Your Parenting Long Game

YOU rarely get acknowledged for the emotional load you carry, especially when raising kids with big feelings. In this episode, I'm going to point out some of the things you likely do — even if you don't notice them, and even if you don't do them perfectly! In this episode, you'll hear: invisible emotional load your imperfect effort strengthens your child would thank youfinally give yourself credit -- The checklist: Notice what you're doing Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel

https://rachel-bailey.com/365It's incredibly exhausting to feel like a broken record, constantly reminding your kids to get ready, start homework, or get off of their device. And these constant reminders, or "micronags," can reduce your influence and impact your relationship. Fortunately, there is another way to motivate more responsible behavior. In this episode, you'll learn: -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel

When your child rolls their eyes, snaps "You're so annoying," or yells "Whatever!", it's natural to jump in with, "Don't talk to me that way!" or "That's unacceptable." You want to teach them to be respectful... but those reactions usually only make situations worse. In fact, the best thing to do when your child is disrespectful is to do less. In this episode, you'll learn: Why doing less is not "letting them get away with it" and not the same as being weak, passive or permissive How to stay grounded and model regulation instead of reacting to your child's Yuck with your own When and how to address disrespect so that your child learns that it's not acceptable... and so they can actually respond differently in the future -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel

As parents, so many of our decisions in the moment are focused on keeping the peace, calming the meltdown, protecting our nerves. But while that might reduce drama in the short term, it often prevents our children from developing the confidence and resilience they need for long-term success. In this episode, you'll learn why discomfort is essential for growth and how to respond in those hard moments without rescuing, over-explaining, or giving in. In this episode, you'll learn: -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel

Have you ever wondered how your child can spend hours building a virtual world… yet when you ask them to do any daily task, they act like it's torture? In this episode, I explain the REAL reason your child resists everyday tasks and why it has nothing to do with laziness, disrespect, or lack of motivation. Once you understand how the brain responds to stimulation and Yuck, you’ll be able to shift from fighting your child’s resistance… to understanding it and leading them through it. In this episode, you’ll learn: motivation strategiesactivation strategies -- Free cheat sheet: Helping Kids With Daily Tasks Free quiz: The "Everyday Routines" Quiz: What's Your Style? Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions Work with Rachel

http://rachel-bailey.com/361When our kids resist, melt down, or push back, our instinct is to get them to calm down or cooperate...fast. We talk more, repeat rules, and try to convince them to “get it together.” But the more urgent we become, the more our kids resist and the harder everything feels. Fortunately, there a quick shift can help you respond more effectively, and in a way that you don't regret. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why urgency fuels kids' resistance (and why it’s so hard to stop being urgent in the moment) How to recognize when your own fight-or-flight response is taking over A simple shift that helps you slow down so that you can regain influence and your child can calm down more quickly -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

When our kids are upset, we often suggest strategies to help them calm down or manage tough situations—like taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or breaking down assignments into smaller steps. But when those strategies don’t instantly erase the discomfort, both kids (and parents!) often conclude that “nothing works.” In this episode, you’ll learn: -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

When you're raising a child with big emotions, it’s natural for an "easier" sibling to get less of your time and attention. But a more flexible child may pay a quiet price -- giving in to avoid conflict, hiding their feelings, or believing they matter less. Chances are, you've noticed that but aren't sure what to do. Fortunately, a few small shifts can make a big difference in how they view themselves (and will can make you feel less guilty). In this episode, you’ll learn how to: -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Other free resources to support you as you’re raising a child with big emotions Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

If you’re raising a child with big emotions, you know how draining it can be when they melt down, argue, refuse to cooperate, or fall apart after the smallest setback. It’s easy to assume these behaviors are defiance, disrespect, or laziness… but most of the time, they’re actually signs that your child is missing something that you can provide! In this episode, you’ll learn: and -- FREE WORKSHOP: Stop Working So Hard to Get Your Kids to Calm Down Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

Many kids with big emotions have big reactions when things don’t go their way. They may yell, slam doors, roll their eyes, or even say disrespectful things when they are upset. And while it’s natural for parents to think that our children are choosing to be rude or defiant, something else is actually happening instead. In this episode, you’ll learn: What's going on in the brain that explains why Yuck behaviors are not a conscious choice Why this is NOT an excuse for negative behavior How kids can learn to handle their “Yuck Urge”… and how this builds their confidence rather than eroding it -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Other free resources Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

You’ve heard how important it is to have a strong connection with your children. But when we are raising kids who are anxious or sensitive, sometimes our attempts to connect with them are more about fixing a problem than about making a genuine connection… and they feel that! The good news is, one little change can improve your influence and help your child handle their uncomfortable moments with less stress (for them) and less exhaustion (for you). In this episode, you’ll learn: What genuine connection looks like and sounds like How this strong parent-child connection SAVES you energy A simple metaphor to help you remember how to make this type of connection in the moment -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Other free resources Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

A new school year can bring excitement, but for kids with big emotions, it may also bring worry, “what if” questions, and knots in the stomach. As parents, we want to jump in with reassurances, solutions, or distractions, but those attempts -- which are actually signs of our anxiety -- often increase our kids’ Yuck. Fortunately, a simple strategy can help us center ourselves so we can support our children more effectively. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why we need to regulate ourselves before we try to help our kids Simple actions we can take reduce their anxiety (and our discomfort with their discomfort) What our children need in order to handle their transition to school with confidence, even when we’re not there to help -- FREE RESOURCE: "Discomfort is not dangerous" printable FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve Join Rachel’s Facebook group Work with Rachel

Let’s be honest: Raising a child with big emotions can take a lot of energy. Dealing with resistance, dramatic reactions, and everything else in your life can be exhausting, so it’s natural to lose your patience (and, unfortunately, your influence). This episode shares a specific strategy to stay calm and keep your influence… even when it’s taking longer for your children’s behavior to improve than you’d like. In this episode, you’ll learn: The 3 main reasons kids don’t do what we ask Why we tend to lose our cool when there is a setback in our child’s progress A simple technique to help you stay calm and supportive rather than resentful of your child’s behavior -- Resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel Join Rachel’s Facebook group

Having a strong relationship with our kids is a huge priority for many of us. So when we’re setting limits or addressing our kids’ big emotions, we usually approach them in a nice (or what we think is “respectful”) way. Unfortunately, many kids won’t listen – or feel confident – when we’re being so nice. So how can we raise kids who follow limits and can handle hard feelings… without ruining our relationship? In this episode, you’ll learn: What it really means to “respect” your children One question you can ask yourself when you’re struggling to influence your children What simple quality leads to long-term security and healthier self-esteem for your kids (and less guilt for you) -- Join Rachel’s Facebook group Resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions Work with Rachel

Often when our kids refuse to do what we ask, it can seem like they are being deliberately defiant or strong-willed. But often in these situations, our kids are having a hard time with something beyond their control…and our frustration with them only makes things worse. Fortunately, when you take a closer look at what is really going on for a “strong-willed” child, you can see what they really need in order to feel and act more positively. In this episode, we’ll look at several real-life situations from the dual perspectives of a child and parent. You’ll learn: Why children with big emotions display more “strong-willed” behavior What’s really happen when a child is acting resistant or defiant How we can can spend less energy addressing this behavior and expand their ability to handle things not going their way in the future -- FREE RESOURCE: Know what to do when YOUR child displays strong-willed behavior Join Rachel’s Facebook group

It’s natural to want to help a child when you see that they’re upset. But sometimes our attempts to soothe their big feelings and calm them down actually makes things worse, leaving us feeling confused and helpless. Ironically, doing less in those situations – not saying much! – actually does more to make the situation better. In this episode, you’ll learn: What happens when we do and don’t try to make our child feel better How to handle a child who questions why we’re not doing more How this simple strategy sets kids up to be more resilient in the long run -- FREE RESOURCE: How to help someone when they're "in Yuck" (on the Yuck Curve) Join Rachel’s Facebook group

This week, I’m doing something a little different: Instead of picking the topic myself, I’m answering parents’ questions. These questions demonstrate challenges that many of us face behind closed doors — and I’m sharing practical ways to handle them with more confidence and calm. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to respond to two specific situations as a connected and confident Leader Parent What to do when children respond negatively to positive feedback Why kids with big emotions frequently complain of being bored but resist any suggestion you make -- FREE RESOURCE: How to raise children with big emotions with HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM Join Rachel’s Facebook group

When we’re raising children with big emotions, it can be exhausting trying to handle their behavior, moods, and attitudes along with everything else on our to-do list. Sometimes we lose our cool and say things that we regret… Other times, we find ourselves being too permissive just to avoid a meltdown. However, one simple phrase can help you find a consistent balance and become a more powerful positive influence, even in the hard moments! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to balance connection and confidence, so your kids want to follow your lead How to use this phrase in a variety of situations (with real-life examples) The long-term effects of this approach, including how it affects them and how it affects you! -- FREE RESOURCE: How to raise children with big emotions with HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM Join Rachel’s Facebook group The Leadership Parenting Academy and Success Lab

When we’re raising kids with big emotions, we often learn how to navigate their behavior, moods, and attitudes to avoid meltdowns and dramatic moments. But sometimes, even when we’re doing everything “right,” our children’s behavior can throw us a curveball -- crying for seemingly no reason, refusing to do something they wanted to do, or getting disproportionately angry over a small inconvenience. These situations can leave us frustrated, confused, and powerless to help. In this episode, you’ll learn: What we need to understand about our kids’ confusing behavior Why specific reactions often make them more upset How to spend less energy addressing frustrating and confusing behavior -- FREE EVENT: "The Negativity Reset" for a more positive summer (no live participation required) Join Rachel’s Facebook group The Leadership Parenting Academy and Success Lab

Many kids with big emotions seem to default to negativity—even after a day full of fun and connection. When we witness their lack of positivity, we often think things like, “Why can’t they just be happy?” or “Why are they acting so spoiled?” We feel frustrated that their mood can derail the whole family’s energy, and we feel helpless to do anything about it. But we are not helpless! In this episode, you’ll learn: Exactly kids focus on what went wrong, even when so much went right How we keep ourselves stuck in a cycle of negativity – and a simple way to break free A quick plan that takes less energy and helps you respond with calm leadership when the negativity shows up Plus, you’ll hear more about a free event, The Negativity Reset, where you’ll learn exactly how to respond when your child is stuck in a negative loop—without rescuing, overexplaining, or letting it ruin your summer. -- FREE EVENT: "The Negativity Reset" for a more positive summer (no live participation required) Join Rachel’s Facebook group The Leadership Parenting Academy and Success Lab