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Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership. But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!

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United States

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Marriage

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Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership. But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!

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English


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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 2 | Devin Gets A Pearl Necklace - Ep 319

7/16/2024
Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 30%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 4:28 - Episode 2 Kick Off 4:54 - Group Date #1 20:57 - Marcus’ 1-On-1 26:58 - Group Date #2 38:47 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 47:05 - Rose Ceremony 37:38 - Fashion 49:50 - Andy’s A-Game 51:49 - Shandy Word Watch 55:40 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:09:41

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A Day In The Life Of Dave Neal - Ep 318

7/11/2024
We're thrilled to debut a new series in our episode lineup, A Day In The Life! These are episodes dedicated to meaningful, intimate conversations with your favorite people! Our first ever A Day In The Life guest is none other than Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of The Rush Hour podcast! This is a man who never seems to sleep, and our curiosity finally got the best of us so we decided to ask him for ourselves: Where does he find the time to do so much? What's the hardest thing about running his empire? Where is the weirdest place he's ever recorded, and what has been a "pinch me" moment in his meteoric growth? Listen on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.pestly.co and use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your order! - Go to https://www.lolavie.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for 15% off! More Dave Neal: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dnealz/ - The Rush Hour Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bachelor-rush-hour-with-dave-neal/id1651903715 - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DaveNealComedian - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TashaAndDave Our Love Fest with Dave and Courtney: https://open.spotify.com/episode/58ISPLY0eDbs3aZgU6ajjP?si=LfM1QAuZTr6voWSAbrI5Qg Referenced video of Dave watching The Bachelor with Gilbert Galon (our producer Gabby's brother): https://youtu.be/eDvnH94Awfs?si=rPT0Dl06I0alykw4 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dave Neal! 6:42 - A Day In Dave’s Life 8:30 - Is It Ever Too Much? 15:22 - How Does His Online Business Affect His Comedy And Vice Versa? 18:52 - What’s The Hardest Part Of The Dave Neal Empire? 41:10 - The Clayton Echard Story 50:05 - Has He Ever Recorded In His Underwear 51:56 - Does He Have Help? 53:35 - Dave Neal Vs Reality Steve 57:35 - Imposter Syndrome 1:05:04 - Anyone He’s Been Starstruck To Have Met 1:12:38 - What Did Dave Neal Want To Be When He Grew Up? 1:14:43 - His Top 3 Podcasts 1:18:26 - How Did A Baseball-Loving, American Shirt-Wearing, Blue-blooded American Male Get Into Reality Dating TV? 1:20:03 - Rapid Fire Questions 1:26:32 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:35:55

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Bachelorette Recap: Ep 1 | Jenn Tran Makes History And A Historic Makeout - Ep 317

7/9/2024
Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off science driven skincare! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsor... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 30%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:27 - Episode 1 Kick Off 7:04 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 15:24 - Jenn’s Toast 15:58 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 20:17 - Truth Or Dare 22:36 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Cont’d 35:31 - First Impression Rose 37:14 - Andy’s A-Game 38:41 - Fashion 40:40 - Shandy Word Watch 43:40 - Shandy’s Predictions 53:32 - Wild Cards If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:06:31

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Q&A! Dating a Guy Who's TOO Handsome, A 14-Year Situationship, & Right Guy, Wrong Timing? - Ep 316

7/4/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If the guy you're seeing is TOO good-looking, how to escape the insecurity spiral? If you've planned your friend's bachelorette party AND bridal shower and she can't even remember your birthday, is it worth the confrontation or does she get a bride pass? And if he was the right guy at the wrong time, when circumstances change, could the time be right? Finally, Shandy gives a pep talk to a Shandy newly out of a situationship of 14 YEARS. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.skims.com/SHANDY to shop the Skims t-shirt shop! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next month! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:32 - Q1: The Guy I’m Seeing Is TOO Attractive—Help! 14:41 - Q2: I’ve Planned Her Bachelorette AND Bridal Shower And She Can’t Even Wish Me A Happy Birthday?? 22:31 - Q3: Was It Right Guy But Wrong Timing? If So, What If Circumstances Have Changed? 33:20 - Q4: My Future Sister-In-Law Doesn’t Seem To Like Me—What Should I Do? 43:21 - Q5: I’m Newly Out Of A 14-Year On-And-Off-Again Situationship—Help Me, Shandy! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:06:46

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Caller 📞 Sessions! "Should I Avoid My Reunion Because I Feel Like An Outcast?" - Ep 315

6/27/2024
Caller sessions are back in session! Today we're joined by two lovely callers: Our first caller, Ali, has found herself PLANNING the reunion of an old friend group. However, she's been feeling ostracized and like maybe she's outgrown this circle. Should she simply not attend the reunion that she's planned, or is that more trouble than it's worth? Our second caller, Kat, is a Shandy who we've actually met in person (in Switzerland!) Her close relationship with her aunt has been strained lately and she's not sure why or what to do. Is it better to let this sleeping dog lie, or should she confront her beloved aunt? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Ali 18:25 - Shandy Debrief 26:11 - Welcome To Caller Kat 44:23 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:52:49

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Perfect Match Recap: Finale | How Did We Get Here & Why Did We Come? - Ep 314

6/21/2024
Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the third and final batch of season 2, aka the grand finale! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to http://www.OliveandJune.com/SHANDY for 20% off your first Mani System! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:04 - Finale 30:05 - Final Tribal 39:08 - Credits 39:34 - Overall Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:45:59

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Q&A! Holding Grudges, When He "Forgets" He Said The L-Word, and Big Age Gaps - Ep 313

6/20/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your guy says ILY in the heat of the moment but later on "forgets" this happened, is that a sign you need to end things? If your 19 year old sister starts dating a 34 year old, can you express your disapproval or should you back off? And if your family sells a possession of your grandparents that you wanted and even offered to pay for, should you hold onto that grudge and confront them? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lolavie.com and use code SHANDY for 15% off! - Go to https://HelloFresh.com/SHANDYAPPS and use code SHANDYAPPS to get FREE appetizers for life! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com:/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 30%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:29 - Q1: Was He Sleep-Talking When He Said He Loved Me? 13:10 - Q2: Was I The A-Hole For Fact-Checking My Guy? 20:54 - Q3: I Hate That My 19 Year Old Sister Is Dating A 34 Year Old—Am I Just Being An Age Gap Hater? 33:31 - Q4: Am I The A-Hole For Not Wanting To Visit My Friends In New York? 41:29 - Q5: Have I Been Using My Hardships As An Excuse To Not Be “30 And Flirty”? 53:09 - Q6: My Aunts Sold A Belonging Of My Grandparents That I Really Wanted—Should I Let This Grudge Go? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:11:25

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Perfect Match Recap: Eps 7-9 | Harry Jowsey And The Bathroom Kiss Whodunit - Ep 312

6/14/2024
Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the second batch of season 2, meaning episodes 7-9! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.pestly.co and use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your order! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.skims.com/SHANDY to shop the Skims t-shirt shop and get free shipping on orders over $75! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:30 - Episode 7 17:03 - Episode 8 29:30 - Episode 9 1:04:57 - Andy’s A-Game 1:06:25 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed 1:06:51 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:13:04

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Perfect Match Recap: Eps 1-6 | Shandy Pops Their Perfect Match Cherry - Ep 311

6/10/2024
Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the first batch of season 2, meaning episodes 1-6! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY15 for 15% off your first order plus a free gift! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:02 - Episode 1 19:49 - Episode 2 34:56 - Episode 3 46:21 - Episode 4 1:06:26 - Episode 5 1:15:33 - Episode 6 1:29:41 - Andy’s A-Game 1:32:48 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed 1:34:17 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:46:54

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We Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310

6/6/2024
Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box, plus 20% your next month! - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off! - Go to https://www.cbdistillery.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! 0:00 - Introduction 1:35 - Ruby’s Adoption Story 10:28 - Andy’s Adjustment To Dog Person 12:23 - Ruby’s Personality 14:52 - Tips For Fellow Germaphobes 16:10 - What Took You So Long? 20:22 - But I Thought Andy Was A Cat Person? 21:05 - Does Ruby Give Cat Vibes? 21:12 - What Are Your Favorite Dog Toys? 21:58 - Has Andy Been Giving Ruby More Attention Than Sharleen? 24:38 - Who Watches Ruby When You’re Away? 24:50 - What Is Your Favorite Thing Ruby Does? 26:34 - Have There Been Any Hurdles/What Have You Learned About Yourself? 31:26 - What Kind Of Food Do You Feed Ruby? 31:31 - How Does Ruby React To Sharleen’s Singing? 32:02 - Who Is The Stricter Parent? 32:42 - Nicknames 33:34 - Where Does Ruby Sleep? 34:39 - Is Having A Dog What You Expected? 37:36 - What’s Been The Hardest Part Of Having A Dog? 39:12 - Did You Buy Pet Insurance? 39:15 - Who Is Ruby’s Favorite? 40:44 - How Has Ruby Changed Since You Got Her? 41:04 - How Has Ruby Changed Your Life? 46:44 - In Conclusion If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:54:11

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Q&A! Morality Check, What To Do When Your Friend Deserves Better, & A Travel Am-I-The-A-Hole Bonanza! - Ep 309

5/30/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to do if you simply *dislike* your best friend's fiancé?? Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Shop the Skims t-shirt shop at https://www.skims.com/SHANDY and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://HelloFresh.com/SHANDYSWEET for FREE dessert for life! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:53 - Q1: If I Have New Job, Is It Morally Wrong Not To Tell My Boyfriend I Got Laid Off From My Previous Job? 6:22 - Q2: I’m The Single Friend In A Large Trip Of Couples And Their Kids—Am I Being Unreasonable About This Airbnb Split? 14:21 - Q3: My Friend Added Her Boyfriend To Our Girls Trip—AITA For Wanting To Pull Out? 30:53 - Q4: My Boyfriend Bailed On Driving Me To My Hometown & I Had To Pay $$$ For A Flight Instead—AITA For Wanting Him To Help Cover The Cost? 46:07 - Q5: My Best Friend’s Fiancé Is Just “OK”—How Do I Get Over The Fact That She Deserves Better? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:03:52

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Heal Your Attachment Pattern With Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd - Ep 308

5/23/2024
Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way? We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships" and the upcoming "Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting To Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience", so we could not be in better hands! Today Eli breaks down those famed Attachment Patterns (spoiler alert: there's WAY more to this than secure, anxious, and avoidant!) and how and why we as adults behave the way we do in our relationships. (As Andy puts it at one point, Attachment is "EVERYTHING"!) We learn how much of a role gender plays, why some of us are different in platonic vs romantic relationships, and how much is nature vs nurture. There are also parenting questions for our caregiver Shandies out there! Shandy also gets personal with their own experiences that have shaped their own attachment patterns. Finally, the big question: HOW DO WE HEAL? Eli has the answers you've been waiting for and manages to deliver them in the most relatable and easy-to-understand way. As Shandy puts it, you just might see your childhood flash before your eyes! Listen on for a masterclass in YOURSELF. 🤯 Thank you to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Eli Harwood, Aka Attachment Nerd: - Books: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/series/0DV/attachment-nerd/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd - Website: https://attachmentnerd.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd! 3:20 - What Is Attachment Theory? 6:21 - Can I Have More Than One Attachment Style? 9:48 - Attachment Pattern Breakdown 20:38 - Are Our Attachment Styles Set In Stone? 22:43 - Where Or How Do We Heal These Wounds? 26:32 - More Attachment Pattern Breakdown 31:39 - Can I Have BOTH Polar Opposite Attachment Styles? 34:21 - Does The Caregiver’s Gender Matter? 34:31 - How Much Is Nurture Vs Nature? 36:47 - Is There A Connection Between Which Caregiver And Which Type Of Adult Relationship (Eg. Romantic Vs Platonic) ? 38:38 - Shandy Asks Questions For “Friends” 43:23 - Where Does Attachment Rank In Terms Of Difficulty To Change? 45:53 - Is Finding Your “People” A Form Of Healing? 46:28 - Does The Anxious-Avoidant Romantic Dynamic Ever Work? At What Point Is It Not “Worth It”? 57:51 - Tips For Anxious Types When They Spiral In The Wrong Direction 1:02:44 - How To Know If A Child Is Securely Attached 1:04:56 - How Self Aware Is The Parent Who Even Asks These Questions? 1:07:24 - Is Your Grief As Bad As You Think It Is? 1:07:43 - 4 Steps For Raising Securely Attached Kids 1:11:00 - Andy Plays Devil’s Advocate 1:15:36 - What If Your Child Is Behaving Inappropriately? 1:19:39 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:35:07

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Q&A! Responding To Stupid Questions, Friend-less Fiancé, & To Wed Or Not To Wed? - Ep 307

5/16/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is marriage necessary, or even at all what it's cracked up to be? If your partner struggles in the friendship department, how can you help? How should you respond to a question you hate being asked? And finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question! Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com:/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY to save 35%! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:40 - Q1: To Marry Or Not To Marry? 9:11 - Q2: I Feel Weird Contributing To My Friend’s “Honey Fund” As A Wedding Gift—Thoughts? 18:06 - Q3: Strangers Constantly Ask Me A Question I Hate—How Should I Respond? 31:58 - Q4: My Fiancé Has No Friends—How Can I Help Him? 48:45 - Q5: Am I The Asshole—Door Slamming Edition If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:06:50

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Caller 📞 Session! "Is My Relationship Worth Saving?" - Ep 306

5/9/2024
Caller sessions are BACK, baby! This is our SECOND Caller episode of 2024 (!) and we're thrilled we're joined by a lovely (and lively!) caller named Erin. Erin, whose relationship began with beautifully romantic gesture. However, 2+ months in, there are still kinks that need ironing. Erin is quick to defend her boyfriend, but when are excuses just... excuses? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Erin! 42:39 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:53:36

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We're Officiants! Officiating Nick & Natalie Joy Viall's Wedding - Ep 305

5/2/2024
This episode is a surprise all around because Shandy had absolutely zero intention of recapping their experience officiating their friends' wedding. However, on Instagram you requested this with a fiery passion that couldn't be ignored! So today is all about Shandy as WEDDING OFFICIANTS! As you may know, on Saturday April 26th, 2024, Shandy officiated the wedding of Nick Viall and Natalie Joy, their longtime friends. This episode will contain reflections on the experience, tips (and regrets!) for those planning their own weddings/officiant speeches, unexpected moments, and overall takeaways! Listen on for this unique Dear Shandy episode! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.skims.com/SHANDY and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! 0:00 - Introduction 2:37 - How/When Did Nick & Natalie Ask You To Be Officiants? 5:58 - How Did You Make The Decision To Officiate As A Couple? 6:10 - Was One Of You The “Official” Officiant? 8:13 - Would You Have Accepted For Any Couple In Your Life Or Only A “Special” Couple? 9:05 - How Did You Prepare? 11:27 - What Sort Of Planning Did You Do With The Couple? 14:50 - Humor 17:20 - How Much Did You Share With The Couple Beforehand? 17:43 - Have Either Of You Ever Officiated A Wedding Before? 17:47 - Since You’ve Known Nick Longer Was It Difficult To Make It Feel Equally Personal For Natalie? 18:59 - Were You Nervous? Who Was More Nervous? 22:55 - Overall Tips/Regrets 25:31 - Did It Make You Nostalgic For Your Own Wedding? 28:58 - Do You Feel More Responsible To Stay Together Now? 29:38 - Can Shandy Officiate My Wedding? 30:40 - How Did You Enter The Ceremony? 30:58 - The Couple’s Vows 31:07 - Unexpected Moment 33:05 - Was The Baby A Part Of The Ceremony? 33:23 - Did Nick Cry? 34:08 - Did You Cry? 35:06 - How Are You Friends With Nick? 38:28 - Did You Ride The Mechanical Bull? 39:09 - Was There Anyone Who Made You Starstruck? 40:22 - Did They Tell You What To Wear? 40:47 - Sharleen’s Looks 44:04 - Did You Bring Ruby? 44:50 - People Article Misspellings 46:44 - What Was Your Favorite Things About Savannah? 48:02 - Overall Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:57:38

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Q&A! Too Much Complaining, The Seed Of Resentment & Is "Boring" Healthy? - Ep 304

4/25/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://quince.com/shandy for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: Does Healthy = Boring? 10:35 - Q2: My Friend Accused Me Of “Bitching & Complaining” And Our Friendship Is Suddenly Over—What Happened?! 23:50 - Q3: My Friend Moved Out Of Town And Now Zoom-Joins Our In-Person Hangs—Am I The Asshole For Disliking This? 33:46 - Q4: Should I Let My Friend’s Outrageous Wedding Request Make Me See Her Differently? 46:03 - Q5: I’ve Sacrificed More For This Relationship Than My Boyfriend Has And Am Feeling Resentful—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:07:13

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The Genius Of Empathy With Dr. Judith Orloff - Ep 303

4/18/2024
At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers? Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Times best-selling author of several books, including 2017's landmark "The Empath’s Survival Guide" and her latest, "The Genius of Empathy: Practical Skills to Heal Your Sensitive Self, Your Relationships, and the World". Today she helps dispel the misconceptions around empathy, demonstrates how to draw healthy boundaries, and explains the transformative, healing power of SELF-empathy. She explains why it's OK that your partner isn't the same empathy "type" as you, whether or not you can have too much empathy, and how to approach someone whose beliefs you fundamentally disagree with. Today's conversation is the warm hug you needed and will hopefully inspire healing in your more complicated relationships, especially the one you have with yourself. Thank you to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with just a few taps! More Dr. Judith Orloff: - The book, "The Genius Of Empathy": https://bit.ly/3U6uCRk - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/judith.orloff.md - Website: https://drjudithorloff.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To The Legendary Dr. Judith Orloff! 3:41 - What Is Empathy & Empathy Vs Compassion 5:10 - What Are Her Thoughts On The Term “Empath” Becoming Mainstream? 6:52 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Empathy 10:32 - Drawing Boundaries 16:19 - Is Empathy Something We’re Born With? Nature Vs Nurture 17:31 - Can One Really Become *More* Empathic? 20:38 - The Empathy Types 23:13 - Mismatched Empathy In Relationships 29:19 - Tips For Self Empathy 31:24 - How Can I Make Empathy Work In A Way That Isn’t Ultimately To My Disadvantage? 34:04 - Is Self Awareness A Prerequisite to Self Empathy? 34:54 - Tips For Avoiding Empathy-Deficient Types 37:10 - When It Feels Like Someone Doesn’t Deserve Empathy 39:19 - Empathy Vs Enablement 43:29 - Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Empathy? 45:12 - Sharleen’s Takeaways 46:11 - Tips For Empathizing With Someone Whose Beliefs You Fundamentally Disagree With 49:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:02:52

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GOLDEN DIVORCE?! Gerry Turner & Theresa Nist's Bombshell Announcement - Ep 302

4/16/2024
Just 3 weeks after our Love Fest with Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist, the couple announced in a Good Morning America interview that, after only 3 months of marriage, they're getting divorced. Many of you wanted to hear our take on this bombshell news, particularly in the wake of such a recent Love Fest. So today, in a first-of-its-kind bonus episode, we're answering your burning questions Q&A style. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! Our Love Fest with Gerry and Theresa: https://youtu.be/hWCr91mBGb0?si=y_xga_xJH9MhReo3 Referenced "bet" of Andy's: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ce-GWUtDbhq/?igsh=Znhkamk2bGhrNDAw Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:41 - How Shocked Is Shandy? 6:46 - When Did You Record The Love Fest With Gerry & Theresa? 7:29 - Was Dear Shandy The Source Of The Tea That They Were Living Apart? 10:07 - Why Do You Think It Didn’t Work Out? 16:20 - When Recording The Love Fest, Did You Sense Anything Was Off? 20:28 - Do You Think They Were Honest On Your Love Fest? 20:39 - Did ABC Push Them To Come On Dear Shandy? 21:20 - Is There A Dear Shandy Love Fest Curse? 26:07 - Did Andy Bet Money On How Long They Would Last? 27:00 - Do You Think 3 Months Was Enough To Determine It Wouldn’t Work? 27:10 - If You Two Met At Gerry & Theresa’s Age And Lived Far Apart, What Would You Have Done? 29:00 - Does This Make You Love The Golden Bachelor Less? 29:44 - Do You Think Gerry Will Get Back Together With Leslie? 30:25 - Should Golden Bachelor Follow A Love Is Blind Format And Cast People From The Same City? 31:06 - Should The Franchise Scrap Golden Bachelorette? 32:27 - Why Do You Think They Did The Televised Wedding & Do You Think Production Feels Guilty? 34:37 - Bonus Question 35:03 - Closing Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:00:42:07

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The School Of Dating With Matchmaker Maria (Part 2!) - Ep 301

4/11/2024
She's baaaack! For the first time ever, and by popular request, we've brought BACK a Hot Topic guest to pick up where we left off! Our first episode with Maria Avgitidis—4th generation matchmaker and host of the Ask A Matchmaker podcast—was such a hit that you asked for more! In case you missed our Confessions Of A Matchmaker episode with Maria, aka Part 1, it's here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-shandy/id1525795747?i=1000597672805 Today Maria returns to answer follow up questions from Part 1, but also to give us her tough-love and honest take on the rules of dating. Sharpen your pencils, Shandies, because Dating School is in session! How is swipe culture affecting dating today? What's Maria's 12-Date Method, and her Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep? Who pays on the first date, and does she believe in living together before getting engaged? Finally, what is Maria's "controversial" opinion, and will Shandy agree or disagree? As always, Maria's brutal honesty is a breath of fresh air and Shandy's delighted to welcome her back! Thank you to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout for up to 40% off! More Maria: - Agape Match: https://agapematch.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria - Ask A Matchmaker Podcast: https://plinkhq.com/i/1521530338?to=page Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome BACK To Matchmaker Maria! 2:41 - How Does She Define Her 93% Success Rate? 8:49 - What’s The Most Awkward Conversation She’s Had To Have With A Client? 11:38 - Decisions Paying Clients Make That Frustrate Her 16:21 - What Would She Say To People Who Think Her Matchmaking Fees Are Too High? 24:46 - How Swipe Culture Affects The World Of Matchmaking 29:01 - The 12-Date Rule 40:30 - Pre-Date 3-2-1 Prep 47:44 - Who Pays On The First Date? 52:29 - Maria’s Controversial Opinion 56:30 - What If Someone Never Gets Asked On A Second Date? 59:39 - Living Together Before Getting Engaged 1:09:01 - Moving For Love & “Importing” 1:14:53 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:29:19

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Q&A! Competition In Friendship, High-Strung Low-Strung & Is "Nice" Enough? - Ep 300

4/4/2024
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How important is "niceness" in a partner, and is it enough? If you have a massive crush on someone out of town, how do you escalate from casual, sporadic dates to long-distance relationship? If you and your partner agree to boycott an establishment and he lies about having caved, is this a red flag? Finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question, board game edition! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cbdistillery.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY15 for 15% off your first order plus a free gift! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for an additional 15% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:54 - Q1: Is “Nice” Enough? 7:06 - Q2: My BF Lied About Visiting An Establishment We Had Agreed To Boycott—Is This A Red Flag? 21:28 - Q3: I Have A Huge Crush On A Girl & Don’t Know How To Escalate Things—Help! 42:37 - Q4: The Transient Nature Of My Career Has Left Me Unmotivated To Date—Help! 53:08 - Q5: Am I The Asshole, Board Game Edition If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Duration:01:18:02