#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with his wife for about two years now and they are in a long-distance relationship. They recently had a fight because he found out, for the first time, that she’s in communication with the father of her child. While their chats were mostly about their child, there are also texts where he refers to anonymous’ wife as “my love”, however, she doesn’t reply in the same way. They got into a fight because of this and he ended up saying to her that this is why he didn’t want to marry someone who already has children. She was hurt by this and has now blocked anonymous.

Anonymous has been married to her partner for four years now and says they resolved some of the issues they had before they got married but those seem to be coming back into their relationship. She feels like her partner is too relaxed about how other women behave around him, he downplays it when they get touchy with him, with some of it happening in front of her. There’s also messages that she’s seen on his phone that she feels cross the line. He has given her full access to his phone. She’s worried about why they are so comfortable behaving that way with him.

Anonymous rekindled things with her ex about a year ago. He broke up with her the first time they dated because he felt like he couldn’t provide for her “as a man” should. After getting back together they spoke about expectations they have of each other but she now feels like he’s expecting too much from her, especially in terms of house chores. They don’t live together and he expects her to perform all kinds of chores at his place and she doesn’t understand this. She wonders if this is a red flag.

Anonymous got back together with her ex recently after they broke up back in 2018 after he said to her that he didn’t feel like he was emotionally available. Things initially went well after they rekindled their relationship but then he started pulling away from her. She thinks he’s feeling pressure and emasculated by her because she’s doing better than him financially and in her career.

Anonymous feels like she’s not satisfying her partner sexually, and thinks the reason is because his previous partner had stretched her labia. She’s now thinking of stretching hers as well so she can satisfy him, but she’s not sure. She also thinks this is the reason why he’s cheating on her.

Anonymous has known his friend and colleague for about three years now and says when they initially met they were both in relationships. Their friendship has grown a lot over the last couple of years and he has realised in recent months that he has romantic feelings for her. They are now both single and he adds that she is struggling to let go of her abusive ex, and she’s also currently engaging with other potentials sexually. He doesn’t want to jeopardise their friendship by revealing his feelings for her.