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Cheating: When Love Lies

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Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions. Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves. On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking. Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?

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Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions. Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves. On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking. Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?

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Episodes
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I Thought It Was Just One Affair, Then I Uncovered The Horrible Truth

12/3/2024
This week we are bringing back another favorite episode. Your husband has an affair which leads you to ask for a divorce. But it's what you discover after you file for divorce that shocks you and has you facing a moral dilemma. Your husband's been unfaithful and now you're divorcing him, so what's the use in trying to learn even more about his philandering ways - why torture yourself? My guest whom we'll call Gail uncovered disturbing facts about her husband after his affair destroyed their marriage. Now Gail is facing a dilemma: should she warn her husband's new girlfriend about his abusive and toxic behavior? Once you file for divorce are the effects of infidelity really over?Answer this episode's listener question on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Find relationship coach and Owner of Soulify Wellness Beth Miller at: http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ http://www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHRjsv0neY3wWVlHLlMJJw Find me @CheatingWhenLoveLies and JillianHamilton.online

Duration:00:42:20

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Your Subconscious Keeps Picking The Cheater

11/26/2024
For years the buzzword was attracting, as in "you attract the partner you have in your life." Then the term "manifesting" took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps clients to stop acting out toxic behaviors in a promising relationship by using what he calls a Schema Framework. This Schema Framework ends the toxic patterns, freeing clients to build healthy, intimate, infidelity free relationships. Dr. Vahedi wants to celebrate 2024! Go to his Instagram @drsajadvahedi to find out about limited complimentary sessions he's making available to Cheating: When Love Lies listeners. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been effected by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:38:14

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When Your Spouse's Affair Is The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You

11/19/2024
Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon's husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon's baby shower. Josh's wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both lived through the pain of an affair, but just like the blessings of the Holiday season, they unexpectedly found joy and hope after one of the most heartbreaking experiences of their lives. Their stories are a true holiday inspiration! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:57:13

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My Husband Was A Violent Cheater

11/12/2024
My guest today whom we’ll call Victoria, was emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend. What began as incidents of grabbing and pushing escalated into violent beatings. But it wasn’t until Victoria eventually married this boyfriend ( oh yes she did) that she became aware of his cheating. Join me to find out what helped Victoria emerge from this nightmare to restore her life as a healthy, independent mom. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:35:05

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I Was Blindsided By The Affair, Then My Intuition Kicked In

11/5/2024
About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

Duration:00:37:59

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I Secretly Tracked My Husband On An App and Was Shocked By What I Caught Him Doing

10/29/2024
Let’s call this episode the Halloween edition because I am spooked by guest’s husband’s very odd behavior—like getting fake restaurant receipts to prove he was dining somewhere when actually, he wasn’t. My guest caught her husband in countless lies by tracking his car. She even found a bag in her husband’s closet containing the most shocking, damning evidence of cheating one could possibly find, and yet she refuses to confront him to let him know that she’s on to his cheating ways. Why does she do this? And what was in that bag? You’ll never guess, so join me now for this spooky Halloween edition of CWLL to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:50:29

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My Husband's Lover Got Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?

10/22/2024
In this week's classic episode It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Be a guest on the show. Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

Duration:00:38:15

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My Husband’s Affair With His Hospital Nurse

10/15/2024
I remember once a famous LA doctor said to me, Jillian everything seems so important until you get sick, then once you're sick the only thing that matters is getting better. This was the situation for my guest and her husband who was so ill, he was often hospitalized. His wife believed he was receiving the best possible care, but something happened at the hospital that threatened to end their decades long marriage and broke her trust in him. I have the upmost respect for so many in the medical profession that keep us healthy and alive. So when I heard this story of deceit and misconduct inside the hospital -I just couldn't believe it. Follow me on IG @cheatingwhenlovelies Want to be a guest? Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com Please subscribe and share!

Duration:00:39:37

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My Lover’s Wife Became My Ally

10/8/2024
Bringing back a favorite episode this week….The man you've fallen in love with is another woman's husband. As much as you try to resist the lure of his flirtation, eventually you succumb to his charm and start an affair. Your relationship with this married man feels deeply emotional, sexy and passionate. But when his wife finds out about you, the affair turns into a tumultuous saga involving you, your affair partner, his wife, his children, and your family. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Nicole. The affair starts to spiral out of control and you're going down with it. Then one day you and your affair partner's wife uncover a painful truth that bonds you as confidantes and allies. As a wife, could you ever befriend your husband's lover? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:01:00:32

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Why Committed Partners Cheat On Dating Apps

10/1/2024
Do dating apps drive people to cheat? Do dating apps facilitate cheating? Or do dating apps have nothing to do with cheating at all? My guest Samantha, her boyfriend brazenly cheated on her with a multitude of women, and at times used different dating apps to find these other partners. Samantha has a PhD in public health and wrote her dissertation on dating app use — so I was thrilled to have this conversation with her from a personal and professional perspective. Join Samantha and me to ponder the question: how do dating apps influence cheating —if at all? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:30:04

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Are Your Partner and Their “Best Friend” A Little Too Close For Comfort ?

9/24/2024
Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by a relationship that his husband Michael claimed was purely platonic. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:37:11

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I Was Blindsided By The Affair, Then My Intuition Kicked In

9/17/2024
About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

Duration:00:37:24

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Will My Unfaithful Partner Leave Me For Their Lover?

9/10/2024
You are single and you’re having an affair with someone who is married or is a committed partner. You desperately want to know if your lover is going to leave their spouse to be with you. Alternatively, you’ve been betrayed. Your spouse has broken your vows, or your committed partner has been unfaithful. You too desperately want answers to the question “will my spouse choose me or their secret lover ? My guest today, Martess A Dowling is the author of Is He Ever Going To Leave His Wife ? The Answers to the Questions You Desperately Want To Know. The book helps answer those questions. It is an Amazon #1 Best Setter, winner of the Silver Star- Literary Titan Book Award, and the Five Star - Reader's Favourite Book Award. Dowling’s insight as to why cheaters stay or go is based on her research, and her use of an uncommon and controversial tool. Join me to learn more about the people Martess has helped — and just how she does it! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you.

Duration:00:22:44

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My Husband's Lover Got Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?

9/3/2024
For the Labor Day holiday we are bringing back one of our most compelling episodes. It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen

Duration:00:36:31

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Lovers Explain Why We Chose Each Other Not Our Spouses

8/27/2024
Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe like and share with anyone you know who's been affected by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:39:41

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Stuck Overseas With My Cheating Ex Husband + I Can't Go Home

8/20/2024
You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about following him wasn't leaving her homeland, her parents or giving up her own career, but something far, far worse than she ever could have imagined. Joining Susan and me is Beth Miller, owner of Soulify Wellness. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, Lee and many women explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Share your own story at Jillianhamilton.online. Follow, subscribe and share @cheatingwhenlovelies Tik tok Jillianhamilton23

Duration:00:40:32

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Devastated: My husband neglects me but spoils his lover

8/13/2024
Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’s untruths, and a multi-year affair partner whom he lavished. What would you do if you discovered your spouse’s affair partner was receiving as much or more emotional and financial support than you? What happens when you discover an affair partner who seems more like your spouse’s main course than their side piece? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

Duration:00:38:28

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My Passionate Affair With A Pastor

8/6/2024
My guest today whom we’ll call Pam, was a pastor’s affair partner. She is married, and so is the pastor. Pam believes that she wasn’t the only secret lover in this pastor’s life. She thinks she is one among many women whom this pastor groomed to become his affair partner. Are Pam’s suspicions correct? How is it that a faith leader whom we trust and look to for moral guidance can carry on an affair? Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23

Duration:00:37:49

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Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?

7/30/2024
Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet?

Duration:00:43:43

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My Best Friend Had An Affair With My Boyfriend

7/23/2024
Your partner cheats on you with your best friend. Sadly we have heard this tale many times before. But what if instead of being contrite and remorseful, your cheating best friend claims “I did you a favor” by having an affair with your partner. This is exactly what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Clare. Clare’s best friend and her boyfriend had an affair. How could the best friend do this - pretend to be her confidante all while deceiving her. Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Duration:00:33:47