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The Emotional Colored Section: A deeper look at how unregulated emotions can become the Picasso of our perception of self and others!

Have you become emotionally segregated from your significant other because of your enabilty to regulate your emotional states? What is emotional dysregulation? What contributes to emotional regulation? True or False? Starting to build awareness around what activates an emotion is a very helpful tool to support you in managing your emotions. Exploring the impact of unchecked emotional states on self-perception and relationships involves a multidimensional approach. Here are some questions to guide your exploration: 1. How do unexamined emotions shape our understanding of self? 2. In what ways can unchecked emotional states distort our perception of reality? 3. What role does emotional intelligence play in maintaining healthy relationships? 4. Can unaddressed emotions lead to patterns of self-sabotage in personal and professional life? 5. How does the concept of surrender, as suggested by Dr. David R. Hawkins, relate to emotional regulation? 6. Are there parallels between the emotional challenges individuals face and the struggles of those in the "colored section" during the 1960s?


Relationship Crafters | Stuck like Chuck — Stagnancy & Suffering: A result of the Egoic God Complex in Humanity

What do you believe is the source of suffering in your relationship and what role do you play? What role does your ego play in the perception you have of your partner? How have you allowed “shoulds” and unmet expectations to formulate arbitrary relational timelines that cause conflict? (Ex: We “should” be married by now. We “should” be able to purchase a new home. Etc.) How would you say your ego has contributed to your personal AND relational stagnancy? Is your relational suffering self imposed? 1. In what ways do you believe your egoic God complex contributes to the stagnancy and suffering in your relationship? 2. How does your egoic God complex affect your ability to empathize with your partner's needs and desires? 3. Can you identify any patterns in your behavior that stem from your egoic God complex and contribute to conflict in your relationship? 4. How do you differentiate between your authentic self and the egoic God complex in your interactions with your partner? 5. Have you considered how your egoic God complex may be preventing you from fully embracing vulnerability and intimacy in your relationship?


A Good Life is Full of Bad Experiences | A deeper look at Dr. Mark Ghouston’s Triad of Hope from “Angel in My Corner” - Pay it Forward!

Dr. G’s Triad of Hope consists of three things: 1 Unconditional positive regard 2 Visualization (Seeing a future) 3 Unconditional Positive Belief Questions to consider: In what ways have you cultivated a positive regard for your partner? When you visualize a future with your partner, what aspects do you consider independent from what your partner can or is already doing for you? Are your beliefs about your partner and who they are unconditionally positive? What does it mean to be an “angel in someone’s corner”? Have you experienced someone being that for you? What kind of relational environment is necessary to establish a Triad of Hope? 1. How can cultivating a positive regard for your partner contribute to a good life filled with bad experiences? 2. In what ways can visualization of a future with your partner help you navigate through challenging experiences? 3. How can maintaining unconditional positive beliefs about your partner enhance your relationship and overall life satisfaction? 4. Have you ever been an "angel in someone's corner"? If so, how did that experience impact your relationship with that person? 5. Can you share an example of someone who has been an "angel in your corner" and how that has influenced your life?


Special: So you think you’re special, what if I told you being special is a little harder than it seems? | A deeper look into the rarity of being unique.

In what way does conforming to the social norm impact your innate uniqueness in the dating market? What makes your man special to you? What does it mean if a guy says you’re special to him? What does it mean if a girl says you’re special to her? Does your material Wealth and Financial stability make you special in an intimate relationship? What does being a special person mean? What is it like for a person to be special? 1. In what ways do you believe your partner is special? 2. How does your partner's uniqueness contribute to the strength of your relationship? 3. Can you describe a specific quality or trait that makes your partner stand out from others? 4. How do you feel when your partner tells you that you are special to them? 5. What do you think it means when a guy says you're special to him?


Have You Friend-zoned Your Wife or Husband?

Is it possible to friend-zone your husband? How do you know if you've been friend-zoned? When your marriage is just friendship? What should a husband do if he's been friend-zoned by his wife? Husband & Wife In The Zone? You bet! 1. How can the concept of friend-zoning be applied to a marital relationship? 2. What are the signs that a husband has been friend-zoned by his wife? 3. Can a marriage that is primarily based on friendship be fulfilling and satisfying? 4. What factors contribute to a husband being friend-zoned by his wife? 5. How can a husband communicate his feelings of being friend-zoned to his wife without causing conflict?


Destroy The Image, Destroy the Relationship | There will be people who love the idea of you, but lack the maturity to handle the reality of you.

When the social or professional image of your significant other began to crack, did you become less attracted to them? If, so why? 1. How do you define the "idea" of your partner in a relationship? 2. In what ways can the "reality" of your partner differ from the "idea" you have of them? 3. What factors contribute to the formation of an "idea" about your partner? 4. How does the "idea" of your partner influence your expectations in the relationship? 5. Can you truly love someone if you only love the idea of them? 6. What are the signs that indicate you love the reality of your partner rather than just the idea? 7. How can you differentiate between loving someone for who they truly are and loving the image you have created of them? 8. What role does maturity play in being able to handle the reality of your partner? 9. How can you develop a deeper understanding and acceptance of the reality of your partner? 10. What are the potential consequences of solely loving the idea of your partner in a relationship? 11. How can the lack of maturity in handling the reality of your partner impact the relationship? 12. What are some strategies for bridging the gap between the idea and reality of your partner?


How to Get Out of Your Own Way | Attribute to Dr. Mark Gouldston

1. How can one recognize and overcome self-sabotaging behaviors? 2. What are the psychological barriers that prevent individuals from achieving their goals? 3. How does one cultivate self-awareness to identify their own self-limiting beliefs? 4. What role does fear play in hindering personal growth and how can it be overcome? 5. How can individuals develop a mindset of self-empowerment and self-belief? 6. What strategies can be employed to break free from negative thought patterns? 7. How does one differentiate between healthy self-criticism and self-destructive tendencies?


What Relationship Challenges Can You Live With?: A deeper look into what you may dislike about your partner, but have to put up with.

1. How do you determine the intrinsic value of a person in a relationship? 2. Can you provide examples of relationship challenges that you consider to be irreconcilable but still choose to tolerate? 3. What factors contribute to your willingness to tolerate certain aspects of your partner that you may dislike? 4. How do you strike a balance between accepting your partner's flaws and maintaining your own personal boundaries and well-being? 5. Can you share any personal experiences where you had to make the decision to tolerate a challenging aspect of your partner? How did you navigate through it? 6. Is there a limit to what you can tolerate in a relationship? If so, how do you determine that limit? 7. How do you communicate your feelings and concerns about the aspects of your partner that you find challenging? How do you find a resolution or compromise? 8. What role does self-reflection and personal growth play in your ability to tolerate aspects of your partner that may be difficult? 9. Are there any strategies or techniques that you find helpful in managing and coping with the challenges you have to tolerate in your relationship? 10. How do you differentiate between tolerating aspects of your partner and enabling unhealthy behavior or dynamics in the relationship?


Future Faking: Are Unfulfilled Promises The Unspoken Culprit of Many Failed Relationships?

“The Primary cause of disorder in ourselves is the seeking of a reality “promised” by another.” - Krishnamurti Can the repetitive act of breaking promises in relationship also plant and nurture the seeds of entitlement and resentment within our significant other? Is it in fact our Unhealed wounds that desperately need “Promises” to be fulfilled? Which matters most to you, fulfilled relationship desires and expectations, or the person who is expected to give them to you? What is the psychology behind broken promises? Are Promises necessary for a healthy relationship? Should they even be made in the first place? What is an example of a future faking relationship? Are broken promises lies? Are some Avoidant attachment styles prone to break promises? Why do narcissists break promises? How do broken promises affect relationships? True or False? Narcissists will fake a future to create the illusion of high investment, strong interest, or deep emotional ties. Do narcissists make broken promises? What happens when promises are not fulfilled? How do broken promises impact trust and emotional connection in a relationship? Can unfulfilled promises lead to feelings of betrayal and resentment? What role does communication play in preventing broken promises? Is it possible to rebuild trust after a series of broken promises? How can individuals heal from the pain caused by broken promises? What are some strategies for setting realistic expectations in relationships? How does future-faking contribute to the cycle of broken promises?


Appreciation - The Forbidden Fruit of The Unrepentant?: Are you appreciative for the negative experiences you’ve had in intimate relationships?

In what ways do you let your partner know they are appreciated? What role do love languages play in showing appreciation within a relationship? How does your attachment style impact your ability and willingness to accept appreciation from your partner? How does a spirit of offense affect your ability to demonstrate appreciation toward a partner who has wronged you? Can you sabotage the ability to receive and give genuine appreciation due to a faulty perception of your partner’s humanity? 6. How can the lack of appreciation in a relationship lead to resentment and dissatisfaction? 7. What are some practical ways to cultivate a culture of appreciation within a relationship? 8. How does the fear of vulnerability hinder the expression and reception of appreciation? 9. Can the lack of appreciation be a contributing factor to infidelity or seeking validation outside of the relationship? 10. How can practicing gratitude enhance the experience of appreciation in a relationship?


Toxic Mirroring: A Deeper Look at How Some Dysfunctional Personality Traits Mirror Others | Special Guest: Dr. P. Mcall of NsightMe Services

What does a narcissist look like in a relationship? Is the role gender specific? In much of the same way as some detachment styles mirror, each other What dysfunctional personality, trait, mirrors, narcissism, and/or BPD? What does a borderline in a relationship look like? Gender specific? Why are they so attracted to each other? What to do if I’m dating one of these and can’t get out? Toxic traits of the borderline narcissist relationship and why does it FIT so good not necessarily FEEL so good to be in. 1. How does toxic mirroring manifest in a relationship between a narcissist and their partner? 2. Is the role of a narcissist in a relationship gender-specific, or can it be observed in individuals of any gender? 3. In what ways do dysfunctional personality traits mirror narcissism and/or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? 4. What are the key characteristics of a person with BPD in a relationship? Are these characteristics influenced by gender? 5. Why do individuals with narcissistic traits and those with BPD often find themselves attracted to each other? 6. What are the underlying psychological factors that contribute to the strong attraction between narcissists and individuals with BPD? 7. How does the toxic dynamic between a narcissist and someone with BPD impact their relationship? 8. What are the toxic traits commonly observed in a borderline narcissist relationship? 9. Why does the relationship between a borderline and a narcissist feel so intense and captivating, despite its toxicity? 10. How does the toxic mirroring in a borderline narcissist relationship affect the individuals involved emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?


The Dao of the Wounded Healer and Warrior | An Intriguing Look at the Inherent Wisdom Contained within Our Psychological Wounds

Can the pain/wound associated with being “vulnerable” lead to unconditional love or unconditional skepticism? What purpose do psychological wounds have in our lives? What exactly is a wounded warrior? What exactly is a wounded healer? How does your fear of abandonment manifest in your relationships? What past experiences of betrayal have made it difficult for you to trust others? In what ways do you fear being rejected or not feeling good enough for a partner? How does your insecurity impact your ability to maintain a healthy relationship? In what ways do you feel the need to control your relationships or partner? How does codependency show up in your relationships, and how does it affect your sense of self-worth? What fears or beliefs contribute to your fear of intimacy and emotional closeness?


Patience or Indecision? | The Power of Patience: Navigating the Thin Line Between Waiting and Wasting Time in Relationships

When does being patient cross over into wasting time? True or false? Some people mask their personal indecisiveness by saying that a person needs to be patient with them to allow the person time to come to an answer within a relationship. If some people need more time how much time is enough? Or should we evaluate our answer through another lens like overall health of a relationship. Can asking for a partner to be patient be used as a tool to procrastinate (or cover being indecisive). Is love patient and fear procrastination? 1. What is the difference between being patient and wasting time in a relationship? 2. How can one determine when being patient has crossed the line into wasting time? 3. Can patience be detrimental to personal growth and development in a relationship? 4. In what ways can patience contribute to the success of a relationship? 5. Is there a point where being patient becomes enabling unhealthy behavior in a relationship? 6. How can one strike a balance between being patient and setting healthy boundaries in a relationship? 7. What are the signs that someone is using patience as an excuse for their own indecisiveness? 8. How can one differentiate between genuine indecisiveness and a need for more time in a relationship? 9. Is it fair to expect someone to be patient with us when we are indecisive? 10. How can one effectively communicate their need for more time without using it as a tool for procrastination?


The Prize Dilemma: What happens when you view yourself or your partner as “THE PRIZE?”

“Why do we compete with each other’s perceived value within intimate relationship?” Does a person's lack of confrontation with their shadow, inner childhood wounds, and maladaptive/insecure attachment style make them less valuable than a potential partner who has addressed these issues, regardless of social status? True or false? The comparison of each other’s value leads to incessant toxic evaluation? Whose perceived value is higher in intimate relationships, men or women, and Does the answer depend on one’s age? True or false? Does the comparison of each other’s value lead to incessant toxic evaluation in intimate relationships? Whose perceived value is typically considered higher in intimate relationships, and does this perception depend on age or other factors? How can individuals cultivate a sense of self-worth and value within an intimate relationship without resorting to comparisons? Is it true that societal norms and gender expectations influence the perceived value of individuals in intimate relationships? What are the potential consequences of viewing oneself or a partner as a "prize" to be won in an intimate relationship? How can individuals navigate and address feelings of inadequacy or insecurity related to perceived value in intimate relationships? How does the constant comparison of perceived value in intimate relationships contribute to a toxic cycle of evaluation? In the context of intimate relationships, how do societal perceptions influence the perceived value of men and women, and does this perception vary with age? What psychological dynamics contribute to the notion of making oneself "the prize" in the eyes of a partner, and how does this impact the relationship? Is there empirical evidence supporting the idea that women generally place a higher value on relationships compared to men? What societal factors contribute to this perception? Conversely, how can individuals, regardless of gender, cultivate a sense of being "the prize" in their partner's eyes, fostering a mutually enriching connection? What psychological factors lead many women to view themselves as valuable prizes in the context of relationships, and how does this self-perception affect their choices and behaviors? To what extent is the concept of someone being "out of one's league" common among men pursuing relationships with women, and how does this impact their dating strategies? Considering the idea that women are often seen as the ultimate prize, how does this align with the decision to engage in relationships with men? Is there a perceived notion of dating down, and if so, why? In the dynamics of relationships, who holds the status of being the ultimate prize, and what factors contribute to this determination? Is there a prevailing gender that is considered the ultimate prize in relationships, and how does the competition within genders for high-value partners affect relationship dynamics?


“Don’t make me angry, you wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”: A deeper look at understanding the importance of knowing your anger language!

Why is it important to understand yours and your significant other’s anger language? What is the language of anger? What are the 5 languages of argument? 1. How can understanding your own and your significant other's anger language improve communication and conflict resolution in a relationship? 2. What are some common signs and expressions of anger that people should be aware of in themselves and their partners? 3. How can miscommunication and misunderstandings about anger lead to relationship conflicts and resentment? 4. What strategies can couples use to effectively express and manage their anger in a healthy and constructive way? 5. How does understanding the language of anger help in identifying and addressing underlying issues or unmet needs in a relationship? 6. Are there any cultural or gender differences in the way anger is expressed and understood? How can these differences impact relationships? 7. Can you provide examples of healthy and unhealthy ways that individuals and couples express their anger? 8. How can individuals and couples develop emotional intelligence to better understand and navigate their anger? 9. What role does self-awareness play in recognizing and managing anger in relationships? 10. How can couples establish boundaries and communicate their anger triggers to prevent conflicts and promote understanding? 11. What are some effective techniques for de-escalating anger during a heated argument or disagreement? 12. How can unresolved anger from past experiences affect current relationships? What steps can be taken to address and heal from this anger? 13. How does anger impact trust and intimacy in a relationship? How can couples rebuild trust after anger-related conflicts?


Exploring the Concept of Relationship Chattel: Unveiling the Dynamics of Plantation Relationships and the Assumed Ownership within Monogamy | Special guest: Delena Zimmerman

Are you each other’s emotional, physical, mental, psychological financial property? What does the term we belong to each other actually mean? Can unconditional LOVE have an owner? Does your wife belong to you? If you are not married, implied relational ownership from monogamy may not apply? Does your husband belong to you? Do you feel like your relationship lacks communication? That you are not being heard? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells? Does your relationship lack intimacy, trust, friendship? How can individuals in plantation relationships challenge and dismantle the power dynamics within their relationship? What are some alternative relationship models that can provide a more equitable and empowering dynamic? How can individuals in plantation relationships navigate the tension between societal expectations and their own desires for autonomy and agency? What role does self-awareness and self-reflection play in addressing the dynamics of plantation relationships? How can individuals in plantation relationships cultivate open and honest communication to address power imbalances? What are some strategies for building trust and fostering intimacy within plantation relationships? How can individuals in plantation relationships prioritize their own well-being and self-care while navigating the complexities of power dynamics? How does the concept of consent apply within plantation relationships, and how can it be upheld? What are some ways to challenge and disrupt the assumptions of ownership within monogamous relationships?


Trial-Stones: Unveiling the Transformative Power of Overcoming Challenges in Enhancing Relationship Dynamics

How many Trail-Stones have you and yours significant other overcome, and are you better or worse for having overcome them? Can infidelity be seen as a spiritual attack? Can pride and ego be seen as a spiritual attack? Can poor communication skills be seen as a spiritual attack? Can obstinance/stubbornness or an unwillingness to change ones perspective be seen as a spiritual attack? Can financial infidelity be seen as a type of spiritual attack? Can the outside opinions of others be seen as a type of spiritual attack on your relationship? What are the benefits of learning how to leverage trials and tribulations in order to make our relationship stronger/more spiritually resilient resilient? What is spiritual resilience in context with coping with difficult times in relationship? Can the propensity of being able to overcome trials and tribulations lead to the deepening of bonds and love, as well as the strengthening of one’s relationship? 1. How have you and your significant other triumphed over spiritual battles in your relationship? 2. Can you share a specific spiritual war that you and your partner have overcome together? 3. What were the challenges you faced during that spiritual battle, and how did you overcome them? 4. How did overcoming those spiritual challenges strengthen your bond with your partner? 5. In what ways did the spiritual battles you faced enhance your relationship dynamics? 6. How did you and your partner grow individually and as a couple through those spiritual trials? 7. What role did faith or spirituality play in helping you overcome those challenges? 8. How did you maintain hope and resilience during the spiritual battles you faced? 9. Can you describe a specific moment or experience that tested your spiritual resilience as a couple? 10. How did you navigate through that challenging time and come out stronger on the other side?


When It Comes to Relationships, How Long is a Good Thing Supposed to Last?

How do most people deal with the impermanence of a good relationship? How to cope with emotional impermanence and reduce relationship anxiety? Is seeking romantic love a form of self-abandonment? Agree or Disagree? We are conditioned to believe that relationships should last forever. However, accepting impermanence is an essential ingredient in relationship success. True or False? When we cling to a false sense of permanence in relationships, we risk neglecting our own needs and ignoring warning signs that a relationship may not be working. We may also resist necessary endings, causing us to prolong painful situations or cling to situations that are no longer healthy. This can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, and hurt, and can ultimately damage our mental health and well-being. 1. How do most people deal with the impermanence of a good relationship? Pro arguments: 1. Embrace the impermanence as a natural part of life and enjoy the present moment. 2. Focus on personal growth and self-improvement, knowing that relationships may come and go. 3. Develop a strong support system outside of the relationship to rely on during difficult times. 4. Practice open communication and express feelings of fear or uncertainty to your partner. 5. Cultivate a mindset of gratitude for the time and experiences shared in the relationship.


Hmmm…: How do you navigate a relationship that everyone around you disapproves of?

1. To what extent do external opinions influence the dynamics of your relationship? 2. How much weight should you give to the viewpoints of friends and family in assessing your relationship? 3. Can a relationship thrive without the approval of those closest to you? 4. In what ways can external disapproval impact your emotional well-being within the relationship? 5. Should your relationship be validated by external sources, or is internal validation sufficient? 6. How do you balance the desire for approval with the need for autonomy in your relationship? 7. To what degree can external perspectives provide valuable insights into the health of your relationship? 8. Is seeking approval from friends and family an indication of insecurity within the relationship? 9. What role should societal norms play in influencing your relationship choices? 10. How do you distinguish between genuine concern from loved ones and unwarranted interference?


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