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Secular humanism with heart. What does it mean to flourish? How can I make the absolute best of my one and only life? If love really is the most excellent way, well… how does it work? Every week, humanist community builder Bart Campolo and his incredible array of guests are all over those questions and more. If you want to pursue better relationships and a better world, join the party, for goodness' sake! Humanize Me is a production of Jux Media.

Secular humanism with heart. What does it mean to flourish? How can I make the absolute best of my one and only life? If love really is the most excellent way, well… how does it work? Every week, humanist community builder Bart Campolo and his incredible array of guests are all over those questions and more. If you want to pursue better relationships and a better world, join the party, for goodness' sake! Humanize Me is a production of Jux Media.
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Secular humanism with heart. What does it mean to flourish? How can I make the absolute best of my one and only life? If love really is the most excellent way, well… how does it work? Every week, humanist community builder Bart Campolo and his incredible array of guests are all over those questions and more. If you want to pursue better relationships and a better world, join the party, for goodness' sake! Humanize Me is a production of Jux Media.

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424-291-2092


Episodes

337: An old friend and a worldview challenged

12/11/2018
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Bart Campolo's oldest and closest friend, Matthew Rodreick, is this week's guest on the podcast. Matthew's life has been shaped by his son Gabe's spinal cord injury, sustained around a decade ago when Gabe was 16. The conversation in this episode begins by exploring the relationship between father and son and the multiple roles one must play in that event, and validating Matthew's own experience as Gabe's father as a valid and important one. It finishes entirely differently: with a moment of...

Duration:00:52:11

336: Is there a truly selfless act?

12/4/2018
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Today's caller was in line at a drive-through coffee place, and decided to pay for the people behind her in line. But she realized that, in the course of doing so, the rewarding feeling she got from the act may have been the reason she did it in the first place. And that led to her question: "Is there actually an unselfish act? And if there isn't, are we doing it for the right reasons? Can there even be an unselfish act and if there is, would that be good?" Takeaways: The feeling of reward...

Duration:00:33:41

335: Is spiritual language disappearing? with Jonathan Merritt

11/27/2018
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Language really shapes how we think about things. After Jonathan Merritt moved from the South to New York City, he discovered that the words he had always used to describe spiritual life didn’t resonate anymore! The more pluralistic and postmodern the society, he observed, the less language people seem to have for spiritual experience. Jonathan is so sure that this is a problem, he wrote a book about it - Learning to Speak God from Scratch - which he and Bart Campolo chat about in this...

Duration:00:48:03

334: Should we avoid talking politics over Thanksgiving?

11/20/2018
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Let's be honest: Spending time cooped up with family and friends on holidays like Thanksgiving can present some interesting conversational challenges for many of us. With that in mind, podcast producer John Wright asks this question of Bart Campolo in this episode: "Bill Maher thinks we should stop talking politics with each other in the context of our personal lives and let it be more of a private thing. As someone who had a very serious conversation over Thanksgiving with your parents...

Duration:00:40:59

333: When I Spoke in Tongues

11/13/2018
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Jessica Wilbanks grew up in a fundamentalist Pentecostal church on the western shore of the Chesapeake Bay, and then, at 16, walked away from the church. Ever since, she's been haunted by the world she left behind and wrote a book about it, just released: When I Spoke in Tongues (available on Amazon). In this conversation with Bart Campolo, Jessica talks about growing up in her family, the "loss of an assumptive world" with her loss of faith, having a nervous breakdown in college,...

Duration:00:57:56

332: Can't pray... now what?

11/6/2018
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Sometimes, in the face of big problems in the world, doing everything we can reasonably do stills feels inadequate. Consider the question this week, asked by Lexi in the Humanize Me Facebook Group: "Today I find myself missing prayer. I just finished watching Last Week Tonight and it was about family separation. They played a clip of a child recently reunited with his mother and he was crying and saying she didn’t love him. It was absolutely heart wrenching. My helplessness weighs heavy on...

Duration:00:31:37

331: Rethinking psychedelics, with Ashley Booth

11/2/2018
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Just say no! That's the mantra most of us have picked up from authority figures in our lives about drugs of all sorts, no matter their category. But for our guest Ashley Booth and a growing number of scientists, doctors and thinkers, it's become clear that our culture threw the baby out with the bathwater when it comes to the usefulness of psychedelics. This particular class of compounds - psilocybin, LSD, DMT and others - is special. They provide strange, unusual forms of consciousness,...

Duration:01:05:30

330: What makes a good ritual? with Keith Page

10/22/2018
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Some of the things people abandon when they leave the church are rituals. But this week's Q&A features a voicemail by listener Morris Bird, who asks: "The word ritual is used to describe things as innocent as reading the newspaper. On the other hand, it's used to describe sinister cult ceremonies. I'm curious, what are your thoughts generally on the role of rituals in secular communities, and what makes a good ritual, and how are good rituals designed and implemented into a community?" In a...

Duration:00:41:44

329: Becoming an 'Evidist', with Jeff Haley & Dale McGowan

10/17/2018
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Don't worry; if you've never heard of 'evidism', you're not alone. This is a term coined by the guests in this episode, inventor Jeff Haley and author Dale McGowan, to describe people committed to fact-based, evidence-based thinking. In this conversation with Bart Campolo, Haley and McGowan talk about their book, Sharing Reality: How to Bring Secularism and Science to an Evolving Religious World, and their ideas for how to have better, more evidence-based conversations with people who have...

Duration:00:49:10

328: Cultivating friendship - who to choose?

10/9/2018
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How does one decide who to pick to be friends with? Bart Campolo and John Wright look at this question as a sort of 'Part 2' to the last Q&A about cultivating good friendships: "I really enjoyed Episode 326 where you guys talked about how being interested in other people is the first step to having good friendships, but my question is, who should I be focusing on? Who should I invest in or try to get closer to when I build a nice friendship? Looking forward to hearing what you have to say."...

Duration:00:47:44

327: Alternatives to monogamy

9/25/2018
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No defaults. That's how Dedeker Winston, and her romantic partners Jase and Alex, see the foundation of their relationship structure: conscious, intentional choice around a lifestyle that works for the people involved in it, rather than defaulting to the monogamy (or serial monogamy) of our culture. As a former evangelical Christian, Dedeker not only left behind her faith but also many of the ideas based on it, like its messages about sex and relationships. In this conversation with Bart...

Duration:01:21:18

326: How do I cultivate loving relationships?

9/18/2018
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It's a line Bart Campolo uses a lot in this podcast and elsewhere, that the essence of life is cultivating loving relationships with other people. Today's question asks how to begin the process of doing that: "Bart often talks about about cultivating loving relationships, but I’m never sure what he means or what I’m supposed to do. Don’t get me wrong, I was popular enough in school and I’ve always gotten along well with the people I work with, but I don’t know how many of my friends would...

Duration:00:28:30

325: AA Beyond Belief, with Joe C

9/11/2018
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It's often noted that Alcoholics Anonymous sounds like a religious movement, with its appeal to a 'Higher Power'. But Joe C. is the founder of a group called AA Beyond Belief, which he says exists to provide a space for AA agnostics, atheists and freethinkers worldwide. Bart Campolo has wanted to have a conversation with a secular person deep in the AA world for a long time, and Joe C. is that person! Many people have been helped and find their community in groups like his, and Bart wanted...

Duration:00:52:18

324: Is it really okay to favor our own groups?

8/28/2018
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Bart Campolo thinks his kids are the best in the world. Well, not objectively speaking, right? Well, sort of! I mean, he really prefers his kids to your kids. But he hopes you do too. Is that right? Is that okay? And is there any problem with that sort of 'us-them' mentality? On this episode, Bart and Humanize Me producer John Wright attempt to answer a question from listener Daniel, who's concerned that in-group/out-group thinking could have a dark side: "A common critique I hear about...

Duration:00:44:12

323: Street Epistemology with Anthony Magnabosco

8/21/2018
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It's not a term most people use every day, but street epistemology is a thing. Anthony Magnabosco is one of its more prominent ambassadors, largely because he routinely captures his efforts on video and posts them on the internet. What is street epistemology? It's a conversational tool which uses Socratic questioning to help people expose the underlying methods by which they arrived at their beliefs, thereby subjecting those beliefs to scrutiny. Examples of Anthony at work can be found on...

Duration:00:53:28

322: How to be alone without freaking out

8/14/2018
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This week's question comes from a listener who finds it hard to spend time alone without having a really difficult time over it: "Hey Bart. Okay, so when my girlfriend goes away on business trips, I experience a ton of anxiety. And it isn't that I'm jealous of her - I'm I'm totally glad that she's having these experiences - but I get really anxious and my tendency is to want to immediately fill that space with with someone so that I don't have to have that negative feeling of being all...

Duration:00:35:49

321: Secrets with Frank Warren

8/6/2018
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Curating peoples' secrets. It's a decidedly odd vocation, but Frank Warren has been doing it for a long time now through his ever-popular online art project, PostSecret.com. People anonymously send Frank their most intimate, private, beautiful, scandalous, horrifying, amazing, unspoken thoughts on postcards (yes, through the mail!) and Frank posts a new batch of them every Sunday on the site. In this conversation, Bart aims to find out what Frank's life looks like, how he got here, what his...

Duration:01:32:45

320: Where do you get your morality?

8/1/2018
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In this episode Bart takes a question that, he joked upon hearing it, may easily have come from his Christian father: "What is the basis for your morality? I am not asking what your morality says, such as 'Do not gossip', 'Be trustworthy' or 'Be forgiving.' I am asking the 'Why?' question about your morality ('Why should you not gossip?', 'Why should you be trustworthy?', 'Why should you be forgiving?'). For me, my 'Why?' used to be my belief that people inherently deserve to suffer the...

Duration:00:29:53

319: The Art of Community with Charles Vogl

7/24/2018
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Charles Vogl helps leaders transform loneliness and separation into connection and belonging. His book, The Art of Community, is the book Bart Campolo says he always wished he had to recommend to people who wanted to build their own groups and nurture them. In this conversation between Charles and Bart, they talk about life's 'inner circles', contributing to a richer world, moving from fear to generosity, and preparing for the hard work ahead. Charles's website can be found at...

Duration:01:08:40

318: How to do a platonic coffee date

7/19/2018
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Bart answers a question from a listener called Erin, who called our ‘Q Line’ to ask how to start to make new connections with people: “How do I talk to people at the beginning of something new? Say I meet someone and I want to be friends with them or there’s someone I haven’t seen in a long time and they’ve come home for a visit or something, how do I make the next move? What are the steps to setting up a platonic date?” Bart took off running, saying that it’s one of his favorite questions...

Duration:00:52:17