This is going to be FUN: enjoy parenting teens

Did your teen set summer goals? If so, now is the perfect time to check in and see how things are going. And if they didn't, it is a great time to help them think about goals for the coming school year. Or maybe you are wondering how to even get your teen to care about goals? In this episode I will teach you what creates motivation and how to help your teen find more of it! You will learn 5 things you can do to raise more driven, self-sufficient teens without nagging. This is part one of a 2-part series, so CLICK HERE to listen to part 2. Ready for More? Motivating Your Teen - Part 2ENJOY Parenting CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook -

I am never more thankful for modern-day air conditioning than I am living in Arizona in the summer! Just like thermostats in our homes magically keep our homes at a comfortable temperature, we, as parents, can be the emotional thermostat with our teens. Discover a few hands-on strategies to help you calm things down when your teen's emotions are coming in HOTTER than Arizona in July. 🥵 If you are tired of your teen's bad mood ruining your day and are ready to get off the emotional rollercoaster, this episode is for you! Ready for More? Free Processing Emotions Mini-CourseENJOY Parenting CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

Does your teen seem to know EXACTLY how to push your buttons? This episode will help you know what to do the next time your teen triggers you. Learn the three magic questions that will help you figure out the real trigger so you can make rational decisions instead of just flying off the handle. Your answers to these questions will help you break the trigger cycle and be intentional about how you respond. Ready for More? ENJOY Parenting CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

Stop saying NO to your teen and learn 4 simple ways to turn a "No" into a "YES" without being a pushover! What most parents don't realize is that when you say YES more often, your NO actually becomes more impactful. Plus, the simple tips in this episode will help you say YES without sacrificing your values, your teen’s safety OR your relationship with your teen. If you really want to end power struggles, enhance connection and have more influence with your teen, join the ENJOY community today. Ready for More? ENJOY Parenting CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

In celebration of the 100th episode of "this is going to be fun" we dive into a key ingredient that has been crucial both to the success of this podcast and to parenting—consistency. You will love exploring this fun analogy between piñatas and parenting for a fresh perspective on consistency. Discover the importance of continuing to show up for your teen, even when it seems like nothing you do is making a difference. Parenting gets more challenging as our kids get older and we explore how you can make sure you are up to the challenge. The reward of a connected relationship with your teen is worth all the effort required. In fact, it often feels even sweeter because of the effort required! Full Show Notes at https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/importance-of-consistency Mentioned on the Show: ENJOY Parenting CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

Finals week is stressful for teens, which means it is also stressful for the moms of those teens. This episode will teach you how to help an overwhelmed teenager in 5 simple steps you can try today. Everyone handles stress differently, and there are some sneaky ways it shows up in teenagers. Learn the different clues you can watch for so you know when the stress is more than they can handle on their own. Follow the 5 practical tips in this episode to help your teenager cope with all the stuff on their plate so they can face finals week - or any other stressful event - with confidence! Full Show Notes at https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/how-to-help-an-overwhelmed-teenager Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseListen to episode 64Listen to episode 97ENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Navigating the world of teens and social media can feel like an impossible balancing act! Trying to find the balance between keeping your teens safe on social media and not suffocating them with restrictions is a daily struggle for parents everywhere! In this episode, you'll learn why parenting from fear isn't the answer and offer a fresh new perspective on teens and social media. You will learn how to approach social media from a whole new angle so you can stop fighting with your teen about it! This approach will help you bridge the gap between your teen's need for autonomy and your desire to keep them safe. Are you ready to end the power struggles over social media in your home? Listen now. Full show notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/teens-and-social-media Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

We are currently facing an epidemic of low self-esteem in teenagers and it is more important than ever that we build their confidence and sense of self worth at home. Our teens are bombarded with messages everywhere they turn about how they should be different than they are, so it can be tricky to raise secure teens who know their worth. In this episode, we talk about one of the surprising places our teens are getting these self-esteem damaging messages and what we can do about it! You will see your teen through a whole new lens that will help you build their confidence. I'll also share how my experience working with parents just like you, has uncovered a crucial first step in helping our teens with their self esteem and give you something tangible to start doing today! Despite the challenges we face in raising teens who are secure in who they are, this episode offers HOPE that your efforts CAN make a difference! Full Show Notes at: www.jenbelltate.com/blog/low-self-esteem-in-teenagers Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Sharing the top 19 parenting lessons to help you in your parenting journey! Since becoming a mom 19 years ago, I have learned SOOOO much. But of everything I have learned, these 19 parenting lessons have been essential in helping me enjoy the teen years more than I could have ever imagined. The 19 parenting lessons include everything from the power of fun and saying yes more often to the meaning of bad behavior and your role as a mom. The teen years are fleeting, and these lessons will you make the most of the time you have. I hope this episode inspires you with lots of tangible ideas you can apply in your own parenting and gives you encouragement and hope to keep going! But don't forget to reflect on the parenting lessons that you have learned from your own journey! Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/parenting-lessons Mentioned on the Show: this podcast episodeProcessing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

You know what mom guilt is, but do you know what Mom Grief is? As your teen changes, evolves and grows up it is normal to experience grief as they transition through different stages. With each new stage, your teen outgrows an earlier version of themselves - usually one you have learned to love and cherish! It is only natural that you would have to grieve that loss, but so often we try to shrug it off and wonder what is wrong with us. If we can learn how to embrace it instead, we can recognize grief as a normal, even necessary, part of parenting. Discover the overlooked times when you might experience mom grief and learn the 3 simple steps for using grief as a tool to move you forward in your parenting journey. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/mom-guilt Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Does your family have established rules for teenage dating? This episode offers a fresh perspective on the goals of dating during the teen years and how to keep your teen safe! Learning how to navigate romantic relationships is an important part of the teen experience, but it can feel like scary uncharted territory for parents. Use the ideas in this episode to help you empower your teen to set healthy boundaries in their dating relationships now and after they leave home. Make sure you discuss the practical dating safety tips at the end of the episode with your teen to set them up for success and make their dating experience a whole lot more fun! Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/rules-for-teenage-dating Mentioned on the Show: this cute pepper sprayENJOY Coaching CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

Do you know who you truly are? Does your teen? Discover a whole new way to see your teen inspired by Disney's Moana. In this episode we discuss the parenting lessons you can learn from Moana, Maui and even Te Ka. Discover which approach works best with teens and start implementing it today. Even when your teen is hurling fireballs and acting like a full-fledged lava monster, there is always more to the story and it is your job to figure out what that is. If you need help decoding your teen's behavior, join me inside of ENJOY. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/who-you-truly-are Mentioned on the Show Disney's MoanaProcessing Emotions mini-courseENJOY Coaching CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook

Do you feel exhausted and drained all the time? You might be carrying an invisible backpack every day - not one filled with books or essentials, but weighed down with bottled-up emotions. No matter how good you are at masking or ignoring your emotions, you can't fool your own body, and it will keep the score. Unprocessed emotions take a physical and psychological toll on us and the same is true for our teens. Learn how to empty your emotional backpack and help your teen develop a healthy relationship with their emotions. Grab the free Processing Emotions mini-course mentioned in the episode so you can start to feel lighter, more energized and more alive! Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/emotional-backpack Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Is your teen always testing the limits and pushing boundaries? You are not alone! This is a common challenge during the teen yers and can leave you frustrated and ready to throw in the towel. This episode will help you strike the balance between allowing your teen the independence they are craving and enforcing limits for their safety and well-being. We explore why teens are constantly testing boundaries and how consistency, patience and understanding can save your sanity! Learn 3 secrets to making sure your teen learns the important stuff, even in the face of defiance. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/testing-the-limits Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Learn the teen depression red flags every parent needs to know while raising kids who are facing today's mental health epidemic. Discover one simple, practical thing you can do TODAY to open up the lines of communication with your teen about mental health challenges. Equip your teenager with a life-saving resource so they have it if and when they need it. If you think your teen's mental health is struggling right now, don't wait to reach out to your doctor or another licensed mental health profession for help. Even when your teen is getting the professional help they need, you are the one at home on the front lines with them every day! This episode shares a few things you can do to support your teen including getting the support you need to face the challenges head on. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/teens-and-depression Mentioned on the Show: Crisis LineProcessing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Does your teen make you mad? This episode reveals what is REALLY making you mad and explains why you get so angry with your teenager. Get ready to see things from a whole new perspective! Dive into an enlightening exploration of how we, as humans, give meaning to words and why we aren't as perceptive as might think. This episode challenges conventional ideas and empowers parents to stop feeling like their teen's emotional punching bag. This perspective shift will reduce conflict between you and your teen and improve your relationships with everyone in your life! Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/why-do-i-get-so-angry-at-my-teen Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Contrary to popular belief, words can hurt...and they often do. Teenagers are especially susceptible to the impact of what other people say to them and about them and those words can have a lasting effect. In this episode, we explore how words have the power to shape our self-esteem, influence our actions, and even dictate the way we present ourselves to the world. Discover how words spoken years ago might still be impacting the things you do and say every single day...and even the way you parent. Learn why it is so important to uncover the wounding words that are shaping your behavior. Make sure you try the simple ideas in this episode to reclaim your power from the words that have been holding you hostage and empower your teen to do the same. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/words-can-hurt Mentioned on the Show: free strategy sessionTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Your teen's big emotions can leave you feeling like you can't do anything right, but this episode will crack the code on teenage meltdowns for good. Discover the science behind teenage tantrums and how you might be making things worse without meaning to. Tune in to the end to uncover practical strategies you can try next time your teen has a meltdown. These 4 simple tips will help you diffuse the situation and help your teen learn to navigate their big emotions. These strategies are not just about managing the moment, but about building a deeper understanding and connection that might decrease the number of teenage meltdowns you encounter. Want more help understanding your teenager or applying these tips in your family? Join the ENJOY Coaching Community for instant access to personalized help and a library of resources to go even deeper. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/Teenage-Meltdown Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

It is pretty common for parents to get blamed for everything that goes wrong in their teen's life - warranted or not. But what if I told you that sometimes, encouraging your teen to blame you might actually be beneficial for them? Discover when (and why) it makes sense to encourage your teen to let you take the blame. This episode explains why your teen might have a hard time advocating for themselves and how you can make it easier for them to make good choices. Explore a few proactive ways you can encourage independence and set your teen up for success navigating challenges on their own. These simple tips will help you build trust with your teen and make sure they know you have their back. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/get-blamed-for-everything Mentioned on the Show: Processing Emotions mini-courseTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupENJOY Coaching CommunityInstagramFacebook

Most parents think they want a happy teenager, but your teen will actually be better off if they aren't happy all the time. Overcoming challenges doesn't just help your teen learn and grow, it can also have a positive impact on the quality of your relationship with them. Your teen won't be happy all the time and the more comfortable you get with that, the better you will be able to help and support them as they navigate the ups and downs of the teen years. As you support your teen in experiencing the whole spectrum of human emotions, you will build a relationship of trust, connection and love. Find out which essential skills you need to support your teen in building their emotional resilience and make sure to download the free Processing Emotions Mini-Class. Join the ENJOY parenting community for more support learning and applying the parenting strategies in this episode. Full Show Notes at: https://www.jenbelltate.com/blog/happy-teenager Mentioned on the Show Processing Emotions mini-courseENJOY Coaching CommunityTeens are the Worst Facebook GroupInstagramFacebook