement of brain awareness, appreciation, exploration, education, injury prevention, neurological recovery, and the value of movement on mental and physical health, as well as other activities that support this purpose. Dr. Jill remains the National Spokesperson for the Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center (Harvard Brain Bank), whereby she educates the public about the shortage of brain tissue donated for research into the severe mental illnesses. Since 1993, she has been an active member of NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness), by serving for three years on the National NAMI Board of Directions and later spent over ten years as the president of the local level NAMI Greater Bloomington Area affiliate in Bloomington, Indiana. https://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_my_stroke_of_insight https://www.instagram.com/drjillboltetaylor https://www.facebook.com/DrJillBolteTaylor https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHfUhV_xjrJLPiLZSlTRNvg https://www.drjilltaylor.com/

Duration:01:18:15

Seeing Our Potential With Anneke Vinke

1/24/2024
Whilst we are consumed with our trauma, we miss our potential. Listen in as therapist Anneke points us towards hope, the future and healing. Profound and empowering. Here's a bit about Anneke Vinke from her website: " I studied orthopedagogy in Nijmegen, specializing in educational and behavioral problems in young children. I then worked as a scientific researcher at Utrecht University. I received my PhD there in 1999 with a dissertation on adoption. I am a Certified Advanced Practitioner Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ® and Consultant -internal for Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ®, trained and certified in the use of the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT™️) Orthopedagogue (NVO), Registered Psychologist and supervisor Child & Youth (NIP) and Body-oriented Working Psychologist (NIP). In addition, I am included in the government's BIG register as a GZ psychologist and Orthopedagogue Generalist . I am a member of the following trade and professional associations: NIP , NVO , ESTD , SPIPA-NL . My first real contact with adoption was during my internship in a child psychiatric clinic in the 1980s. After graduating in 1991, I had the opportunity to study adoption scientifically through a PhD research project. This resulted in a dissertation on adoptive parenting and ultimately in Adoption Practice in 2006. In addition to (intercountry) adoption, I am involved in foster care, trauma, attachment and youth protection (including child abuse, diagnostics and risk assessment). A portrait can be found on Project Adopted. In the period after my graduation until the establishment of the Adoption Practice, I explored and carried out the full breadth of youth protection work. I have worked as a care provider, as a researcher, as a teacher/trainer and supervisor (university & HBO), as a behavioral scientist in youth protection (BJZ) and as a senior (policy) advisor/researcher at a commercial consultancy firm (youth care). In 2006 I decided to return to clinical practice and founded Adoption Practice Vinke. More information about education and experience can be found on Linkedin ." https://www.facebook.com/anneke.vinke https://twitter.com/Adoptiepraktijk https://www.adoptiepraktijk.nl/wie-ben-ik/

Duration:01:03:31

Growth With Linda Pevac aka Emma Stevens

1/23/2024
How do we grow? What stops us growing? How do we remove those barriers? Emma shares hard won insights to empower us along our life-long healing journey. Her first interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/freedom-with-emma-stevens Her second interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/becoming-our-own-guru-with-emma-stevens Her third interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/healing-change Linda Pevac aka Emma Stevens is a U.S. domestic adoptee from birth and has survived layers of trauma that have put her on multiple journeys. She developed the inner strength and courage to surmount the many struggles she faced. Her traumas were born from being an adoptee who struggled with being forced to wear an impossible mask of playing the part of the “good adopted child.” Because being relinquished and adopted has colored her life, it’s Emma’s desire to be part of the movement that is dedicated to helping bring forth change to the way our world views the needs and support of adopted individuals. She believes strongly in adoptees finding their voice and discovering their truth to have a solid sense of self and to reclaim their identities. Through telling her story, Emma is dedicated to help redefine the narrative of adoption to include the entire complex truth. More about Linda/Emma at: https://linktr.ee/EmmaStevensWriter https://www.instagram.com/EmmaStevensWriter https://www.facebook.com/EmmaStevensWriter https://www.tiktok.com/@EmmaStevensWriter https://twitter.com/emmastevenswrtr

Duration:00:52:03

Open With Fiona Myles

1/19/2024
How do we move forward on our healing journey given the complexities around adoption. Remaining open seems to be one of Fiona's key drivers. Listen in as she shares insights from navigating her ongoing healing process. https://www.fionamylesauthor.com/books https://www.facebook.com/fionamylesauthor https://www.instagram.com/fionamylesauthor/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/fiona-myles-960470226/

Duration:00:56:49

Healing & Reunion with Melisha Mitchell & Lizz Hutchison

1/18/2024
How many reunions are still going over 2 decades later? How does reunion help healing? Listen in as birth mother Melisha and her daughter Lizz talk about what they have learned through reunion. Melisha also talks about Barrack Obama and his role supporting her change adoption law in Illinois. Connect with Melisha here https://www.facebook.com/melisha.mitchell.5/

Duration:00:37:16

Connected With Sara Docan-Morgan

1/17/2024
Do you want to feel more connected? Listen in as transnational adoptee Sara shares how she found that feeling of connection with her birth family. You're going to want to listen to the very end. She touches on profound and surprising insights that will touch you even if you're not a transnational adoptee. Sara Docan-Morgan (PhD, University of Washington) is Professor of Communication Studies. Dr. Docan-Morgan's work has been published in Adoption Quarterly, the Journal of Family Communication, the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Communication Quarterly, Family Relations, and the Journal of Korean Adoption Studies, as well as in edited volumes. Her research focuses on how personal identity and family identity are formed, maintained, and negotiated through discourse in both adoptive and birth families. She teaches courses in interpersonal communication, family communication, gender and communication, communication and race, research methods, and intercultural communication, and directs senior thesis projects. Sara is a transnational Korean adoptee who was adopted at the age of 4 months. She has been in reunion with her Korean family since 2009. https://tupress.temple.edu/books/in-reunion https://www.instagram.com/esjaydm/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-docan-morgan-8642175/ https://www.facebook.com/sara.docanmorgan

Duration:00:59:28

Learning To Heal With Vin

1/16/2024
If you're stuck on your healing journey it may be because you're not seeing clearly. I know I've done that. But we don't know what we don't know. So grace for ourselves is really important. Vin turns the tables on me to explore some of what I've learned from my own experience and over 400 interviews.. Connect with him here: https://www.facebook.com/vinadopteejarrod https://www.instagram.com/Vinadoptee

Duration:01:03:34

Out Of The Abyss With Lisa Ann

1/15/2024
Being stuck in the abyss hurts like hell. So how did Lisa Ann find a ladder out? Listen in for a deep exploration of healing through self reflection and discovery. Adoptee Lisa Ann is the engaging host of Wandering Tree Podcast connecting with her guests on thought-provoking discussions focused on the adoption journey; and spoken with each person’s unique perspectives. Guests show their resilience, personal growth, and the power of positivity. Known for her empathetic interview style, insightful questions, and the ability to authentically connect with her guests, Lisa Ann creates a welcoming space for constructive discussions on the lived experiences of adoption. Her background in early childhood development, combined with decades of service in public safety, and a deep commitment to her local volunteer efforts, has garnished Lisa Ann with an insightful understanding of human development, community dynamics and the powerful flow of life. Outside of her podcasting work, Lisa Ann devotes her professional expertise to helping others save lives and passionately believes in empowering the adoptee community to become builders of connections. In her downtime, you'll find her spending time with family and friends, experimenting with new food concoctions, and immersing herself in books of all genres. https://wanderingtreeadoptee.com/ https://www.facebook.com/LisaAnn4040 https://www.facebook.com/wanderingtreeadoptee https://www.instagram.com/wanderingtree_podcast_lisaann/

Duration:00:59:43

Feeling Whole With Candace Cahill

1/11/2024
Do you yearn to feel whole? Understanding the really tough stuff birth mothers went (and are still going through) has profound effects on how us adoptees feel. Candace lost her son. Twice. The first time to adoption and the second not long after their reunion twenty years later. She also suffered abuse and by being adopted by her stepfather. A whole lot of trauma to heal from. And a whole lot of learning to help you on your journey to feeling whole. https://candacecahill.com/ https://twitter.com/candace_cahill_ https://www.facebook.com/candace.cahill.16 https://www.instagram.com/candace_cahill_

Duration:00:58:10

Processing Trauma To Heal With Liz DeBetta

1/9/2024
We have to feel it to heal it. So how do we do that? Listen in as Liz sets out how the creative process that helps her process trauma. We dive into granular detail to catalyse you to your own insights and shifts in perspective. Find out more about Liz: https://www.instagram.com/lizdebetta/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-debetta-ph-d-7b4ba953 https://www.facebook.com/liz.debetta https://www.lizdebetta.com

Duration:01:08:23

Healing, Holistically With Kelly Williams

1/8/2024
Do you sometimes feel you're getting nowhere fast? Like you're treading water instead of making progress? I don't know about you but I've gotten stuck a lot of times on my healing journey. So what's the catalyst that moves us on? A shift in our perspective. Seeing the bigger picture. Spotting things we haven't noticed before. Kelly explores how curiosity on what he's NOT seeing has driven progression. Connect with Kelly on https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552376577563

Duration:01:20:24

Wave After Wave With Janeen Jackson

1/4/2024
Wave after wave of powerful emotions threaten to engulf us as trauma blows like a force 10 gale. Anxiety, insecurity and fear feel like they can drown us. So how do we ride the waves rather than fighting them? Because we know that's futile right? Listen in as we take a deep dive into the storm that is adoption trauma. Here's the link to the Ministry of Inspiration https://www.theministryofinspiration.com/ Janeen Jackson was a longtime resident of Santa Monica, CA, and in 2022 moved to Evanston, IL, with her husband, Ron Clark, and their two sons, Tyson and Phoenix. She received her B.A. from Norfolk State University, an HBCU, and completed her master’s in Education Leadership and Change in 2020 from Antioch University. In 2018, at age 46, Janeen received unexpected news through DNA technology: she was adopted and biracial. Read about Janeen’s adoption discovery at: https://janeenjackson.com/ Mixedupdiary.com https://www.instagram.com/mixupdiary/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091805086716 https://twitter.com/hello_janeen https://www.linkedin.com/in/janeenjackson

Duration:00:57:46

Overcoming Issues With Abandonment and Anger With Guy Gray

12/18/2023
In this podcast, Guy Gray walks us through dealing with anger that has come up as a result of abandonment. Guy was placed for adoption at birth and was in a foster home until he was 10 weeks old. Guy feels that his adopted parents were loving and nurturing. Yet the feelings of the initial wound, being abandoned at birth, does flare up, sometimes with explosive anger. As Guy indicates, this has become more in control by talking to another birth mother, challenging Guy's false assumptions, and by forgiving his birth mother. Find out more about Guy and his book... https://www.storiesandphotosbyguy.com/

Duration:00:43:33

Feeling Whole With Dawn Tracz

12/15/2023
So many of us have felt wounded so long. So what would it feel like to be whole? Listen in as we explore experiencing wholeness and what get in its way. Profound and enlightening. Just how we like our conversations on Thriving Adoptees. Find out more about Dawn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawn-tracz-37700516/ Read about her research here: https://scholars.wlu.ca/etd/2462/

Duration:00:55:33