We at a Single Tree Podcast wanted to share with you the people, writings and ideas that have shaped our thinking and who we are. The podcast exists because of these powerful influences, and we hope some of these ideas have been helpful for you in your journey. We’d love to hear from you about what has shaped your thinking and ways of being!
Life is not just about getting all our needs and desires satisfied. There is something important about being dissatisfied and frustrated when we don’t get what we want or need. It helps us move to a different place, to greater awareness, learning and creativity. We can put ourselves in (and are probably already in) situations which produce dissatisfaction and we can use that very human experience for growth. Thanks for listening!
We are constantly moving toward things that regulate us and give us a sense of security. And we are consistently discovering the need for something deeper. Ultimately, we find a full sense of security in the Presence, God or the Beingness. There are many ways we can discover and rediscover this, and we can see them as successive doorways to finding wholeness. Thanks for joining us!
We have two innate desires: to be our own individual selves and to be connected with others. We long to be different and unique, but also want to be accepted and received in relationship. These may seem to work in opposition to one another, but they can actually work in concert. The goal is to develop awareness of and sink deeply into both our separateness and connectedness. Thanks for listening!
Finding a sense of value is not about attaining that based on some arbitrary set of criteria. You have inherent value, as do all the other people and matter in the universe. Experience your worth is opening yourself to that truth and to connection with everything around you. It is about receiving rather than achieving. We are thankful to be connected with you!
Finding value in ourselves is more than just thinking positively about our strenghts. It is necessary to encounter and move through guilt and shame to be able to accept our shadow-side and brokenness. If we can enter that work, we can find humility, unity and compassion. These are the things that lead us to self-love and self-acceptance. Thanks for being on this journey with us!
We experience difficult emotions when we encounter trauma, but then we further confound the process by judging our experiences as wrong or bad. Judgment and shame inhibit the natural process of working through our difficulties. If we can learn to have less thoughts of ourselves and how we should be, we can adapt to stress and trauma in a more natural way. Glad you are listening!
To be human is to be creative. Fostering and cultivating beauty in our lives is a way to process our experiences and make something of our pain. The tensions we experience are the birthplace of our creativity. Everyone is doing this in their own way and people who have been resilient in trauma have a lot to teach us about a creative response to pain. They show us we can find beauty in the bleakest of circumstances. Thanks for joining us. We look forward to hearing from you!
If we can “hold the tension” inherent in paradox, we can become agents of reconciliation. This type of “triangling” has many applications, including mediating conflict and finding collaborative solutions in relational systems. If we do our part to “hold paradox” for and with others, we can achieve needed connection and creativity. Thanks for joining us!
We all contain paradoxes within ourselves. As well, we encounter paradox in others and the world around us. These seemingly contradictory propositions create tension and ambivalence, but if can “hold the tension" and travel through them, we can find beauty, growth and creativity. Thanks for listening!
From the time we are born, we are shaped by our experiences. We develop our sense of self based on feedback we get from our environment and inevitably end up with some rigid "programming," which we believe defines who we are. The goal is that we become aware of this programming and develop more flexibility in how we see ourselves. Thanks for listening!
We form ideas of ourselves through interaction with our environment. The relationships we have with people around us and the feedback we get from our environment reflect back to us important information. We form impressions of ourselves which are discarded as we grow and develop. It's important to know ourselves and be exactly who we are, and be willing to surrender these impressions for the next evolution of our being.
We naturally judge ourselves and others based on the small self's desire to be valuable, and create safety and control. The goal is that we would be able to suspend our constant judgments of ourselves, others and the world and accept ourselves and others, even in our "mistakes."
We have a tendency to analyze and categorize our experiences - of ourselves, others and the world around us. This is a necessary function our brains have, but if we are constantly approaching our life just dividing what we see into "good" and "bad," or other categories, we limit our experience. Non-dualistic thinking is about receiving and encountering the whole of our experience - the "good" and the "bad." This helps us be more present and have more robust and cohesive experiences. We are...
People's ability to be resilient despite their loss and pain is amazing. How do we continue to move forward and want anything when we are constantly experiencing grief? We are grateful for your input and questions. They help us shape this discussion and make it richer!
The discussion of grief continues. This episode is about connecting with the Larger Presence through our grief. There is something larger than just the attainment of our desires or being guided by our ego’s agenda. Also, we would love to have your feedback and questions here or on facebook at facebook.com/asingletree!
We are constantly in grief - not just when we have experienced "big" losses. Any time we experience any kind of change or even just unmet expectations for our lives, grief is active. In our culture, we orient ourselves toward having what we consider "the good life," but there is wisdom in being oriented toward and in tune with our grief. It is happening in us on a daily basis, and is our avenue to a deeper joy.
Amazing trees are a pattern for our growth personally and in our organizations and communities. They effortlessly demonstrate that growth is a natural part of the world around us and the wisdom of realizing our existence is equal parts life and death. Pruning and a little death are necessary for health and growth.
Connect with the Larger Self through contemplative and meditative practices. The goal of connecting with the Larger Self is to be more in touch with ourselves, others and a larger meaning. We hope you will join us in this process of discovery. As we examine our own inner selves, we will discover how connected we are with one another and the world around us.
More about the "small self" (or ego) and how we can take a proper stance toward it to shed layers and become our fullest selves, connecting with the "large self," where we find connection and wholeness.