Magnetic Mismatch

Wedding season is right around the corner, and love is in the air! It’s a beautiful time in life and one to be cherished for sure, but what a lot of young lovers don’t realize is that their wedding lasts only for a day and marriage lasts a lifetime…or at least we hope. Now that we have a couple of years of marriage under our belt, we wanted to share some things that we wish we knew before we said our vows. These are things that we believe would have helped save us from many arguments, stress and conflict especially in our first year of marriage. Even though we are incredibly happy together, we still have a lot to learn and work on if we want to keep it that way. 0:00 1:15 Welcome banter 3:55 Start of topic 6:10 Premarital counseling 8:19 Love is not enough 11:46 Learning to be a better communicator 16:14 Apologizing correctly and forgiveness 21:30 Getting to know in laws before marriage 25:55 Defining your roles in marriage 32:45 Everything you do impacts your spouse 36:28 Marriage takes work

When you get married, you’re not just marrying your future husband or wife. In reality, you’re also marrying their family! Of course that includes your in laws, who for some reason seem to have a bad reputation. We’ve all at least heard a couple of horror stories regarding monster in laws misbehaving. But is it really always that bad? Do our relationships with our in laws always need to be stressful, filled with tension and full of drama? In this episode, we discuss the importance of building strong relationships with your in laws and why it should be a positive experience. We also share some of our own personal strategies for strengthening our relationships with our parents and in laws to promote a healthy marriage. 0:00 Intro 1:13 Welcome banter 3:54 Start of topic 4:55 Monster in law 11:51 Mama’s boy 14:45 The importance and impact of in laws 20:18 Strategies to improve relationship with in laws 27:00 Your parents and in laws are people too 28:00 Building new memories together 29:15 Empty nest syndrome 30:30 Takeaways and lessons learned

We're back! Life has been pretty busy for us recently with lots of changes including the addition of a new puppy to our family, moving out of our apartment, changing jobs and taking care of aging parents. What we realized was how easily it is to run at 100 mph just living life and not notice what it might be doing to our relationships, mental health, mood and just overall well-being. In this episode, we wanted to share a little bit about what we've been up to and why we chose to take a time out from the podcast. We're not going anywhere, but we did feel that it was necessary to take a pause while we got settled. We plan on getting back to our regular schedule of releasing new episodes every Thursday again so please do stay tuned. As always, thank you so much for continuing to support our show even while we were gone! We feel so fortunate to be able to not only share our stories, but to hear about yours too. Many of you have reached out to us on Instagram and we love hearing your thoughts on our topics as well as giving us insights into your personal experiences. 0:00 Intro 1:16 Our puppy is a monster 6:25 Mental health, burnout and time out 16:19 And the Oscar goes to… 19:15 Taking ownership 22:15 Did we make the right choice 23:51 Rolling with the punches

WARNING: NEW PUPPY ALERT! Please meet and welcome our newest co-host, his name is Latte! He is the most adorable and dapper Boston Terrier (aka The American Gentleman) you’ll ever meet! Oh and yes, he already has his very own Instagram account @LatteTheBostie. Please make sure to give him a follow, cuteness overload guaranteed! Anyways, we couldn’t be more excited to share this news with all of you in this special episode where we talk about our experience of getting our first puppy, and what we’ve learned so far about how pets can impact the health of a relationship with your partner. As new dog parents, we are definitely learning a lot about taking care of a puppy (mostly as we go along…yikes), but also about how well we work together as a couple. Whether it’s deciding who’s turn it is to get up after being woken up every couple of hours in the middle of the night or which one of us is doing more work like scooping puppy poop, we now have a shared responsibility to another living being that will test our patience and relationship. Even though it’s scary, a ton of work, and time consuming we are overjoyed with our puppy and look forward to the many beautiful memories we get to build together in the coming years. 0:00 Intro 1:18 Welcome banter 1:49 Start of topic 2:26 How we got our puppy 10:20 After the ride home 13:51 Latte’s first day at home 17:52 Potty training and feeding time 24:10 Becoming dog parents 27:40 Why we wanted a puppy 35:22 Impact of having pets on relationships 43:00 Should you get a pet 47:26 Takeaways & lessons learned

Have you ever thought to yourself that maybe you’re just unlucky when it comes to love and romance? Does it feel like there just aren’t any good men or women out there for you, and you’re destined to be alone forever? When it comes to finding love and dating, it can sometimes feel like you’re cursed because of how society defines what a “successful” relationship is or should be. So is it really any wonder that when a relationship fails, we automatically associate that failure to ourselves? What if we were to change how we measured our luck in love, not by marriage or finding the one, but by the memories and moments we experience being in love even if things don’t ultimately work out? In this episode, we challenge the idea of what being unlucky in love really means, and search for practical ways to improve our success in this area of our lives. We believe that it starts by being brutally honest with ourselves, taking back our power through personal responsibility, self-reflection and having a desire to work on the things that are within our control. 0:00 Intro 2:04 Welcome banter 3:38 Start of topic 4:18 Jennifer Aniston unlucky in love 6:52 Dating and marriage expectations 8:36 It’s better to have loved and lost 11:26 Why can’t I find love 16:24 Knowing what you want in a relationship 19:11 How to improve your luck in love 22:00 Are you emotionally ready for a relationship 25:50 Don’t try so hard 28:12 Feel your emotions 32:11 Be honest with yourself

Let’s face it: change is a big part of life, and relationships are no exception. No matter how long you’ve been with someone, the reality is that the person you are with today is not exactly the same person they were when you first met them, and the same goes for you. Hopefully, the changes are positive and you’ve both evolved as people. But the truth is that change is always hard, and it’s not always an easy journey. There will likely be obstacles and road blocks that will put even the strongest relationships to the test. Change itself is not necessarily bad, it’s just typically very uncomfortable and most people don’t know how to respond properly. In fact, one could argue that if you and your partner can harness the power of change, it might even strengthen and take your relationship to new heights. In this episode, we dive into the 5 stages of a relationship, how it progresses over time and some of the challenges partners face as the relationship matures. We also offer suggestions that have helped us in our relationship to stay happy as we continue to change and grow as individuals and as a couple. It’s never pretty nor perfect and it absolutely takes a ton of effort, but we argue that in the end if the result is a stronger, deeper and more meaningful relationship, then it’s 100% worth every bit of struggle and pain. 0:00 Intro 0:56 Welcome banter & big news 5:13 Start of topic 7:28 5 stages of a relationship 8:23 Stage 1: The Romance 10:57 Stage 2: The Power Struggle 16:58 Stage 3: Stability 22:41 Stage 4: Commitment 26:44 Stage 5: Bliss 28:50 How do couples stay happy 37:07 Dealing with change 40:50 Takeaways & lessons learned

Should you get married? Many of us grew up with the pressure and expectation of finding a partner and getting married to live happily ever after, but is it necessary to be happy? It seems like more and more people are choosing not to get married, but many of us still face pushback from our parents, religion and society. In this episode we discuss the reasons to get married and the reasons to think more before jumping in. We also chat about why we personally chose to get hitched and why it took Will so long to propose, and what has changed after being married vs dating. 0:00 Intro 1:01 Welcome banter 5:39 Start of topic 7:24 On the fence with marriage 13:26 Why we chose to get married 20:34 Reasons to get married 25:13 Reasons not to get married 36:07 Marrying for money 38:40 What changed after marriage 43:00 Takeaways & lessons learned

Are you keeping score in your relationship? Do you constantly point out all the things you do for the relationship, but also make it known the things your partner isn’t doing? Maybe you’re not even aware that you’re doing it, and the impact it’s having on your relationship. Oftentimes, keeping score creates a rift and divide between the couple because in order for a partner to “win”, the relationship must lose. Feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration lead to stress and tension that continues to build up until eventually the relationship breaks and is destroyed. In this episode, we reflect on how we catch ourselves keeping score even after being together in a healthy and loving relationship for over a decade. We explore why most of us recognize that keeping score is not good for our relationships, yet we end up doing it anyways. We offer suggestions through our own journey on how to stop keeping score all the time, and work on learning to think more with a single team mentality. What we realized is that when we stop competing with each other and only pointing out our flaws, we are happier, stronger and more grateful for our partners. 0:00 Intro 1:16 Welcome banter 3:11 Start of topic 6:44 How we keep score 9:57 Why do we keep score in relationships 16:04 Keeping score hurts your relationship 19:09 We’re on the same team 23:24 How do you stop keeping score 29:51 Takeaways & lessons learned

Are you responsible for your partner’s happiness? Ever since we were young, it seems like we’ve been groomed to believe that our happiness is dependent on some external thing, person or relationship. This becomes even more apparent when we enter serious relationships or get married. Many of us feel the obligation or sense of duty to please and help our spouse find happiness. In this episode, we take a deeper look at how attaching your personal happiness to another person can actually create a toxic relationship, and how it’s more important to take ownership of your happiness by looking within. Sometimes, we avoid facing our deeper issues and try to put a band-aid on them by jumping into new relationships or not acknowledging that we need to work on ourselves first. 0:00 Intro 1:13 Welcome banter 3:57 Start of topic 6:00 Why we feel obligated to make our partner happy 10:17 Work on yourself first 12:00 Becoming co-dependent on your spouse 15:49 Giving up control of your happiness 17:54 Avoiding the real issues 19:19 You can’t make someone else happy 23:30 Be empathetic and supportive 27:43 Its ok to not be ok 29:05 Takeaways & lessons learned

Would you ever consider interracial dating? What about marrying someone outside of your own race? Have you thought about what your future kids might encounter? In this episode, we chit chat about our own past dating experiences with people from other cultures and backgrounds and some of the challenges we faced. We also talk about some of the benefits and growth we experienced from stepping outside of our dating comfort zone. We love diversity and celebrating our differences because we believe it’s what makes life so interesting. Grab a drink and snack and come join us in this fun topic discussion. 0:00 Intro 1:15 Welcome banter 7:16 Start of topic 10:29 Race and ethnicity 14:02 Unwanted attention and cultural differences 21:51 Diverse dating and curiosity 24:06 Challenges of interracial dating 38:21 Benefits of interracial dating 39:56 Takeaways and lessons learned

What if you could find THE ONE? Yes, we're talking about your soulmate. The one who you were meant to fall instantly in love with and head over heels for. The one who you can't help but find a primal attraction for and who truly understands you for you. What if there was a technology available to help you find this exact person anywhere on Earth just by matching you through your DNA? Would you use this technology? What if you're already in a relationship or marriage or have a family together? Would you be curious to find this soulmate or would you rather not know? It sounds like a great idea, but what are the negative unintended consequences? Inspired by a recent Netflix series we watched called "The One", come join us in this fun episode as we explore and laugh about these exact questions, pondering about what we would do if this was our reality. With the exponential growth of technology and medical advancements, could we really reach a point in our lives where we could press a button and find our one true love? What would you do? 0:00 Intro 1:14 Welcome banter 3:22 Start of the topic 3:54 Netflix The One 5:40 Unintended consequences 8:08 Would Linda use the technology? 13:21 Ruining dating 15:53 Plenty of fish in the sea? 19:45 The hunt and chase for love 21:20 Matching with a bad person 22:30 Married, but curious 26:51 Love is crazy and Facebook stalking 27:58 Would you choose your soulmate or spouse? 32:20 Happy wife happy life 33:25 Pandora’s box 35:34 Toxic love 37:42 Blessing or curse in disguise 39:23 Ignorance is bliss 40:29 Temptation 43:07 Takeaways and lessons learned

Ah yes, the dreaded friend zone. How many countless people have fallen into this never-ending abyss? Are you in the friend zone right now? What are the signs, and how can you avoid getting stuck here again in the future? In this episode, we talk about what the friend zone is, why you get put there, and most importantly how the heck do you get out of it! Will shares his stories about how clueless he was when getting hit on and friend zoning himself, and Linda gives her thoughts on why sometimes being too nice when it comes to dating is a losing tactic. We’re excited to be back from our hiatus and chatting more about juicy relationship, dating and marriage topics! As always, thank you for tuning in every Thursday and we hope you continue supporting our podcast! 0:00 Intro 1:16 Welcome banter 2:39 Start of topic 3:16 What is the friend zone 4:42 Linda’s experience 6:58 Being direct 8:57 Is it a date or not 10:21 Just friends 11:52 Crushes 13:26 Being too nice 15:33 Secretly in love 18:00 What if it doesn’t work out 18:31 What would Will do 22:23 Let’s hang out 23:37 Will gets hit on 27:10 Free pickup lines 27:38 Show interest 29:36 Stop being a pushover 31:21 Stop playing games with my heart 33:01 Don’t wait too long 35:33 Build sexual tension 36:35 Simping 37:34 Signs you’re in the friend zone 40:10 False white knight 42:45 Feelings change 45:36 Confess your love 52:27 Takeaways & lessons learned

We did it! We released our 52nd episode last week and reached the BIGGEST GOAL we set for ourselves when we first started this podcast journey! It has been an amazing ride so far, and we can't thank you enough for tuning in to hear us bicker with each other and laugh together with us every week! Check out this special episode for an IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT & details about our upcoming Instagram GIVEAWAYS. Follow us on Instagram @MagneticMismatch for more details to come!

We’ve all had that friend who’s notorious for dating the “bad boys” who they claim treat them poorly and are clearly no good for them, yet they just can’t seem to resist. What is it about bad boys that make them so attractive to some women? Is it a conscious choice or is it simply biology? In this episode, we break down some of the qualities that make up a bad boy like their confidence, masculine features, ruggedness, and a general lack of care for what other people think. We also dive into some of the psychology and reasons behind dating the bad boys like wanting to fix them, getting a thrill for danger and excitement, rebelling against their parents, or living vicariously through another person. We also explore the idea that attraction might not even be a conscious choice because our biological instincts take over. It makes us wonder then how someone who is stuck in a vicious cycle of dating bad boys is supposed to break free to date who they say they want. Some women say they want to date a “good guy” or “nice guy”, but is that what they truly want or are they just in denial? Is it even possible to choose who we are attracted to when all is said and done? What about bad girls? What happens when the roles are reversed? Tune in to this episode to listen to the full conversation, it’s about to get spicy! 0:00 Intro 1:16 Welcome banter 2:18 Special announcement & giveaways 3:32 Start of topic 5:21 Why aren’t there good guys 7:45 Bad boy qualities 14:25 Psychology of women 18:33 Is attraction a choice 21:42 Linda drools over Jason Momoa 23:57 Staying with bad boys 27:00 Bad girls 30:12 Attractive qualities 31:33 Learning from bad boys 33:30 Breaking the cycle 36:43 Takeaways & lessons learned

Is your partner living a double life without you knowing? Maybe you’re the one living a secret life, but you can’t tell your spouse. From gambling, drugs, and cheating to being a con artist, how well do we really know the person sleeping next to us? Where do we draw the line between trusting your partner and being a naïve fool? In this episode, we discuss secret identities and people living double lives all while hiding it from their loved ones. How well do we really know someone, and should we ever blindly trust a person just because we’ve known them for a long time? 0:00 Intro 1:11 Welcome banter 7:29 Start of topic 9:06 I Care A Lot movie 15:50 Will is a secret agent 16:40 Guy scams 9 women 20:57 Trusting your instincts 21:58 Clingy vs naïve 26:48 Who are you sleeping with 29:11 Red flags 31:04 Listen to your gut 32:30 Shady coworkers 38:59 Professional identities 41:50 Lying to your kids 47:42 Little Fires Everywhere 49:48 Takeaways & lessons

Is chivalry really dead? Does it still have a place in modern times even without damsels in distress? Whether it's holding the door for someone, helping carry groceries or even kissing a lady's hand, we wonder about the motive and intent behind each action. Are you pulling my chair out because you really want to or are you doing it with the expectation of getting something in return? Grab your favorite drink and come hang out with us in this episode as we chat about chivalry in today's standards, hilarious stories about our experiences with chivalry as a married couple and which chivalrous acts we're ok with keeping. 0:00 Intro snippet 1:16 Welcome banter 3:31 Start of topic 6:03 Background on chivalry 8:00 Chivalry today 15:17 Getting kidnapped 22:00 Creepy hand kissing 25:07 Will exposes himself 28:30 Short people problems 34:44 Giving up your seat 39:18 Being taken advantage of 45:58 Intent, motive & rejection 49:56 Takeaways & lessons learned

Have you ever wondered about how gender roles fit into today's society? Do they still have a place in modern times, especially given the movements toward greater equality amongst women's rights? In this episode, we ponder about why we still attach certain tasks and activities to a specific gender and where it might stem from even as adults. Through our conversation, we also talk about some of the traditional gender roles that we still enjoy and some that we think may be outdated.

Would you ever consider living with your in laws? Is it a great idea or is it a recipe for disaster? If you’re married or in a serious relationship, the question has probably crossed your mind a few times before. How would living with in laws impact your marriage? Would you kick your parents out if things didn’t work out? Talk about a role reversal! Come join us in this hilarious episode as we have a blast laughing and brainstorming out loud about what we would do with our parents. We talk about everything from arguments, snooping, micromanaging, setting boundaries, privacy, walking around in our underwear to grab a snack in the middle of the night and more!

Are there unspoken rules when it comes to dating? Do you think there is a certain social etiquette that we should hold people accountable to in general, but especially in dating? In this episode, we share our views on ghosting your date, showing up late, table manners, taboo conversation topics, using your phone during dinner and other things that might crush your chances for a second date. At the end of the day, we do believe that dates should be a fun way to get to know someone and it's important to be authentic, but we also think it's a smart idea to behave with a certain etiquette so that you can make the best impression possible. You'll probably be nodding your head or yelling out loud in agreement throughout this episode because you've experienced some of these things before too, so get comfortable and come join us for some good laughs and a great time!

Is it a good idea to stay friends with your ex? What if it was a toxic relationship, would you be justified in cutting that person out of your life completely? What if it was actually a great relationship that just didn't work out? What if you have children together? Is there a middle ground? We don't think it's an easy answer because it really depends on a lot of different things including the length of the relationship, how integrated this person is into your social circle, are you both a part of the same organizations like work or church, etc. Join us in our discussion as we weigh the pros and cons of whether or not you should stay friends with your ex, it's going to be a spicy one!